I Beg You......PROVE ME WRONG!!!!

farmers_daughter

In this case I am asking you to prove me wrong, I have some pretty harsh statements and I need real live facts to help me squash these theories. I want the fat voices in my head to "shut the front door":

1. 89% of people who have posted pictures on here have been at thier goal weight at one point in time in their adult life, or highschool aged (don't know what to call that) life. So it's kind of like its a do-over. They've been there once, they know they can do it, and they did it again. Big whoop.

2. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight (I'm going to say 50lbs or more) cannot be single and have kids.

3. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight spends a majority of thier day exercising.

4. 75% of women on MFP have their calories set at 1200 intentionally, even if MFP calculated them at 1600-1700 etc.

5. The average amount of time to lose weight and keep it off is longer than what is on here. I.e. losing 30lbs in 3 months is one of two things, someone who is very large to start with, or someone who exercises no less than 5 -6 days a week.

6. If you are relatively healthy, but just carry a significant amount (say 30-50lbs) of extra weight, it's harder for you to see results than someone who is not relatively healthy (meaning hdl, ldl, cholesterol, bp all in line)

Let's start with these.
*Remember, these are the fat voices in my head that I'm fighting*

xxx_Pink_Princess_xxx

I have never been at my goal weight so bang goes theory no 1 xx

rharris86dc

Where did you even get those statements???

I don't have a factual basis from which I can say "you are wrong," but I'm still going to, lol.

The voices are wrong, plain and simple. Cheer up, you can do it!

Kelblue1

BUMP! No comment but I am curious to see what others say

twinlikeme

4. 75% of women on MFP have their calories set at 1200 intentionally, even if MFP calculated them at 1600-1700 etc.

Mine is set for 1360, random I know, but I always exercise and end up eating about 1400-1500. I like those extra calories! I like food! I'm not going to temporarily give myself an extra calorie deficit. It will only hurt me in the long run.

jeff261159

I can dispel 3. I have lost 70 lbs since Christmas 2010. I spend all day, 5 days a week on my back side, drivin a truck!!

Gail3260

i think there is a lot of truth in there.....but I hope to prove at least some of them wrong by losing more than 40lbs!!!

Number one is only true for me before I had my two kids......since the second one came along I haven't got close to my goal weight.

surabhit

I don't fall into most of these categories, but these are the 'you can do this' voices talking in my head

1. Not everyone's been at their goal weight. For people who are obese, it's been a long journey to that big weight issue, and it's an even longer one down. It's very hard to pick a 'goal' weight especially if it's thinner than you've ever been but let your ideal image of yourself dictate that. It's not impossible! Nothing is.

2. A LOT of people on here are single and have kids. If not, they're single and have 12-16hour a day jobs.

3. NOPE! I exercise for an hour every evening (regardless of what time I get home from work) and I burn an average of 500-600 calories if I do a good x-trainer and weights round.

4. I set mine at 'lose 2 pounds' and it said 1200. I stuck with it. Well I try to.

5. This has been true for me. I've lost much slower than my 'prediction' and I'm sure there's a lot of factors contributing to that. I'm not consistent with my exercise all the time, and I eat what I want but just less. I'm not doing the 'super healthy' diet that a lot of others are.

6. Quite the opposite. If your body's healthy you have a higher chance of building your metabolism and getting healthier! You'd lose faster than an unhealthy person.

Hence proved.

erickirb

In this case I am asking you to prove me wrong, I have some pretty harsh statements and I need real live facts to help me squash these theories. I want the fat voices in my head to "shut the front door":

1. 89% of people who have posted pictures on here have been at thier goal weight at one point in time in their adult life, or highschool aged (don't know what to call that) life. So it's kind of like its a do-over. They've been there once, they know they can do it, and they did it again. Big whoop.

2. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight (I'm going to say 50lbs or more) cannot be single and have kids.

3. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight spends a majority of thier day exercising.

4. 75% of women on MFP have their calories set at 1200 intentionally, even if MFP calculated them at 1600-1700 etc.

5. The average amount of time to lose weight and keep it off is longer than what is on here. I.e. losing 30lbs in 3 months is one of two things, someone who is very large to start with, or someone who exercises no less than 5 -6 days a week.

6. If you are relatively healthy, but just carry a significant amount (say 30-50lbs) of extra weight, it's harder for you to see results than someone who is not relatively healthy (meaning hdl, ldl, cholesterol, bp all in line)

Let's start with these.
*Remember, these are the fat voices in my head that I'm fighting*

1. Most likely, yes
2. B/S, I am sure there are plenty single parents that have lost a significant amount of weight. You just have to make you a priority. If you are not healthy you will be less able to take care of others.
3. B/S, losing weight does not require any exercise (weight loss is 80% diet, 10% exercise, 10% genetics, Tosca Reno) All you need to do is watch what you eat and you will lose (exercise has other benefits and I think everyone should exercise, but it is not necessary for weight loss)
4. I disagree here. I think a lot of women are set at 1200 as that is what MFP gave them, the issue is that their goal is probably too aggressive and they should be aiming for 1 lb/week instead of 2, based on their stats and goals. Like the responder above me, with the amount she has to lose (less than 15 lbs) she should not have a goal set to lose more than 0.5lbs/week or she will risk burning muscle instead of fat, a 2 lb/week goal is only a good goal when someone has 75+ lbs to lose.
5.Again exercise has very little to do with weight loss but, yes it should be slower than 10lbs/month (2-10 would be ideal depending on their current stats and goals)
6. Not sure, but I don't think so.

FairuzyAmanuzy

1. My goal weight is 170, I have never seen that number....I mean I'm sure growing up I was there at one point, but by the time I was in highschool I was already over 200 lbs.

2. Lots of my friends on here have kids and have lost tons of weight (over 100 lbs)

3. I think you will lose weight quicker if you exercise, but you don't have too. This is about a lifestyle change though, to become more healthy and exercising is a part of that.

4. I've only seen a couple women with their calories set that low....and they are 1) super short and skinny already, 2) have an eating disorder, 3) think this is some magic number told to them by society, and probably aren't here fora lifestyle change.

5. The rate at which I lose weight is only a little different when I do or don't exercise.Losing 30 lbs in 3 months in completely attainable for anyone.

6. Wea are losing weight using a calorie defecit method, not dependant on whose healthiest. If you have a 1000 calorie deficit everyday,you will lose weight even if you don't need to.

peteb79

I've lost 34 lbs and do not spend the majority of my day exercising. I only workout, strength training, 3x a week for 25-35 minutes. The rest of my time is spent in a chair in my office.. or on a couch at home.

GoyaMommy13

i've never been at my goal weight in my adult life. i haven't been this weight since like 6th grade.

i workout 4-5 days a week about 30-45 mins each workout.


and i do have it at 1200 calories but i can't get passed this weight...i'm mad. so i may have to change that one.

Mom2rh

How often do you live the rest of your life based on statistics? Why let some numbers "rule" you...why not be the exception?

russelljclarke

In this case I am asking you to prove me wrong, I have some pretty harsh statements and I need real live facts to help me squash these theories. I want the fat voices in my head to "shut the front door":

RESPONSES EMBEDDE IN CAPS FOR CLARITY.....

1. 89% of people who have posted pictures on here have been at thier goal weight at one point in time in their adult life, or highschool aged (don't know what to call that) life. So it's kind of like its a do-over. They've been there once, they know they can do it, and they did it again. Big whoop.

TRUE, BUT I WAS IN MY TEENS, WHICH WAS 35 YEARS AGO

2. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight (I'm going to say 50lbs or more) cannot be single and have kids.

DOESN'T APPLY (I'M AT 41 LBS) BUT TRUE NONETHELESS

3. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight spends a majority of thier day exercising.

UNTRUE, MY EXERCISE IS MOSTLY WALKING, AND I SIMPLY WOULDN'T HAVE THE TIME TO MAKE IT A MAJORITY EXERCISE

4. 75% of women on MFP have their calories set at 1200 intentionally, even if MFP calculated them at 1600-1700 etc.

5. The average amount of time to lose weight and keep it off is longer than what is on here. I.e. losing 30lbs in 3 months is one of two things, someone who is very large to start with, or someone who exercises no less than 5 -6 days a week.

UNTRUE. I LOST 40 LBS IN 15 WEEKS, HAVEN'T PUT AN OUNCE BACK ON, YET I WASN'T MASSIVE TO START WITH, NEITHER DO I EXERCISE EVERY DAY

6. If you are relatively healthy, but just carry a significant amount (say 30-50lbs) of extra weight, it's harder for you to see results than someone who is not relatively healthy (meaning hdl, ldl, cholesterol, bp all in line)

ALSO UNTRUE.

Let's start with these.
*Remember, these are the fat voices in my head that I'm fighting*

ursy87

I don't fall into most of these categories, but these are the 'you can do this' voices talking in my head

1. Not everyone's been at their goal weight. For people who are obese, it's been a long journey to that big weight issue, and it's an even longer one down. It's very hard to pick a 'goal' weight especially if it's thinner than you've ever been but let your ideal image of yourself dictate that. It's not impossible! Nothing is.

2. A LOT of people on here are single and have kids. If not, they're single and have 12-16hour a day jobs.

3. NOPE! I exercise for an hour every evening (regardless of what time I get home from work) and I burn an average of 500-600 calories if I do a good x-trainer and weights round.

4. I set mine at 'lose 2 pounds' and it said 1200. I stuck with it. Well I try to.

5. This has been true for me. I've lost much slower than my 'prediction' and I'm sure there's a lot of factors contributing to that. I'm not consistent with my exercise all the time, and I eat what I want but just less. I'm not doing the 'super healthy' diet that a lot of others are.

6. Quite the opposite. If your body's healthy you have a higher chance of building your metabolism and getting healthier! You'd lose faster than an unhealthy person.

Hence proved.

Like^^

I will add that MFP did set 1200 as my calorie allowance, I haven't tampered with it, just eat back my exercise cals(or at least 50%) of them.

fairygirl716

I will prove many of your theories wrong.

I have my calories set at 1400, I've lost over 90 lbs. I am not at my goal weight and I do not exercise every day and do not spend a great deal of time in my day exercising...generally 3 days a week 45min to an hour at most.

I am also in a group of women that have already got the odds against them because I have had a hysterectomy and I'm only in my mid 30's. And I'm not on replacement hormones.

Don't know why you have developed these theories...I can only guess that you are thinking you are incapable of making a significant change in your life. However, I will tell you...I too thought I could never make significant changes in my life and yet I have. AND....I've made changes in the lives of those around me!

I may have to be patient and let my body slowly shed these last 20 lbs...but because of my lifestyle change, I now have a lifetime to do it. In the mean time, I'm healthy and I will continue to be healthy!

inotnew

I can dispel 3. I have lost 70 lbs since Christmas 2010. I spend all day, 5 days a week on my back side, drivin a truck!!

congratulatons! I'm impressed.

I do think there is a tread of truth to many of the statements she makes - HOWEVER I want to prove her wrong :bigsmile:

whatwentwrong

i haven't been my goal weight since i was 13, and i know a lot of people my age on here who were heavy all thruout high school, so no to number 1. can't comment on the others till i lose more weight

fairygirl716

Oh...and I've never been at my "goal weight"

bluebird321

1. 89% of people who have posted pictures on here have been at thier goal weight at one point in time in their adult life, or highschool aged (don't know what to call that) life. So it's kind of like its a do-over. They've been there once, they know they can do it, and they did it again. Big whoop.

I was thin at one time. Might be something to this.


2. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight (I'm going to say 50lbs or more) cannot be single and have kids.

I don't have any kids, but I am married. Can't answer accurately.

3. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight spends a majority of thier day exercising.

No, absolutely not. Once I hit 40, I was not able to lose significant weight till I dieted properly.

4. 75% of women on MFP have their calories set at 1200 intentionally, even if MFP calculated them at 1600-1700 etc.

Maybe, but i haven't looked to closesly at women't diaries. .

5. The average amount of time to lose weight and keep it off is longer than what is on here. I.e. losing 30lbs in 3 months is one of two things, someone who is very large to start with, or someone who exercises no less than 5 -6 days a week.

No, but I was 5 10' and at about 230. Maybe that is large? I lost almost 30 just walking for the first few months and then switched ot Yoga which really isn't high impact. It really is about caloric/nutritional intake.

6. If you are relatively healthy, but just carry a significant amount (say 30-50lbs) of extra weight, it's harder for you to see results than someone who is not relatively healthy (meaning hdl, ldl, cholesterol, bp all in line)

Hmmm... maybe. I already had decent muslce mass under the fat, so I might have had an advantage. People noticed the change once I hit 20lbs, but I really show in the face.

Let's start with these.

godroxmysox

In this case I am asking you to prove me wrong, I have some pretty harsh statements and I need real live facts to help me squash these theories. I want the fat voices in my head to "shut the front door":

1. 89% of people who have posted pictures on here have been at thier goal weight at one point in time in their adult life, or highschool aged (don't know what to call that) life. So it's kind of like its a do-over. They've been there once, they know they can do it, and they did it again. Big whoop.

2. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight (I'm going to say 50lbs or more) cannot be single and have kids.

3. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight spends a majority of thier day exercising.

4. 75% of women on MFP have their calories set at 1200 intentionally, even if MFP calculated them at 1600-1700 etc.

5. The average amount of time to lose weight and keep it off is longer than what is on here. I.e. losing 30lbs in 3 months is one of two things, someone who is very large to start with, or someone who exercises no less than 5 -6 days a week.

6. If you are relatively healthy, but just carry a significant amount (say 30-50lbs) of extra weight, it's harder for you to see results than someone who is not relatively healthy (meaning hdl, ldl, cholesterol, bp all in line)

Let's start with these.
*Remember, these are the fat voices in my head that I'm fighting*

1) That was kind of me - I was at my goal weight in high school; however, back then I could eat anything I wanted and not gain anything. It's a completely different situation for me.
2) I am not single and I do not have kids, but my plan was to get healthy before having children - this will make it easier to lose the weight after giving birth.
3) I exercise for a minimum of 30 minutes 3-5 times a week; the maximum is an hour and a half...not nearly the whole day.
4) I was calculated at 1200, so this does not apply to me.
5) I am down 60lbs in 7 months & exercise 3-5 times a week (I started at roughly 200lbs).
6) This is possible, but was not my situation. I was having fast food for lunch and sometimes dinner every day.

I wish you the best of luck!

kimcat73

I'm not exactly sure what #2 means but I have lost 90 pounds and I'm single with no kids. Does that prove your statement or disprove?

therobinator

1. 89% of people who have posted pictures on here have been at thier goal weight at one point in time in their adult life, or highschool aged (don't know what to call that) life. So it's kind of like its a do-over. They've been there once, they know they can do it, and they did it again. Big whoop.

Might be true -- so what? You can do it, too, whether you've ever been there before or not.

2. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight (I'm going to say 50lbs or more) cannot be single and have kids.

Wouldn't all that running around *help* you lose weight? It counts as exercise.

3. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight spends a majority of thier day exercising.

Just plain false. In fact, you don't have to exercise at all to lose weight. See: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/238136-myfitnesspal-builds-in-your-deficit-for-you

4. 75% of women on MFP have their calories set at 1200 intentionally, even if MFP calculated them at 1600-1700 etc.

Maybe so. But if they understood how the system really works, they wouldn't ignore the recommendations. See: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/186814-some-mfp-basics. Also it has nothing to do with being a woman or not.

5. The average amount of time to lose weight and keep it off is longer than what is on here. I.e. losing 30lbs in 3 months is one of two things, someone who is very large to start with, or someone who exercises no less than 5 -6 days a week.

There is a healthy rate of weight loss for each person, depending on the state of your body when you start out. You can't compare yourself to others' successes or failures. Based on how you worded your statement # 5, I think you know this. Also see my answer to statement # 3.

6. If you are relatively healthy, but just carry a significant amount (say 30-50lbs) of extra weight, it's harder for you to see results than someone who is not relatively healthy (meaning hdl, ldl, cholesterol, bp all in line)

Wrong. Results will always continue to be seen if the person is observing the program correctly. Although, it may be true (and healthier) to see results occurring more slowly as you approach your goal weight. So, it's not *harder* to see results, it's harder to see *fast* results.

songofserenity81

Never been at my goal weight , was always large
At most I spend 3 hours 2 days a week, the rest is a 2 hour walk a day which I see more as me time than exercise

VeganGal84

1. 89% of people who have posted pictures on here have been at thier goal weight at one point in time in their adult life, or highschool aged (don't know what to call that) life. So it's kind of like its a do-over. They've been there once, they know they can do it, and they did it again. Big whoop.

I have been at my goal weight before, but I got there in a very unhealthy way (EDNOS) and so have never seen myself as being thin, even when I was. This will be the very first time that I will be thin and KNOW that I'm thin. So far, it's been awesome. :bigsmile:

2. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight (I'm going to say 50lbs or more) cannot be single and have kids.

I'm not single but have no kids...

3. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight spends a majority of thier day exercising.

I exercise 30-60 minutes, 5-6 days a week. That has been my exercise plan for most of my weight loss journey (the past 2.5 years)

4. 75% of women on MFP have their calories set at 1200 intentionally, even if MFP calculated them at 1600-1700 etc.

This is NOT me at all! I actually considered raising MFP's goal, but by changing from "lose 1 pound per week" to "lose 1/2 pound per week" I was able to get to the calories that I needed (which is way higher than 1200)

5. The average amount of time to lose weight and keep it off is longer than what is on here. I.e. losing 30lbs in 3 months is one of two things, someone who is very large to start with, or someone who exercises no less than 5 -6 days a week.

This one has been true for me, but I don't know if it's the average. I have chosen to lose weight slowly this time, because I really wanted to be thin and KNOW it, as opposed to the many times that I have lost weight very quickly and still felt fat. I wanted my brain to not have to play catch up with my body, KWIM?

6. If you are relatively healthy, but just carry a significant amount (say 30-50lbs) of extra weight, it's harder for you to see results than someone who is not relatively healthy (meaning hdl, ldl, cholesterol, bp all in line)

I was always relatively healthy, I never had any obesity-related health conditions, but I was afraid that I would some day if I kept gaining how I had been. I've seen great results by working hard.

FunRun08

Here is my story that proves most of your voices wrong. I was heavy and inactive for the majority of my life. I am smaller now than I have ever been. I have lost over 60lbs and I am married with 2 kids under the age of 4. I have been a work in progress for the past 2 years with the ups and downs, but have maintained the majority of the lose through that time. I do exercise almost every day but it is about an hour a day, and yes I eat a lot - hence the exercise everyday. My daily calorie intake is set at 1600 and I almost always eat my exercise calories. Feel free to friend me if you need some more truths.

Don't let the voices bring you down.

SheehyCFC

Fight back against those voices.

1. My goal weight was what I graduated high school at (in 1999), so according to your "high-school aged" - yes. But when it's been 12 years, I say no. I got to my high weight BECAUSE I hadn't done it before.
2. I am getting married Saturday and have no kids, so can't speak to that (but have lost ~45 despite what my ticker says)
3. HAHAHA - NO! I exercise 3-4 times a week (5 if I can) for ~1-1.5 hours.
4. Not a woman - can't answer
5. I have had occasional "blips" of a 1-2lb gain but that's it. The rest has been consistent loss or maintenance. And I've been on here for over 2 years.
6. That is how I started (relatively healthy but 40-50lbs overweight). I have seen so much progress its ridiculous. The combination of finding the right caloric intake and a good exercise program (cardio, weights, p90x, etc.) got me here. I stalled after a year on here, then did p90x (a regimented workout routine) and lost an additional 15lbs. So I'm going to say no to this one too.

Hope this goes a ways to debunking some of your theories. Stay POSITIVE (that's what this website is for). You can accomplish your goals.

stefraab

1. 89% of people who have posted pictures on here have been at thier goal weight at one point in time in their adult life, or highschool aged (don't know what to call that) life. So it's kind of like its a do-over. They've been there once, they know they can do it, and they did it again. Big whoop.

I guess it's possible that 89% are like that... although that seems like a strangely accurate percentage with no research attached ;-)
I personally have never been thin. I'm currently a healthy BMI for the first time in my memory (other than being a little kid, and even then I'm not sure because I didn't care about that stuff).

2. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight (I'm going to say 50lbs or more) cannot be single and have kids.

I'm going for about 45lbs lost and I have a toddler... although I am not single.

3. Anyone who has lost a significant amount of weight spends a majority of thier day exercising.

I don't know if my 32lbs can be considered significant but I do not spend a majority of my day exercising. I have an office job and sit on my can 9 hours of the day. I am doing P90 and P90 master series which is about 30 mins - 1 hr of exercising 6 days a week. Totally doable in my book (I wait until the baby is in bed).

4. 75% of women on MFP have their calories set at 1200 intentionally, even if MFP calculated them at 1600-1700 etc.

Not true here. I have mine set at .5lbs a week - about 1500 cals, but I'm also nursing still so that burns a few extra calories. I have been nursing for almost 2 yrs though so I think my body is pretty used to it; i don't think I burn as many cals doing it as I used to.

6. If you are relatively healthy, but just carry a significant amount (say 30-50lbs) of extra weight, it's harder for you to see results than someone who is not relatively healthy (meaning hdl, ldl, cholesterol, bp all in line)

This isn't true for me. I've been doing this since April 1st and I have had great results (for me). I'm totally happy with the way this has gone so far. It's slowed down in the last couple months but I expected it to as I got closer to my goal.

bcattoes

1. n/a because I don't have a pic posted. I have been at my goal weight for most of my life though.

2. n/a I've never been 50 lbs overweight.

3. You don't define "significant" here but I've lost 24 lbs (I'm at goal) by exercising 6 - 8 hrs per week.

4. I am a women and I have not changed any of the MFP settings.

5. n/a because I have no idea what the avg amount of time to lose weight is. It took me abt 4.5 months to lose 20 lbs, and another 4.5 to drop 4 more (20 was the goal).

6. I was realtively healthy (triglycerides a little high from no exercise, but not dangerously so) before I started.

Not sure why I'm posting this since it doesn't prove or disprove anything other than if you are correct I am often in the lower % of your theories.

yanicka

Well I am a single mom with a full time job and a company on the side. I workout 30 to 45 minutes 4-5 times a week on my lunch break. My calories are at 1450 before exercice calories and I eat 75% of those ( I am also 4'11'' 125 pounds so on the tiny side) I didn't have alot of weight to lose but I was obese at one time in my life.

I think you are trying to find a reason to fail.

PBJunkie

Trying to explain that didn't do my brain any good, seriously...so I just cleared it all.