Anyone have a case of "the haters"

cheeksv

Yeah I get that sometimes. right now I am getting the " your doing your diet wrong" statements. You really do have to ignore and move on. As for the sabotages just say you go to the gym for a reason and you do not want to ruin all your hard work. I do drink a little now and then. My only drink of choice now is a vodka and soda water. one or two and I am good for the night.

venom74799

I wonder if my own brother is doing it to me. He constantly buys me candy and junk crap when I have asked him not to do it. All I hear is that "I think I'm too good now". He has a personal trainer and hasn't lost but maybe 6 pounds over the last 4 months. I have lost about 75+ pounds in 5 1/2 months due to working hard.


It irritates the hell out of me and baffles me why he keeps doing that, but I just ignore him, started to throw away that crap, and continue to do what is helping my health, personality, and well being.

amygee05nb

2 years later they've all grown quiet. Funny how being proved incredible wrong tends to shut people up. :-) hang in there and just smile knowing that in a few years they'll look exactly the same or worse and you'll be rockin maintenance.

Thanks! And look at you,great job! What an accomplishment! Congrats!

lkwilkey

Oh yes I work in an office with two girls that eat junk food all day long and they just think it is soooo funny. but hey its ok with me they can keep there fat butts and ill keep working mine off.....success is our pleasure people....We will have the last laugh just dont give up...

lkwilkey

girl you do sound like something I would do lol

hikeout470

Oh yes I work in an office with two girls that eat junk food all day long and they just think it is soooo funny. but hey its ok with me they can keep there fat butts and ill keep working mine off.....success is our pleasure people....We will have the last laugh just dont give up...

Love it!!!

LexieSweetheart

I told someone I lost 50 pounds the response was " I can't tell oh wait I see it you cut your hair"

solpwr

2 years later they've all grown quiet. Funny how being proved incredible wrong tends to shut people up. :-) hang in there and just smile knowing that in a few years they'll look exactly the same or worse and you'll be rockin maintenance.

This. Totally. Happens.

it_be_asin

Your friends and work colleagues do not want to hear people babble on about working out, weightloss or calorie counting! They couldn't give two hoots. Afterall, do you really need their stamp of approval? Surely the fact that you have commited to a heathly eating and exercise plan and have the results to support your own success should be enough! Be proud of yourselves. Your not going to receive a gold star or get $200 for passing 'Go'... harden up and realise that you did this for YOURSELF not for the approval of others.

They just see you as a the party-pooper that won't losen up and have a beer OR come out and have a coffee & biscuit. And they are right in a way, but YOU know what is best for YOUR own health and to get YOU where YOU want to be. So why do you care what THEY say? It's not that they are not being supportive, it's just that they probably don't care as it doesn't affect them!

I NEVER comment on anyones weight loss. Because I figure that it's inappropriate to comment on weight gain, which is also a lifestyle choice. So what ,you've lost weight because you woke up to yourself and realised what's in YOUR BEST Interests? And now you want a pat on the back?

I have yo-yo'd through the years (to my own detriment) and respect those that are able to consistantly sustain a healthy balance.

Do you like to hear about your co-workers carry on about how they are potty training their 2yo? Or hear the lady that sits next to you whine about how pathetic the hens night her maid of honour organised was? Or even worse... once she avalanches into her wedding saga? Or how the coffee bloke is going home to yet again beat his all time record in some dorky online game? Or how sick your neighbours dog is (because it's owner is dumb enough to feed it cat food)? NO!! No one wants to hear about this, just like they don't want to hear you carry on about your calories!

I applaud everyone for taking the steps required to achieve their goals! I wish you all the very best in continuing your efforts.

Amen.

aliciar3

My favourite is when people that are skinner than you tell you you're getting too skinny... haha I'm never quite sure how to respond to that

Kslice39

yes unfortunately:frown: ...my friends and family make fun of me, like physically laugh at me when i turn things down. Like the other day at work, this girl was eating fried shrimp and fish and asked if i wanted some and i said no thank you, im trying to watch what i eat and have a little healthier lifestyle and she laughed at me and said i would cave in after a week( i still havnt caved!). my family does the same thing. they laugh at me when i tell them im trying to eat healthier and live a healthier lifestyle. None have faith in me that i can accomplish this :frown: ...so i turn to the wonderful people ive met on mfp(who ive never physically met before!) and they provide a million times the amount of support compared to people ive known my whole life...:ohwell: oh well not much i can do except prove them all wrong!!!!!! :bigsmile: and i cant wait till the day too!

baypathgradLyns

There are these two women @ work (both overweight) who used to comment to me several times a week when I started losing weight...One of them actually called me "skinny b!tch" in the parking lot, and that I should be careful in the parking lot because if I turn sideways I disappear and people won't see me...(I think she said specifically that SHE wouldn't be able to see me)...they would never say "hey you look great" or anything positive...anything they said had a negative tone to it...

They have told me multiple times that I need to STOP losing weight...(one actually said that, and then repeated the word STOP a few times)...They say that I am getting too skinny (they were telling me this when I still weighed about 215#)...I can't remember half the things they said TBH.

It used to bother me (REALLY bother me because I was very sensitive about my weight in the beginning) but I just brush it off whenever they say anything now. Whatev.

Noley87

Yup, I feel your pain. My coworker, who I don't think is intentionally bringing me down, told me that I should quit trying to lose weight and just to accept that maybe I am "big boned". She also told me that I now look like I have no butt, which is oh so uplifting.

Both my weekend coworkers spent WEEKS trying to talk me into eating junk food with them, and were pretty obnoxious as I declined. I don't think they were intentionally trying to destroy my effort.
But sheesh.

You don't go on a diet because you think your friends are overweight, you do it because YOU are, right? So why do some people feel like its a personal insult? And why try to sabotage like that?
Anyway, hang in there. You are obviously doing GREAT! Thanks for the post topic, it feels great to vent!!!

rayzerwolf

I get a sick joy out of watching other people eat candy and treats..... I am sorry to say I am one of those people who bring things into work around Christmas time, mostly home made chocolates...... I eat the chocolates too though but I don’t want to eat them all so I bring them to work. They are just so fun to make **cries in corner**