Ex boyfriend advice desperately needed
im not sure if this is the right place to post this- but it's doing my head in and I'm hoping someone can shed some insight on this guy for me. Ok, a brief summary- we were together 4yrs, he broke up with me a year ago and broke my heart, he found someone straight away and they are still together. He emailed me out of the blue several months ago- just chit chat, very light hearted, nothing specific- so I replied. Maybe 5 emails to and fro. Then he stopped emailing for the past month.
Today I open my email to find THIS sent from him (yesterday)
(I copied and pasted it).
Can I get a shirt from you?
I wrote this massive email explaining the reason but it was like, not weird or anything, I swear.
I can't explain it. You know.
I can't even explain why. There has been this annoying voice in the back of my head to ask you, actually, the voice sounds like you, haha. kidding.
I'll be upfront, I have no interest in seeing you, or catching up or having a friendship. I just have this urge to smell you. ok, that has got to be the most weirdest, creepiest thing I ever wrote. But its the truth.
I am normal, just got a quirk or two.
Anywho, I dont know how the logistics will work, I guess I'll give you the address to post to if you agree to the worlds most creepiest request. But honestly, Im not being creepy, I really can't explain it.
I really cant hey.
Well, bartering is a two way street. Is there anything I can offer in return?
Besides my awesomesness!!!!!!
.....And THAT was his email. He never used to be a creep, he's still with his girlfriend- I can't even begin to understand the motivation or thought process behind this email.
And to be honest, it really hurt when he said he didn't want a friendship-
I just assumed he did, otherwise why initiate contact??
I'm so sorry for the length of this, my dear MFP friends. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this.
All I really want is if anyone is able to help me understand why he would send something like this. I'm just flummoxed.
Today I open my email to find THIS sent from him (yesterday)
(I copied and pasted it).
Can I get a shirt from you?
I wrote this massive email explaining the reason but it was like, not weird or anything, I swear.
I can't explain it. You know.
I can't even explain why. There has been this annoying voice in the back of my head to ask you, actually, the voice sounds like you, haha. kidding.
I'll be upfront, I have no interest in seeing you, or catching up or having a friendship. I just have this urge to smell you. ok, that has got to be the most weirdest, creepiest thing I ever wrote. But its the truth.
I am normal, just got a quirk or two.
Anywho, I dont know how the logistics will work, I guess I'll give you the address to post to if you agree to the worlds most creepiest request. But honestly, Im not being creepy, I really can't explain it.
I really cant hey.
Well, bartering is a two way street. Is there anything I can offer in return?
Besides my awesomesness!!!!!!
.....And THAT was his email. He never used to be a creep, he's still with his girlfriend- I can't even begin to understand the motivation or thought process behind this email.
And to be honest, it really hurt when he said he didn't want a friendship-
I just assumed he did, otherwise why initiate contact??
I'm so sorry for the length of this, my dear MFP friends. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this.
All I really want is if anyone is able to help me understand why he would send something like this. I'm just flummoxed.
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Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.0
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I'd block him from my email and phone.0
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What the hell? :noway:0
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Agreed...block the perv!0
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Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.
this.0 -
Boy, that is creepy... get away from him, fast!0
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creeper...block his loser face...but i do agree- forward it to the g-f...then block it completely....this guy is a loser and u dont wanna be anything to him...including friends0
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I Agree too. Block the weirdo! God was on ur side when he broke up with u. You missed a bullet!0
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Too creepy! BLOCK and forward to the current girlfriend if you can.....0
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Ya, I agree block him0
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Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.
I'm going to agree with this. Show this to the new girl. As for his motivation, I really couldn't say, hopefully some males with read this and have something more helpful to add.0 -
Well there is a postive at least he is being honest to you even its quite wierd.
We cant really tell you what to do but he is still playing you... so dont take it in... leave it at the door its being one year.. the future is bright...0 -
He's already said that he doesn't want to be your friend so he doesn't want anything more than that so block that ****.0
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You can't explain crazy. Ignore!0
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they say scent is the strongest trigger for memories..so maybe he's feeling nostalgic? either way. it's not your problem.0
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Move forward not backward. Just a little strength will get you past thinking about him and this. Get yourself busy and go meet new people. You'll forget soon enough. Move on!0
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Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.
I like that idea. Even if he was creepin, or had whatever type of fetish, etc., it doesn't - and shouldn't - involve you now. I'm sure what he said hurt... but I personally wouldn't want ANYthing to do with this guy after that email...
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Two words...pepper spray.0
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What a creep! Pity the poor girl that is with him, honey, and thank ur lucky stars to be rid of him! I agree, block him, and get urself a decent man!0
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Honey, take his email & his memory and delete them! Never waste another thought on him!
Best of luck to ya!0 -
What a creep! Pity the poor girl that is with him, honey, and thank ur lucky stars to be rid of him! I agree, block him, and get urself a decent man!0
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That has to be the strangest request I have ever heard! Do you think he is trying to play an odd game of severe reverse psychology? I can't imagine why he would ask for that (... other than being a little insane!) unless he still had some feelings for you. I AM NOT suggesting you send it though, or give into whatever game he is playing with you.
My advice, try not to obsess over the "why". Just move on and do not reply to him (i know the curiosity is probably killing you, but it is what he wants probably). You are much better off without him (whether he is crazy or just playing head games). If you don't trust yourself, delete his email addy and phone number so you can't contact him.0 -
It sounds to me like he's trying to hurt you again. You are moving on and he can't stand it. Take the high road. Just politely decline and ask him not to contact you again. If he does, thats when you come out guns blazing and forward that email (that you of course saved) to the current GF. He sounds like a creep and you are better off without him.0
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Well I only ever miss someones smell if I miss THEM so he's either confused or... yea, a creep. Being that he thinks he's SO AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!! I'm going with creep.0
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This is just way to weird for me....
I would block him. I would suggest not forwarding to his gf because that is starting something that you don't need. Just get the creep out of your life.0 -
What the what?!?!
I don't want to see you or be your friend but I want to SMELL you?!?!?!?!
That's just.........creepy isn't enough to describe how weird that is!
I concur with the others; block & ignore.
Forwarding the e-mail to current girlfriend would be epic, but yeah, definitely ignore!
Good luck, sweetie!0 -
he wants to smell you?!?!? creep-y0
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Agree with the people above me. BLOCK, BLOCK, BLOCK. Nothing good can come from keeping in contact or submitting to his request.0
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I'd block him from my email and phone.
But first tell him to fvck off.0 -
He's testing you to see if you're still hanging on......................nothing better for a man's ego than to be wanted by women.im not sure if this is the right place to post this- but it's doing my head in and I'm hoping someone can shed some insight on this guy for me. Ok, a brief summary- we were together 4yrs, he broke up with me a year ago and broke my heart, he found someone straight away and they are still together. He emailed me out of the blue several months ago- just chit chat, very light hearted, nothing specific- so I replied. Maybe 5 emails to and fro. Then he stopped emailing for the past month.
Today I open my email to find THIS sent from him (yesterday)
(I copied and pasted it).
Can I get a shirt from you?
I wrote this massive email explaining the reason but it was like, not weird or anything, I swear.
I can't explain it. You know.
I can't even explain why. There has been this annoying voice in the back of my head to ask you, actually, the voice sounds like you, haha. kidding.
I'll be upfront, I have no interest in seeing you, or catching up or having a friendship. I just have this urge to smell you. ok, that has got to be the most weirdest, creepiest thing I ever wrote. But its the truth.
I am normal, just got a quirk or two.
Anywho, I dont know how the logistics will work, I guess I'll give you the address to post to if you agree to the worlds most creepiest request. But honestly, Im not being creepy, I really can't explain it.
I really cant hey.
Well, bartering is a two way street. Is there anything I can offer in return?
Besides my awesomesness!!!!!!
.....And THAT was his email. He never used to be a creep, he's still with his girlfriend- I can't even begin to understand the motivation or thought process behind this email.
And to be honest, it really hurt when he said he didn't want a friendship-
I just assumed he did, otherwise why initiate contact??
I'm so sorry for the length of this, my dear MFP friends. I don't really have anyone to talk to about this.
All I really want is if anyone is able to help me understand why he would send something like this. I'm just flummoxed.
He's a douche. I say *kitten* on a shirt and send it to him.0
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