Ex boyfriend advice desperately needed

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  • Leyla135
    Leyla135 Posts: 48
    My goodness girl, that is weird. Move on and block him. What done is done.:noway:
  • agwilker
    agwilker Posts: 104 Member
    So he tells you basically he wants nothing to do with you, but hey hehe, can you do this creepy favor for me?

    Ironically, he reminds me of my ex, we were together about as long as you two were. We broke up last October, but he's contacted me 3 times since then. Which, if we parted on good terms, it would be different. But he did it in the most mean/offensive way. The first time it was an email (ignored), second a text (reminded him I told him not to contact me), third was at text this past Tuesday. This whole time he's been through 3 girlfriends, lived with 2 of them and he's contacting me wanting to know what I've been doing/wanting a friendship. What reminds me of your ex, is he has told me "i'm just curious that's it, don't get any ideas" and "i'm very happy with who I'm with." Yet, he wants me to satisfy his curiosity.

    He's a jerk, like my ex. It's very selfish for him to ask a favor of you when he's told you he wants nothing to do with you. Only a very narcissistic person would have the audacity to ask for a request after that. Why he asked such a creepy thing, sounds like some theories have been thrown out. One thing is obvious though, it's VERY strange. Don't contact crazy girlfriend, don't contact him. If he keeps contacting you, tell him not to contact you anymore and move on. Sounds like he had the friendly vibe from you in the past, which is why I'm sure he feels okay to ask you this. Nothing good for you could come of being in contact with him at this point or in the future.
  • jennajava
    jennajava Posts: 2,176 Member
    He misses you. It's been scientifically proven that smell triggers memory.
  • OutOfBreath
    OutOfBreath Posts: 80 Member
    Block him before it gets worse. I let mine get to where cops had to be involved...and since it was across state lines (He moved back to momma.) the police were useless and no one wanted to take ownership. "Oh he's in that state, so it's theirs. Oh, you're in this state so it's theirs." It was frustrating and angering. Spare yourself the prolonged drama and block everything.
  • Alacey88
    Alacey88 Posts: 486 Member
    What the hell? :noway:

    I agree with this..... I would say that you have no interest with him any more and let him know that you will take action if it gets worse.
  • Sweet13_Princess
    Sweet13_Princess Posts: 1,207 Member
    I used have an ex-boyfriend who just couldn't let the relationship go. It started out with small things like this, a random e-mail here or there, a phone call. It eventually developed into a really terrible stalking situation. My ex wasn't like that when we were together, either (although he was controlling, which I guess should have been a clue).

    It sounds like he's trying to move on with this girl, but that his fond memories of your relationship are holding him back from doing that. I think the healthiest thing for the both of you is to NOT RESPOND. If he writes again and has trouble catching your drift, I would just explain that you're moving on with your life and that you are not comfortable with his request. Ask him not to write to you again.

    I know how hard it is to end a relationship, especially when a guy keeps popping up. I don't want YOU, however, to end up in the horrid situation that I was in, either.

    Shannon
  • Sheilaof757
    Sheilaof757 Posts: 5
    Girl...Dude has gone crazy and in my opinion he just wants to manipulative with regard to you. He don't want to be with you but he want to smell you. He don't deserve that type of request. Tell him to kick rocks and if you had his girlfriend's email it would be nice to forward it to her so she can see the loser she has...yea he might not have been a loser when you were with him but people change...You Dodged A Bullet when he chose to leave you!!!! Keep yo head up and block him if you don't have any feelings for him.

    Sorry, I am just a person who likes to keep it real :)
  • FelizMi
    FelizMi Posts: 79 Member
    Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.

    But before you block him, cuss him out and tell him what a jerkfaced weirdo you think he is. Then block.
  • missjessica83
    missjessica83 Posts: 64
    You can't explain crazy. Ignore!

    This and block! Followed by thanking your lucky stars you are not his current gf!?
  • 3shirts
    3shirts Posts: 294 Member
    Send him a shirt. What harm is it doing.
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    Send him a shirt. What harm is it doing.
    And this must be the ex-boyfriend.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I haven't read all the replies, but I'd get a male un-neutered cat to pee on a shirt and send it to him. What a creep!
  • Tangerine302
    Tangerine302 Posts: 1,509 Member
    Send him a shirt. What harm is it doing.
    And this must be the ex-boyfriend.

    That's what I thought.
    Really though, I wouldn't write back to him at all. He doesn't deserve any explanations and I don't think he's entitled to any more of your time.
  • kaits108
    kaits108 Posts: 305 Member
    Oh my gosh, how creepy! My mind would be reeling too! I'd totally just do what you're doing though and just not respond, and forget about the email. What a waste of energy to even have to focus on that weirdo for a second. Just thank your lucky stars that Creepo's your EX :)
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    Just tell him what perfume you wear and he'll probably get a bottle. Then he'll make his new GF wear it and give her a pet name. Which will coincidentally be your name.
  • JJeMitchell
    JJeMitchell Posts: 160 Member
    Please: sent it to his current girlfriend. If I were his gf, I'd totally want to know about that.

    Block him, don't give him your shirt lol!

    That is really weird.
  • livnlite
    livnlite Posts: 520
    If your gut feeling is that this is creepy .. It is! He's a perv!

    Nuff said!
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    Send him a man's shirt..sprayed with cologne, and tell him it belongs to the guy who is allowed to smell you now!!
  • patilee
    patilee Posts: 125
    Forward to the girlfriend, then block him.

    i agree. ick
  • dandrews010
    dandrews010 Posts: 253 Member
    Don't send it to his bird, nothing good would come from it. He probably misses you more than he lets on.

    Don't be sending him any clothing though, it's beyond weird. I would slap myself if I ever sent that.
  • bks1
    bks1 Posts: 32 Member
    Thank you so much for the advice guys, I want to respond to each of you and tell you how grateful I am you took the time to help me out. I knew this situation was bizarre but I honestly have no one to talk to about it.

    So my plan is- ignore him. No response, no forwarding email to his psycho gf- nothing. I'm hoping that my silence will be the most powerful response- sometimes receiving the silent treatment can get you thinking and I hope he cringes and regrets sending something like that!

    As for his girlfriend- she is a trouble maker and would start a fight with me because she hates me. So I'm not going there at all.

    There have been some great suggestions about pranks and stuff lol, soooo tempting, but as I said, silence is more dignified, and I want to take that road :)

    As for the idea that his gf sent the email- I honestly don't think so. It's his words, his way of putting things (although a bit scrambled).

    Thank you all again, MFPs. You guys are awesome and I love our community!
  • bks1
    bks1 Posts: 32 Member
    Just one final query tho.... Does anyone think he just said he didn't want a friendship etc because he knew it would upset me, or he genuinely doesn't want a friendship? Previous emails of his were very suggestive of just wanting a friendship.

    Just curious.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I think you've wasted too much time on thinking about him at all. You're a beautiful thoughtful girl. I guarantee there's a someone near you right now that wishes he could be with you.

    Keep the "ex" in front of "boyfriend" and close that chapter.
  • tiggerbounce411
    tiggerbounce411 Posts: 401 Member
    IGNORE, DELETE, BLOCK..problem solved. Take 3 steps forward, not 2 steps back. You can do it and you will feel SO much better.
  • cath775
    cath775 Posts: 5
    Def..just block him. He wants the attention and you don't need to give him any....Focus your energy on you.

    Sounds like he has issues anyway!!
  • livnlite
    livnlite Posts: 520
    Just one final query tho.... Does anyone think he just said he didn't want a friendship etc because he knew it would upset me, or he genuinely doesn't want a friendship? Previous emails of his were very suggestive of just wanting a friendship.

    Just curious.

    It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks HE is thinking .. ONLY he can answer that question.

    Be careful how you translate his choice of word "friends'.. You not be on the same 'page' as he .. If you need to know .. ask him.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    IGNORE, DELETE, BLOCK..problem solved. Take 3 steps forward, not 2 steps back. You can do it and you will feel SO much better.

    I agree with this....you said in your OP that he broke your heart. Its probably best for you to move on and don't look back.

    Some guys have this complex where maybe they don't want you (or not right now anyway), but they also don't want anyone else to have you either. He might just be trying to keep you strung along 'just in case', thinking he might want to come back if things go bad with the current girl. Its less painful to keep the break open then to let him get close and mess with your head again!
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    I think you've wasted too much time on thinking about him at all. You're a beautiful thoughtful girl. I guarantee there's a someone near you right now that wishes he could be with you.

    Keep the "ex" in front of "boyfriend" and close that chapter.

    This man is wise, and knows what he's talking about. :-)
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