What was the worst thing someone said to you regarding your
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Some of these are really making my heart sad
I thought I had it bad. Big hugs for all of us 0 -
My son once told me, "Mom, you're the most beautiful woman in the world... even if you are really fat." Sigh...
He made up for it a couple of weeks ago when he said that, "I'm so glad you lost all that weight because now no one will EVER be able to tell me any 'you're mama's so fat' jokes." :ohwell:
My husband told me when we were dating (he is wonderful but has serious foot-in-mouth disease sometimes) that he didn't really think I was attractive because I was so big, but he was attracted to me anyway. Grrrr!
An old man in Home Depot accidentally backed up into me, then when he turned around and looked at me, he yelled, "YOU'RE HUGE!" loud enough for probably the entire left half of the store to hear. :sad:
I am glad I'm fit and health now, but it is so sad to hear how MEAN - whether intentional or not - people can be.0 -
My ex told me to lose weight so he can love me and not be embarrassed of me.
The best one: he said to me, while having sex ... "if you lost this weight (moved his hands to my hips to show me) you wouldn't be so bad. "
O lawd I would have hurt him. Or said something like well atleast I can loose weight. Not much you can do for your tiny penis. Sorry for you.
OMG ......... ROTFLMAO!!!0 -
I think what is the saddest about it, is that majority of these horrible things said are said by family members.0
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People really are so mean and hurtful
My ex's mother who I had known for close to 3 years and which easily 2 years of that I was big asked me once if I was pregnant and when I told her no I was just fat she called me a liar and said I WAS pregnant. Needless to say I got in the car and we left immediately.
I also got the comments of "There is nothing wrong with you if you would just get rid of your belly."0 -
(1) my sister-in-law introduced me to someone and said, "she used to be skinny. like REALLY skinny. i mean, seriously, she was so thin a long time ago. and she was so pretty when she was thin." (and yes, i was standing right there during the introduction.)
(2) the worst: "when is your baby due?" (i was not pregnant)0 -
Love this! Kids have NO manners these days! You should be proud!The worst for me was about 2 years ago, I went swimming with my son (who is part fish) at the community pool. Some kids (different kids on different days) said something like "look how fat he is" and "that guy is so fat".
I stopped getting in the water with my son after that, which tore me up because loves playing in the pool with me, but I couldn't bear the humiliation again. I look back and think I shouldn't have deprived my son of having a great time with dad, but on one of those occassions it brought me to tears when I got home and sunk me into a mildly depressive state for weeks.
Kids are brutally honest. I love honesty, but those incidents stung more than any other i can recall.
I have a 6 year old niece and this has happened to me when I take her swimming. I never let on it bothers me but one day my niece heard some kid make a comment about my *kitten* being fat.. and my sweet little niece swam over.. got in their face and said "Maybe you should keep your mouth shut.. telling someone their are fat hurts their feelings." the kid said something back that I didn't hear and she said "wow your mom didn't teach you any manners."
It really made my day...0 -
i worked at a nursing home for a lil bit and had 2 different residents ask when i was due...this was at my heaviest 2 years ago (200lbs)
my cna instructed had actually asked if i was prego
just recently my husbands friend said my stomach sticks out further than his prego girlfriends
these things are devastating0 -
No one has ever said ANYTHING mean/bad/hurtful to me about my weight.
And I think that's what hurt the most.
My best friend was the ONLY person to get real with me. I could tell something was on his mind and it took him like two hours to find the courage to tell me because he was SO afraid he would hurt my feelings. It felt like a RELIEF to hear it. I don't think he understands how much that meant to me. He cared enough about me to be honest even though it was hard for him.
I feel for people who have heard biting comments and flat-out insults about their weight, though. It sounds incredibly dehumanizing.0 -
This is actually kinda funny to me
I was sitting on the couch complaining how I'm fat like a pig. My boyfriend, trying to comfort me, replies "but I like fat animals. ..... Can I start over?"
I burst out in laughter because I knew what he meant but he just worded it so awful lol.
Besides that, I've gotten the token "fat *****" comment from people but I don't really get sad when people talk about my weight.0 -
"For a skinny chick, you sure have a huge stomach"
"Damn your belly didn't look that big with your clothes on!"
"Hey Skeletor, don't poke me with ur bony elbow!"
"Hey not to be mean, but you kinda look like a Thai ladyboy"
My son pointed out to me the other day that I had no boobs. I was in my compression bra and I have B cups...so yeah.... "Damn Mom, you have no breasts!"
I had a friend in high school that was overweight and I was bony (still am) so ya'll can imagine the jokes...ugh.0 -
"You'd be a knock out if you lost ____ pounds."
"You're pretty for a fat girl."
^^^These^^^
And the ever popular, "You got the brains, your sister got the looks." :grumble:0 -
oh and im really not even a big girl0
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Not the worst one I've ever heard but one I remember because it came from a supervisor when i needed a lunch break, "You don't look hungry!" Best thing I heard recently was my 6 year old son say "daddy you look like you're getting taller":)0
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Love this! Kids have NO manners these days! You should be proud!The worst for me was about 2 years ago, I went swimming with my son (who is part fish) at the community pool. Some kids (different kids on different days) said something like "look how fat he is" and "that guy is so fat".
I stopped getting in the water with my son after that, which tore me up because loves playing in the pool with me, but I couldn't bear the humiliation again. I look back and think I shouldn't have deprived my son of having a great time with dad, but on one of those occassions it brought me to tears when I got home and sunk me into a mildly depressive state for weeks.
Kids are brutally honest. I love honesty, but those incidents stung more than any other i can recall.
I have a 6 year old niece and this has happened to me when I take her swimming. I never let on it bothers me but one day my niece heard some kid make a comment about my *kitten* being fat.. and my sweet little niece swam over.. got in their face and said "Maybe you should keep your mouth shut.. telling someone their are fat hurts their feelings." the kid said something back that I didn't hear and she said "wow your mom didn't teach you any manners."
It really made my day...
I am. I was just shocked that she called someone out on it, normally she never says anything lol.0 -
Ok I know they're all horrible things that people said, but I'm sorry I laughed my rear off (which is good b/c it's too big anyway). People are mean and have no filer. I've had things said to me but I guess I generally laugh at them b/c I can lose weight and they're still going to be an idoit with a big mouth.
Hang in there all, you're here and working on it. Next time you hear something from someone that's not nice or solicited about your weight just laugh and think....You butthead. You're going to get hit the face one day. You've got a big mouth and a small mind...whatever fits.... Then hold your head up and think how you're going to think about those comments on those days when you just can't find the motivation to go to the gym. You can change that flaw and that other person is screwed..... 0 -
Aunt: "You need to lose weight before your husbands starts cheating on you with a skinny girl"
Mom: just the other day when I was getting ready for my girls night " Shouldn't you lose weight before you go out with your skinny friends?"0 -
I weighed 290 at the time and my doctor told me if I didn't do something I would be dead within 5 years (that was almost 8 years ago). At the time I had high blood pressure, overweight, cholesterol was through the roof, heart problems, liver problems you name it. I cut out all meats except fish, all dairy products, corn, anything white (potatoes, rice) anything with yeast (beer, breads) and went down to 209 and everything went back to normal. Eventually after about 3 years and my parents and everyone else telling me I was too thin, I looked sick and the rest of that crap I gave up eating that way and went back to the SAD diet, and now today I have issues walking, blood pressure through the roof, way over weight and trying to lose that weight again. It was far easier the first time but know I can do it again.
Low 200's and 6 foot guy is not too thin, sickly or anything else.... I honestly wish I had blocked all that crap out.0 -
these break m heart.0
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When I was 16 I Babysat a boy and he told me that when he grew up he wanted a girl friend that looked just like me except skinny.
When trying on wedding dresses one of the salon women said, "im sorry hunny, but we just don't carry sizes that fit people like you"
I went to a friends grandmothers house and after telling her that i had become a vegetarian the month before, she looked at me and said "Well its obviously not helping your fatness"
I am using these as motivators. No more fat me...
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When I was 16 I Babysat a boy and he told me that when he grew up he wanted a girl friend that looked just like me except skinny.
When trying on wedding dresses one of the salon women said, "im sorry hunny, but we just don't carry sizes that fit people like you"
I went to a friends grandmothers house and after telling her that i had become a vegetarian the month before, she looked at me and said "Well its obviously not helping your fatness"
I am using these as motivators. No more fat me...
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I was about 8 or 9 (and a little chubby) and my adult aunt said to my mum about me "she won't be fiting that dress for much longer and if she keeps eating like that (we were at a restaurant) she'll be in real trouble. She sure is getting fat". Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. Both her and her daughter are obese - while I am now 2kgs from being in the 'normal' BMI range - suck on that one!0
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"You were happier when you were fat."
-a coworker
My dad said that too me too!0 -
My mom and I have a great relationship now, but when I was in high school and college she used to say AWFUL things about my weight. The one that sticks with me the most was her telling me that I'd never have a happy (hypothetical) marriage if I didn't lose weight, because husbands are never truly happy with overweight wives. What. The hell. My mom is not unintelligent or ignorant, so I still don't understand how she could have believed such a thing.
Also, from a d-bag ex:
"Your body isn't even attractive anymore . . . it's all just blubber"0 -
I haven't gotten a lot of comments for being overweight. But I got a lot before, when I was underweight. The worst was from a "friend." She made several comments that were nasty, but the worst was when we were walking and she said, "You're just so skinny! You're like a skeleton. Don't you ever eat?" First of all, I was not THAT thin. Secondly, she knew exactly how much I ate. She just wanted to make me feel bad for some reason. We're no longer friends.0
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I guess this is a reverse insult..... I was told by my VERY overweight sister in law that I had lost weight to spite her... And it caused such a huge fight in my family my brother didn't speak to me for awhile. (This was many years ago)
So the solution now..... No one is allowed to,talk about how good I am doing....
I'm sorry but that hurts too...0 -
Approximately age 12, rapidly growing and hormones changing the bod, my dad grabbed the fat on my outer thigh to point out that he didn't approve, I was pushing a whopping 120 pounds at 5'5". Apparently he thinks the twiggy look is the way to go. My parents are now divorced and we had years of eating and body image issues lurking. SO GLAD I now realize that was totally friggin ridiculous. It is true, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger!0
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I guess this is a reverse insult..... I was told by my VERY overweight sister in law that I had lost weight to spite her... And it caused such a huge fight in my family my brother didn't speak to me for awhile. (This was many years ago)
So the solution now..... No one is allowed to,talk about how good I am doing....
I'm sorry but that hurts too...
Sounds like my family... I say this because she started it, and you end up being the fall guy with your brother not talking to you,0 -
Cousin: "WOW Bri, you got big!"
Cousin: "You used to have a nice body"
Grandpa: "Look at my gordita"
Grandpa: "Don't gain any more weight"
Grandma: "Ay mija, your getting too big"
Sister: LOL "I can see your stomach jiggling"
Friend: "Wow Bri, you gained A LOT of weight, you used to be so small, what happened?"
However, one thing that I have found is that most people that commented on my weight, were struggling with theirs themselves, or didn't understand the type of diet given to me since I was young. The only thing that really changed was I stopped exercising, and increased food intake.0 -
Quotes from my ex-boyfriend:
*grabs my thigh* "We need to get you to the gym because no offense, but you can REALLY pinch an inch".
"With every pound you gain, I'll love you less".
"It's offensive to even have to look at you. You're an insult to real women".0
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