Can anyone handle the truth??

riyahroyce

i'm starting to get irritated, feeling like i may be the only one here really able to handle "tough love". if someone told me im fat (which nobody does, because i'm not, because i work hard EVERY DAY), i'd be like "ok, theyre right" and vow to do something about it. i wouldn't fall into a shame spiral and eat ten boxes of ringdings and cry fat tears feeling sorry for myself.

I don't understand how being all lovey-dovey to each other ("you look great the way you are!" when theyre 200 lbs, etc) is helping ANYONE. those who say it are lying and those who need to lose weight (for their own health) are not being helped by this.

everyone needs to cut the BS and be realistic with themselves. that's what i do. that's why my "before" looks like your "after".

is anyone else actually SERIOUS about fitness, or is everyone just looking for a shoulder to cry on instead of a true sense of motivation?

nut up or shut up.

auntdeedee87

Well, if we're being honest, you're kind of a bonehead.

I'm allergic to nuts, so I'm just gonna go the 'shut up' route.

RJ425

Well said riyahroyce

hulalula1

Well, if we're being honest, you're kind of a bonehead.

I'm allergic to nuts, so I'm just gonna go the 'shut up' route.

x2

Fairysoul

I would actually prefer someone to tell me honestly, yes you need to lose weight!!

bry_all01

I only ever want to hear the truth. True story.

SarahE0417

Thank You!! I cannot stand it when I hear people say that their significant other thinks they look great no matter what they weigh!!...wake up..they are lying!!

riyahroyce

if you think i'm wrong, you're exactly the type of person i'm talking about. the kind i feel sorry for when i see them pretending they're happy instead of making themselves happy.

UpEarly

Oh geez... the wisdom of youth. I don't know what you're going for with this post, but it sounds like someone who has a superiority complex and has come here to scold all the fatties.

mmmichelle8486

Well, if we're being honest, you're kind of a bonehead.

I'm allergic to nuts, so I'm just gonna go the 'shut up' route.

Yes. Honestly.

wbgolden

I honestly have never eaten a ringding and don't know what I'm missing. Are they tasty? Be honest. :P

bettertracie

Maybe you have NO IDEA what theses people have really gone through... I was pretty at my before... I WAS HAPPY at my BEFORE, because I didn't know any better...

So when PEOPLE LIKE YOU, have THOUGHTS LIKE THIS...

KEEP THEM TO YOURSELF AND SHAME ON YOU FOR HAVING ZERO COMPASSION FOR WHAT EVENTS YOU HAVE NO CLUE OF!!!

YES, THAT SAYS 80 POUNDS LOST WOO HOO!!

kiawya

There is NO WAY you could understand, relate or have any clue what so ever what it is like or how you would react. You shouldnt judge people when you have no clue what they are really going through.

sjcply

WOW! That is really cruel of you! EVERYONE is a human being and should be supported whether they weigh 100lbs or 300lbs! This website is for support and friendship no matter what size you are!
I find it sad that you are taking this approach! Kuddos to you for being where you think you are. I am too!! But I dont down on ppl that arent there yet!!

wickedcricket

I am totally honest but NOT abusive or derogatory. You don't need to tell someone they're fat. They have a mirror, clothes and television for that. In fact, you don't need to tell ANYBODY what's wrong with THEM. WHO are YOU, Halle Berry!?
YOU just worry about improving yourself. Friends are supportive, not hateful.
NOBODY is perfect - don't worry about the speck in MY eye- get the log out of yours

THAT is MY truth
I've said it before and I'll say it here - it's just TOO DAMN BAD we don't have a mirror for the soul - THAT I'd like to see- how about you?

Grimmerick

I totally agree..................well no actually I don't. Boy it must be nice to be so perfect and odor free. You want no BS ok, this post makes you sound uppity and that you think you are better than others. I agree that I don't want to hear someone complain and not do something about it but man you came off like a total............. People respect no BS but not with your kind of uppity attitude

glockster972

I only ever want to hear the truth. True story.

I only tell the truth.

barbiex3

whoaa. calm down there sparky... not everyone wants to be a gym rat like us. HARD TO BELIEVE I KNOW!

but seriously... "my before pictures look like your after"... kinda uncalled for hun! not everyone has the same goals!

oh.. and just in case you wanted to accuse me of being lazy...

amfmmama

Oh geez... the wisdom of youth. I don't know what you're going for with this post, but it sounds like someone who has a superiority complex and has come here to scold all the fatties.

like.

coloradocami

I honestly have never eaten a ringding and don't know what I'm missing. Are they tasty? Be honest. :P

You always crack me up! :laugh:

pnieuw

if you think i'm wrong, you're exactly the type of person i'm talking about. the kind i feel sorry for when i see them pretending they're happy instead of making themselves happy.

Nice to have all the answers at age 22. Congrats.

bettertracie

if you think i'm wrong, you're exactly the type of person i'm talking about. the kind i feel sorry for when i see them pretending they're happy instead of making themselves happy.

Doesnt sound like MFP and it's SUPPORT SYSTEM are NOT for you... OR MAYBE YOU JUST REALLY NEED A HUG!!!

chelekaz

There is a big difference between enabling and being supportive. Between being honest and being abusive.

As for your holier than though before / after picture remark... who cares? As long as they feel good about themselves that is what matters.

And as weight is much easier to change than a terrible personality, I'll take my weight problem any day of the week.

Scott613

I honestly have never eaten a ringding and don't know what I'm missing. Are they tasty? Be honest. :P

My gf loves ringdings and when I say it's time for the ringding she's all gobble gobble num num num:laugh:Honestly!

jaxdiablo

This unfortunately is the trademark of someone who doesn't seem to have a lot of life experience. If you can't nicely tell someone to do something you have no tact. That makes you rude. If in a supporting fashion you can convince someone to make positive changes in their lives and move forward in a healthy fashion, then you are just showing you a better people person.

Since we're going with honesty, great goals there. It kinda shows the type of person you are.

PhilipByrne

if you think i'm wrong, you're exactly the type of person i'm talking about. the kind i feel sorry for when i see them pretending they're happy instead of making themselves happy.

You sound like a silly little girl who thinks she is being ballsy. Maybe when you have a few more miles on the clock you'll realise what a silly girl you were. Or maybe not.

flimflamfloz

To each their own really, I guess it pretty much depends on your past experiences/childhood/failures.

I am completely like riyahroyce on this, I don't mind to be pushed/poked out of my comfort zone. I need this "violence" and "realism" to get myself motivated, and with just kind words, I would not be pushed out of my comfort zone and would not be "forced" to do anything about it.

I can understand though that some people are allergic to this "violence", and they find it demotivating. Depends on where you stand really.

chanstriste13

you can be honest without being an as$hole. i think most people would prefer that route.

shovav91

This place is all about support. Some of these people are constantly under scrutiny for the way they look. That takes a toll on even the strongest of people. Coming together with the common goal of health is important, but it doesn't happen overnight. It is a long process, and having people who actually UNDERSTAND what they're going through is essential. They aren't telling each other to keep the weight on, but what good does making someone feel bad about themselves do? None at all, it's certainly not healthy motivation.
If you don't understand that, what are you doing here?

xAdrianax

Sorry we are not all as strong as you.


And sorry that you cant believe that others do like the way people look even before.

Your post seemed quite aggressive and jumpy....just saying - i mean you like people to cut to the chase clearly and be honest.

riyahroyce

its because i WANT people to feel better that i think they should DO better. correct, they may be going through something awful. correct, you cant judge strangers. correct, some people are happy no matter how they look.

and im not trying to "scold the fatties"..i think most of the people on here are really trying to make positive changes for themselves, and thats great. i'm just wondering why people cant handle the truth. and its great to know im not alone