married women,does your man...?

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  • Puggy33
    Puggy33 Posts: 300
    As long as the food is on the table when I get home, the beer is cold, dishes and laundry are taking care of and her sister still lives next door, i'm fine with my wife's weight.
  • boomboom011
    boomboom011 Posts: 1,459
    Mine says he doesn't care and he doesn't seem too. BUT he defintely chases me a little more now that I'm losing some weight.

    this!
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    We haven't talked about it really, but now that I have lost almost 40 pounds he is working out now too :)
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    He never said he 'doesn't care' and I weighed a lot more when we met, but the way he's responding so positively to my losses, makes me think he does care. That's OK though...we all want to be attracted to the person we're with!

    The other day he told me he feels "like I'm cheating on my wife" because I look like a different person now!
  • femmerides
    femmerides Posts: 843 Member
    So when I met my hubby, I was a very sexy size 10 and also very fit. I've always been active and always worked out. Over the years I always thought I was really sexy because my husband made me feel that way. I always stayed actige, I just struggled with what I ate and how much. My husband has always found me attractive and always told me I was sexy. He always says he loves me no matter what I weigh as long as I'm always active and keep my heart strong. I weighed 250 for a few years and finally decided to lose the weight. One reason I know he doesn't care about my size is because our sex life has always been super hot. Always. The only reason it is even hotter now is because (1) our kids sleep in than their own room now and (2) I feel way sexy and have a lot more stamina now that I'm not carrying around an extra 70lbs.
  • kandyjo
    kandyjo Posts: 4,493 Member
    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
    Research shows that marriages are more successful and men are more satisfied when the wife's BMI is lower than her husbands.
  • kandyjo
    kandyjo Posts: 4,493 Member
    Absolutely!!!! This is so similar to me..... Sexy is an ATTITUDE!!! BUt anyway, I have a good hubby and he has always made me FEEL sexy no matter what my size....

    I know their are men who aren't this way though..... I Have had friends who have said their husband's made them feel so unattractive and unwanted because of their weight.... maybe it wasn't really their weight.... and I think it was more of their husband's having insecurity issues with themselves to tell you the truth......
    So when I met my hubby, I was a very sexy size 10 and also very fit. I've always been active and always worked out. Over the years I always thought I was really sexy because my husband made me feel that way. I always stayed actige, I just struggled with what I ate and how much. My husband has always found me attractive and always told me I was sexy. He always says he loves me no matter what I weigh as long as I'm always active and keep my heart strong. I weighed 250 for a few years and finally decided to lose the weight. One reason I know he doesn't care about my size is because our sex life has always been super hot. Always. The only reason it is even hotter now is because (1) our kids sleep in than their own room now and (2) I feel way sexy and have a lot more stamina now that I'm not carrying around an extra 70lbs.
  • Salamanda425
    Salamanda425 Posts: 358
    My husband must be a chubby chaser.....he loved me fat.......he loved me when I slimmed down...and now that I'm plump again....he still loves me. Doesnt' seem to be turned off at all. He's still walking around like a dog in heat.
  • kandyjo
    kandyjo Posts: 4,493 Member
    Either he doesn't care, or he's smart enough to pretend he doesn't care what size I am. :wink: :tongue:

    ^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^^ :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
    Maybe we just have smart husbands!! LOL
    He MAY care one way or the other, but he has never made me feel any LESS of anything because I had gained weight.
  • kandyjo
    kandyjo Posts: 4,493 Member
    It's because you are YOU!!!! And YOU (no matter what size) turns him on!! :bigsmile:

    My husband must be a chubby chaser.....he loved me fat.......he loved me when I slimmed down...and now that I'm plump again....he still loves me. Doesnt' seem to be turned off at all. He's still walking around like a dog in heat.
  • JeanWalker109
    JeanWalker109 Posts: 220
    care about how chubby/thin you get? let's say your bmi is 25-24, proportional ,and shorter than him ... does he care if you're not thin or fit as long as your proportional?... any experiences i'm just curious about what husbands think
    thanks in advance i know it's a weird question.

    My husband's actually said something about the fact that it doesn't matter what SIZE I am, b/c I'm proportioned & he likes the way I look. He likes ME. The body's just the body, but yes...he likes my curves & he's excited at the fact that no matter how much I weigh...I'll still have the same curves. The only thing he's said for certain is: if I lose a lot in the chest area, he's gonna buy me some. ROFL!

    He's supportive of me losing weight b/c he knows how long I've wanted it & he wants me to live a long time.
  • JeanWalker109
    JeanWalker109 Posts: 220
    My husband must be a chubby chaser.....he loved me fat.......he loved me when I slimmed down...and now that I'm plump again....he still loves me. Doesnt' seem to be turned off at all. He's still walking around like a dog in heat.

    He loves YOU, period! *smiles*
  • ♥ChUbByCoyLe♥
    ♥ChUbByCoyLe♥ Posts: 267 Member
    My hubby says he likes me with a little bit of weight on me, says he likes curves on a woman. My hubby says when my BMI was 22 i was always unwell.....Thinking back, he is right!! My husband supports my weight loss but when he feels i'm getting too thin he tells me so.
  • jenny95662
    jenny95662 Posts: 997 Member
    As a husband that loves everything about his wife I'd just like to say no I couldn't give a dam. my only concern is that she's healthy and happy. I've been married for 21 years and unless she kills me in my sleep, I'll be married till the day I die........................hang on if she kills me in my sleep I'm still married until I die...............lets not share this with her ok??

    If you're only in a relationship due to looks, I can promise it won't last.

    you are awesome!!!

    my husband does not seem to care, actually he always jokes and says when you loose weight you not going to go find someone better are you??? its his insecurity but i tell him hello i was thin when i met you lmao
  • ohwhataday
    ohwhataday Posts: 1,398 Member
    My husband of course has always said he doesn't care and loves me for me but that's a crock of shiz... Besides, I want him to want me.
  • KellyKAG
    KellyKAG Posts: 418
    My husband has never voiced that he cares but all of the pictures he keeps of me in his office are the pictures from before I gained weight which says it all.
  • sarahmaryfearnley
    sarahmaryfearnley Posts: 366 Member
    This thread was a great read. So many wonderfully sweet and supportive husbands out there and I'm glad that I have one too.

    I was heavy when we met and got married and like some others have said, he never turned me down for, ah hem, because of my weight. However, I have lost 15lbs and the other day he told me that the other night was really hot and he couldn't stop thinking about my body. Then he felt like he was implying that I wasn't sexy before and started back peddling, which made me laugh. I know he loves me but I feel better since loosing and it's good to hear that he likes it.

    We are working together and having your S/O as a fitness and eating right partner is really awesome. We help modivate each other.
  • tigertchr23
    tigertchr23 Posts: 418 Member
    My husband doesn't give one rip. I could weigh 600 pounds and he would be fine with it. However, if Momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. And this Momma ain't happy a bit over 150!

    Amen!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,026 Member
    I care. It's a direct affect on how she emotionally feels and her health. She would hate that she wouldn't be able to run around with our daughter because of being overweight. And she suffers from scoliosis, so I know that excess weight will cause more body pain.
  • ennaejay
    ennaejay Posts: 575
    care about how chubby/thin you get? let's say your bmi is 25-24, proportional ,and shorter than him ... does he care if you're not thin or fit as long as your proportional?... any experiences i'm just curious about what husbands think
    thanks in advance i know it's a weird question.

    Yes, he cares. He says he doesn't, but he definitely DOES have a preference. I believe he'll love me if I'm heavier, chubbier, and still desire my body and and enjoy my company, but I did notice a difference in his sex drive when I was pregnant and put on a few pounds. At my thinnest, he has never told me I'm too thin. I *could* get too thin, but I wouldn't be happy (or healthy), and neither would he.

    He likes me best the way I am now -- which is also a huge motivator for me to keep working. He likes the muscular, fit, small, boyish build - and that's what my body wants to be as I work on it.

    What does your husband think, OP???
  • artsiefartsiek
    artsiefartsiek Posts: 21
    I'm married and he loves me just the way I am. I am trying to loos weight to regain my confidence and he supports me. He says if I gain or loos he will still not care as long as its not causing health concerns.
  • jennajava
    jennajava Posts: 2,176 Member
    Mine says he doesn't care and he doesn't seem too. BUT he defintely chases me a little more now that I'm losing some weight.

    ^^^This.
  • mrschappet
    mrschappet Posts: 488 Member
    My hubby doesn't care as long as I am happy. The only time he gives his opinion is when it comes to my *kitten*.. lol he loves me to have a little junk in the trunk LOL.. but then I remind him I can't spot reduce or increase fat hehehehe... really he is good about it. And if he ever "complains" its when he thinks I am being too hard on myself.. but then he always says he loves me and my body no matter what. and sure this sounds so corny but he really is just that supportive :-) I'm pretty lucky
  • KimmieBrie
    KimmieBrie Posts: 825 Member
    I don't care, but I wish my wife would sort of make up her mind.
    One minute she's all, "I'm gross and I need to lose 100+ pounds"
    then five minutes later she's stuffing herself with Ice Cream.

    Appearance is very little to me, behavior is everything to me.
    If she'd want to go and do the things I want to do instead of shooting down every idea i have
    I'd be much happier.


    This is partially my husband attitude - though he likes fit/athletic/healthy women, not anorexic thin.
    He's very active - and as long as I'm doing those things with him (jogs, backpacking, hiking, snowboarding, skiing, etc)
    he's happy. And doing those things keeps you fit and I enjoy them. If I wasn't into doing those things with him I'm sure we would not be married... no one wants to always be doing things alone.
  • smpearce13
    smpearce13 Posts: 32 Member
    My wife has gone through all aspects skinny/larger since we've been together (10+ years now). I've never lost any desire for her (and show it in several ways, including trying to molest her pretty much daily!) She was about a 14-16 when we met, got up to a size 22 +, and then decided to have gastric bypass about 5 years ago. She expected to get down to a 10-12 at most, but went down to a 2-4. At one point she was a little too unhealthy (5'8" and hovering at 100 lbs), but she gained that back, and it 135 lbs now.

    Throughout all parts of it the only time I commented when at the extremes (we parked a little further in the parking lot once and by the time we got to the movie theater, she was breathing heavy and sweating, and then when she got too skinny), and both of those were health concerns. I still would get her flowers occasionally (god bless Sam's Club!), of course ravage her (even when she was larger).

    I was/am less concerned with how she looked, than how she felt. She made the decision to do the surgery (and I supported her, but wasn't super excited about it. Stuff like that freaks me out).

    I think men care less about how their wives look (to some level), than how much they show us they care! Some men it's cooking, some it's sex (probably alot, myself included), etc. I don't hear many guys say they'll cheat or leave their spouses because they gained some weight or are bigger, but take away the things we like, especially if it's something that attracted us to you in the first place...... :)
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    My husband prefers a bit of squish, but he also knew how down I was about myself right after having our babies. He loved how I looked pregnant, along with a bit of the "yeah, that baby in there? I did that." bravado. Lol

    Because I'm excited about losing weight, and feeling better about myself, he is happy and supportive. And when the lingerie from my bridal shower fits again, he'll be even happier. :-)
    It really is about the confidence behind being fit and at a healthy weight. When you feel good, you treat yourself better, and you start walking like you mean it.
  • Lyadeia
    Lyadeia Posts: 4,603 Member
    care about how chubby/thin you get? let's say your bmi is 25-24, proportional ,and shorter than him ... does he care if you're not thin or fit as long as your proportional?... any experiences i'm just curious about what husbands think
    thanks in advance i know it's a weird question.

    No he doesn't care. He didn't fall in love with me because of what I looked like, and if he did, I wouldn't have agreed to marry him. We may pick on each other (not mean or anything) from time to time, but neither one of us wanted to get hooked up with someone so shallow that they'd judge us if we gained or lost weight. Life is too short to spend it with someone who would rather whine about my BMI than how I actually treat them.
  • sdwelk11
    sdwelk11 Posts: 825
    My Hubby and I have both gained weight together. He doesnt like super thin women and has always told me that he loves me the way I am as long as I am healthy. I love him how he is no matter what weight he is but I can say that the smaller that the couple is the more interesting sex can be... sorry just saying!!!!!!!! we have a wonderful marriage and he told me once that he would never leave because of my weight if our marriage ever fell apart....
  • sdwelk11
    sdwelk11 Posts: 825
    care about how chubby/thin you get? let's say your bmi is 25-24, proportional ,and shorter than him ... does he care if you're not thin or fit as long as your proportional?... any experiences i'm just curious about what husbands think
    thanks in advance i know it's a weird question.

    No he doesn't care. He didn't fall in love with me because of what I looked like, and if he did, I wouldn't have agreed to marry him. We may pick on each other (not mean or anything) from time to time, but neither one of us wanted to get hooked up with someone so shallow that they'd judge us if we gained or lost weight. Life is too short to spend it with someone who would rather whine about my BMI than how I actually treat them.

    exactly how my hubby and I are!!!!!!!!! glad to see we aren't the only couple that feel this way
  • maddmaddie
    maddmaddie Posts: 160 Member
    I'm not married, but I've been with the same guy for over 2 years. When we first met I weighed 175 lbs (at my highest) and now I weigh 160 lbs and still losing. I know all of his ex-girlfriends were thin (100-130 lbs) and ALL of them cheated on him. I sense that he is worried that I will get more attention if I lose more weight. He's told me that he loves me just the way I am which is very sweet, but I sense a different truth. He is an awesome guy with a big heart, so I just reassure him that he has nothing to worry about if I get down to my goal weight. I won't suddently become *poof* a bar slut and screw everyone like his ex's. I'm wanting to lose weight for myself, my health and well-being. Besides, I got blood testing done and I have high cholesterol (at age 21!!!!) so this has also helped convince him that I do need to lose some weight for my health.

    :-)
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