Biggest things not to do on a first date
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Don't vomit at the table. This never happened. I just think it is good advice.0
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I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about the future in general. I'm not a recreational dater, so if I don't see long-term potential on the first date, there won't be a second date. Some of the questions I would ask on the first date are how the guy feels about marriage and kids, where he hopes to be in his career in 5 years, etc. No need to get emotionally attached to someone who has very different views on pretty big issues, and I'm just not the kind of person to drag the "getting to know you" process out over four or five dates. Not when it comes to major things. I just don't have time for it.
Now, I would advise against asking a guy "Could you see yourself marrying ME?" on the first date. That's somewhat completely over the top.0 -
Be perfectly charming for the first hour, but quiet...and then slam back the Corona's. Then think that because the girl takes off her glasses in the car it's because she wants to put out....and, no, she won't want to 'go somewhere quiet' ;-) It's also obvious that you don't stand and quite literally stare at her backside when she walks up the stairs :-D
That was my first date with the OH - he's quite shy meeting new people, decided to drink loads as he thought he was being too quiet. I wouldn't have seen him again only one of the girls at work said if he was ok up to the point of maxing up the Corona's give it another go. Glad I did, he's great. Plus the fact that the kids and I love reminding him of what a stud he was on the first date, and it gave his mates a laugh too.0 -
Don't confuse the idea of "first date" with "drag me around while you run errands with your navy buddies."
And for sure don't confuse "taking me out to dinner" with "swinging through the chowhall line and getting two crappy hamburgers to go while I stay in the car with your buddies."
I did end up marrying the guy, but still give him crap about our first "date."0 -
Eat tacos.
Seriously, you cannot eat tacos in a ladylike way.
Sometimes eating the taco lands you a second date with her!
this.0 -
I went out on a "first" with a woman I really liked. Never told her I am a paramedic. Ended up doing cpr on a man in line at a well known restaurant. The ambulance arrived and we soon discovered that I was the only paramedic on the scene. So, I am starting iv's, getting an ekg, and pushing meds without thinking. I looked back at my date and she was mortified. I ended up going in the ambulance with the patient to the hospital. My date eventually told me that my life is way too "exciting" for her tastes. Now I show up wearing an EMS jacket and I tell the person my occupation first
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That would've got you banged on a first date.0 -
I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about the future in general. I'm not a recreational dater, so if I don't see long-term potential on the first date, there won't be a second date. Some of the questions I would ask on the first date are how the guy feels about marriage and kids, where he hopes to be in his career in 5 years, etc. No need to get emotionally attached to someone who has very different views on pretty big issues, and I'm just not the kind of person to drag the "getting to know you" process out over four or five dates. Not when it comes to major things. I just don't have time for it.
Some girl asks me about Marriage or Kids on a first date, I'm getting the hell out of there! Don't get me wrong, I want both of those things, but talking about that on a first date is psycho status in my book. Honestly I think you would be better off going getting to know someone before that even comes up!0 -
That IS getting to know someone. If you know you want to get married (or don't want to get married), why would you be afraid to talk about that on the first date? It's not called being a pyscho. It's called knowing what you want and not having time to screw around with people who don't.0
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Set a wedding date0
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Spend almost the entire dinner telling me how much of a man-*kitten* you are.
Yes, he wanted a second date.
No, he didn't get one.
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Never been on a date!
Someone send me there top 10 what not to do and what to do... Lol
No like seriously lol0 -
Talk non-stop about what is going on in celebrity land or abotu some drama on a reality tv show.0
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share details about your Bi-polar condition......
Gents please save that info for once you've reeled us in!0 -
Don't stop on the way to the movies to meet your Grandma. True story, my first (and only) date with this guy and he takes me to meet his Grandma!0
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I once met a guy online whom I thought was "ok". I wasn't initially romantically attracted to him but he was nice, so I thought "well, let's give this a little time just to see what happens".
It wasn't the first date, but the first time I went to his house. He proceeded to give me the 'tour'. It was a smallish house, only 2 bedrooms. When he opened the door to show me the second bedroom I couldn't believe what I saw. It was decked out ceiling to floor with Indiana Jones paraphernalia. I mean EVERYTHING. Bed sheets. Posters. Movies on a shelf, etc. And if memory serves me correct, there was a life-sized cardboard cutout of Indiana Jones in there too.
At first I thought he had a kid that he hadn't told me about yet -- but nope -- he just really liked Indiana Jones.
Needless to say, that romantic attachment NEVER happened!!!
Could have been worse. Star Wars for example. hahaha. Some people are odd!
OMG I dated one with this collection!! LOL0 -
I went out on a "first" with a woman I really liked. Never told her I am a paramedic. Ended up doing cpr on a man in line at a well known restaurant. The ambulance arrived and we soon discovered that I was the only paramedic on the scene. So, I am starting iv's, getting an ekg, and pushing meds without thinking. I looked back at my date and she was mortified. I ended up going in the ambulance with the patient to the hospital. My date eventually told me that my life is way too "exciting" for her tastes. Now I show up wearing an EMS jacket and I tell the person my occupation first
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wait, that is SOOOO ****ty of her...id be honored to be dating someone who could save lives!!! good thing for you she said that...onto bigger and better things!!
Right!0 -
My worst first date ever...
I'm in a band and decided to go out on a date with a girl that frequently went to our shows. We had chatted at these shows previously, exchanged a few texts, and decided to meet up. We went out, had fun, had some food, some drinks, some laughs. And at the end of the night she invited me back to her place...
And introduced me to her husband and 2 year old son.
Dealbreaker.
what the *kitten* was she thinking??!!! as in like, no, seriously, what does one think this girl was thinking?
He kinda threw me off with the kid, I have no idea what she was thinking on that one, now if the kid wasn't involved...I think she might want to make herself into a human manwhich:laugh:0 -
My worst first date ever...
I'm in a band and decided to go out on a date with a girl that frequently went to our shows. We had chatted at these shows previously, exchanged a few texts, and decided to meet up. We went out, had fun, had some food, some drinks, some laughs. And at the end of the night she invited me back to her place...
And introduced me to her husband and 2 year old son.
Dealbreaker.
what the *kitten* was she thinking??!!! as in like, no, seriously, what does one think this girl was thinking?
I'm thinking she's effing nuts!!! That post is so wrong on so many levels!0 -
Don't take phone calls on the first date... from anyone!!!
Don't offer to pay half (@ladies - this only appeals to cheap skates)
Don't take your date to a spicy or gaseous food restaurant
Don't pick a Suit & Tie restaurant
Don't compare your date to your X
Don't take your date to your house0 -
Talk about her sister because you "know" her sister
Or her best friend lol..best friends can be like sisters =]0 -
About the whole sex on the first date thing being so taboo, I think it really depends on the couple. No matter if they have sex on the first date, it really only makes a difference if that's all maybe one of them wanted. It usually doesn't work out if one person just wants booty but the other wants a serious relationship. If both of them want booty, then it's a win win. If they both want a relationship and still have sex on the first date, the relationship can still work. I speak from experience, ladies and gents
A major no-no on a first date with me would certainly be talking about your EX. If you're not over them and you feel the need to talk about them constantly, you're not ready for a new relationship. Period. Don't waste my time.
Secondly, avoid talking about "the future" and "making plans". That crap is SCARY!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm not even sure I want to hold your HAND yet, let alone make babies and grow old with you. Geez. I've seen guys (and girls) do that a LOT when they're first starting to date someone and it disturbs me. Get to know the person, first! Are you that desperate that you're ready to settle for the first person you were successful in taking out on a date? I don't know. Just my two cents.
I agree with you. I just thought it was funny that was my moms first thing she thought of as if that is decided at least it likely would be mutual if it got that far in the first place!!0 -
Don't leave your wedding ring on.0
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Don't start crying because your ex-wife lives around the block from my apartment and every time you come over, you think about her.
Although to be honest, that was the second date...
First date - don't talk about your exes!0 -
Don't mention da aids0
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-Don't talk about religion OR politics.
-DON'T FORGET TO BRUSH YOUR TEETH,
and make sure you smell good0 -
Never been on a date!
Someone send me there top 10 what not to do and what to do... Lol
No like seriously lol
Me neither. I managed to get married without ever going on a date.0 -
No Ex talk
Dont take a call or text (unless its the sitter)
Dont be a slob
the only future plans we should be talking are date 2
Dont get sh!tfaced0 -
Don't tell me that I would be prettier if I was a red head. Please, no, just don't.0
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-Don't talk about religion OR politics.
-DON'T FORGET TO BRUSH YOUR TEETH,
and make sure you smell good
I always talk about politics. Just because that's the person I am, I love politics and I love talking about it. If they can't take my political views on the first date, obviously we weren't meant to be.
On another note, I saw something online that I found funny. it said
"Three things you don't talk about in public:
1. Religion
2. Politics
3. Fight Club."0 -
Never been on a date!
Someone send me there top 10 what not to do and what to do... Lol
No like seriously lol
Me neither. I managed to get married without ever going on a date.
I feel for you! I dont consider myself having been on a real date either.. at least not since I was 16...0
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