Say your 15 yr old daughter requests Birth Control

Iamfit4life

What do you say?

I was at the doctors office yesterday and saw a similar situation. Made me wonder WTF I am going to do in 10 years! lol

billsica

Since I have no daughter, I feel comfortable in saying this.

1) buy a gun
2) invite her boyfriend over for dinner
3) spend the entire night cleaning and checking the site
4) overreact

Indy_Mario

Better be safe than sorry. It is an inevitable occurrence, you know? Personally, I'd rather be informed about it than have it done behind my back. But I am not a parent yet, so my view is still clear on the issue.

goforkissy

Since I have no daughter, I feel comfortable in saying this.

1) buy a gun
2) invite her boyfriend over for dinner
3) spend the entire night cleaning and checking the site
4) overreact

I agree with this!

I have a 13 year old son, so I think I would do the same if he asked me for condoms.

SaishaLea

Omg...My daughter is only 5 months old. Don't even want to think about this.

jojopel

Not an ideal situation, but I prefer having my 15-year old on the pill than come home pregnant!

ElizabethRoad

Since I have no daughter, I feel comfortable in saying this.

1) buy a gun
2) invite her boyfriend over for dinner
3) spend the entire night cleaning and checking the site
4) overreact

Good thing you don't have a daughter, then. That's an unrealistic and unhelpful attitude. She would end up getting pregnant because of unprotected sex.

chanstriste13

i'm not a parent either, but my concern would be that if she's on birth control, then guys could easily talk themselves out of using a condom. too many std's for that.

edited to add: i think i would prefer my daughter to come home pregnant than to contract aids.

ElizabethRoad

Since I have no daughter, I feel comfortable in saying this.

1) buy a gun
2) invite her boyfriend over for dinner
3) spend the entire night cleaning and checking the site
4) overreact

I agree with this!

I have a 13 year old son, so I think I would do the same if he asked me for condoms.

Good luck when he does decide to have sex, then, because he will be knocking someone up due to your "parenting".

rmwinters

YES! Be thankful she asked before it was too late (and that she can talk to you about it).

mezzosoprano89

There are other reasons for teenagers to be on the pill. I started it when I was in high school, and it wasn't because I was sexually active (because I wasn't...and still am not) it was because I had terrible acne and incredibly painful heavy irregular periods, the pill does a lot more than just protect you from getting pregnant.

ilikejam33

If they are reqeusting it they most likely already need it, and are trying to do the right thing. If you discuss sex with your kids and are honest and approachable they are not going to need to go behind your back.

Iamfit4life

i'm not a parent either, but my concern would be that if she's on birth control, then guys could easily talk themselves out of using a condom. too many std's for that.

this is *kind of* my thinking.

♥Faerie♥

Not a parent, but its going to happen......so would you rather buy the pill, or diapers? I would go with the pill.....

rml_16

I had my daughter when I was 17. I was in total denial that "people like me" (upper middle class family, professional parents and grandparents, honor roll student, didn't drink or do drugs, etc.) didn't get pregnant in high school.

If my daughter felt she needed it, I would help her get it, while also talking about diseases and things like that so she would also use condoms and be smart about sex. You can't stop your kids from having sex if they want to do it, but you can assist them in making sure that one not-so-great decision doesn't impact the rest of their lives.

dls06

At least she is responsible enough to request Birth Control.

MJ7910

Not an ideal situation, but I prefer having my 15-year old on the pill than come home pregnant!

i agree. it's not the best idea but they will probably do it anyway if they are thinking that way, might as well help them be prepared.

thor1god1of1awesome

I think about the same thing, my daughter only two and I pray she become a nun lol j/k. If she ask for me it I would ask her why, are you sexually active. I would want her on it for her safety. I figure its better to be safe then sorry.

drpurl

I just had this happen to me this summer with my step-daughter but she was 14. I said yes but since I was only the step-mom, I didn't have much weight. She is no longer active but we don't let her run around town like she does at moms.

GouchisGirl

Its better that she ask for it then not. The only problem is people (kids) forget that it might keep them from getting pregnant, but not keep them safe from STD's. The subject regarding condoms and birth control pills should be approached before its necessary because most kids don't think ahead and they are asking after the fact. My daughter is 9 and I know that this conversation is only a few years away. If it is going to happen I'd rather have her be safe then have her be a mom at a really young age.

smashatoms

If kids want to have sex-- they are going to have sex.
Although I am not a parent, I'd rather see my daughter taking an active roll in protecting herself from becoming pregnant and ruining her entire future.
I would also educate her on why it is necessary to still use condoms while on birth control, for the protection against STI's and HIV/AIDS.


Oh, and because I am a science nerd, I would proceed to show her pictures of said STI's.
Terror and disgust is the ultimate form of knowledge, in this case.

Amanda_Jean87

Communicate with your child, it could be for other reasons besides having sex. Birth control helps with acne, regulates your cycle, and in some instances eases menstral cramps. And if they are deciding to become sexually active, then I think a question such as this opens the door for a more serious talk. I'm not a parent and can not exactely relate but just an idea

JulieSD

i'm not a parent either, but my concern would be that if she's on birth control, then guys could easily talk themselves out of using a condom. too many std's for that.

I was just going to say this!

If my daughters request birth control at 15, then I will gladly help them out. I will make sure that they understand that I would prefer if they waited, but things happen. I want them to know that condoms are still an absolute must because of std's.

I hope they are never embarrassed to ask me for help, because being on birth control is such a better option than a baby at 15!

TubbsMcGee

...Better than your 12 year old daughter requesting it.

I was 15 when I asked my doctor if I could go on it (why worry my mother?) but it was solely to regulate my period.

MrsCon40

Better safe than sorry. My daughter is 12 and we have a VERY open dialogue about sex (so open that I think I'm making look uncool - WIN!). If she asks for bc I will probably put her on Implanon because in my 20s even I couldn't be trusted to take the pill properly. I will still be stressing that condoms have to be used as well for stds.

But... my doctor put me on the pill at 15 because my cycles were very intense and it helped a lot. It had nothing to do with sexual activity.

PrincessGlitterTush

There are other reasons for teenagers to be on the pill. I started it when I was in high school, and it wasn't because I was sexually active (because I wasn't...and still am not) it was because I had terrible acne and incredibly painful heavy irregular periods, the pill does a lot more than just protect you from getting pregnant.

AGREED.. I had to go on the pill too, when I was around 15 as my skin was quite bad. Maybe find out the reasoning behind it first. And if it is because she'd 'getting it on', then buy her condoms too. Can never be too safe

running_mom

My daughter is only 7 but I can imagine that this situation will come up too quickly for me! I honestly would let her be on it. LIke a previous poster said it's better than coming home pregnant. She still needs to know certain things can still happen and she still needs to be responsible.

tigertchr23

I had my daughter when I was 17. I was in total denial that "people like me" (upper middle class family, professional parents and grandparents, honor roll student, didn't drink or do drugs, etc.) didn't get pregnant in high school.

If my daughter felt she needed it, I would help her get it, while also talking about diseases and things like that so she would also use condoms and be smart about sex. You can't stop your kids from having sex if they want to do it, but you can assist them in making sure that one not-so-great decision doesn't impact the rest of their lives.

Agreed!

AudgePaudge

I had a friend who made a deal with her dad...if she would wait to have sex until she got married, he would buy her a new car. It worked too!!

kenyonsmom10

I would prefer my child to come to me and ask for the pill or condoms because I would much rather know that they are protected than come home pregnant. She is going to have sex whether on the pill or not most likely, so it is better to ensure she is protected. Make sure she simply knows that a condom is still needed, however! I was lucky to have a mom who listened to me when I asked for it and I was responsible.... Looking back I did have sex young, however at least I was protected and knew that a condom was needed. Luckily enough for me, I was dating the man I ended up marrying and now, 10 years later we have a 1 year old

ninerbuff

What do you say?

I was at the doctors office yesterday and saw a similar situation. Made me wonder WTF I am going to do in 10 years! lol

Tough one. Me personally, since I'm up front with clients, I would be up front then and there and ask my daughter if she's already had sex. If the reply is yes, then I get the birth control for her. At that point there's not much you can do, but ensure as much as possible that you're offering her protection. Of course I carry the conversation further and make sure that she did most of the talking and relay to her the consequences of irresponsible sex.


Then, I'd get my gun and show it to her boyfriend....................







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