Pregnant and smoking

mrsrice86

As soon as i had an idea i was pregnant the first time (before i was even certain), i quit straight away. Didn't cut down, i just stopped. And even though i could previously smoke upto 40 a day, i found it so easy!! All i had to do was think about my little growing baby.
I personally wasn't prepared to cause any un-necessary risks.

I also didn't start up again after having my first, and have now been a non smoker for almost 3 years which i am very proud of!

I don't agree with smoking when pregnant, and i never will.

Simple as that really!!

Kandace_Riopel

i quit cold turkey the day i found out with my first and than just never smoked again! ... my SIL is on methadone and intentionally got pregnant i flipped on her. ANY foreign substance introduced to the womb has an affect on the developing fetus and we have been entrusted with making the BEST choices to help our children strive to be all they can be. smoking is a choice, so let the child make the choice for themselves. dont introduce **** into the womb that is unhealthy and can and will affect their health one day!

Munque

Sorry...I just saw this too about someone saying that it's to each their own. Sorry to say though...that if someone has a kid that is disabled because they chose to smoke...it does affect all of us. We pay for their health care...so that's why I say smoking while pregnant is child abuse...and ...probably abuse of the system as well.

So wrong on so many levels. Actually not in the mood to drop my IQ by 40 to reply to this.... Maybe after another drink I could reply:drinker:

Holy crap! I missed this completely. I have a disabled child, not because of smoking, but disabled none the less, however, according to the state, she's not considered disabled because we make too much money. But seeing how you pay for her health care, I will be looking forward to recieving that check. Because she cost ME a pretty penny every year. And talking about abusing the system, she was on medicaid for a little while right after the accident, because savings only goes so far, and after about $32,000 out of pocket, medicaid was needed. After everything was looking up, we started working again and the state advised us that one of us should quit our job so we could maintain her disability status and recieve medicaid and social security. WTF? Sorry not gonna happen.

You should think about what your saying before you post, generalizations just makes you look ignorant. I pray that you never have the "burden" of having to support and love a disabled child.

Hellbent_Heidi

Seems to me someone who "can't handle stress" enough to quit smoking while pregnant, probably isn't all that cut out to be a parent!

Not trying to be a judgemental b*tch..personally I'm a smoker and don't have (and don't want) kids, so I'm not cut out to be a parent either...but it seems like its something you should be willing to give up if you wanted to have a healthy kid badly enough!

Munque

I don't think it's so much about not being able to handle stress as it is the stress your body goes through while in withdrawls.

I enjoy smoking, we've talked about quitting a couple of times for health reasons, and because of the amount of money spent on it, but the truth is, me and my husband enjoy smoking, we also enjoy having the 15 minutes alone on the front porch (kids aren't allowed to come out when we are smoking). And sure family life can be stressful, I personally don't get overly stressed about my kids, they are good kids and still too young for me to have to worry about them not coming home on time after a date, or having them experiment with drugs or drink, it's coming though my oldest son is almost 15 and my oldest daughter is 14. But so far I don't have much cause to stress too much. So I'm not following the whole "if you can't handle stress you shouldn't be a parent" I'm more of a "if you don't know how to be a good parent, you shouldn't be a parent". Because you know I have minor frustrations, when we have the good sibling rivalry going on, and I stay calm and talk to the kids about it before punishing them, my husband gets too frustrated and walks away. So I guess because he doesn't deal well with what I see as minor frustrations, this makes him a bad parent? I can't agree with that, he's helping me raise 6 kids, all who almost always make straight A's, all who decide to save their holiday and birthday money so the family can go to Disney world some day, all who come home from school everyday and do homework, then chores without a single complaint (most of the time). All who bennd over backwards to help out with their sister when we are running late for school and work. They are awesome kids, bad parents don't make as great of kids as what we have.

08caseyk

Sorry...I just saw this too about someone saying that it's to each their own. Sorry to say though...that if someone has a kid that is disabled because they chose to smoke...it does affect all of us. We pay for their health care...so that's why I say smoking while pregnant is child abuse...and ...probably abuse of the system as well.

So wrong on so many levels. Actually not in the mood to drop my IQ by 40 to reply to this.... Maybe after another drink I could reply:drinker:

Holy crap! I missed this completely. I have a disabled child, not because of smoking, but disabled none the less, however, according to the state, she's not considered disabled because we make too much money. But seeing how you pay for her health care, I will be looking forward to recieving that check. Because she cost ME a pretty penny every year. And talking about abusing the system, she was on medicaid for a little while right after the accident, because savings only goes so far, and after about $32,000 out of pocket, medicaid was needed. After everything was looking up, we started working again and the state advised us that one of us should quit our job so we could maintain her disability status and recieve medicaid and social security. WTF? Sorry not gonna happen.

You should think about what your saying before you post, generalizations just makes you look ignorant. I pray that you never have the "burden" of having to support and love a disabled child.

I aswell have a disabled child. And YES she does have medicaid. But my taxes pay into it as well just like my taxes will probably pay for you when your older and have health issues. I don't agree with mothers smoking while pregnant or around kids. But if they did and something were to happen to make their child disabled, i would gladly let them take my taxes for their health care. EVERY CHILD deserves insurance and a chance at healthy. Yes some of us have to pay for it, but if you were in that situation and you needed the insurance i'm sure you would take it. And i'm sure they would feel bad anough about causing their child to get sick without you making them feel like a system abuser or a burden. Everyone makes mistakes. No need to rub it in their faces and make them feel bad.