YOUR SO PRETTY!! ...(FOR A FAT GIRL)
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It's ridiculous because last year, at my lowest weight [at a point my doctors were having a go at me, telling me I was at an unhealthily low weight], I still got the "You'd be so gorgeous if you dropped a few pounds, you could be a model!". It's insane. I was already underweight but I still got told I needed to ''drop a few pounds'' to be considered pretty.
Thankfully those kind of comments, I only get off women. The men in my life usually tell me otherwise which leads me to believe that the women are big liars! Or so I hope, haha :P
But either way, I understand the frustration of hearing those kinds of comments.0 -
Only 1 proper response to this compliment
YOU'RE SO THOUGHTFUL, FOR AN ASSH*LE!
Haha, you made me choke on my coffee! Good one.0 -
another one that get's me is my husband tells me "You're so hot now" I'm like "WTF? I wasn't before? all I did was drop weight."
omg yes!! my partner says that aswell, he says omg i love your new body. ermmm wtf its not new :grumble:
everyone used to always say the you have such a pretty face. hmm thanks! my garn used to always pinch my cheeks and say oh i can tell your putting on weight it all goes to you face :ohwell: always seemed to be on my birthday aswell! the party pooper she is :laugh:
Did either of you consider that your blokes are trying to compliment you? That they are trying to say that your hard work is paying off and they can see you getting fitter, both fit fit and phwoar fit? That if you get all spiky about it they dont understand why you are throwing their admittedly clumsy praise back at them? Just trying out another perspective.0 -
there's certainly many people out there who are completely ignorant. i never can understand why anyone opens their mouth to say something mean, when they have the choice to just keep their trap shut. but by speaking up, they simply reveal their own shortcomings and prejudice. my mil has made a comment to me before about my weight, and it didn't sit well on me, but i also know she is a bit prejudice against fat people. her loss, because she can't see beyond the exterior to see what might be a really wonderful person, and doesn't get the opportunity to know them. people and comments like that just need to be shaken off.
my husband has always told me that i'm beautiful, but since i've lost some weight, the compliments come more frequently. i like it. i don't feel insulted that he felt less that way when i was heavier... i think he's proud of me, of what i've accomplished, and a bit envious (in a good way) of what i've accomplished, and happy for me that i feel better physically and have more self-esteem.0 -
another one that get's me is my husband tells me "You're so hot now" I'm like "WTF? I wasn't before? all I did was drop weight."
omg yes!! my partner says that aswell, he says omg i love your new body. ermmm wtf its not new :grumble:
everyone used to always say the you have such a pretty face. hmm thanks! my gran used to always pinch my cheeks and say oh i can tell your putting on weight it all goes to you face :ohwell: always seemed to be on my birthday aswell! the party pooper she is :laugh:
Did either of you consider that your blokes are trying to compliment you? That they are trying to say that your hard work is paying off and they can see you getting fitter, both fit fit and phwoar fit? That if you get all spiky about it they dont understand why you are throwing their admittedly clumsy praise back at them? Just trying out another perspective.
yea suppoe he mite be but he should of loved my old body (well the body before i got more tonned etc) aswell and he never said then that he loved it hedid at the start before i gained 2 stone :laugh: plus he just trys to sabotage me and my goals with wine most nites sweets cakes etc :grumble:0 -
another one that get's me is my husband tells me "You're so hot now" I'm like "WTF? I wasn't before? all I did was drop weight."
omg yes!! my partner says that aswell, he says omg i love your new body. ermmm wtf its not new :grumble:
everyone used to always say the you have such a pretty face. hmm thanks! my garn used to always pinch my cheeks and say oh i can tell your putting on weight it all goes to you face :ohwell: always seemed to be on my birthday aswell! the party pooper she is :laugh:
Did either of you consider that your blokes are trying to compliment you? That they are trying to say that your hard work is paying off and they can see you getting fitter, both fit fit and phwoar fit? That if you get all spiky about it they dont understand why you are throwing their admittedly clumsy praise back at them? Just trying out another perspective.
Just because I said that he said that, didn't mean I didn't say "Thanks" in return, but it struck me as a "WTF" moment. I know it was his way to compliment me. But it still pissed me off inside. My feelings matter, and I don't tell him "Since you got your teeth fix, you are so much more hotter to me." Or "Come over here and let me kiss your hot new mouth" lol. Somethings are better left unsaid.0 -
Ive been told I have a fuc%able face....THAT REALLY GOT UNDER MY SKIN!
Whoever said that sounds like a person with a very punchable face!
^^^ **like**
I don't have a pretty face, I have pretty hair.
I take it as people just trying to be nice.
Oh, but yesterday, I was at the gym and one of the regulars came up to me and told my that my calves have a nice cut. :happy:0 -
My BFF got 'You dont sweat much for a big lass'!:noway:
She was so shocked, by the time she had a reply the bloke had vanished.0 -
My Ex-wife weighed a lot and I accepted that. Later she decided she wanted change and got surgery done to allow her to lose it because diet and exercise wasn't working. She herself couldn't handle it because other guys started looking at her in a different way and she got upset because I am not the Jeolous type of person. I went to Iraq later and she cheated on me while there. We got our divorce and I fell that by me letting her get the surgery it is kind of my fault because other guys wouldn't have looked at her the same if she didn't have it. I believe that it is going to make changes in your relationship however, I belive that they can be positive changes as long as the doors of communication are completely open and opinions are shared.
OK - definitely not your fault you were cheated on. Please stop telling yourself that.
Jealousy is an ugly thing and people who try to evoke that ugly thing are just as ugly in my opinion.0 -
Ive been told I have a fuc%able face....THAT REALLY GOT UNDER MY SKIN!
:mad: WHAT!!!! who says crap like this?? smh0 -
Wow.
I got the opposite: " If you were nice and chubby you'd be so much more feminine, Monica" or "See that girl over there? (pointing to an overweight girl), now that's what a woman should look like".
I guess if I had been like that, then I'd gotten the opposite too. Can't make anyone happy.0 -
I've always been chubby & had a "pretty face" but it's never bothered me. I mean I didn't want to be fat but I hated my body why would I expect some else to like it? So, I'm changing it.
And as far as husband-bf-fiances go. I know my Fiance d*mn well better love my "new" body. I'm working hard for it! Now, that's not to say that he didn't already love me. He told me he didn't care if I lost weight or not. I just really don't see the reason to get offended. I would feel so much worse if he *didn't* say anything about it. And I'm not trying to rub anyone the wrong way. This is just the way *I* feel. 0 -
To me this is along the lines of people calling a mother a MILF. I don't see that as a compliment at all. I had a guy tell me that once and I just lost it, I'm usually a very reserve and quiet person, but I couldn't contain myself.. my response was. "Really, prior to having kids I had zero desire in hearing you think I'm worthy to f*(k.. after having babies, I find it even less appealing".0
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I haven't heard it personally but I hear my mom make comments like that to my sister all of the time and it grinds every nerve in my body. Between the three of us I am the least overweight (about 35 pounds now) but my sister is about 90 pounds overweight and my mom doesn't realize that her cruel words do not encourage my sister to get the weight off, they only add to the negative feelings that are connected to the weight gain that she has had over the past few years. My sister may be 90 pounds overweight but she is absolutely, drop dead gorgeous!!!!0
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To me this is along the lines of people calling a mother a MILF. I don't see that as a compliment at all. I had a guy tell me that once and I just lost it, I'm usually a very reserve and quiet person, but I couldn't contain myself.. my response was. "Really, prior to having kids I had zero desire in hearing you think I'm worthy to f*(k.. after having babies, I find it even less appealing".
totally agreed!!0 -
OK .. is it just me or do you hate the term "Your pretty for a fat girl!" or "You'll be so pretty IF you loss some weight!" and my personal favorite "You can a pretty face!" - Oh so the rest of me is ugly?? Why can't I just be pretty? Is there any ladies that has gone through this? Or any guys that have told women this before?
It is not just you! I get "You have such a pretty face. You just need to lose weight."
I'm trying b****es! LOL :explode:
You'll get there though... stick to your goals!0 -
Every since I was a kid or you look just like so and so and trust you know that it was somebody overwight. SMH0
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i hate that crap i just say did you just call me fat ! USUALLY SHUTS THEM UP REAL QUICK ! . i know your trying to be kind about our sizes but we are not stupid we can read in between the lines .. People are so cruel its ridiculous .0
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Guess what? You are pretty! PERIOD. There is no "if" statement after. And as far as women go, if they told me that I would simply reply with a "I can lose the weight...but ugly is forever!"
Don't let people make you feel bad!0 -
OK HERES A QUESTION FOR YOU. I STRUGGLE WITH THIS EVERY DAY. DH SAYS IT DOESNT MATTER TO HI IF I LOSE WEIGHT AND HE " DOESNT WANT ME DOING FOR HIM" MY SIL IS SUPER AGAINST IT TOO. SUGGESTIONS ?
Sister in law is just jealous, so I say keep moving forward and stuff her!
Haha! Stuff her! Love it 0 -
I once went on a date with a guy from work, drove MILES to see him, went out, danced all night had a great time. He then said you arent usually the type of girl I go for usually they are thinner... by the end of the night I was stranded in an unknown town trying to find a way back to the hotel on my own as he had left me to persue his 'typical type'0
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Only 1 proper response to this compliment
YOU'RE SO THOUGHTFUL, FOR AN ASSH*LE!
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I get stuff like "You're not fat, you just hold your weight well." from my dad alllllllllll the time. The way it's said gets me debating how bad to take it every time.
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I have heard that my ENTIRE LIFE! And I love the follow up of "and you'd look even better if you slimmed down a bit." Thanks... To this day I'm pretty sure its comments like this growing up that kept me stress eating. Now I'm out to prove to MYSELF that its not about what others think and say, its about how I feel. Almost 30 lbs later, I love how I look and love how much more energy I have. I have another 50-70 to go depending on what my doctor says, but since I'm almost half way there already, I'm happy to point out how much I have lost while they all whine about gaining weight from the Holidays
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I was talking to this guy once and he told me that he would date me if I lost some weight. Ha! Dropped him like a burning potato!0
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Oh my goodness, ALLL THE TIME!! ''You have such a pretty face'' Blah0
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IT SHOULD MATTER TO YOU. DO EVERYTHING FOR YOURSELF ALWAYS..... YOU WILL FEEL BETTER AFTERWARDS.... IT IS FOR YOUR HEALTH IF NOTHING ELSE0
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another one that get's me is my husband tells me "You're so hot now" I'm like "WTF? I wasn't before? all I did was drop weight."
Well, let's be honest - we're not as attractive fat.
That's reality.
And our souses or partners' loyalty has limits - believe it.
I know a guy RIGHT NOW who is a great father, loving husband and totally loving human being in every way but very fat.
He wasn't always fat but gained slowly over the years while his wife stayed the same.
You know where this is going - right?
Yes, she had an torrid affair with a guy at work - a fit guy, and she moved out, leaving my poor friend alone with his broken heart and twinkies.
And instead of just accepting that his wife is no longer in love, he's crying and sniveling, trying to get her back; it's pathetic!
He should be on MFP - hitting the gym and rebuilding his life.0 -
OK HERES A QUESTION FOR YOU. I STRUGGLE WITH THIS EVERY DAY. DH SAYS IT DOESNT MATTER TO HI IF I LOSE WEIGHT AND HE " DOESNT WANT ME DOING FOR HIM" MY SIL IS SUPER AGAINST IT TOO. SUGGESTIONS ?
lose weight for yourself, get the people in your life on board, or seriously kick them out. they don't have control over you doing something healthy for yourself. no harm in learning to eat right, and enjoy exercising as long as you're not hurting yourself0 -
another one that get's me is my husband tells me "You're so hot now" I'm like "WTF? I wasn't before? all I did was drop weight."
I'm so sorry he says that to you. Try to remember he's trying to be supportive...but he, ultimately, is a man. He doesn't know how to communicate well!
I am blessed (only because he has 4 sisters who taught him VERY WELL) - my husband has told me every day since I started this journey that he finds me sexy no matter what size...but he wants to support me because he knows this is what I WANT to live a long life with him and our daughter.0
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