Wow I really dont want to hear that

ladykate7

I completely disagree. I don't think the statements a person makes as the OP described means the person saying it is a brat or has a mental disorder.

claireputput

I completely disagree. I don't think the statements a person makes as the OP described means the person saying it is a brat or has a mental disorder.

An eating disorder is a mental disorder, and that is what I was referring to. I also have worked with alot of teens and some of them have made ctty/brat-ty remarks because of click issues. When I made my comment I was looking at it as a mental health specialist and a school counselor.

ladykate7

I understand. Kids can be bratty, but I'll venture to say that the OP was talking about adults at work. Sure adults can be bratty and clicky too. My focus is on the person making the comment. That commenter isn't thinking about the person they are saying it too. I'm not a counselor but I have a psychology degree and some personal experience- no to say that makes me any more informed than anyone else on the matter

I still firmly believe its a misrepresentation of eating and mental disorders to imply that such comments means the person saying it has either. There is sooo much more to eating/mental health disorders than an unthoughtful selfish comment. Otherwise everyone would have an eating/mental disorder.

rainbowbow

OP, maybe you don't have a healthy idea of what "normal" or "fat" is. When I was 130lbs I WAS considered obese.

Also, its important to worry about yourself... If someone says theyre overweight do the following 1.) mind your business and don't try and give them any self validation and 2.) don't compare yourself to other people

Edit: just because someone complains about their weight/hair/etc. And you believe it is unfounded does not make them a brat. If Op is 200 lbs and a 300lb woman were to hear her complain she would probably think the same. It's all relative. The way I look at it, you all should be worrying about yourself and anything someone says like "I'm fat, etc" they either 1.) want some sort of compliment to make them feel better or 2.) genuinely feel that way. Either way it's none of my damn business.

rainbowbow

Also, since when is it no longer okay for ANYone to have an issue with THEIR bodies? We all have things about ourselves we don't like or wish were different. What makes you in particular so special that only YOU or what YOU believe is overweight has the right to complain?

Those are your own insecurities. "what does that make me? A whale?" don't you think those buck 30 girls would have said that if that's what they meant? Like I always say you cannot make anyone feel a certain way. If they get offended it's because they chose so. If someone complains about something and you chose to compare yourself and feel hurt by it- you chose that.

ChrisStoney

I am stuck working Christmas at the prison and have read this entire thread (I must be bored, hehehe) but it is apparent the OP has stated her opionion of how she felt, and then others have stated thier opinions on her opinion, and then others have opinions based on the reaction to the opinions stated about the OP's opinion. My opinion is that the last opinion was a good summation of the opinions, well written and heartfelt. Thanks!