Who believes in Internet Dating?

catfish9

Internet dating isn't for everyone. You have to be careful about it; it is beyond easy to misrepresent yourself online.

I never thought very highly of internet dating until I gave it a try. I met the love of my life on OKcupid.com. We talked for three weeks, and met in a public place after that. We have been together for 2 years, and couldn't be happier. She is the best thing that's ever come into my life.

However, there are a zillion creeps. I have nothing against those who choose to have multiple partners, but a guy with three pregnant girlfriends messaged me once, looking to expand his collection. He told me that he enjoyed tinkering with sex toys in his spare time, and they were much better once you put stronger motors in them. :noway:

LorinaLynn

No offence to anyone who have met their partner through internet but I was just wondering what's your thought on this topic?

I personally wouldn't do internet dating because for me I see it as "What is the point in all this, if you cant hold your man/women in person, go out to dinner or just hang out in general, and how you know if he is actually faithful," for me you can never trust someone's words . For me words mean nothing. & obveriously If I don't see the guy in person, how would i know If he's not cheating regardless of all the phone calls you two have made, Skype'd etc..

I don't know, Personally I just don't get the whole point in it, for me its just a waste of time and always better to have the real thing then computer screen esp even worse if they live in another COUNTRY!. Sorry if anyone finding this a bit offensive and don't mean too but if you have found love through internet then Congratulations.

Internet dating is just a way to meet someone you wouldn't ordinarily meet in every day life. Granted, I do know some people who carry on an entire relationship, or what they believe is one, in chat rooms and web cams, but most of all it's just a way to find out another person exists, then they move onto dating like any other couple who met in any other way.

I met my husband online 12 years ago. He lived about 3 hours away, but was already looking to move to Pennsylvania from Maryland. We saw each other every weekend (oh, how I miss $1/gallon gas!), talked every night, and moved in together after about five months, got married after 2 years. If it hadn't been long distance, we might have waited longer to move in together, but it didn't make sense for him to move to another state and get his own place when I already had one. And... things worked out pretty darn good.

I know other couples who met online and lived thousands of miles apart. It was still the same situation. They saw each other when they could, then one or both relocated.

I don't know of any successful relationships that stayed strictly online. At some point, you need to spend time face to face.

sunkisses

I do not believe in Internet Dating.

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Lisa__Michelle

I met the love of my life on Myspace. Although we lived 30 minutes away from each other. We met in person after 3 days of talking online. We have been together for almost 5 years now! I agree with you if the two people live far away from each other. However in my case, my love lived close by. We are with each other everyday now!

calvert6183

I quit looking for women in bars well because lets just say ive learned that you cant shake a *kitten* tree and expect an angel to fall out.
Online is alittle harder for us guys because of the amount of shirtless guys posing in the mirror constantly messaging women with penis pics. Guys? Ive never heard a woman say that works. Your penis is not a worm on a hook trying to catch a catfish.

HAHAHA! This made me laugh so hard!

Waahaha, I just saw this. I do not get why guys think this is attractive! Another thing that baffles me is the number of guys on video chat sites just masturbating (with only their penis showing).. It's like they're obsessed with their own private parts or something!

I dont understand the video chat thing either. I tried chatroulette thinking hey it would be cool to chat with random women from all over the world. Yeah, that is not what happened. Every single person it connected me to was a dude jerking off. Seriously dudes. WTF. Im obsessed with my penis too but I be damned if I am going to just start jerking off to random strangers.

brittanyjeanxo

Well, mine is obviously not the typical result. My now fiance and I met purely by chance online almost 2 years ago (Jan. 13, 2010.) Two days after we met, we started our relationship. Neither one of us are very good about trusting people, but for some reason we fell head over heels very fast and completely trusted each other. He lived in Connecticut and I in Florida. He asked me to marry him on thanksgiving, and next weekend is our two year anniversary. I also moved up here to be with him on December 15, 2010, just before our one year anniversary. I'm obviously not saying that this happens to everyone, but I'm just saying you shouldn't discount one way of finding the person you could end up spending the rest of your life with

BrendaLee

If being together is actually achievable and you're smart about the whole thing, go for it. I've seen a lot of women who meet guys in far-off locations, and it looks pretty obvious from the outside that they're being taken advantage of.

519harley

I met my husband on a dating site that was called Socialnet.com. I think its now Match. That was 12 years ago this week. We will be married 11 years this May. I don't know how they work these days but you could I suppose specify that you will only date someone in your local area instead of worldwide. I wish everyone lots of luck with this as it isn't easy to find someone.

MsKittyCAT

The internet had been a social outlet for me for more than a dozen years. Most of the people in my life (actual in-person interactions) I've met through the internet somehow, whether it was a personals site or common interest forum or chat room, or an introduction from another friend that I met online. Real friendships are possible and I'm very thankful for them, have some amazing people in my life as a result, some for as long as I've been online!!. As people age it seems harder to meet people and make friends. I don't currently work outside the home, go to church, or go to bars often. In person I'm actually shy and quiet til I get comfortable so meeting new people has never been easy for me. I feel very awkward. How else do you meet people these days?

Never married, no kids, not dating anyone right now. I do have profiles on several sites. I generally don't carry on conversations geared towards dating or relationships with those that aren't located close enough to actually meet in person and frequently spend time with conveniently. Don't base decisions about people based on pictures or profiles online, or even on phone conversations. Don't allow myself to get overly vested in a situation before physically meeting face to face. Meeting in person can be a big eye opener if the attraction just isn't there. Chemistry and pheromones are illusive, can't be faked or manufactured no matter how much you might want them to be, it is either there or not. I am open to a relationship that might come out of a meeting through the internet, but just chatting online or on the phone is not a real romantic relationship in my eyes without actually spending time together in person.

zetsubou

Signed up for loads of dating websites, but never had the courage to meet up with the person.
Although, I found some cool friends with the same interest through forums with the help of almighty interent haha

fit4justme

My marriage started as Internet Dating. We will be married 8 years April 19th.

arewethereyet

If being together is actually achievable and you're smart about the whole thing, go for it. I've seen a lot of women who meet guys in far-off locations, and it looks pretty obvious from the outside that they're being taken advantage of.

Sometimes. I know a woman in her 60s that met a guy in Australia, moved there and married. They were together for about 5 yrs or so and he passed away. She had some good years by taking a chance.

My problem is, after reading a few profiles of people I know, I do not trust any of them. Even I have to change mine from "active, likes to work out" to "working on working out" :laugh:

shabounds

I BELIEVE. I met my huband of 4 years on match.com. We are wonderfully matched and share lots of common interests. We dated for about 2 years beore we got married.

I will admit that I met many questionable men on the site before meeting my prince, but for me, the process was fun, I was out and about, and meeting LOTS of new people. I ONLY coresponded with men in my same city. I would NEVER seek companionship outside an area where we could actually meet face to face.

EmpressOfJudgment

....of anyone telling you they love you before you've even met.....

Haha. I think we've broken all these rules

Uh, I don't think so. I think most people haven't broken this rule.

Iamkim73

I think the issues you raise come down to trust. If you don't trust, does it matter how far away you live? In other words, unless you are prepared to follow them like the ninja, you'd be better off finding someone in whom you can trust however far away they are. If you can't do that, perhaps taking a good look at yourself is in order (looking most closely at your ability to trust btw). For the record, I have never internet dated. But I would consider it.

Recent cruddy relationship or bad breakup? Just a guess. Self reflection is usually reserved for those who have been there.

For me its not only trust but also interegerty that makes a guy a keeper, a great smile dosen't hurt either. :happy:

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clh126

Where are you guys finding all of these creepers and fake profiles? Maybe I weeded them all out before meeting in person, but I had two short stints on match.com resulting in a bunch of first dates before meeting my fiance and the worst experience I had was a date with someone who was incredibly, painfully shy. No crazies or drug addicts over here. However, I was on a paid site so maybe that made a difference because it would be hard to pay match's ridiculous fees without at least having a job. I've heard from friends who have done some of the free sites and they made it seem like you had to wade through a lot more not-so-great profiles before you could find anyone who was date-worthy.

Brandicaloriecountess

I met my bf on a dating website. He lives 5 minutes from me.

I didn't really know how else to meet people. I work for a family business, with all women and most of them are not local. When I Was in college (graduated in May) I was like 10 years older than the average student at my University, and in general my friends are mostly female.

He doesn't have a secret life and neither do I. We make each other happy, I don't think it matters in the least that we met on a dating website lol.

mblanchard0625

My Husband and I met on Christiancafe.com.

I went on the site on a whim, I had a 10 day free trial and met my now husband a few days in. We started chatting... every waking minute for a week! The next weekend we went for coffee... I came home, and thought he was a bit of a dork, but we went out for dinner and mini golfing the next Saturday... That was in 2009, now we are married, own a house, and life is good!

For me, he was my first bf (aside from the stupid grade 6 thing I had). I'm not a very outgoing person, and the thought of going out to a bar was not my idea of a good time. I went into the dating website with an open mind and I intended on being completely honest to who I am. Apparently, that was my husbands intention as well! He had tried the online dating a few times prior to that.
To be honest, I'm not sure how else I would have found someone. I went to school I went home, that was pretty much it, I wasn't involved in very much at the time so I didn't have a whole lot of opportunity. Since we are both shy, the barrier of our computers let us open up and speak our minds without worrying about anything, for us, it was a great ice breaker.

It works for some people, but not all.

calvert6183

My Husband and I met on Christiancafe.com.

I went on the site on a whim, I had a 10 day free trial and met my now husband a few days in. We started chatting... every waking minute for a week! The next weekend we went for coffee... I came home, and thought he was a bit of a dork, but we went out for dinner and mini golfing the next Saturday... That was in 2009, now we are married, own a house, and life is good!

For me, he was my first bf (aside from the stupid grade 6 thing I had). I'm not a very outgoing person, and the thought of going out to a bar was not my idea of a good time. I went into the dating website with an open mind and I intended on being completely honest to who I am. Apparently, that was my husbands intention as well! He had tried the online dating a few times prior to that.
To be honest, I'm not sure how else I would have found someone. I went to school I went home, that was pretty much it, I wasn't involved in very much at the time so I didn't have a whole lot of opportunity. Since we are both shy, the barrier of our computers let us open up and speak our minds without worrying about anything, for us, it was a great ice breaker.

It works for some people, but not all.

Ill try this one. I cant even get a woman to text me more less meet on pof. They al say they are talking to 50 other guys too and its overwhelming. Im looking for something simple, not a situation like throwing a handful of chicken feed in a circle of 50 chickens and watch them fight over it. .

mikajoanow

I met my husband on the internet but we did all of our dates in real life lol. After we met (we lived near each other) then we were just together. We met on match.com.
I too don't see the point of dating someone you're not really dating in real life. So what, you can visit them twice a year? No thanks. I had a long distance relationship a long time ago. Not my cup of tea. (no offense of course)

lvk82

I found my boyfriend on a online dating site.. He is by far the most amazing guy I have ever been with... We both work crazy schedules and do not have the time to meet new and fun exciting people. So online dating worked for us.. Everyone is different it's not for everyone. Best of luck!!

MaximalLife

I would laugh at anybody so pathetic to have to use a personal add or the internet.

And then I saw the results of such coupling.
Friends met, connected and got married. All I know who did this seem happy.

I have changed my position on this. I don't think I'd ever do it, but for those who might be shy or whatever, GO FOR IT!

It seems to work for many people.

cyntia

keep your options open it would not kill you and when you meet someone and you like them over the phone whatever meet them at a public place its the same thing like being at bar. I met my boyfriend on the internet and we are together happy for three years and my sister met her ex on the internet and they were together for the same time period as well. I also had another friend who met her boyfriend of 4 years on the internet as well and the list goes on. So hopefully you can see that you can have a real relationship with someone you met one the internet you just have to be careful and have fun!

Aviendha_RJ

My Dad met my Stepmom online through eHarmony. I met my current boyfriend there. I like it... it introduces you to people you ordinarily may never have met.

I love Mike dearly... and we're so alike in so many ways. I just feel like this could really work. And I'm happy. Other aspects of my life have me stressed to the breaking point... but... he's there. And when he talks about my problems... he says "we"... and it just... takes so much of the pressure off of me, & makes me feel like I'm not alone for the first time since my Mom died. And that's wonderful.

He has a very healthy lifestyle, and eats very healthfully, & he's been a great influence on me in that way, which is awesome too,

I'd do it again. And I'd recommend it to anyone else.

sarahsmom1

Both of my neighbors met their spouses online

sophistication21

I have had a similar experience with guys I've met online. However, just because you have to weed through the creepers, liars and married jerks, does not mean that there are not honest people just like you out there looking. I mean, what are the odds that you are the only decent person on the entire internet? I had to keep an open mind and just be myself and discard the weirdos. One night, I was bored and just clicking through the ads on (of all places) Craigslist and just for fun answered an ad that sounded nice. It had typos and no picture...not an ad that I would ever had answered had a been seriously looking! We exchanged a few emails and in a week we met at a Starbucks...We have been inseperable since! The crazy thing is, he hates being online and doesn't even have a facebook! It's kind of miraculous we even met!

What I'm saying is: don't give up! There is someone (actually multiple someones) for everybody! You just haven't found him yet :-) Also remember: no on can love you truly until you love yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself :-)
Hope this helps

sophistication21

I have met nothing but psychos and liars in the online dating world. Ooops I forgot to also add MARRIED! Then again I also speak from a bitter place. I don't think there's anyone out there for me anymore


I have had a similar experience with guys I've met online. However, just because you have to weed through the creepers, liars and married jerks, does not mean that there are not honest people just like you out there looking. I mean, what are the odds that you are the only decent person on the entire internet? I had to keep an open mind and just be myself and discard the weirdos. One night, I was bored and just clicking through the ads on (of all places) Craigslist and just for fun answered an ad that sounded nice. It had typos and no picture...not an ad that I would ever had answered had a been seriously looking! We exchanged a few emails and in a week we met at a Starbucks...We have been inseperable since! The crazy thing is, he hates being online and doesn't even have a facebook! It's kind of miraculous we even met!

What I'm saying is: don't give up! There is someone (actually multiple someones) for everybody! You just haven't found him yet :-) Also remember: no on can love you truly until you love yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself :-)
Hope this helpse]

Brandicaloriecountess

My Husband and I met on Christiancafe.com.

I went on the site on a whim, I had a 10 day free trial and met my now husband a few days in. We started chatting... every waking minute for a week! The next weekend we went for coffee... I came home, and thought he was a bit of a dork, but we went out for dinner and mini golfing the next Saturday... That was in 2009, now we are married, own a house, and life is good!

For me, he was my first bf (aside from the stupid grade 6 thing I had). I'm not a very outgoing person, and the thought of going out to a bar was not my idea of a good time. I went into the dating website with an open mind and I intended on being completely honest to who I am. Apparently, that was my husbands intention as well! He had tried the online dating a few times prior to that.
To be honest, I'm not sure how else I would have found someone. I went to school I went home, that was pretty much it, I wasn't involved in very much at the time so I didn't have a whole lot of opportunity. Since we are both shy, the barrier of our computers let us open up and speak our minds without worrying about anything, for us, it was a great ice breaker.

It works for some people, but not all.

Ill try this one. I cant even get a woman to text me more less meet on pof. They al say they are talking to 50 other guys too and its overwhelming. Im looking for something simple, not a situation like throwing a handful of chicken feed in a circle of 50 chickens and watch them fight over it. .

I have a hard time believing dating is hard for YOU!!! lol

inammorata

If you haven't met in person and gone out, then it's not dating IMO.

Blue71

I do. I met my husband on Match.com and I'm so grateful that we found each other. We would never have met otherwise.