Swearing?

sylvuz323

In a situation like that I'd also be turned off by the person. I don't swear much at all, I have to be really angry at something for curse words to come out.

I don't have a problem being around people who do swear, but as others have said there is a time and place for it.

TheDoctor90

I don't have a problem with the actual words. Just when they're said in public places or are a constant.
I replace swearing with other words. What the fudge. Bollocking hell. Shhhiuugar.

Really? I find that rather juvenile, to be honest.

I curse like a trooper. I am an Aussie, I think it's more culturally acceptable over there, frankly. Since I moved to the US I've noticed cursing is less common and less acceptable here, particularly the 'c' word! And definitely for women.

I curse as part of normal conversation, but not when there are children or delicate types around. I find overt references to religion and 'morality' far more offensive. If someone asks me to tone it down, I will do so. I find most people far less willing to change open references indicating homophobia, racism or other assorted prejudice than I am willing to reign in cursing. Everyone has their own comfort level.

How is not swearing in public juvenile?

_binary_jester_

I don't have a problem with the actual words. Just when they're said in public places or are a constant.
I replace swearing with other words. What the fudge. Bollocking hell. Shhhiuugar.

Really? I find that rather juvenile, to be honest.

I curse like a trooper. I am an Aussie, I think it's more culturally acceptable over there, frankly. Since I moved to the US I've noticed cursing is less common and less acceptable here, particularly the 'c' word! And definitely for women.

I curse as part of normal conversation, but not when there are children or delicate types around. I find overt references to religion and 'morality' far more offensive. If someone asks me to tone it down, I will do so. I find most people far less willing to change open references indicating homophobia, racism or other assorted prejudice than I am willing to reign in cursing. Everyone has their own comfort level.

How is not swearing in public juvenile?

I think she is referring to using replacement words.

anubis609

Creative swearing =

Swearing = bad
Swearing in a different language is completely fine though.

Yes. Also, plain old swearing just gets boring.

*kitten*! = Meh...

*kitten* me raw till I bleed from my face! = Poetic.

the_journeyman

Reminds me of the 3 Stooges episode:

Judge trying to swear in Curly Do you swear?

Curly No, but I know all the woids!

LauraMacNCheese

Reminds me of the 3 Stooges episode:

Judge trying to swear in Curly Do you swear?

Curly No, but I know all the woids!

Nyuk, nyuk, nyuk :bigsmile:

Demwitted

Appropriateness of swearing is all about context.

Also, I have to say that I appreciate women that swear. I'm fairly certain I learned most swear words from my mom and grandma. It is incredibly sexist to say it's ok in men and not women.

My family is pretty foul-mouthed at times, especially my siblings-in-law. But we are always in the presence of my little 5 yr old nephew. We try to replace the swear words around him. It's kind of a game. My favorite is instead of "F* you!" you say "Q-U."

Begood03

http://www.ebaumsworld.com/flash/play/750/

Say it loudly, say it proudly.

RobynC79

How is not swearing in public juvenile?

I mean the use of childish 'replacement' words, when one can reasonably insert standard English prose alternatives. If you're offended by cursing, at least uphold the dignity of the English language by using it properly.

'What the fudge': What on earth..? What was that? What a shame... etc.

"Bollocking Hell": ... Bollocks is a mild curse word anyway, I would say about equivalent to the more traditional "bloody hell"..so I'm not sure you're improving anything by that substitution. If you're expressing annoyance, why not try 'Alas!' 'Unfortunate!' 'Goodness me!' or Damn! (If you feel like pushing your boundaries) or something similar.

"Shhhiuugar'... hm.. Shucks? Oops? Damn? or Sugar, I guess.

RobynC79

Yes. Also, plain old swearing just gets boring.

*kitten*! = Meh...

*kitten* me raw till I bleed from my face! = Poetic.

Indeed, poetic! I've always been a fan of 'B*gger me sideways!' Delightful AND creative!

elusivezero

The f word can be amazingly addictive, especially because it's so satisfying. I tend not to swear so much, unless angry or too lazy to find other adjectives.

brit49

I tend to use them in humor more than anger.

For example: We have cats, one of them is really good at making the litter box stink. It's bad, he takes a dump and RUNS from the room. Therefore, he is often referred to as "Sh***yKitty."

JM

I have a cat too, thanks for the laugh!!!

luv_lea

I like to type swear words out. It's always fun to see how my phone will auto correct it.
I do cuss, not as much as I used to, and not in front of the kids..... apparently kids repeat EVERYTHING you say at very inappropriate times. :grumble:

Yes, I'm learning this. My son repeated me the other day purely by accident and then covered his mouth and his eyes got big. I could only smile and tell him it was ok, was my fault.

For reasons like that I have always tried to insert other words in place of cuss words while at work or around children. Other than that, I will cuss when I feel the need to do so.

TheDoctor90

How is not swearing in public juvenile?

I mean the use of childish 'replacement' words, when one can reasonably insert standard English prose alternatives. If you're offended by cursing, at least uphold the dignity of the English language by using it properly.

'What the fudge': What on earth..? What was that? What a shame... etc.

"Bollocking Hell": ... Bollocks is a mild curse word anyway, I would say about equivalent to the more traditional "bloody hell"..so I'm not sure you're improving anything by that substitution. If you're expressing annoyance, why not try 'Alas!' 'Unfortunate!' 'Goodness me!' or Damn! (If you feel like pushing your boundaries) or something similar.

"Shhhiuugar'... hm.. Shucks? Oops? Damn? or Sugar, I guess.

Ok. How about...What the fck are you bollockin examining my words for you shiiiuggarring twock?

Jain

When I'm good & mad I've got a mouth on me that could make a sailor blush. But I'm also pretty good at self censoring. Around older people or kids I don't swear at all. But amongst my friends, well all holds are off.:laugh:

And I love the way Americans have picked up on Bollocks. It's not such a 'soft' swear word as you think. When I was a teenager I could get away with the occasional He11 or bl00dy in front of my Mum, but bollocks would get me a crack round the head.

TMLPatrick

I avoid it depending on company, only because of the social stigma... otherwise the crusade against "swearing" is a bunch of moral majority nonsense.

heather7131

Swearing is location appropriate.

At the dinner table - Not appropriate.
Church - Not appropriate.
Board Room - Not appropriate.
Guest in someone's home - Not appropriate.
In the bedroom - Could be appropriate.
In traffic - Absolutely appropriate.

If we stop swearing altogether, the terrorists win.

I agree 100% with this guy!!!! :happy:

I don't swear in daily conversation that much. Most of my swearing comes when I get frustrated, or have to quote something when I take people to court! Knoxville traffic always makes me want to curse!

RobynC79

How is not swearing in public juvenile?

I mean the use of childish 'replacement' words, when one can reasonably insert standard English prose alternatives. If you're offended by cursing, at least uphold the dignity of the English language by using it properly.

'What the fudge': What on earth..? What was that? What a shame... etc.

"Bollocking Hell": ... Bollocks is a mild curse word anyway, I would say about equivalent to the more traditional "bloody hell"..so I'm not sure you're improving anything by that substitution. If you're expressing annoyance, why not try 'Alas!' 'Unfortunate!' 'Goodness me!' or Damn! (If you feel like pushing your boundaries) or something similar.

"Shhhiuugar'... hm.. Shucks? Oops? Damn? or Sugar, I guess.

Ok. How about...What the fck are you bollockin examining my words for you shiiiuggarring twock?

Delightful! Wasn't that satisfying? Although might I make it clear that it's unnecessary to curse AT me? I'm not interested in offending you, I'm merely pointing out that our opinions (and vernacular, evidently), differ.

JackieLM

There is a time and a place for it. I've actively been trying to cut back on my swearing because I personally find it unattractive when women swear (sexist I know, but thats just how I feel). When men swear I don't mind as much as long as they don't overdo it.

It sounds weird but I agree.... I find it very 'unlady' like when women/girls swear... that sounds so "1950's". I guess I am "old school".

Mrs_ALM

What are your opinions on it? I don't swear a lot, and it's usually when I get super mad at something...Like if I step in a puddle and it's as deep as my knee. I'll be like WHAT THE EFFIN BLOODY HELLLLLL.
But in casual conversation I rarely swear.

Reason I ask, I was having dinner with a girl last night and in every other sentence she was all It's 'fkin ridiculous' or 'and yeah I was like fk her'. So swearing within a normal sentence...

It was a complete turn off...I couldn't wait to be out of there despite her being good looking and relatively clever (she's at my uni). I could possibly have let it slide if we were alone...but it was a restaurant.

So is this also a turn off for other guys? Or girls...

It depends...if you aren't comfortable with it, don't be. I used to have a potty mouth, but it took one time of someone talking about ANOTHER girl swearing and how unattractive it is, then I decided to watch what I say. Some people will never see it as vulgar while others will. I didn't change for that person, I changed for myself and to not look like I'm not intelligent when having a conversation. I won't say my words are always 100% angelic, but there is a time and place for it.

GeoJenna223

Swearing is location appropriate.

At the dinner table - Not appropriate.
Church - Not appropriate.
Board Room - Not appropriate.
Guest in someone's home - Not appropriate.
In the bedroom - Could be appropriate.
In traffic - Absolutely appropriate.

If we stop swearing altogether, the terrorists win.

So, if we swear on a forum, but type the swear word wrong, do the errorists win?

Ashley_Panda

I curse like a sailor but in only the company of those who I know don't mind or speak the same way. I know well enough not to in front of peoples children or my grandparents per say. Although I will slip in front of my grandparents occasionally. Lol. They will forget in about ten seconds anyway. But my husband, mother, father, father in law, yeah, we all have a severe case of potty mouth.

Ephena

I will swear from time to time but I try to limit it to instances when something went really wrong or I'm very angry. I work in an office/manufacturing plant and I am one of two women in a company that employs about 30+ people. There is a ton if swearing and crassness around me.

The worst part about it is that the guys you would think would be swearing left and right are very respectful and will usually apologize if they swear in front of me. It's the guys in the office, especially the bosses in their suits that swear and act like jerks and even if I visibly flinch from their attitude they just keep talking like they're all that. It's kinda pathetic because the guys on our shop floor who get looked down on by the guys in our office are frequently nicer, more respectful and even happier in their lives than the suits.

Mrs_ALM

The worst part about it is that the guys you would think would be swearing left and right are very respectful and will usually apologize if they swear in front of me. It's the guys in the office, especially the bosses in their suits that swear and act like jerks and even if I visibly flinch from their attitude they just keep talking like they're all that. It's kinda pathetic because the guys on our shop floor who get looked down on by the guys in our office are frequently nicer, more respectful and even happier in their lives than the suits.

I want to know when swearing became "ok" in the workplace? I think it's very unprofessional, especially in an office setting and many just throw it around like everyday language. What if a client who would be offended is on the phone or walks in? Could mean lost business... :-\

christine24t

I swear in front of my friends sometimes. But I definitely can turn it off when I want. I try not to swear in front of guys I like, cause I think it makes you look cheap.

I was at Menards the other day with my grandma and these boys came in and they were swearing up a storm. I wanted to yell, "my grandma's right here you idiots!!" so disrespectful.

sjohnny

I have a filthy fckin mouth. I swear all the time in normal conversation. The f bomb gets used a sh!tload. I also am in a line of work where swearing and crude humor are very common.

If I know people don't like it I don't do it and if there are those around who I think might be offended I tone it down. I was afraid I would have a hard time not cussing in front of my kids but it actually was pretty easy. I very rarely slip up in front of them. Of course the other day after some *kitten* almost ran me off the road my 6 year old daughter had occassion to ask me: "Daddy, what's an @sshole?" Fortunately it wasn't a fcking @sshole.

mamagooskie

swearing has an appropriate place and time, that is to be decided by each person as to what is appropriat for them.

I swear when I need to, sometimes when I don't need to............and sometimes just cause I wanna!

sjohnny

I always need to.

MercuryBlue

Depends on my audience. I like to be aware of who's around me and be respectful towards them. I especially will not swear in front of children. I tend not to swear in front of people I've just met, either.

But once someone drops the 'f-bomb' in front of me, I know they're okay with the word and I can let down my guard and start swearing like a sailor. And I LOVE to swear. Bad words are fun.

dalgirly

I'm totally cool with swearing every once in a while. But when its every third word, its unattractive.

I swear occasionally, but NEVER would I swear meeting someone new, or on a first date (unless I was referring to something someone said), or not in a family event either (parents very religious and I respect that). But I do swear WAY more than I ever used to. I may say a swear word once a day now. lol.