Swearing?

cariliz

I personally curse like a sailor

Even with my opinion on cursing though...I still am smart enough to know when I shouldn't use such words (ie. at work, near small children, etc)

Ditto!

Sorry, but "fish paste" and *kitten* simply do not convey the same impact. Besides if my girlfriend said, "Baby come to bed and fish paste me", I don't know what I would do.

I a-gree! What a turn off! Lmfao……Oh did I say F***?!?

MercuryBlue

I don't have a problem with the actual words. Just when they're said in public places or are a constant.
I replace swearing with other words. What the fudge. Bollocking hell. Shhhiuugar.

Really? I find that rather juvenile, to be honest.

I curse like a trooper. I am an Aussie, I think it's more culturally acceptable over there, frankly. Since I moved to the US I've noticed cursing is less common and less acceptable here, particularly the 'c' word! And definitely for women.

I curse as part of normal conversation, but not when there are children or delicate types around. I find overt references to religion and 'morality' far more offensive. If someone asks me to tone it down, I will do so. I find most people far less willing to change open references indicating homophobia, racism or other assorted prejudice than I am willing to reign in cursing. Everyone has their own comfort level.

The 'dirty c-word' is one of my favorite words! But, for me, it's like the fancy china you keep in the cabinet. I save it for extra special occasions.

Fatbuster205

Absolutely with you on this!

karenjoy

There is a time and a place, and a restaurant on a date is not the time or place, I NEVER swore in front of my parents or my Children when they were growing up, I would not swear in public places, at staff in shops and businesses etc. I am able to moderate my language appropriately and I can be angry without swearing if I need to be, I am educated enough to let people know I am angry without using words that are not socially acceptable despite the prolific use of them by people who don't seem to be able to construct a sentence without them.

On the other side of the coin, I do swear in some circumstances and in some company, I use the C U Next Tuesday word more than most people I know, and I am known for it amongst my closest friends, but not by the people who live next door, or my boss....

My Canadian Husband on the other hand grew up in a different culture with different cultural norms, he swears a lot more in general conversation than anyone I know and has even been asked to moderate his language as there were children present, he uses words that I consider to be socially unacceptable a lot, and although I also use them, I don't think that they are words that should be used in the way he does. We are going to be Grandparents this year and I am going to have to keep on at him to watch his language when the baby is around.

For instance he uses the words bulls*it, crap, *kitten*, fart and b*stard and I grew up in a home that would not have used those words as they were considered swearing or at least unacceptable, BUT I say C**t and he doesn't

Fatbuster205

Absolutely with you on this!

That said I always chuckle at the first lines of "Four Weddings and a Funeral"! LOL!

tgh1914

I actually don't for the most part, and trying to rid it for good. But when I'm mad I let em fly. And when I'm trying to psyche myself up big time for something it's even worse - think Mike Tyson. I guess it does have its place, but I don't intend for others' ears.

I admit, when I hear someone that can't go without swearing every few words my judgment of them goes way down, in their intelligence and class, be it right or not.

pucenavel

whatever...

Live and Let Live, I say

ajbeans

I don't swear, but it's mostly because I have a really hard time code-switching so if I allow myself to swear once, I'll find myself swearing everywhere -- in church, when talking to my kids, to my mom, whatever. I used to swear like a sailor, but I would find myself saying the wrong thing in really inappropriate situations, so I just had to stop altogether.

LaurenAOK

I swear like a sailor :blushing:

However, there is definitely a time and place for it. I would never swear in front of my family, bosses, people like that. I also try to keep it to a minimum when on a first date or even just hanging out with a new friend. As I get more comfortable with someone, I'll let loose a little more often. However, if I know a particular person is offended by swearing, I'll make sure to control it around that person (I have a good friend who can't stand swearing and I'm constantly saying "darn it" and "fudge" around her, haha.)

CalJur

what the eff?

mznisaelaine

So I personally don't swear at all... But if other people do then I don't usually care as long as they don't use a million foul words in a simple sentence when talking to me.

jill___

I'm not offended by any words, but I rarely swear!! I think constant swearing makes people sound ignorant. There are so many beautiful, descriptive, appropriate words to be used, why swear!? I wasn't raised in a household with parents who swore, at least not in front of me, so those words have never been part of my vocabulary.

My fiance, however, swears more than any other person I've ever known!

Poison5119

While I do allow streams of inappropriate swears to flow from time to time, like a fine woven tapestry, I only do so around others I know will not have an issue over it.
But to do so on a first date? Never.
It's a bad habit to swear too much - it leads to inappropriate timing in the wrong company and in the wrong setting. I've become quite good at monitoring it.

PrincessLou71186

I don't swear a lot but when I've stomped my toe, cut myself when cooking (which I do a lot) or burn myself (again, I do it a lot) there is usually an onslaught of words such as "F**k, B*****s, W**k, S**t".

I also remember when I was a child I overheard someone saying "People who swear have a lack of imagination."

I have a great imagination but when you burn yourself on an oven there is no time for imagination, say the first ting that comes into your head or cry.

bbygrl5

The whole notion of it being ok for men to swear, but unladylike for women makes me want to f*ckn scream.

This! Swearing is something people.. BOTH genders, should be sensitive to the audience around them, but otherwise is expressive and ****ing awesome!

FearAnLoathing

Ive made men blush with some of the things I say,and cry

jenbit

i cuss like there is no tomorrow. I really don't care. I monitor it at work and infront of my kids but even my kids know those are big people words. LOL Really if a guy doesn't like the way I talk it isn't going to work anyways. My friends and sisters are a bunch of foul mouths too. In fact my sister and I will often call each other a (u^t bag or bag o' (u^ts for fun. Words only have the power you give them

princesspeach577

The whole notion of it being ok for men to swear, but unladylike for women makes me want to f*ckn scream.

This! Swearing is something people.. BOTH genders, should be sensitive to the audience around them, but otherwise is expressive and ****ing awesome!

Totally agree!

recriger

I slip quite often with it. The problem is that I now have a 35lb diaper trashing Echo machine in the house. The other day I slipped with "ah F**k!!". Then from the next room I hear "Uh Buck".

dragonbait0126

I've got no problem with cursing and I can do it all day long. That being said, I agree that there is a time and place for everything. I do my best not to curse in front of kids (although they have been known to sneak up behind me and hear me). I don't curse when talking to my mom unless I'm quoting someone and even them I say "pardon my language" or "to quote" even though I've heard her curse. Actually, James Lipton, who hosted Inside the Actors Studio, had 10 questions he would ask everyone he interviewed. One of those questions was "what is your favorite curse word." I will admit mine is the f-bomb. I do hate the c-word though with a passion. Actually, it's not the word so much as the horrid, deragatory meaning it has taken on.

HisPathDaily

A turnoff and bothersome, but to each their own. Though there are some that can't seem to control it around my kids in public which then becomes an issue of respect where I need to stand in and it then becomes an issue I have to address. Though that is rare and usually is depending on where I am. I also have personal convictions on the issue but that is my own journey (http://hispathdaily.blogspot.com/2009/09/james-310-from-same-mouth-come-blessing.html).

Multistyles

I cuss like a sailor at home and at work (i work in a bus shop) but i know when and where to do it. The S word is my favorite though gives me the warm and fuzzies :-) lol

jenniet04

I'm not offended by any words, but I rarely swear!! I think constant swearing makes people sound ignorant. There are so many beautiful, descriptive, appropriate words to be used, why swear!? I wasn't raised in a household with parents who swore, at least not in front of me, so those words have never been part of my vocabulary.

Ditto!!

MercuryBlue

My Canadian Husband on the other hand grew up in a different culture with different cultural norms, he swears a lot more in general conversation than anyone I know and has even been asked to moderate his language as there were children present, he uses words that I consider to be socially unacceptable a lot, and although I also use them, I don't think that they are words that should be used in the way he does. We are going to be Grandparents this year and I am going to have to keep on at him to watch his language when the baby is around.

For instance he uses the words bulls*it, crap, *kitten*, fart and b*stard and I grew up in a home that would not have used those words as they were considered swearing or at least unacceptable, BUT I say C**t and he doesn't

I completely understand what you're saying here, as a Canadian. I couldn't tell you whether or not we swear more (in general) than Americans, but we do seem to be more relaxed about it. I have noticed a difference between the sorts of swear words that can be aired on Canadian stations versus American ones. And, for some reason the C-word you mentioned is TOTALLY FORBIDDEN up here. Almost nobody says it. The first time I said it in front of people (my age, who swear CONSTANTLY), they all dropped their utensils and stared at me in horror. This is why I only use that word on SPECIAL occasions, when I want to get the maximum reaction.

CannibalisticVegetarian

I cuss like a sailor.. but many things contribute to how foul-mouthed I can get. I wont cuss in front of older people, or in most public places. I also feel bad if I curse around children, so I try to watch my tongue when in places with them. I definitely won't do it in or when passing a church---yeah It's all weird. When my friends are around, it's fair game though---and if we're in public and are on the verge of getting loud, we'll say the dirty words or dirty lines in Pig Latin. Same goes with raunchy jokes.

GURLEY_GIRL3

I personally curse like a sailor, I don't understand why curse words are bad. Especially when some people who "don't curse" say things like "frick" or "son of a monkey's uncle" ...you know what they mean so why is that not as bad as saying the actual word?

Even with my opinion on cursing though...I still am smart enough to know when I shouldn't use such words (ie. at work, near small children, etc)

thats me! ditto

MaximalLife

What are your opinions on it? I don't swear a lot, and it's usually when I get super mad at something...Like if I step in a puddle and it's as deep as my knee. I'll be like WHAT THE EFFIN BLOODY HELLLLLL.
But in casual conversation I rarely swear.

Reason I ask, I was having dinner with a girl last night and in every other sentence she was all It's 'fkin ridiculous' or 'and yeah I was like fk her'. So swearing within a normal sentence...

It was a complete turn off...I couldn't wait to be out of there despite her being good looking and relatively clever (she's at my uni). I could possibly have let it slide if we were alone...but it was a restaurant.

So is this also a turn off for other guys? Or girls...

I do it well but ONLY around the guys - never around the ladies.
And if I were dating a potty mouth lady, I'd shut the date down on the spot, pay the tab and tell her to take a cab home.

That's a huge turn off for me - a deal killer.

CallMeCupcakeDammit

My parents didn't cuss, but when I was younger I had a filthy mouth! I know when it's appropriate, and in a restaurant, probably not the most appropriate. My kids have heard me say some very creative things when I've been cut off in traffic, or stuck behind someone driving 10 miles below the speed limit. Buttlicker is one of my faves, but in the right company I'll throw around the F word like it's nothing. My 13 yr old daughter cusses and it drives me nuts. My 16 yr old will ask my permission before he'll say something because he feels uncomfortable cussing in front of me! He writes his own music, and he'll warn me before he says something he thinks will offend me. I said Dude, you're 16, let it out!

You know, Leapfrog toys figured out every phonetic spelling of any cuss word you could possibly think of. Years ago I actually sat down with my kid's toy and tried to get it to say a cuss word, and the best I could get was butt, cuz "but" was the only word they didn't block. I know, very mature, but cuss words are fun! :bigsmile: Thanks for the laugh! You guys have a great sense of humor!

dane11235813

I completely understand what you're saying here, as a Canadian. I couldn't tell you whether or not we swear more (in general) than Americans, but we do seem to be more relaxed about it. I have noticed a difference between the sorts of swear words that can be aired on Canadian stations versus American ones. And, for some reason the C-word you mentioned is TOTALLY FORBIDDEN up here. Almost nobody says it. The first time I said it in front of people (my age, who swear CONSTANTLY), they all dropped their utensils and stared at me in horror. This is why I only use that word on SPECIAL occasions, when I want to get the maximum reaction.

hahaha that is so true. the C-word never gets said and when someone does say it the room goes silent for a second.

my office is bad for swearing. it's an 8-5 thing. i probably swear way too much. except around my kids. that bothers me to no end when someone is blasting F-bombs in front of kids.

GoodbyeFatChick

Sorry, but "fish paste" and *kitten* simply do not convey the same impact. Besides if my girlfriend said, "Baby come to bed and fish paste me", I don't know what I would do.

I swear this is the funniest thing I read all day.....