MEN ONLY: Bro code poll

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  • pucenavel
    pucenavel Posts: 972 Member
    1. If it's been more that three MONTHS, there's no need to ask for your permission.

    2. What, did you f---king OWN her??

    3. Why do you give a s--t in the first place? You broke up 18 YEARS AGO!!

    4. Your wife has every right to feel slighted by the fact that you've brought it up.
  • I_give_it_2_u_str8
    I_give_it_2_u_str8 Posts: 680 Member
    I would like an opinion about the following scenario.
    My ex girl friend from high school ( a semi serious relationship) recently got divorced. I found out today my best friend also from high school has been dating her for a month. (my wife informed me of the latter)

    Despite our relationship having ended 17-18 years ago does my best friend at least owe me a quick phone call asking me permission. Out of respect. Which I would have granted.

    Additionaly does my wife have any reason to be upset about this?

    R u serious?
  • beatleschic87
    beatleschic87 Posts: 260 Member
    Sounds like SOMEBODY still has feelings for their ex... I'm a lesbian I can comment on this
  • beatleschic87
    beatleschic87 Posts: 260 Member
    1. If it's been more that three MONTHS, there's no need to ask for your permission.

    2. What, did you f---king OWN her??

    3. Why do you give a s--t in the first place? You broke up 18 YEARS AGO!!

    4. Your wife has every right to feel slighted by the fact that you've brought it up.

    I'm friending you right now
  • ionlyhavesporx
    ionlyhavesporx Posts: 120
    I disagree that your buddy needed to call you and I also disagree that your wife has any right to be upset.
    -wtk

    This
  • DizzieLittleLifter
    DizzieLittleLifter Posts: 1,020 Member
    It's been 18 years.....Hell NOOO why would you even care? You can't be a Bro anyway you're married!!! How can you take one for the team?? You can't, therefore your bro card is invalid. Part of being a Bro is being the faithful wingman even if it means being a kamakazi.


    haha yep, you forfeit that card when you put the ring on the finger. Why would your wife care? Odd
  • FabMrFox
    FabMrFox Posts: 259 Member
    The moment you say "I do" you forfit any previous bro code... If it was remotely possible you had feelings for any of your old flames at all once you get married you DO NOT have any feelings for anyone other than your spouse ...regardless of feelings if that makes sense :)


    sorry if anyone else has mentioned this I didn't have time to read all the posts.
  • DannyMussels
    DannyMussels Posts: 1,842 Member
    Kinda makes you wonder what HE'S GETTING that you DIDN'T, doesn't it? I'm not talking about STD's.

    WTF does this mean?

    It sounds so dirty.
  • Missylydia
    Missylydia Posts: 304 Member
    I'm not a bro but I NEED to reply to this one.

    Firstly, I hope this is a joke post.

    But if not...

    Mate, you are MARRIED, what is wrong with you?
    And even if you weren't married now, you don't and never have owned your ex. She's a woman, not a puppy!

    And if I were your wife, and you told me that you're pissed that your friend didn't ask for permission to date your ex ... omigosh I would totally slap you upside the head.
  • willnorton
    willnorton Posts: 995 Member
    you have lost your damn mind......

    YOU ARE FRIGGIN MARRIED.....


    GET A LIFE!
  • Missylydia
    Missylydia Posts: 304 Member
    The moment you say "I do" you forfit any previous bro code... If it was remotely possible you had feelings for any of your old flames at all once you get married you DO NOT have any feelings for anyone other than your spouse ...regardless of feelings if that makes sense :)


    sorry if anyone else has mentioned this I didn't have time to read all the posts.

    BOOM, that's what I'm talking about!
  • irapino65
    irapino65 Posts: 71 Member
    It's been too long. He is within his rights to date her.. I have been teaching the Bro' code to my son and this actually just came up not very long ago.

    Rick
  • liftingbro
    liftingbro Posts: 2,029 Member
    I guess I would say that there really should be one non-related woman that matters(romantically speaking) anything to you, if you're married. So by being married you shouldn't give a crap if your brother is nailing this chick, though you should warn him about any weird crap.
  • Missylydia
    Missylydia Posts: 304 Member
    I actually hope your friend marries your ex.

    :drinker:
  • beatleschic87
    beatleschic87 Posts: 260 Member
    I actually hope your friend marries your ex.

    :drinker:

    AMAZING
  • Fred77
    Fred77 Posts: 132 Member
    This thread is brilliant. Its either fantastic surrealist comedy or insanity.

    I'd love to know how this permission is asked for? is it akin to asking a father for their daughters hand in marriage?

    but the question still remains. if permission had been asked, would it have been granted?
  • Missylydia
    Missylydia Posts: 304 Member
    This thread is brilliant. Its either fantastic surrealist comedy or insanity.

    I'd love to know how this permission is asked for? is it akin to asking a father for their daughters hand in marriage?

    but the question still remains. if permission had been asked, would it have been granted?

    It doesn't sound like it, does it? Creepy.
  • Fred77
    Fred77 Posts: 132 Member
    conversation goes like this.

    "Sorry Mildred (lets assume the girl is called Mildred) i really like you and would love to date you, but an ex boyfriend of yours from 15 years ago who is now married to someone else wont give me permission. Its the Bro Code."

    *Mildred runs off crying

    this is clearly a perfectly normal and healthy scenario
  • Missylydia
    Missylydia Posts: 304 Member
    Oh yes.

    Happens every day.

    I'm just bitter because I was once a Mildred.
  • Missylydia
    Missylydia Posts: 304 Member
    *sighing as I ponder what life could have been, if he hadn't been 'the one that got away'*
  • Fred77
    Fred77 Posts: 132 Member
    *sighing as I ponder what life could have been, if he hadn't been 'the one that got away'*

    you should pop round to his house and boil his pet rabbit
  • snookumss
    snookumss Posts: 1,451 Member
    No he doesn't need your opinion, and yes your wife should be pissed that you care about giving permission for someone to see another woman.

    Sorry, I am not saying anything besides ^^THIS^^^ ha ha!
  • twanthe1
    twanthe1 Posts: 407
    No, I wouldn't care - I would actually be disturbed if she called lol.
  • amelio21
    amelio21 Posts: 1
    I know you asked for men to respond, but since everyone disagreed with you, I though I'd chime in. I've been out of high school for over ten years, but it's something about those first loves that are different then the rest of your relationships. Since he's your best friend, then yes, I think he should have at least told you (if not asked you.)

    But, being a wife myself, I'm sure I would have been pissed if my husband was annoyed that he didn't tell you. I would be annoyed without letting my wife know!

    It's definitely not worth ending a friendship over, I just think it would have been common curtousy to tell you since you're such good friends.
  • Fulminare
    Fulminare Posts: 17
    He should have told you out of respect ....Not because he had to.
  • cjpg
    cjpg Posts: 433 Member
    No and no.

    17-18 years in the past concerning a 'semi-serious relationship' as you've put it, should be dead and buried. You've met someone new. Your friend is finding someone new too. The past is the past.

    As for your wife getting upset over this - I can only understand her being upset that YOU feel so strongly about something concerning someone so far in the past. To her, it may mean you're not over her.

    If she's upset over the whole situation in its entirety, she shouldn't be because it's not directly related to her in any way.
  • savage22hp
    savage22hp Posts: 278 Member
    *sighing as I ponder what life could have been, if he hadn't been 'the one that got away'*

    you should pop round to his house and boil his pet rabbit


    Now you are freaking me out
  • Helice
    Helice Posts: 1,075 Member
    I think it depends how much time you spend with this woman.
    If you havent seen her for the time she shouldnt be sad at all.
    Whereas i could understand if she had to be around her like every day or something..
    The only reason why i can think that your wife is upset is that your best friend called to ask..
    Like you might still like her and have a problem with it..
    He should not have asked, thats proberlly the bit that is most likely to cause a problem...
    Like "why did he ask if you were ok with it? Why wouldnt you be ok with it? Do you still like her? What havent you been telling me?", etc, etc...
  • Railr0aderTony
    Railr0aderTony Posts: 6,803 Member
    I agree with most of the guys here, No he should not have had to give you a heads up. As for your wife, if she notices it bothers you and that you might still have feelings, then she might have cause to be upset. Time to pay her some attention and let her know your very happy with your choice. Never live in the past Bro.
  • nukehiker
    nukehiker Posts: 457
    since this relationship ended 18 years ago why should it matter who she dates etc etc ??? also since you are married why do you need to be involved unless you want to rekindle a past romance
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