ever been told you werent good looking?

DeeJayTJ

have you ever been told you weren't good looking? if so, did it bother u? or did you think they were an idiot..
a person who i used to hang out with just as friends - she told me that i wasnt even good looking.

it didnt really bother me, but i was shocked to hear her opinion so bluntly like that haha.
the weird thing is, now she wont leave me alone! she is blowing up my phone with txt and "oh lets hang out this weekend!"
she seems desperate now to "hang out" and i always tell her im busy - ill hang out with her as a group, but it would never be a date, i would NEVER date her because of her shallow personality and she kinda sluts it up....

its just amazing to me how much more attention i get from people these days as opposed to when i weighed 50lbs more than i do now.

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anyone else have a story about how your fitness journey and weight loss have changed the way people treat you?

people that would have never given you the time or day to get to know them now want to get to know you, or maybe you've changed so much that girls or guys are intimidated to approach you or maybe you make them nervous because they like you lol.

im just curious to know your story!

*edit* also - did this help jump start your fitness journey?

EmCarroll1990

This probably sounds so conceited or maybe I shouldn't even post this, but no I've never been told I wasn't good looking. People should learn to keep their comments to themselves though, as in my opinion, every single person is beautiful. Maybe not to your's or my standards, but someone in the world is going to look at them and think, "OMG that person is absolutely stunning."

HorrorChix89

I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.

I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND! Same thing happened when I was a little younger and with my cousins. I was the ugly duckling of the group Guys say I'm "hot" just to see how far I would go. I just laugh and tell them "yeah I'm more like luke warm"

I'm sad now all over again

EmCarroll1990

I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.

I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND!

There's no way you are the "ugly friend", you're beautiful.

DeeJayTJ

@horrorchix89 - im sorry but that is the worst response ive ever heard.

you are far from ugly! i hope you do not have that mindset that you are because you would be completely wrong!

brindlechewy

have you ever been told you weren't good looking? if so, did it bother u? or did you think they were an idiot..
a person who i used to hang out with just as friends - she told me that i wasnt even good looking.

Gosh, only every day of my life, beginning when I was around TEN YEARS OLD, by my step "family" and everyone with whom I went to school. It bothered me a lot then and it's still difficult today. It's probably what pushed me into years of disordered eating. :explode:
The great thing, though, is that now that I'm a healthy, toned, size zero, I'm smaller, hotter, and look ten years younger than all of the girls who used to treat me like dirt. You see, all of that tanning and alcohol abuse from high school has caught up to them! :laugh:

ha, I "quoted" myself and can't figure out how to fix it. sorry.

HorrorChix89

I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.

I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND!

There's no way you are the "ugly friend", you're beautiful.

Thanks, it takes a lot for me to look like I do in my photo lol. 3-4 days of sitting on my butt in front of my mother while she braids my hair (she's slow but it's free). Buying new eyeliners once a month, taking just the right angle of a shot with my iPod Touch

jennifermcornett

I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.

I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND!

There's no way you are the "ugly friend", you're beautiful.

^^^ THIS!!! ^^^ I thought the exact same thing when I read your post.

spectralmoon

I heard it a lot as a kid and only a little less as a teenager. We'll say my self-esteem wasn't fantastic or even near stable until I hit 19.

eeebee

Yes!

I have heard guys in their groups comment "horrible" or "nahhhhhh!!" and even "fat" - all out loud, loud enough for me to hear when I have walked past them or when they have walked past me, on holiday and here in the UK.

All of them were British guys, by the way! :mad:

jennifermcornett

have you ever been told you weren't good looking? if so, did it bother u? or did you think they were an idiot..
a person who i used to hang out with just as friends - she told me that i wasnt even good looking.

it didnt really bother me, but i was shocked to hear her opinion so bluntly like that haha.
the weird thing is, now she wont leave me alone! she is blowing up my phone with txt and "oh lets hang out this weekend!"
she seems desperate now to "hang out" and i always tell her im busy - ill hang out with her as a group, but it would never be a date, i would NEVER date her because of her shallow personality and she kinda sluts it up....

its just amazing to me how much more attention i get from people these days as opposed to when i weighed 50lbs more than i do now.

______________________________________________________________________________________________

anyone else have a story about how your fitness journey and weight loss have changed the way people treat you?

people that would have never given you the time or day to get to know them now want to get to know you, or maybe you've changed so much that girls or guys are intimidated to approach you or maybe you make them nervous because they like you lol.

im just curious to know your story!

Your friend (ex-friend?) is a dirty liar.

brindlechewy

I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.

I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND! Same thing happened when I was a little younger and with my cousins. I was the ugly duckling of the group Guys say I'm "hot" just to see how far I would go. I just laugh and tell them "yeah I'm more like luke warm"

I'm sad now all over again

People who look at you like you're ugly are morons. Whenever I catch someone doing that to me, I glare at them until they look away. Remember that the best revenge is to live well and look great.

HorrorChix89

@horrorchix89 - im sorry but that is the worst response ive ever heard.

you are far from ugly! i hope you do not have that mindset that you are because you would be completely wrong!

Thanks idk how I feel about myself. Depends what I wear, how my hair looks, if I'm breaking out...yeah I'm weird I know

EmCarroll1990

It truly amazes me that those that have commented saying they've been told they weren't good looking are absolutely stunning. You all must be around some incredibly stupid people. Wow... I'm still shocked.

Felidae_1981

Hmm... just in December my boss (!) told me "damn, you're not photogenic at all" when he was taking pictures during the Christmas party. I made sure I let him know during year-end-reviews that I was NOT happy about his comments and my other boss made him apologize, but it still hurt - a lot.
And I've been told several times that I am ugly, look like I am pregnant (I carry all my weight in my belly I think...) or once "oh... is even uglier than Felidae"... nice, thanks a lot.

Does it make me sad? Yes, but what's important is how my husband sees me and I believe he does not agree

DeeJayTJ

@horrorchix89 - im sorry but that is the worst response ive ever heard.

you are far from ugly! i hope you do not have that mindset that you are because you would be completely wrong!

Thanks idk how I feel about myself. Depends what I wear, how my hair looks, if I'm breaking out...yeah I'm weird I know

hah i know how u feel when it comes to the depends on how i wear blah blah blah part

at work i dont dress up very much, i wear my glasses, i dont fix my hair, i dont wear my fashionable clothes...

when i work the clubs or go out i dress up! fix my hair, wear my contacts.. feel like a million bucks!

Elzecat

I've heard it my whole life...mostly by guys who think they are giving me a compliment when they say something like "you're a plain Jane." Um...yeah. Thank you. I still remember being called a dog in junior high...I was the poor awkward stereotypical kid with braces, glasses, bad skin, greasy hair, and 5 inches taller than everyone else at that point. Oh well.

Elzecat

I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.

I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND!

There's no way you are the "ugly friend", you're beautiful.

I think you're beautiful. Your "friend" must be jealous or something.

Thanks, it takes a lot for me to look like I do in my photo lol. 3-4 days of sitting on my butt in front of my mother while she braids my hair (she's slow but it's free). Buying new eyeliners once a month, taking just the right angle of a shot with my iPod Touch

beckipercy

I always got "but you have such a pretty face.." which is another way of saying "shame about the body!" which I think is the worst 'compliment' anybody can possibly give!!

HorrorChix89

My friend and cousins didn't put me in the ugly friend zone, it's just when guys would hit on them and I'd be stuck to the side holding the bags while they flirted. Only time a guy looks at me is when I'm at the gas station and old men think I'm jail bait -.-

valerietoxii

Not to my face, but I once over heard my great grandma tell my step mom that I "used to be as pretty as a model." Does that count?

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

All the time when I was a young girl & even my mom told me things like "_____ is way prettier than you are". Which is why up to now I still have low self-esteem & don't consider myself pretty.

BShanese

I haven't been told that I was ugly (welllll except for my twin brother who used to be a jerk, lol) but I have felt that way about myself. I realize that's it's definitely in the way that I treat myself and I am working on that! Getting healthier definitely works wonders.

And I haven't seen one ugly person in this thread...

DeeJayTJ

okay so let me ask you this....

all the bad bully like comments...

are they any part of why you all are working so hard to get in shape or stay in shape ?

if you say its purely for your self.. well.. sure.. but i know that if people constantly told me i was fat or something... yeah id have that much more on me to get in shape.

i guess where im going is, sometimes these awful comments that are usually just so wrong and far from the truth, might have made you get on the bandwagon of a fit lifestyle.

Yanicka1

i have been told i am ugly for the longest time. It was more evident in the teenages years. As i age, i think i am getting cuter and those who were commenting on how ugly i was are getting pass their prime. Revenge is a dish best served cold

DeeJayTJ

And I haven't seen one ugly person in this thread...

me either !!

maryjay51

of course i been told that .. it hurts too.. i would never tell someone that because i know how it feels. took me some years to realize it but really looks are only skin deep. i want to know how someone is in their heart and their mind. if those two dont click for me i really dont care what someone looks like. i had a guy once ask me if i would ever go out with a guy like him.. i said what do you mean by that ? his reply 'well im ugly and someone like you probably wouldnt go out with me'.. omg i felt so bad he said that.. i went out with him and we realized we arent a match for personality reasons but we are still friends..some lucky girl will have wonderful man some day..

EmCarroll1990

And I haven't seen one ugly person in this thread...

me either !!

Exactly.

brindlechewy

Yes!

I have heard guys in their groups comment "horrible" or "nahhhhhh!!" and even "fat" - all out loud, loud enough for me to hear when I have walked past them or when they have walked past me, on holiday and here in the UK.

All of them were British guys, by the way! :mad:

I really think that the best thing to do is to confront people like that. You don't even have to say anything to them, simply turn around and give them a long look. People who say hateful things like that are generally cowards who count on their "target" just taking the abuse and walking away. It's actually pretty amusing to see the looks of confusion and embarrassment when they realize that you won't tolerate their boorish behavior. I guess I sound a little crazy, but this topic has gotten me really worked up. I spent my entire childhood and young-adulthood being the butt of everyone's jokes, and I've decided that it's never going to happen to me again--or to ANYONE else if I can help it. I'm not advocating that anyone do anything crazy or dangerous, just stick up for yourself and others.

beckipercy

I've also got a friend who, bless her heart, used to try and help me get guys on a night out when I was single. This not only made me feel ridiculous and childish, but extremely ugly too. Especially when the response was always "Nah, wouldn't mind you though" and she used to get all the attention anyway!!

This time next year, i WILL be the hot friend, and the ugly friend will never rear her ugly head again!

Shannonnn92

In junior high I was called a "butter face" - everything's good but the face by someone... And people have always made comments about my nose, some good and some bad, but either way it has made me feel self-conscious about it =/