ever been told you werent good looking?

Izable2011

I once had someone tell me " You are pretty confident about your nose considering how big it is."

cassiejo84

My best friend always liked to remind me that I wasn't good looking when we were younger.

conidiring

Yeah, I've been called a dog on more than one occasion. Still hurts to think about. No wonder I can't stand to look at myself in the mirror! I use a little compact mirror to put on my makeup in the morning so I don't have to see my whole face at once. Oh, well can't change it so I'll deal I guess. My husband loves me and tells me how cute I am so that's something!

psmd

If I did, it went in one ear and out the other!!! :laugh:

Vermilla

People seem to put a lot of stock in what others think of them. They'll change their hair or their clothes or even the way they talk in order to be socially accepted. Even ones who claim to not care what others think want to be seen as good looking. Basic human instinct. People have said a lot if things about me but they all differ. Example, an ex thinks I'm ugly now because my fat butt has slimmed down. Another friend says I look great but my sister says I'm fat. We hear opinions and some listen more than others. I feel beautiful when I know I've worked hard so when people do make rude comments about how I look, I don't care that much. The best thing to do us note it. Maybe you can work it into your routine!

monroe61

a coworker actually said to me "you must look like your dad because your mom and sister are really hot"...um ok thanks jerk!

This is me and my sister! Apparently I'm the ugly one!

madameduffay

And I haven't seen one ugly person in this thread...

me either !!

Me neither!

Libby81

Yes I was always told I wasn't good looking by the kids at school, especially primary. I've worn glasses since I was young and my family didn't have loads of money so they were health authority glasses which were big thick and crappy. I was gimpy looking. I grew into myself once I left school and funny thing is it was the boys that would tease me that wanted to date me then. They had short memories but I certainly didn't

auticus

I've often heard "you are a great guy but I'm not into big guys" which translates thusly into "fat men are not attractive" so... yes in a round about way I've heard this.

Does this suck? Yes. That's the basis of the rocketfuel I use to workout and diet and stay slimmer and in better shape, because I want to not hear that again.

1546mel

yep, a lot. And fat. and i have been barked at. it does bother me but what can you do! Anyone that is rude enough to say that has an ugly heart.

ramonasowner

When I first started walking for exercise I got yelled at by a car of passing teenagers, they were yelling awful stuff. Then they turned around so they could drive back again and yell some more insults.

I got pissed. I kept going. I would NEVER do that to anyone.

vinylscratch

Guild member upon seeing a picture of me: Jesus, no wonder you don't have any friends. You're ugly.

...never mentioned any difficulties with friends

auticus

People seem to put a lot of stock in what others think of them. They'll change their hair or their clothes or even the way they talk in order to be socially accepted. Even ones who claim to not care what others think want to be seen as good looking. Basic human instinct. People have said a lot if things about me but they all differ. Example, an ex thinks I'm ugly now because my fat butt has slimmed down. Another friend says I look great but my sister says I'm fat. We hear opinions and some listen more than others. I feel beautiful when I know I've worked hard so when people do make rude comments about how I look, I don't care that much. The best thing to do us note it. Maybe you can work it into your routine!

This is how most people are programmed. We are social creatures that want to feel like we belong and are desired.

shanaenichole

have you ever been told you weren't good looking? if so, did it bother u? or did you think they were an idiot..
a person who i used to hang out with just as friends - she told me that i wasnt even good looking.

it didnt really bother me, but i was shocked to hear her opinion so bluntly like that haha.
the weird thing is, now she wont leave me alone! she is blowing up my phone with txt and "oh lets hang out this weekend!"
she seems desperate now to "hang out" and i always tell her im busy - ill hang out with her as a group, but it would never be a date, i would NEVER date her because of her shallow personality and she kinda sluts it up....

its just amazing to me how much more attention i get from people these days as opposed to when i weighed 50lbs more than i do now.

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anyone else have a story about how your fitness journey and weight loss have changed the way people treat you?

people that would have never given you the time or day to get to know them now want to get to know you, or maybe you've changed so much that girls or guys are intimidated to approach you or maybe you make them nervous because they like you lol.

im just curious to know your story!

Your friend (ex-friend?) is a dirty liar.

I agree. I snuck a peek at your picture. umm. I can se why she is blowing up your phone now. :blushing:

MaximalLife

No, but when I was fat, my wife told me I was not attractive so blubbery.

That honesty was a serious wake up call.

As for your friend, sever that relationship.
She's toxic!

onefitdiva

I have not been exactly told I was not good looking, but just the same I have been told I have chicken legs, scrawny arms, bug eyes, and a neck like ET....and this was from family and friends. People can just be mean. While initially these comments bothered me, I got over it by taking a good look at the people the remarks were coming from.

traciwe

:indifferent: oh yes definitely, been told i was too big of a girl for their taste, been snickered at by guys when i walked by like i was disgusting.....once met a guy for a date i met on the internet and you could tell right away he wasnt impressed, wouldnt even walk me to my car at the end of the "date" just walked over to his motorcyle and said, i can see you from here, you'll be alright, slapped on his helmit and drove out of the parking lot before i even started my car.

joshanti81

I've been told before i lost weight i looked like road kill lol

ramonasowner

It's sad how many responses.
I agree not one ugly poster in the bunch

dimoul

Yes, but not with words, people don't have to tell you. When you are a teenager at a dance and the girl runs away, you just know. But I'm married (and married way up in looks) and old now and so over that. Fat or thin, I'm beyond hope, I've accepted my genetic destiny. Just like I've accepted the fact I'm going bald and I'm not going to try to change it! F&*% pretty people! Ugly Rules!!!!

blueyegrl

I've been told I wasn't good looking since we all had to watch that horrible video about the chances in our body. Purberty is a horrible thing. I'm still getting the "ugly girl" looks from people.

I was hanging out with one of my chick friends and her sister and realized I'M THE UGLY FRIEND!

There's no way you are the "ugly friend", you're beautiful.

Thanks, it takes a lot for me to look like I do in my photo lol. 3-4 days of sitting on my butt in front of my mother while she braids my hair (she's slow but it's free). Buying new eyeliners once a month, taking just the right angle of a shot with my iPod Touch

I didn't make it any further then this one, but I just wanted to say that you ARE beautiful. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You have beautiful eyes, your smile is to die for....those are things that braids and eyeliner won't change! You really are stunning. I can relate where you are coming from, my friends have always been smaller than me, I'm the "fat friend" but they don't make me feel that way. If any of your friends make you feel like you're the "ugly" one, you need new friends!! Hugs to you, and add me as a friend cause I would love to have someone as beautiful as you helping me on this journey!

theoriginaljayne

Yep, a lot. It helps to crack a self-deprecating joke afterwards. Usually people laugh. Sometimes they just look sorry for me. Actually, it doesn't bother me as much as it used to. I don't need to be pretty to achieve any of the goals I've set in life – so it's not worth worrying about.

monicalynne68

I've never been told I wasn't good looking. I have had that immortal "You have such a pretty face. You'd be sooooo much prettier if you just lost a little weight." The best part of that is the fact that it came from my Grandfather. He even gave me $100 when I graduated from college to join weightwatchers. Thanks Pappa! lol

Fat_2_Fit_Mommy

I was picked on in high school/middle school ppl say I'm ugly, & fat etc.... I really don't have any confidence in my self cause of this. I dropped out of school cause I couldn't handle it any more... So now I have a husband, & a daughter. .. I know my husband thinks I'm beautiful. I regret dropping out but I am plainning on going back to school and do some thing better for my life.

blueyegrl

I was called a "Fat B!tch" by a meth head. I didn't really take it personal though. lmao

meghspencer

I have been told I'm ugly and fat (I weighed 135 at the time).

I don't see one unattractive person in this thread. I'm all about inner beauty.

Wendyma1

I've been told in the past that I am not attractive! I cannot remember under which circumstances this was told to me, but they way I see it, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I might think one guy is hot and the gal standing next to me think he's simply ugly. Have these comments bothered me??? Well, yes, noone wants to be perceived as ugly, but I take it with a grain of salt! I'm comfortable with who I am and my hubby thinks I'm beautiful, so what else really matters???????

Kris10can

I get the "cute" comment all the time.....psst....cute is okay when you are between the ages of 3 and 10 years old! I unfortunately have the "pretty" group of friends and definitely have heard DUFF (Designated Ugly Fat Friend) several times....grrrr!

TayaKrasikova

When I was young until the end of high school. I used to be told your are way to skinny... you go eat something. in my last year of high school I finally hit puberty ( thanks god!!!!) but us time progressed I gew 5 '' and gained 76 lbs. ( used to be 5' 2" 73 lbs) Although I look perfectly normal now....Now that I fit What people expect you to look like, 9 years later I can still not get used to the weight. And I always feel fat

Redness82

When I was a kid, I got made fun of for my nose.. which was apparently larger than life! And let me tell you, it is a bit bigger and I've broken it several times as a kid so it also has small bump.... I had an ex tell me that he loved my nose and it was beautiful (out of the blue..) and I broke down in tears!! I've now accepted my nose.. or maybe just grown into it a bit!


I also was made fun of for my hair... ALOT!!! It is a very unusual color in the small town I grew up in.. and I got a lot of nasty notes saying my hair was the color of "s#@*," which often broke my heart. Now, it is one of the things that I love most about myself and one of the biggest things my current boy toy LOVES about me!

I've grown more confident over the years which definitely helps, but I still have my insecurities..

And I have to agree, everybody here is beautiful!!