No, "it" isn't an open invitation for you to ....

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  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    I don`t have anything anybody wants.pouty.gif
  • red01angel
    red01angel Posts: 806 Member
    My hair is naturally very red...and in certain parts of the country (thank god not so much here in L.A.), people think it's ok to just come up to me and TOUCH MY HAIR!

    I don't mind people asking me if it's natural.
    I don't even mind when people ask me what brand my colorist uses and who he/she is. I truly take those comments as compliments...
    ...but if I don't know you, don't effing reach out and touch me unless I say you can! It's just as rude as touching a pregnant stranger's stomach.

    On 2 occasions, I've had scissor wielding people come up to me wanting to cut a snippet of my hair to take to their colorist to match. While it's flattering that they like my hair enough to want to copy it...are you effing kidding me? CUT OFF PART OF MY HAIR FOR YOU?! No.
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    not sure if this counts.... but

    "it's" not okay to assume just because I am tall for a chick that I play basketball or volleyball.

    my sport is soccer, thanks!

    My husband's response is "no, I don't play basketball. Do you play miniature golf?"
  • _snw_
    _snw_ Posts: 1,298 Member
    ~ tell me the tattoo YOU want to get or your sister wants to get and ask my opinion. I'm just trying to buy a coffee, I don't care. And I'm pretty sure the tweety bird design you want is going to be awesome.


    Ok, but what if I wanted to get Sylvester the cat instead of tweety bird...would that still be awesome???


    hahhaahha. YES. Even more awesome.
  • sheepysaccount
    sheepysaccount Posts: 608 Member
    Yes, I do have an "it", but so far people have asked me if they could take a closer look. Mind you, only people who actually know me and whom I don't mind touching me :)
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member
    my favorite question of all was when i was in the chair last month getting my arm done and a lady said "Does it hurt?" ya think?

    My answer is always "Only until it stops." lol
  • YukonJoy
    YukonJoy Posts: 1,279 Member
    ~ touch me. Seriously. Stop touching me. I can't tell you how many people have just grabbed my sleeve or back of my shirt to look under my clothes to see what else I've got going on.

    OH good lord, people do that to me too. And then they rub my tattoos.

    BACK AWAY FROM THE MERCHANDISE!!!!!
  • _snw_
    _snw_ Posts: 1,298 Member
    People giving me parenting advice. I have 4 kids, been there done that, got the t-shirt. I don't need your opinion on poop, breastfeeding, formula feeding, puke, food, baby-wearing, co-sleeping, making my own food, spanking, discipline or anything else kid related. I will raise my kids the best way I know how and do what I feel is best for them. If you don't like it, TOUGH!!!

    I can totally relate to this one too!


    ~this~ too. And being pregnant and getting pregnant advice and ppl touching my belly.
  • DeeJayTJ
    DeeJayTJ Posts: 355 Member
    wow, to the original poster...

    do you think people are creepy if they compliment you on your tattoos?

    im generally an outspoken person and enjoy being social.. your post makes me never want to say anything nice to someone again about their awesome artwork.

    thanks for that. :(
  • deadstarsunburn
    deadstarsunburn Posts: 1,337 Member

    ~ tell me why YOU would never get a tattooo. I don't come up to you and tell you why i would NEVER wear the hairstyle you are wearing.

    If I had a penny for time someone said this to me about my tattoo or piercings.....It's RUDE and annoying, I don't think they get it. Usually they say that and I end the conversation by going silent and doing something else, makes it awkward and I never hear them say it again to me anyway.
  • UpEarly
    UpEarly Posts: 2,555 Member
    After I tell you I am married and don't have children, it is NOT OK for you to:

    1) Ask why I don't have kids

    2) Ask when I plan on having kids

    3) Tell me that you're sure I'll change my mind (I'm 40, have been married 15 years and my husband has had a vasectomy - we're pretty darn sure that babies are not for us!)

    4) Tell me you think it's 'weird' for a woman not to want children

    Seriously... everyone from family to acquaintances to people I just randomly meet seems to think my fertility and child-bearing prospects are suitable for casual conversation. Everyone also seems to feel entitled to an opinion. Drives me nuts!
  • Yes I have boobs and don't live in turtle necks because they make me look fat so....

    Yes 'it' is cleavage but no it doesn't give you an excuse to stare, point, touch, or talk to it!

    YES!!!!

    Awww - that made me sad!
  • Mythel
    Mythel Posts: 72
    "what does it MMMEEEAAAANNNN?" Oh good lord. Shut the hell up. I LIKE it, okay? I'm not an episode of LA Ink where everything has to have a freaking deep meaning to it.

    ^^^^^^ THIS!!!

    I have two very visible tattoos...one on each forearm, an om and a labyrinth. It is not my job to explain to you what these symbols mean (that's the job of the internet! ha!), or what they mean to me, or why I got them as opposed to something else.
  • wrevhn
    wrevhn Posts: 864 Member
    ya I suppose, having one arm causes a few ....disruptions?

    kids, their parents...

    a dog sees me and thinks nothing of it, but let a human see you missing a limb and you might as well be a lizard person from some far away galaxy eating human babies.
  • Maybe you are so amazing people just want to talk to you!
  • _snw_
    _snw_ Posts: 1,298 Member
    wow, to the original poster...

    do you think people are creepy if they compliment you on your tattoos?

    im generally an outspoken person and enjoy being social.. your post makes me never want to say anything nice to someone again about their awesome artwork.

    thanks for that. :(

    When did I say someone complimenting them was unwanted?
  • wrevhn
    wrevhn Posts: 864 Member
    After I tell you I am married and don't have children, it is NOT OK for you to:

    1) Ask why I don't have kids

    2) Ask when I plan on having kids

    3) Tell me that you're sure I'll change my mind (I'm 40, have been married 15 years and my husband has had a vasectomy - we're pretty darn sure that babies are not for us!)

    4) Tell me you think it's 'weird' for a woman not to want children


    Seriously... everyone from family to acquaintances to people I just randomly meet seems to think my fertility and child-bearing prospects are suitable for casual conversation. Everyone also seems to feel entitled to an opinion. Drives me nuts!


    YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! X A MILLION
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    I walk with a cane-- this is not an open invitation for you to

    1. Open our conversation with "what's wrong with your leg?" or just "what's wrong with you?" I actually have just started answering with "Nothing, what's wrong with you?" It's one thing if you know me, but from strangers it's like going up to someone with a huge zit and asking what's wrong with their face.

    2. Give me medical advice-- I have a doctor for that, thanks.

    3. Tell me about how if I a.) ate all raw b.) went gluten free c.) drank, cooked, and bathed with only distilled water d.) cut out carbs or e.) ate a bunch of gin-soaked prunes I would immediately feel better and have no more symptoms. Believe me, if any of that stuff worked, I wouldn't have the cane.

    4. Lecture me about the medications I take. Again, I have a doctor for that.

    ETA one more: 5. Tell me that I'm "too young" to have joint problems. Ummm tell that to my joints!

    And I totally agree with the pregnancy/parenting advice one. I am dreading the part of being pregnant where I have to tell people to please not touch me. :P
  • Suziq2you
    Suziq2you Posts: 396 Member
    I have a son with Down syndrome. It does not mean you should talk above him, around him, or under him. Talk TO him. Trust me. He understands. And when he answers you in sign language, I'll translate.
  • Mythel
    Mythel Posts: 72
    wow, to the original poster...

    do you think people are creepy if they compliment you on your tattoos?

    im generally an outspoken person and enjoy being social.. your post makes me never want to say anything nice to someone again about their awesome artwork.

    thanks for that. :(

    I'm not the OP but...I don't think it's wrong to have someone compliment my tattoos but I don't feel I have to give you the "deep meaning" of them or defend my choice in having them. There is a big difference between a compliment and prying or being judgmental.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I just have something about me that some people think my purpose on this planet is to solve all their life's problems and mysteries. Apparently, I am Google, Dear Abby and WebMD in one. If I got a dollar every time someone asked me a question, I wouldn't need to find a job! :laugh:
  • PrincessLou71186
    PrincessLou71186 Posts: 741 Member
    People giving me parenting advice. I have 4 kids, been there done that, got the t-shirt. I don't need your opinion on poop, breastfeeding, formula feeding, puke, food, baby-wearing, co-sleeping, making my own food, spanking, discipline or anything else kid related. I will raise my kids the best way I know how and do what I feel is best for them. If you don't like it, TOUGH!!!

    I get this. A LOT. I don't even have children yet.

    When people find out I have been with hubby for nearly seven years, living with him a month less than I have been with him and married for over three years they instantly want to know why I haven't got children yet. It's not my fault we dont' have children (technically it is me that has the problems though), I am working on having them and frankly it's none of your business. And just because I am having problems, that does not mean you have the right to tell me to "relax and it will happen" or "you need to stop stressing because it won't happen" or "only those who believe in God are blessed with children, maybe you should start thinking about religion and taking it seriously" - Erm, no thanks, get lost before I hit you very hard ad enjoy watching your nose break, or "are you doing it right?" - Are you freaking kidding me with that one?!?!?

    N.B. I'm not a violent person. Usually.
  • AlSalzman
    AlSalzman Posts: 296 Member
    My "it" is kickboxing. People find out I train and prove that there is such a thing as a stupid question....

    No, I have not ever fought in the UFC.
    No, I do not train with your son's favorite fighter.
    No, I'm not going to beat you up during a meeting.
    No, I can't do flips and disappear in a puff of smoke like in the ninja movies.
    No, it doesn't feel good when you get punched, even with the big gloves and headgear.
    No, I don't know that school that you attended when you lived in a different state six years ago.
    No, I haven't killed anyone in the ring like Ivan Drago / Dolph Lundgren.
    No, I can't knock out a bear (yes, someone actually asked me this).
    No, I will not train your little brother in my basement.
    No, I can't show you enough is the next fifteen seconds to make bullies leave you alone.
    Yes, it's freakin' hard. If it was easy, you'd be there too.
  • jconnon
    jconnon Posts: 427 Member
    I have 5 kids, and often drag others around with me as well. I ALWAYS get

    ~Are they all yours?
    ~Do you own a tv?
    ~Don't you know what causes that?
    ~ Do you want/will you have more?
    ~Well, *I* could never have that many kids! (Nobody asked you to.)
    ~I could *never* stay home with my kids. They drive me crazy. (They'd probably drive me crazy too. Luckily I stay home with mine, not yours.)

    When i'm pregnant people seem to think they can just walk up and touch my belly. It doesn't matter if they know me or not, apparently pregnant bellies are public domain.

    When my babies were little I had more than one strange person come up to me and smell my baby. Yes, SMELL my baby. I always used to wash them in Johnson's Baby Wash. Random stranger would take a deep sniff of their teeny heads and say "oooohhhh I love the way babies smell!"

    It was kind of nice to see people loving on my babies, but a little weird when they were people I didn't know.


    Lol, my wife and I used to get all those questions. Less now that my kids are older. Now we get " it must be nice to go out without the kids" whenever we bump into anyone we know.
  • I wear vibram five fingers shoes to run in.

    No "it's" not permission to give me every opinion you have of them as far as safety, looks, or function, or why you'd never wear them.
    So true! Love my vibrams.
  • oldsoul918
    oldsoul918 Posts: 110 Member
    After I tell you I am married and don't have children, it is NOT OK for you to:

    1) Ask why I don't have kids

    2) Ask when I plan on having kids

    3) Tell me that you're sure I'll change my mind 4) Tell me you think it's 'weird' for a woman not to want children

    Seriously... everyone from family to acquaintances to people I just randomly meet seems to think my fertility and child-bearing prospects are suitable for casual conversation. Everyone also seems to feel entitled to an opinion. Drives me nuts!

    THIS!

    I had one friend ask who would take care of me when I was old if I didn't have children to do it. Do people really have kids for that reason??
  • jeffazi
    jeffazi Posts: 198
    Yes, I'm an attorney and no I will not fix your speeding ticket or help you incorporate your cupcake busines or get your cousin out of jail..........unless you pay me.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    I just have something about me that some people think my purpose on this planet is to solve all their life's problems and mysteries. Apparently, I am Google, Dear Abby and WebMD in one. If I got a dollar every time someone asked me a question, I wouldn't need to find a job! :laugh:
    So... you just need to start charging.
  • AlSalzman
    AlSalzman Posts: 296 Member
    Ad OP, c'mon... no one goes full-sleeves unless they enjoy being on display.

    If your tattoos weren't intended to differentiate and distinguish you from the herd, they'd be someplace concealable like mine are.
  • mlybrn
    mlybrn Posts: 31 Member
    I have my nose and lip pierced, and I have had customers at work commenting on them. Usually they're older people who don't 'approve' of facial piercings, but that's no excuse to comment on them.

    The best one was when an older man said to me "You're beautiful but why on earth would you put that thing in your face?"

    ???
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