No, "it" isn't an open invitation for you to ....
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when I was pregnant with my daughter strangers would think that my pregnant belly had an invited on it that said "rub me".
With my tats I always get asked "Did you think about how babd it is going to look when you get old and wrinkled"0 -
Not a problem any more, but: My waist-length hair is not an invitation for you to stick your nasty hands in it and play with it! Complete strangers would do this without even saying hi.
This ^^^ but mine is now to my bottom ... Trim time ... But uhhh everybody touches my hair .. Strangers flick my ponytail ect .. It's like wtf .. Are you right there ?!!!!!0 -
Go ahead and respond with your version of what "it" is ...
For me - it's my ink. Okay, I've got tattoos. So does a crapload of people. BUT, the fact my arms are visibily covered to my wrists does NOT give you an open invitation to ...
~ show me your ink. We're not all in a club. Having a tattoo isn't special. I don't put on a bra in the morning and then run up to everyone else wearing a bra and tell them HEY! LOOK AT MY BRA! I HAVE ONE TOOOOOO!!!!!
~ ask me any personal question under the damned sun. "Where do you get your work done?" Sure. But "How much did it cost?" and then following that up with "What do you do to have so much money to spend on that?" If/When I give you an answer. "what does it MMMEEEAAAANNNN?" Oh good lord. Shut the hell up. I LIKE it, okay? I'm not an episode of LA Ink where everything has to have a freaking deep meaning to it.
~ tell me the tattoo YOU want to get or your sister wants to get and ask my opinion. I'm just trying to buy a coffee, I don't care. And I'm pretty sure the tweety bird design you want is going to be awesome.
~ tell me why YOU would never get a tattooo. I don't come up to you and tell you why i would NEVER wear the hairstyle you are wearing.
~ explain to me how you don't like tattoos. Hey, I don't like those jeans you're wearing either but you don't see me giving you my reasons why.
~ touch me. Seriously. Stop touching me. I can't tell you how many people have just grabbed my sleeve or back of my shirt to look under my clothes to see what else I've got going on.
Do you have one??
^this, this is my "it"0 -
Yes, I'm in a wheelchair. No, I don't know your cousin that lives in Ohio that's in a chair too. I live in Georgia...it's not a freaking cult or something, we don't all know each other.0
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I have a little accent (apparently lol), and EVERYONE who hears me talk has to ask if I'm out of state, Australian, or British. Seriously, I don't even have an accent. My friend always jokes "You don't have an accent....you just talk funny!" Which I think is true haha my tongue looks way too big for my mouth and I can't say my R's, so people also ask if I'm from Boston. Ugh.
Also, just because I like wearing jeans that aren't hella tight, hoodies, plaid, skate shoes, have short hair, and never wear low cut shirts even though I have a D cup DOES NOT automatically make me a *kitten*! It's just what I like. I don't say that you look like a *kitten* just because you wear skirts, heels, a crapload of makeup and whatnot every day!
Oh and just because I have scars on my body doesn't mean it's necessarily self-inflicted. I do a lot of activities which involve falling and getting hurt. Don't ask about them when you're being insincere because you come off as a f*cking prick.
And ladies, if you complain that you're cold and I offer you my jacket to be polite, don't assume I'm in love with you or anything. I'm just trying to be helpful/get you to shut the hell up about "freezing".0 -
I wear my hair long (past my waist).
1) "Is that your real hair?" (Yep.)
2) "OMG IT'S SO SHINY..." *person proceeds to reach out and grab handfuls to play with*
3) "You should donate it!!!" (FFS. No. This one gets on my nerves more than strangers attempting to comb it with their grungy fingers.)
The goth factor gets a slew of "its" for this topic, but I'm not really sure where to begin/stop. They're almost ALWAYS questions about kink, and it's NO ONE's business to approach me on the street to ask about things like that.0 -
Go ahead and respond with your version of what "it" is ...
For me - it's my ink. Okay, I've got tattoos. So does a crapload of people. BUT, the fact my arms are visibily covered to my wrists does NOT give you an open invitation to ...
~ show me your ink. We're not all in a club. Having a tattoo isn't special. I don't put on a bra in the morning and then run up to everyone else wearing a bra and tell them HEY! LOOK AT MY BRA! I HAVE ONE TOOOOOO!!!!!
~ ask me any personal question under the damned sun. "Where do you get your work done?" Sure. But "How much did it cost?" and then following that up with "What do you do to have so much money to spend on that?" If/When I give you an answer. "what does it MMMEEEAAAANNNN?" Oh good lord. Shut the hell up. I LIKE it, okay? I'm not an episode of LA Ink where everything has to have a freaking deep meaning to it.
~ tell me the tattoo YOU want to get or your sister wants to get and ask my opinion. I'm just trying to buy a coffee, I don't care. And I'm pretty sure the tweety bird design you want is going to be awesome.
~ tell me why YOU would never get a tattooo. I don't come up to you and tell you why i would NEVER wear the hairstyle you are wearing.
~ explain to me how you don't like tattoos. Hey, I don't like those jeans you're wearing either but you don't see me giving you my reasons why.
~ touch me. Seriously. Stop touching me. I can't tell you how many people have just grabbed my sleeve or back of my shirt to look under my clothes to see what else I've got going on.
Do you have one??
yes. this. i'll literally be out with HEADphones on (my own personal 'do not disturb' sign) and have people interrupt what i'm doing. most of the time i'm okay with it, but some days i don't feel like having a board meeting about my artwork.eyelashes... YUP... eyelashes... I can't count how many people come up to me and ask if they are real, which is fine... I know they a prety sweet... but several people have tried to "pet" them... like I was some sort of puppy dog... who touches someone's eyelashes...? No touch!
while i've never had anyone try to 'pet' my eyelashes, i have been asked if they're real0 -
I have a few...
My Tattoo - Yes there's a meaning behind it but just because you ask what it is doesn't mean I'm going to tell you
Vegetarianism - Do I really have to spell out my reasons for not eating meat to every single person who finds out I'm veg?
Languages - Just because I speak more than one language doesn't mean I want to "Say something in ...."0 -
~ touch me. Seriously. Stop touching me. I can't tell you how many people have just grabbed my sleeve or back of my shirt to look under my clothes to see what else I've got going on.
I agree with all your points, but THIS one especially, I have a halk sleeve on my right arm, and another on my leg, why the hell do people think they can just start grabbing and twisting and inspecting!?!? get the **** out of my personal space!0 -
Ok i got one
Yes my husband is in the military, yes its hard, no i cant tell you where he is or when he will be back, its for only me to know, i have no info on anything important so stop asking me a million and one questions about what he does HE does it not me. Yesi know you could not be on a submarine not many can lol. Yes my kids miss him and yes we do a lot of things on our own why must you bring it up in front of my kids for them to ask you about it. I get this so so often and it gets old fast lmao
this is usually people that see me often like people who work in stores or restaurants i go to and notice i have a ring but never a husband lmao Or for those who i just meet and ask if i am married and where he is all the time.
My husband is a submariner too and I get sooooo sick of being asked so many questions. And it really sucks to try to explain it over and over so I've tried just saying "I don't want to discuss it" and then they assume my marriage is in trouble and ask me all about that.
I've learned from this thread that a.) people are very rude and b.) they seem to be oblivious to the fact that they're being rude
oh i know alot of times i will say not really feel like talking about it and that means we are on the outs lol WOW people are so insane0 -
For me it was my hair colour (which used to be dark pink) Not really anything people said. But people would stare!
It's like, FFS! Just because you are boring and snobby and would never dare to have something other then a normal colour, doesn't mean you need to stare at me like I'm some kind of freak when I'm picking my daughter up from school!
And yeah, I do tend to think, "what, did you get your eye's for Xmas!" or "why don't you just take a picture!"0 -
Go ahead and respond with your version of what "it" is ...
For me - it's my ink. Okay, I've got tattoos. So does a crapload of people. BUT, the fact my arms are visibily covered to my wrists does NOT give you an open invitation to ...
~ show me your ink. We're not all in a club. Having a tattoo isn't special. I don't put on a bra in the morning and then run up to everyone else wearing a bra and tell them HEY! LOOK AT MY BRA! I HAVE ONE TOOOOOO!!!!!
~ ask me any personal question under the damned sun. "Where do you get your work done?" Sure. But "How much did it cost?" and then following that up with "What do you do to have so much money to spend on that?" If/When I give you an answer. "what does it MMMEEEAAAANNNN?" Oh good lord. Shut the hell up. I LIKE it, okay? I'm not an episode of LA Ink where everything has to have a freaking deep meaning to it.
~ tell me the tattoo YOU want to get or your sister wants to get and ask my opinion. I'm just trying to buy a coffee, I don't care. And I'm pretty sure the tweety bird design you want is going to be awesome.
~ tell me why YOU would never get a tattooo. I don't come up to you and tell you why i would NEVER wear the hairstyle you are wearing.
~ explain to me how you don't like tattoos. Hey, I don't like those jeans you're wearing either but you don't see me giving you my reasons why.
~ touch me. Seriously. Stop touching me. I can't tell you how many people have just grabbed my sleeve or back of my shirt to look under my clothes to see what else I've got going on.
Do you have one??
YOU also forgot, people asking you what the hell it means0 -
My milkshake. All the boys think it's an open invitation to get in my yard.
It's not.0 -
For me - it's my ink. Okay, I've got tattoos. So does a crapload of people. BUT, the fact my arms are visibily covered to my wrists does NOT give you an open invitation to ...
~ touch me. Seriously. Stop touching me. I can't tell you how many people have just grabbed my sleeve or back of my shirt to look under my clothes to see what else I've got going on.
THIS! The worst is when they grab my arm and crank it around to see my sleeve. Excuse me! I have an injured shoulder and it hurts like crazy when you move it and even if I knew you this would not be acceptable (injury or not). Second worst is the caress. What the hell makes anyone think it's OK rub their hands up and down a strangers skin, keep your freaking hand off me!0 -
My 'it' was when I was pregnant!!! Just because I have a baby bump doesn't mean you can touch it!!! Then everyone asking me if my kids are twins. That drives me INSANE I mean "Yes, they are 13 months and 5 days apart but that doesn't mean they are twins" Grrr.0
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My milkshake. All the boys think it's an open invitation to get in my yard.
It's not.
This made me laugh. But now I have the freaking song in my head.0 -
Go ahead and respond with your version of what "it" is ...
For me - it's my ink. Okay, I've got tattoos. So does a crapload of people. BUT, the fact my arms are visibily covered to my wrists does NOT give you an open invitation to ...
~ show me your ink. We're not all in a club. Having a tattoo isn't special. I don't put on a bra in the morning and then run up to everyone else wearing a bra and tell them HEY! LOOK AT MY BRA! I HAVE ONE TOOOOOO!!!!!
~ ask me any personal question under the damned sun. "Where do you get your work done?" Sure. But "How much did it cost?" and then following that up with "What do you do to have so much money to spend on that?" If/When I give you an answer. "what does it MMMEEEAAAANNNN?" Oh good lord. Shut the hell up. I LIKE it, okay? I'm not an episode of LA Ink where everything has to have a freaking deep meaning to it.
~ tell me the tattoo YOU want to get or your sister wants to get and ask my opinion. I'm just trying to buy a coffee, I don't care. And I'm pretty sure the tweety bird design you want is going to be awesome.
~ tell me why YOU would never get a tattooo. I don't come up to you and tell you why i would NEVER wear the hairstyle you are wearing.
~ explain to me how you don't like tattoos. Hey, I don't like those jeans you're wearing either but you don't see me giving you my reasons why.
~ touch me. Seriously. Stop touching me. I can't tell you how many people have just grabbed my sleeve or back of my shirt to look under my clothes to see what else I've got going on.
Do you have one??
You summed one of mine up perfectly. I don't mind people commenting on them-thats to be expected, but I don't want to see your tats, hear about what tattoo you want etc and I'm not about to delve into a debate with some random person on why tattoo's aren't evil or what they represent.
My other would be in regards to my son. Yes, he's 3, of course I know he doesn't talk and I know most 3 year olds are. I don't need you telling me how I should make him talk. I also don't need you assuming he's not getting any help.0 -
Yes I am smaller then you, yes I'm trying to lose more weight, no its not an open invitation for you to ***** at me and call me anorexic or say I'm trying to look like a skeleton when you have never seen me naked and didn't know me before I gained 20lbs from pregnancy.
Yes I am a vegetarian, no I don't care why you would NEVER give up meat nor do I care to argue as to why animals are here on the planet if they aren't for human consumption and explain why we have canine teeth.0 -
my "it" is my children...I have triplets and when I was pregnant everyone would ask if it was natural..l.why yes it was and how would you like me to ask you about your sex life stranger...they would also tell me that I looked too small to be having triplets...my in head response was well how many pregnant with triplet women have you seen in your life?
Now that they are here I can barely go out in public without people stopping to stare at them and again ask about their "naturalness" however the worst thing I get is "OH YOU POOR THING" or anything to that degree..."EXCUSE ME BUT THESE ARE MY CHILDREN AND I WOULD NOT GIVE THEM UP FOR ANYTHING, THEY ARE A BLESSING FROM GOD AND I WOULDN'T CHANGE MY LIFE RIGHT NOW IF I COULD!"0 -
My "It" is my toys... don't touch them. I don't care if you just want to scare your friends or used a frat paddle in collage hazing. This is my work equipment. If you want your own we can talk about having a set made for you, but these are custom made to fit my tiny hands. It cost about $80 to get a new handle put on per piece. Not to mention you just wacked your wife in the kidney. I hope she enjoys pissing blood for the next few days. You clearly don't know what you are doing. If you like I offer classes that start you off with safety props til you learn something. There is big signs everywhere saying don't try this at home, I am a professional and even I am continuing to take classes for your safety. Why do you think you can jump in and do what I do at my level?
My other "it" is my boyfriend at events. Yes he's a big guy, yes he's wearing a medical alert bracelet, no they are not related. No you don't need to know what his medical issues are. I don't care if you have medical training. The staff where ever we are knows in advance. Not to mention if there is an issue I'm right here and I am his handler. He does not leave my side at events and yes that includes going to the bathroom, but none of that is any of your business either.
I have no idea what you are talking about.
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My milkshake. All the boys think it's an open invitation to get in my yard.
It's not.
You should consider putting up a fence. Milkshakes are pretty irresistible.0 -
I'm from South Africa, been living in Canada for 11 years and don't sound Canadian at all, so I often get the:
"so where are you from?" - Vancouver....
"no, really!". OK, South Africa..
Oh, Africa!....uhm...no, SOUTH Africa - Africa is the continent, South Africa is the country...You are not from North America, you are from Canada/ the USA....
"Oh....But you're not black?" uhm...no, very little sunshine around here - and I was born with a pale skin....
"But you're from AFRICA!!" :sad: :explode:
And then the final one that makse me want to eat a whole pizza and TWO bottles of red wine...
"so, how long have you been in South Africa?":flowerforyou: - Uhm, since I was born many many moons ago...
"so, how long have your parents lived there?" that basically leads to me tracing back my South African ancestry to 1652, which normally leads to a talk about the weather.....:laugh:
I actually told one woman one day that I was black before I came here, but am now as pale as a fish due to the lack on sunshine in Vancouver....She nodded politely and said "wow. poor you..." :bigsmile:
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I have a few
I'm an oncology nurse
No I don't want to hear about your friend/relative/guy at your work that has cancer.....lots of people have cancer, cancer sucks
No I don't know if that freckle on your arm is a melanoma
No I don't wanna feel the lump in your boob
No I'm not a freaken doctor, do not ask me to diagnose you
No I don't know about cardiac/renal/surgical/neuro patients...I know oncology
No it's not ok to say "that must be so hard/sad/depressing" "I couldn't work in oncology"...I love my job, I love my patients, yes it sucks when they die, but I get to share the journey with them
I'm also a mother of 3 girls aged 11, 6 & 5 and I'm 28
Yes I was 17 when I had my oldest, I'm no glad you can do maths
It's not ok to ask if they were planned
It's not ok to ask if they have the same father
It's not ok to make assumptions about me and my parenting abilities because I started young
I's not ok for strangers to ask me how old I am when I'm out with my girls
And lastly
I'm 5'5 and 121lbs...I watch my cals and I work out
No, I'm not trying to lose "weight"....I'm skinny fat, I want muscle tone, I wanna be strong
It's not ok to assume that because I've always been skinny I can eat what I want (I could but it's not healthy)
No it's not about being skinny it's about being healthy, strong and fit
It's not ok to try and "feed" me when I'm at your house, I don't need "fattening up"
It's not ok to ask me if I have an eating disorder, I don't.... I love food, I'm just trying to eat things that are better for me and set a good example for my kids
Plus all the parenting, pregnancy, tattoo and hair ones already said0 -
Unfortunately, I have one of those hat/scarf/mitten things that people wear, and I have a Hello Kitty one... haha, don't ask. Anyhow, people I don't even know will come up to me and be like "Can I pet your hat?" and it's extremely strange.0
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Unfortunately, I have one of those hat/scarf/mitten things that people wear, and I have a Hello Kitty one... haha, don't ask. Anyhow, people I don't even know will come up to me and be like "Can I pet your hat?" and it's extremely strange.
OMG I want one of them :happy:0 -
Another thing.
Just because I ask for advice, because obviously I want advice. It doesn't give people a warrant to be insulting and judgmental!
I asked for your advice you prats, not to be insulted dumbass!0 -
I have 5 kids, and often drag others around with me as well. I ALWAYS get
~Are they all yours?
~Do you own a tv?
~Don't you know what causes that?
~ Do you want/will you have more?
~Well, *I* could never have that many kids! (Nobody asked you to.)
~I could *never* stay home with my kids. They drive me crazy. (They'd probably drive me crazy too. Luckily I stay home with mine, not yours.)
That's one of mine. The other is that we homeschool. The list for that one is so long it would break the server. :bigsmile:0 -
When people tell me, "OH you've already been married for so long, time to have kids!"
I.hate.EVERYTHING.about.kids.
Pregnancy DISGUSTS me to the fullest extent possible. It's not a freaking miracle, it's nature. I dont appreciate people telling me that I need to procreate just because I'm married to a great man and that I'm young and you want grandbabies. Go bark up another damn tree.
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My other one is that my husband is an MMA coach/trainer, and he used to fight. So I get to hear:
"Why do you let him do that?" -- Seriously? First, he's a grown man, not my child. Second, why would I stop him from participating in his PASSION in whatever way he chose to do so?
"How can you stand to see him get hurt/I could never stand to see my man get hurt" -- Because there is a huge, huge difference between getting hurt in a consensual, refereed sporting match and getting hurt when you slip on some ice or fall down the stairs or some other accidental injury. I don't care about my husband less because I can "stand" for him to get punched in the face... I don't like it if he gets hurt, but I trust his ability to protect himself and to decide what situations he can handle.
"Oh, that's so brutall!" -- Um, no. No it's not. Intense, maybe.0 -
my hair. it's naturally curly, like those corkscrew curls...and everyone wants to touch it.
do. not. touch. my. hair. ever.
i will not even let my husband touch it!0
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