Worst negative comment about your weight?
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The main one that sticks in my head was seeing someone I hadn't seen in years. We had our hellos and went on our way. As I was walking away I heard him say to his friend "Damn, she got big!"
If you're gonna be a douche at least do it to my face so I can punch you in yours *grumble*
Luckily my family tries to stay positive. I don't think I could handle what some of you have posted.
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I've had a few nasty comments said to me, but I only remember the cruel things I'd say in response without even thinking. My attitude, especially when I was younger, was to hurt you 10x as much as you had hurt me. So, I don't recall exactly what these two girls had said, but I had replied "Fat is temporary, but (their race) is forever. I guess I'm the lucky one, huh." One girl was livid, and the other's mouth dropped open and stayed that way. I kept walking. I don't know why I reacted so badly.
The best thing to remember is that your condition is temporary. People will not be making those comments forever to you. They will be making those kinds of comments forever to others, though, because their personalities are rank. Do you want to be like them, i asked myself?
I'm still ashamed of that to this day. Comments still hurt, but you can't hear anything if you have your iPod on, right?
Edit: Oh, and we all have dirt on each other in my family, so we keep our mouths shut unless we really want to invite the pain!
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Sad, how many of these are from parents. I've gotten the pregnant thing several times, and I tend to respond with a chipper, "Nope, just fat, thanks."
The worst are my mom. On my WEDDING DAY, as she's helping me into my dress, she says, "You know, I really thought you'd lose weight for your wedding." (In retrospect, she lost weight for my wedding. By eating about 1100 calories a day. Gained it all back afterward, too.)
And twice now, most recently at Christmas, she's asked if I've considered weight loss surgery. My response the first time was no. And I told her the several reasons why, primary being that I know that if I eat right, I'll lose it. This time, she said, "Now, am I remembering righht that you're not a candidate for surgery?" This after we told her we were watching calories and after I'd shown her my MFP app.
I have decided to stop talking to her about weight, and just get on with it.
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i love how most of these comments that r so rude r from our friends and family do they really think saying things like that makes it better.. my mom always hinted to me being bigger and she use to point at my belly and say if ur gonna wear that shirt suck it in and not to be rude to her but she was almost twice my size. one day she told me that i looked heavy in a shirt and that i had a huge muffin top and then the next night she asked to borrow a shirt of mine and remembering what she said to me before i told her no i didn't want it stretched out then i felt bad0
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i love how most of these comments that r so rude r from our friends and family do they really think saying things like that makes it better.. my mom always hinted to me being bigger and she use to point at my belly and say if ur gonna wear that shirt suck it in and not to be rude to her but she was almost twice my size. one day she told me that i looked heavy in a shirt and that i had a huge muffin top and then the next night she asked to borrow a shirt of mine and remembering what she said to me before i told her no i didn't want it stretched out then i felt bad
Exactly -- it's hurts more when you realize you stooped to their level, huh? >.<0 -
My sister was showing her new boyfriend (who I had only just met ) some photos from when we were younger (and skinnier) she told him that I used to have a body like Kylie Minogue. He turned around and said wow! you looked HOT! ... What happened???...........*kitten*!!!!0
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Too many to think of at this point but..
- typical nicknames in primary school
- in high school,I had to share a seat with a really thin girl and a group of guys behind us were pointing and laughing and "waiting for me to fall off of the chair".. didnt happen.
And from my family, if I didnt want to eat because I was legitmately ill etc. theyd comment sarcastically how I must be trying a rad diet to lose weight.0 -
My father sold his house 5 years ago and gave all of my siblings $1,000.00 cash.... all of my siblings but not me, stating "Lose 100 pounds and ill give you your share, that should motivate you." I was 17 and 180 lbs at the time...
My mom once told me while I was putting on my makeup for the day that I "could apply all the makeup in the world but it won't help if i'm fat."
wow! you take the cake for insults!0 -
I used to get told all the time by family that I was the smart sister.( My mom )whom I dont speak to anymore would tell ppl I had pork chop cheeks, and she always thought she d have to pay someone to take me to the prom. She always failed to mention I went to 5 proms in 3 yrs. She always was talking about how small my sisyet was and how she could wear what she wanted and it was shame I didnt have more choices for clothes.0
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A few years ago, a distant cousin said: You'd look more like your mom if you were smaller. (My mom was a skinny minnie growing up. At some point in childhood she gained a bit and was a size 14 for 1-2 years. These days she's 6-8. I don't really have her body type at all. The only thing I have in common with my mom body wise is mostly the limbs: bigger arms, bigger thighs. I also passed her in the breast department by 7th grade. She has skinnier legs, and a longer torso.)
That was probably the mot obnoxious. When I was much younger (8-10) I got comments like: you could be a model if you lost your tummy. That was about the time I decided to ignore people's comments about my body.0 -
boyfriend (now ex) : if you lost weight, you would probably be better in bed
mum (after losing 15kg) : i know you've lost a bit of weight but you're stomach is still too big and that dress just accentuates it.
my aunty would always say stuff behind my back (not completely sure what) but when she say me at christmas she was like... oh ****! :noway: :laugh: tehehe was funny.
my manager (i got him fired
whoops) told me i would be prettier if i lost 10kgs
the one that upsets me the most though is when people find out I'm gonna be a CPT and they look me up and down with a eyebrow raised and are like... "uhhuh"0 -
i went to my grandmas house one day and we were talking..i tld her i had started working out and eating better..she said "good,now your body can match your beautiful face.".i was so upset that day.old people can be so mean but it only motivated me more. 0
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hahaha awesome come back!I went to the beach recently (a big step for me), was having a lovely day, beach was pretty secluded, went for a swim and then decided to dry off by laying in the sun and reading my book. A guy walking past said to his friend "let's go down the other end, get away from the beached whale". He then looked straight at me and smirked. I was pretty pleased with my come back though "I'd insult you back mate, but I can see nature has already done it for me." Hehehe - I've always wanted to use that line!0 -
A few weeks ago my husband and I were staying at his fathers.. and his father took me aside and told me that I smelled like a fat person and that it was difficult to be around me sometimes and to not take offense if him and his girlfriend and her kids back away from me when I'm talking to them or don't eat around me or won't be in the same room as me.
That hurt me worst of all. I have been called every name in the book and I'm sure a few that aren't and I was always a really good sport about it. But, I really respected that man (because I didn't have a dad growing up) and thought of him like a dad.
It still hurts me and when I think about it, it gives me more inspiration to lose weight and throw his nasty comments back in face with a rocking hot body 0 -
'You're only pretty when you've lost weight!'
That was what a very upfront friend told me 12 years ago and I sat in the club crying all night. It's all I think about now when I put on weight! When I am heavier I have a lot of issues about going out now and can tear apart my entire wardrobe frantically trying to find something to cover myself up. I'm so much happier now I'm near my Target. It's so hard to forget a comment like that....ever.0 -
classic come back! if they can dish it i say give it back! Noone likes to insult me now I go ape sh....ti love how most of these comments that r so rude r from our friends and family do they really think saying things like that makes it better.. my mom always hinted to me being bigger and she use to point at my belly and say if ur gonna wear that shirt suck it in and not to be rude to her but she was almost twice my size. one day she told me that i looked heavy in a shirt and that i had a huge muffin top and then the next night she asked to borrow a shirt of mine and remembering what she said to me before i told her no i didn't want it stretched out then i felt bad0 -
Wow you weigh how much?! Well, dont worry....you carry it really well!
How in the hell is that a compliment? lol0 -
A few years ago, when I was in graduate school (and teaching courses at my college for money), I was doing some grocery shopping. A woman stocking the shelves came over to me and said, "Honey, you're pretty but if you don't lose weight you're never going to get a good job."
I just smiled and thanked her for the advice, but I was pretty horrified. I'm sure she wasn't trying to be mean--I've read the studies that say some aspect of pay/job availability is based on weight. But still: ouch.0 -
I was pretty thin growing up but I packed on weight my sophomore year of high school when I started a new medication. My two best friends are very thin and I went with them one halloween to some party. Of course they wore cute sexy costumes and I tried to be a good sport and wear one too. However, when I walked into the party, a very tall and overweight guy, was like "Damn, the girl in the stripes is FAT!" I left immediately after, and cried for quite a while. It hurts when people who dont know anything about you insult you like that. Because I know I'm a great person and it just crushed me. ): But he can suck it, because I've lost 30lbs since, and an additional 8 since starting this site. (And it doesnt hurt that my boy friend thinks Im the sexiest thing ever (: )0
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A few years ago, when I was in graduate school (and teaching courses at my college for money), I was doing some grocery shopping. A woman stocking the shelves came over to me and said, "Honey, you're pretty but if you don't lose weight you're never going to get a good job."
I just smiled and thanked her for the advice, but I was pretty horrified. I'm sure she wasn't trying to be mean--I've read the studies that say some aspect of pay/job availability is based on weight. But still: ouch.
Who do these people think they are? Who speaks to random strangers like that? Grrrrr the general public really annoy me! Besides there are very few very shallow jobs that base who they employ on weight and usually the weight they want their employees to aspire to can only be achieved through eating disorders. Who wants to work for nob jockeys like that anyway!0 -
The worst ones to my face were a boy at school who told me i was so fat my knees would crush under my weight. I was 13 years old, and about 9 stone, so only slightly. Chubby at the very most. That hurt big time and still carries with me now.
As an adult i have had at least 6 people ask me when the baby is due! And someone at work described me as the tubby one! Out of all the words they could have used to describe me, they chose to pick on my weight!
Im using them all as motivation now. 19 pounds lost so far.0 -
You're a good looking girl but if you lost weight you'd be beautiful.... Thanks (mother)
You're too fat for sex (ex boyfriend trying to "motivate" me to lose weight)
You're skin on your face is stretching so your pores look huge!! (mother again)
Omg!!!!!! What's wrong with people!?!? Lol. Thanks mom!0 -
My older sister has always been the worst for making horrible comments. In primary school she had all the kids call me 'piggy' that name followed me for years! There's less than a year age gap between us and I got my first bra before her, she used to say that I didn't really have boobs it was just extra fat from my stomach.
She put on weight while she was pregnant and a few months after she gave birth she was going on a night out and had nothing to wear, I took great pleasure in offering some of my clothes!0 -
Boy, what kind of people have you grown up with and come across? I sure had my fair share on the school yard, but I always had a wicked remark and might have just smacked one or the other.
Maybe I come across scary, I just snarl and people back off before even trying to give me any good advice ^^
Also I have to say my family has always been super suportive and so has my best fgriend. If your best friend tells you you are fat and embarassing to be seen with, I would rethink the whole friendship - wtf?0 -
I was asked by a customer in work the other day when I was due!0
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You look like a skeleton. I can't hug you incase you break. I get it's a bit different but that's only because I suffer with anorexia. Some of the things people have said to me are horrible it makes me feel stupid. Just because I'm underweight it doesn't mean it hurts any less. I'm in recovery, not doing so well right now but I want to prove to myself that I am beautiful and I can be strong.0
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The worst thing that I remember is when I'd just started secondary school, and a girl turned to me and said "I think me and you are probably the fattest in this class". It broke my heart. Not because I was the fattest in the class because I'd been used to that throughout primary school, but because this girl was about four stone HEAVIER than me, and was classing me in the same category as her. It just broke me. And ruined my entire high school life.0
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Two years ago, I had let myself go.
I hadn't seen my mother in six months. The first thing she says to me when she picks me up from the airport: "Holy s**t you weren't kidding when you said you gained weight!"
And, a month later, from my mother.
"You know, you're never going to look the way you want to. With how much you work out, you should be a model right now. Might as well give up."
And then from my aunt (who is 350lbs and knows nothing about nutrition)
"Honey, you have my genetics. Just give it up (about the exercise and eating properly). You're never going to be skinny."
I've lost 40lbs in the last two years and I've been working on toning my arms. I'm certainly no fitness model, but they don't look terrible. My aunt, the fat one, said to me last month "Wow. You have gorilla arms."
...I hate my family, lol.0 -
This hurt so much, after losing 20 pounds my dad who had lost a little was like neither of us are anyones after pictures, I know he didnt mean harm and all but idk, I wasnt really that big I didnt think, so it hurt0
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I think I can beat most of these insults.....
On my Wedding day, yes my wedding day!!!! My future mother-in-lam said as I came down the stairs in my wedding dress ....
"Here comes the bride 40 foot wide" My whole day was ruined... I said nothing to my husband at the time as I did not want to ruin his day aswell, i did tell him afterwards and his reply " ah don't mind her, she did'nt mean it"0
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