Worst negative comment about your weight?

beckylawrence70

I hate hearing, "Do you eat?" Very annoying........

HeidiHuenink

When I was a child, at a family gathering (relatives we didn't see that often) a great - aunt said, "Oh, you're the fat one!"

Also, my mother told me that I used to come home from school crying that someone called me "fat." I had completely blocked
that from my mind - don't even remember it. I knew I didn't like being fat, though!

Natelywills

I lost a bunch of weight very quickly and met up with a friend who hadn't seen me since the weight loss. She stood there literally for several minutes laughing because she didn't recognize me. It felt great at first but then she told me she was shocked because she didn't recognize me. She said it was amazing she could get both arms around me to hug, that I had been 'greedy' before and had a fat face but it was OK now because she could see my cheekbones. Nice... I went home and cried because I thought I had looked just terrible before and was hurt that she had thought of me as a 'piggy' (her words). It had the exact opposite effect to what I had hoped and I went on a major binge, which caused me to give up the diet plan (probably a good thing because it wasn't very healthy) and gain all that weight back. Which made me feel worse. Now I listen only to myself. I want to look good a FEEL good. For me. I get to be the judge of what's pretty and what's not and I keep people's opinions out of it, whether good or bad.

HeidiHuenink

I am so sorry you had to hear that from family members.

TopazCarey

I can't say that I've ever gotten too many negative comments about my weight. If people are saying mean things, then they're certainly keeping it to themselves.

However, one time I was with one of my best friends. And we decided to go visit her mother. I hadn't seen her in a year or so and the first thing she said when she saw me was, "Wow, you've put on a lot of weight."

I guess because I'm not use to people being so blunt about it, it really bugged me. I laughed it off at the time, but that was one of the things that really convinced me to make this change. So, I guess at the end of the day it was a good thing.

LazyDaise

My ex blamed the bad wifi signal on me and said that call of duty was slow because I was a "big, fat signal blocker".

bethm1210

Worst thing ever said to me was back in high school, when I thought I was fat, but wasn't. One of the guys in my class said, "Hey Beth, anybody ever tell you you have a nice butt? Probably not, cuz you DON'T!!!"

HeidiHuenink

This same thing happened to me. One summer when I was in college I lost 50 pounds. People's reactions were very strange.
Men whom I worked with previous summers and hadn't seen me were all of a sudden talking to me and wanting to go out with me. It just made me angry more than anything. It's hard to face the fact that so many people are superficial. I've learned that real friends are those who love and appreciate you no matter what weight you are!

gabadabadoo

I went to the beach recently (a big step for me), was having a lovely day, beach was pretty secluded, went for a swim and then decided to dry off by laying in the sun and reading my book. A guy walking past said to his friend "let's go down the other end, get away from the beached whale". He then looked straight at me and smirked. I was pretty pleased with my come back though "I'd insult you back mate, but I can see nature has already done it for me." Hehehe - I've always wanted to use that line!

HA! Love this response!

petewilson69

My daughter that's 4 asks why I have big boobs. And that daddies don't have them. :-/

DevanEve

My father sold his house 5 years ago and gave all of my siblings $1,000.00 cash.... all of my siblings but not me, stating "Lose 100 pounds and ill give you your share, that should motivate you." I was 17 and 180 lbs at the time...

My mom once told me while I was putting on my makeup for the day that I "could apply all the makeup in the world but it won't help if i'm fat."

That is horrible and the sad thing is that reminds me of my mother. Dear God that woman knew how to tear you down...

"Why must you sit down with all your weight, Devan?" "I heard stomping all throughout the house.. it was you with all your weight or Bigfoot."

Another thing she does is not invite me to visit her at her office anymore. She says that she doesn't want everyone to see how much weight I've gained because it's embarrassing.

raevynn

The most damaging comment I ever got was when I was 14.

I was not fat at 14. I was 5'3", and about 127 lbs. All curves (larger boobs and hips run wide in my family). I was at my older stepsister's house, before her baby's funeral. Her dad, my first stepdad, whom I had not seen in a couple of years, was in the front room.

I went out to see him, and hoped that he would notice I was "all grown up"... he looked at me, and said, "Wow, you've gotten fat!" then he looked back at his son-in-law, and they started laughing their heads off.

I was mortified. Absolutely. I can still feel my little 14 yr old self struggling to maintain some dignity as I walked away.

Elf_Princess1210

Fatass
Sumo wrestler
Whale
Fat*****
Cow ( dad liked to use this one)

Even if you lose weight you'll still be ugly so why bother ( ex husband, all kids in school from grades 5-12)


No one will ever want to date you if you're fat (dad)

How does it feel to be so fat and know that no man will ever **** you ( co worker from Africa. I promptly told her that all the African guys wanted me and asked her how it felt to be too skinny for an African man. That shut her up.)

Just kill yourself already. No one wants you (brother)

You're discusting, you're fat rolls are not sexy at all ( ex husband)

Where is your belly button ( said to me by a guy I had a one night stand with during nursing school)

Your tits are just huge and ugly. Real women's tits are between an a and a b. anything more than a handful and a mouthful is a waste. You're ugly ( another jewel from my ex husband)
The list goes on

petewilson69

beauty is on the inside.

I went to the beach recently (a big step for me), was having a lovely day, beach was pretty secluded, went for a swim and then decided to dry off by laying in the sun and reading my book. A guy walking past said to his friend "let's go down the other end, get away from the beached whale". He then looked straight at me and smirked. I was pretty pleased with my come back though "I'd insult you back mate, but I can see nature has already done it for me." Hehehe - I've always wanted to use that line!

HA! Love this response!

UNCWcutie

I tend to keep my weight in my belly and I always wear loose shirts and for the past few weeks I have been losing weight in my legs so my belly is even bigger in comparison to the rest of my body. I was at church a while back and my little sister started patting my belly and I told her to stop and a lady asked me she said, "Are you pregnant, people love to play with baby bellies". I told her no. I was so embarrassed.

UNCWcutie

People tell me stuff like that and I just tell them that I am much prettier than them because while they walk around looking like a bean pole I have sexy curves and guys will usually think that is much more attractive. Don't let people get you down.

mcldk

"Here love, you'd look all right after ten pints!!!

.......... Not 3 or 4 lol TEN! haha

queenmedusa

At my sisters wedding, where I was a bridesmaid, my aunt said "You look nice, you used to be really FAT didn't you?" She's not particularly thin herself.

Had forgotten about that comment for years but it came back into my brain the other day.

Not a comment to do with my weight but a girl from work told me I look nice when I make the effort (e.g. spent as much time tarting myself as she does, wearing too much make up and faffing with my hair). Good thing men like me whether I make that effort or not and I like me too!

noexcuses84

You're a good looking girl but if you lost weight you'd be beautiful.... Thanks (mother)

You're too fat for sex (ex boyfriend trying to "motivate" me to lose weight)

You're skin on your face is stretching so your pores look huge!! (mother again)

glad that guy is ur ex, u deserve so much better!

Piglet_26

For me it would have to be when I was getting dressed and looking in the mirror thinking to myself that on that particular day I looked Ok.....(ex) boyfriend walks in 'You do realise fat is not attractive?'

"££%£^&*&(*(*()*(_(^%^%$£$"$!"$4r3458242%£$^$%^ Makes me angry thinking about how rude some people can really be >_> This did infact really upset me but this was a few years ago now and has now become a running joke in the family.

sdereski

I think we all need hugs. {{{huggles}}} We will make all those wretched people eat their words!

I agree! These comments are breaking my heart. Why are people so mean? Hugs for all!

Me too. Reading this thread is making me so sad. How come people are so mean? I want to hug all of you. ((((())))))

thirtyandthriving

"when are you due?" of course. Several times...

I think the worst was when my daughter was about 10 months old and her spanish speaking grandparents were visiting. They Appearently didn't realize I'd taken several years of Spanish in college. They are talking to my daughter and saying how much she likes to eat...then grandpa says basically what translates to you will be fat like your mother.

I think the drop dead stare made them realize I knew a little Spanish.

josykay

Yes, I've enjoyed that same compliment. It's great when people go out of their way to be jerks!

noexcuses84

Fatass
Sumo wrestler
Whale
Fat*****
Cow ( dad liked to use this one)

Even if you lose weight you'll still be ugly so why bother ( ex husband, all kids in school from grades 5-12)


No one will ever want to date you if you're fat (dad)

How does it feel to be so fat and know that no man will ever **** you ( co worker from Africa. I promptly told her that all the African guys wanted me and asked her how it felt to be too skinny for an African man. That shut her up.)

Just kill yourself already. No one wants you (brother)

You're discusting, you're fat rolls are not sexy at all ( ex husband)

Where is your belly button ( said to me by a guy I had a one night stand with during nursing school)

Your tits are just huge and ugly. Real women's tits are between an a and a b. anything more than a handful and a mouthful is a waste. You're ugly ( another jewel from my ex husband)
The list goes on

OMG!!! i hope for ur sake these negative ppl r out of ur life for good!! u deserve so much better than all of that crap!!

leavingfat

Reading through these makes me want to cry...or throw something at someone.

I remembered something that I think bothered me more than the random Wal-Mart employee.

I met my mother-in-law about two weeks before I married my now-husband. She immediately told him to get rid of me, because a fat girl isn't a suitable girlfriend. (She didn't know yet that we were planning on getting married.)

The next day, while he was at work, she made tea and asked me to share it with her so we could get to know each other. The first thing she said was, "I don't think my son really loves you."

I said, "Why do you think that?"

She said, "He's not attracted to fat women."

I explained that, while I didn't doubt he preferred fit women, he was still very much in love with me.

I spent the next three hours with her making results about my weight, insulting my family, and making it clear that I wasn't good enough for her son.

We've been married for more than a year now and I actually like his mom now, for the most part. (I understand her better, at least.) But she STILL cannot be around me for more than two hours without bringing up my weight.

At Thanksgiving she suggested, after I mentioned that I can't stand reality tv, that they send me on the Biggest Loser.

Sigh. He won't spend very much time around her because of all this. I don't want him to say anything to her about it, but he's made it clear that it's getting difficult for him to stay quiet.

HannahMarieMcDougald

I get told all the time,"You have a pretty face"...WTF how about the rest of me...I said that one time and I was told I was a blob! So I just walked away.........................

reeniesing

From an old southern black lady. I wear a size 7 shoe. I used to wear a 6 to 6 1/2 before I gained my college 50. A lady said to me, "baby, if you get any bigger, your little feet won't be able to hold up your body."

:grumble:

Living4Liz2012

im down at 58 pounds now:] mine would be 1. damn you look good now but back in the day you was big...lol..funny now cause he's chasing after me cause he likes me but im taken...his lost but my gain:]

emsybabe

Mine is very fresh in my mind, it kick started all this, I knew I was fat obviously but had no idea my kids realised

My 8 year old son was drawing a picture of our family, when he was done he was showing us all who was who, he said there's mummy and my daughter, (only just turned 3!) said no, thats not mummy, my mummy is fat!

I was absolutly gutted, I didnt even realise she had any concept of fat/thin etc

It really was like an arrow through my heart, but I am turning this into a positive, I have lost 7lb the 1st week, 5lb the 2nd week and weigh in again tomorrow, by the time she is my sons age she wont even remember me fat!

chai_latte

I think out of all these years what stands out in my memory and still hurts me to this day was a comment I heard when I was about 10-11 years old.

My family & I had gone out to Pizza hut with another "uncle" and "aunty" who were friends with my parents. (btw we Indians call everyone uncle and aunty even if we aren't related to them haha). We were having our pizza and enjoying it when my brother who was sitting next to me started pouring some parmesan cheese on his pizza when this "uncle" decided to tell my brother "oh if you keep pouring cheese like that on your pizza you're going to end up fat like your sister" and he laughed.

My eyes welled up with tears, I put my pizza down. My brother told the "uncle" he was being pretty rude and he should not have said that but that's all I heard. I excused myself and went to the bathroom and sobbed my eyes out. That comment didn't necessarily motivate me to change, I was only 10-11 for heaven sake! It did scar me for many years, where I was very very harsh with myself all throughout highschool and into university, despite constant reassurances by my parents and friends that I was fine. By highschool I had lost my baby fat and I was very active and I looked great but I never allowed myself to think of myself as healthy looking.

Anyway it's been many years now and as much as I would like to say that his comments don't bother me anymore, I always get so riled up when I hear others saying such comments to children / teenage girls about how they look, I stand up for them and tell them to shut their mouth. Arghhh people these days!