Worst negative comment about your weight?
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This is the saddest thread ever...but I guess it's somewhat relieving to know that we all go through the same things.
The most insulting for me (and this is after years of bullying in school for being the tubby kid) was when my grandmother said "Hey, Fatty" at a family event. I know it was probably the alzheimers talking, but I was so taken aback by that.
Smile, everyone - we'll all have the last laugh when we're sexy and successful. You don't appreciate what you have unless you earn it - those people who've said this crap to you will always be jerks (edited to remove censored word
), and you can't cure that inside ugly.
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I had a child come up to me and ask me if there was a baby in my tummy - little kids are pretty honest though. That helped kick my butt in gear
I got this one too, yup, kicked me into gear too!0 -
OMG!!! i hope for ur sake these negative ppl r out of ur life for good!! u deserve so much better than all of that crap!!Fatass
Sumo wrestler
Whale
Fat*****
Cow ( dad liked to use this one)
Even if you lose weight you'll still be ugly so why bother ( ex husband, all kids in school from grades 5-12)
No one will ever want to date you if you're fat (dad)
How does it feel to be so fat and know that no man will ever **** you ( co worker from Africa. I promptly told her that all the African guys wanted me and asked her how it felt to be too skinny for an African man. That shut her up.)
Just kill yourself already. No one wants you (brother)
You're discusting, you're fat rolls are not sexy at all ( ex husband)
Where is your belly button ( said to me by a guy I had a one night stand with during nursing school)
Your tits are just huge and ugly. Real women's tits are between an a and a b. anything more than a handful and a mouthful is a waste. You're ugly ( another jewel from my ex husband)
The list goes on
They are. Now I have a wonderfully supportive and loving husband.0 -
"When are you due?"
My favorite! Now that my stomach is shrinking, I shouldn't have that question asked ever again!
I got asked this at my largest, and when I told her I was not pregnant, she looked me up and down and said "come on, yes you are!"..........yeah, that's right, she argued with me, for I swear several minutes. I cried a lot that day, but it was a turning point for me....but I will never forget it.
My husband has told me that he will never EVER ask a woman when she's due, unless he sees the head crowning right there!
Great!! My husband agrees! 0 -
I've heard a number of negative comments. But one of the most memorable was when I traveled overseas in 2005. I believe this was my first time on another continent and I was sooooo excited. I visited South Africa. I was at a restaurant where I had met a couple of people. We were leaving the restaurant wrapping up our conversation (exchanging contact information, etc.) when a lady came up to me, looked me dead in my face and said in a very matter-of-fact, European accent, " You have a very pretty face, but you are too fat" {with and extra emphasis on the words "too fat"}. This was in the first 24 hours of my trip. I had to fight to not let it ruin the rest of the trip for me {It ended up being a wonderful trip!}, but that comment stung.0
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Interesting too. I work in retail and i notice that if you say no to a customer for any reason and if they don't like it. They will insult the way you look to make themselves feel better. The other day my supervisor was doing a return and had to wait for her manager to come and approve it and during the wait the customer asked her how far along she was. She litterally just came back from having a baby and told the customer that she just had a baby. The customer said "oh so your just fat". I was just walking by and i heard that and boy did it bring back memories from my closet. Stuff like that happens alot in retail and its really sad that a majority of my customers are shallow and cruel. I use to get comments like that all the time when i was bigger but now that i am smaller they just talk about my sense of style. People are just really shallow in this world and i wish those jerks would hear themselves but again if they did. Do you think they would really care? I don't.0
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ignore, this, meant to reply to someone specifically0
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"You know....there are some people in society that would say that you were fat."
This came from my co-worker a week or so ago. Thanks for trying to be polite about it, I guess, but come on! Shortly after, he was looking through my old pictures on facebook and said,
"If I would have known you BACK THEN, I would have found you extremely attractive"
These were the first 'fat comments' I had received from outside my family, and by far the worst. My family says it more gentle, saying I need to work to be healthy and every so often pointing out that I've gained weight. Well now I can't wait to lose all the weight as a big "Screw you!" to all of them!0 -
</br>Oh! I have a lot of these! Once in college, we had to do presentations about the food of Mexico. The first presentation was 'pan dulce' a sweet bread. We were all given a little piece on a napkin. I don't like 'pan dulce' but to be polite, I was going to take the bite and the guy next to me says, "Oh, you shouldn't eat that! You're super fat!"
btw--at the time I had just given birth to my second child, I was 5'5 and weighed 170 pounds--definitely overweight, but not 'super fat'.
People are so UGLY! Honestly, what makes people think they can say what they like and it's OK because you're overweight? I throw it back out there these days. I figure if they have an excuse to be mean, so do I.
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Them: "wow, you have really gotten huge"
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Me: "thanks. I see your nose is still so huge you can smell the future."0 -
This is a toughie because you can't be mean back because it's your job. You could try, "excuse me madam, were you the that wanted those jeans in a size 28?" "no? oh... [looks at woman's jeans disapprovingly]"Interesting too. I work in retail and i notice that if you say no to a customer for any reason and if they don't like it. They will insult the way you look to make themselves feel better. The other day my supervisor was doing a return and had to wait for her manager to come and approve it and during the wait the customer asked her how far along she was. She litterally just came back from having a baby and told the customer that she just had a baby. The customer said "oh so your just fat". I was just walking by and i heard that and boy did it bring back memories from my closet. Stuff like that happens alot in retail and its really sad that a majority of my customers are shallow and cruel. I use to get comments like that all the time when i was bigger but now that i am smaller they just talk about my sense of style. People are just really shallow in this world and i wish those jerks would hear themselves but again if they did. Do you think they would really care? I don't.0 -
Wow. What a thread. Things I've learned reading some of these comments:
1. Never ask a woman when she is due. It's none of my business anyway
2. Family members seem to be the most cruel. Be very careful of anything I say to my family. Instead, just be a quiet example. They already know they need to lose weight. They just need to decide to do so like I have.
3. Say nice things or don't say anything at all ... especially until you look in the mirror first
4. When you do reach your desired weight, don't replace the fat you lost with puffed-up pride
5. Women seem to be the object of most of these comments. Do like my Grandma taught me... be polite.
Worst thing said to me: 30 years ago when I was below my goal weight of today, a girl noticed my stomach was growing even then and said, "You're not old enough to have a gut." The thing about it though is she was right.0 -
I forgot this one - I once left my jacket at my friend's house and, when I asked for it back, she said, "Oh, is it yours? It's so big that I assumed it belonged to one of the boys!" At the time I was a UK size 14 ...0
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People should not talk. A woman, who knew I was pregnant, had not seen me in a while. She asked me when was my baby due? Um, I had him 7 months ago, but thanks for asking.0
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its hard to read how unimaginably mean and insensitive people can be .. and especially family members and so called best friends? One poster mentioned that he would just be a quiet role model and let his family make to decision .. you are so right ..this journey is one you can only make for yourself.
I have never been really overweight but wanted to lose post baby(2) weight and the results of a chocolate addiction. I have lots of people asking me why I wanted to lose weight 'cos your already skinny'
Even my brother said to me "thats funny cos I always just thought of you as skinny" But while i didnt have a lot of weight to lose what i have lost had made me so much happier with my body, I feel healthier and better in my clothes .. isnt that what we all want really ?
You are all beautiful people and I hope you all your journeys are successful ... put all that ugliness behind you (and i am referring to others nasty comments)
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2 people from work asking if I'm expecting within the same week -__- then me awkwardly saying umm no I'm just fat.... lol0
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And once, when I was pregnant, a complete stranger asked me, "Are you pregnant?" "Yes" "Oh, Good! I thougtht you were just really fat."0
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I think I can beat most of these insults.....
On my Wedding day, yes my wedding day!!!! My future mother-in-lam said as I came down the stairs in my wedding dress ....
"Here comes the bride 40 foot wide" My whole day was ruined... I said nothing to my husband at the time as I did not want to ruin his day aswell, i did tell him afterwards and his reply " ah don't mind her, she did'nt mean it"
I woud of started bawling right there - and walked up to her and told her not to come - litterly - eff off !
man - i've heard some good ones.. but geeze where does she get off ---- makes me mad.. and then for your hubby to say " awe she didnt mean it... whatever, if she didnt mean it she wouldnt of said it.. Sorry for the rant.. but I'm angry for you0 -
For me it wasn't a comment it was an action. Always being the thin/small one.. so at Christmas I always had clothes purchased that were "S" then one year they purchased "L" -- I was mortified and then took a look in the mirror and understood why they bought the size L.0
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This is a toughie because you can't be mean back because it's your job. You could try, "excuse me madam, were you the that wanted those jeans in a size 28?" "no? oh... [looks at woman's jeans disapprovingly]"Interesting too. I work in retail and i notice that if you say no to a customer for any reason and if they don't like it. They will insult the way you look to make themselves feel better. The other day my supervisor was doing a return and had to wait for her manager to come and approve it and during the wait the customer asked her how far along she was. She litterally just came back from having a baby and told the customer that she just had a baby. The customer said "oh so your just fat". I was just walking by and i heard that and boy did it bring back memories from my closet. Stuff like that happens alot in retail and its really sad that a majority of my customers are shallow and cruel. I use to get comments like that all the time when i was bigger but now that i am smaller they just talk about my sense of style. People are just really shallow in this world and i wish those jerks would hear themselves but again if they did. Do you think they would really care? I don't.
Exactly, you can't insult them back. What i use to say when customers use to call me fat or you'd be so pretty if you lost weight at work. I would sarcastly say oh you are so funny. The customer would feel under attack but technically they are not. They would either do 3 thing.
1. the Customer would Justify to me why i should listen to them and not get offended. I would just keep repeating oh you are so funny and then they would eventually give up and go talk to my manager and tell them how they called me fat and think I'm offended. Its hilarious to me when i see them admit to my manager that they are jerks
2. The customer would applogize. This has happened to me maybe twice and i would dismiss it and say have a great day or would you like a bag. Changing the subject is key if you really wanna make them feel bad.
3. They will walk away.0 -
back in high school i was watching some boys play hacky sack and i told this one guy who was built like a brick wall that he was really agile for being so big, and i meant it in a complementary way and he rolled his eyes and said "oh yeah? well your pretty ugly for a fat girl"
and once my friend (who is 105 dripping wet, and like 5 foot) and i were walking down the street and this chick yelled out a car window "look out blondie! shes gonna eat you!!"0 -
One of my customers once told me she was going to go to her church and light a candle for me and pray to Jesus and Mary for me to lose weight. lol She's a little coo-coo so I didn't take it personally.0
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You are just not attractive to me....
When I was 260+ pounds - my wife...:sad:
As hard as that was to take, in the end, I am glad she was honest.
How many people fear bruising egos or hurting feelings?
"No dear, you look fine to me no matter how fat you are"
I think I'd rather somebody just be honest.0 -
Wow. I am so sorry that people are so cruel. I had no idea that so many other people had the same horrible comments permanently burned into their memory. I have so many examples of this.
My next door neighbors dad nicknamed me nugget when i was about 6. I had a near fatal accident when i was 8 and remember hearing a nurse say "She's lost a kilo from the trauma" and being ecstatic. How sad is that. Some boys at high school called me FB, which stood for Fat B****. A student I teach, yelled across the playground "She should go on the biggest loser". I have been asked if there's "a baby in my tummy" and "Are you expecting?". Walking past my dad in a towel- "Jeez you better lay off the junk food" . My mother in law sends me clothes that are too small and asks if I'm still going to the gym with the very subtle subtext of....don't stop yet because you're not done!. The other thing i hate is when people think it's somehow less offensive to call you "bigger" or a "big girl". And the very common kicker......You're so pretty but......0 -
I remember in middle school people telling me that I could "skip a meal". My grandma telling me that I need to lose weight. I've always been called "big guy", and I hate that. I know that my build is a little bigger than most, but I hate that people call me "big guy" or stocky because I'm fat.0
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When I was 8 months pregnant with my son...at my baby shower my cousin made a comment in the kitchen (thought I couldn't hear) about how HUGE her effing thighs are(about me). the messed up thing is she was bigger then me weight wise and after i had my son...I had lost 30 lbs from the weight I was before I was even preggers. But it still hurts when i think about it. Who says something like that?? Just rude:/0
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One of my customers once told me she was going to go to her church and light a candle for me and pray to Jesus and Mary for me to lose weight. lol She's a little coo-coo so I didn't take it personally.
I've had a similiar customer. those ones are those most annoying and they love obama jokes0 -
I love kids because they speak the truth no matter what....but its still heard to hear, especially in front of peers of yours. "Are you having a baby?" "why are you so big". While at work...in front of the kids parents and coworkers...completely embarrassed me, but made me realize that if they're saying it, other people are thinking it.0
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I once had girl say to me that she thought I was the perfect guy for her except that I was just too big.0
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I remember in middle school people telling me that I could "skip a meal". My grandma telling me that I need to lose weight. I've always been called "big guy", and I hate that. I know that my build is a little bigger than most, but I hate that people call me "big guy" or stocky because I'm fat.
The best part is when your grandmaw tells you to lose weight and then she goes and makes a cake. that made me crazy.0 -
It was always my mother giving me "advice" on my weight.
-You'll never get married because you're too fat.
-You'll never get a job because you're too fat.
-You'll never accomplish your goals because you're too fat.
-You'll never be accepted because you're too fat.
-You'll never be happy because you're too fat.
Well I did all of those things. The only thing fat has ever kept me from is moving quickly and cute clothing.0
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