Worst negative comment about your weight?

Zarebeth

Nothing lately, but about 60 less pounds ago, my Mom told me if I didn't tuck my shirt in then my gut wouldn't stick out too much. As much as that hurt, nothing hurt worse than having the man I was with for 15 years stop wanting to have sex with me while he became addicted to internet pornography.

Faith2FeelFabulous

I've had weird looks at church. CHURCH!! Of all places. There was this lady in choir with me and I could see her out the corner of my eye checking me out in a discusted manner when I was at my highest weight last year. I looked over at her and caught her in the act for a brief second then she gave me this fake smile. She runs and is in good shape so I guess the sight of me discusted her. My exhusband told me I was fat and ugly on the phone and his new wife was laughing in the background. I may be fat but diffentally not ugly. I knew he was my ex for a reason. Some people are just as rude as rude can be. Their parents must have raised them to act like *kitten*.

saragato

Not long ago I was coming out the car in a parking lot and the guy who was sitting in his car to the right of me decided to roll down his window and call me all sorts of names and made some comment about I had to be a virgin, I was too fat for a guy to "keep it up."

I think the worst ones came from doctors, though. I have a joint disorder and have gone into the ER over the years with pain only to be told I was making it up or it was my weight. One particular time I went in with pain in my calves, I had torn the muscle weeks before in high school band camp from being made to walk backwards on my toes for hours and ended up not being able to even walk the 3 blocks home after school from it. Doctor came in the room, squeezed one calf, then says there's nothing wrong with me, I'm just fat. I was 13 at the time.

Another bad one, I'm in a long distance relationship and used to attend a forum about them and I had spent 3 days with my boyfriend and we didn't ever leave the hotel room. When I told the forum about the trip, one girl blatantly told me, "well he's obviously embarrassed to be seen with you, that's why you were forced to stay in the hotel. He was just too nice to tell you that you were too fat." Nevermind we're still together a year later...

There's one I kind of get annoyed by: "you have a pretty face." I kinda feel like people think that's the only compliment they can give on my appearance or just a way to say something nice and not outright say "you're fat".

But generally I get a lot of straight up, "you're fat" or some variant. I just look at them and point out an obvious fact about them and then ask if they want to play Captain Obvious some more or can I just go about my business.

pamperedhen

John Pinnette, the comic, said he would mention he lost 100 lbs, and be told "ya, I can really see it in your face".
"what was I before, walking around with a head the size of a manhole cover, was I Mr Koolaid!"

BEST comedian EVER!!!! LOVE him!!

LushLoni

A few years ago when I was at my heaviest (about 215 lbs) some people that I didn't know slowed down their car & opened the window so that they could yell "fat b***h" at me as I was walking down the street. Ouch.

I've had this... several times over. It hurts so much, it comes from nowhere and slaps you in the face, it's humiliating. The only way to rationalise it, is to think that if they see a girl in a short skirt they will call her a slut or something, because they are cretins and generally awful people.

bebeloves

I had always been overweight as a child. When I was in middle school, I lost like 30 pounds by exercising and counting calories. I got down to a normal, healthy weight. I thought now no one could say anything mean about my body and I could just fit in with everyone.....nope. Someone spread a nasty rumor around the school that I was anorexic.

It just made me feel really badly about myself and like nothing I did was ever enough. Looking back now, I wish I could tell myself to not care what ANYONE thinks about you and that some people will never be happy. I wish I could also tell myself that I didn't need to lose the weight for anyone else but me. The goal should not be to try to be "good enough" for them, but to take care of myself because I deserve to treat myself respectfully - no matter if others continue to be disrespectful. It's their problem, NOT MINE. In fact, I think that the situation proved that it had never been about me anyway.

LeanMeanFitnessMachine

An old boyfriend used to tease me by calling me "Tubby" everytime I ate.

kerrifair

John Pinnette, the comic, said he would mention he lost 100 lbs, and be told "ya, I can really see it in your face".
"what was I before, walking around with a head the size of a manhole cover, was I Mr Koolaid!"

I love him!

saragato

A few years ago when I was at my heaviest (about 215 lbs) some people that I didn't know slowed down their car & opened the window so that they could yell "fat b***h" at me as I was walking down the street. Ouch.

I've had this... several times over. It hurts so much, it comes from nowhere and slaps you in the face, it's humiliating. The only way to rationalise it, is to think that if they see a girl in a short skirt they will call her a slut or something, because they are cretins and generally awful people.

Seconding that. I've had people stalk me in stores (namely the grocery store) and either jab and run or chase after me and spew insults. Twice I've had people try and literally run me over, laughing about how they wanted to see "how far the fat ***** would smear" on the road.

Unfortunately a lot of people grow up with twisted morals or a sense of entitlement that's as false as bleached blonde hair. These are the folks we should pity, because with minds and mouths like theirs, they'll be lucky to get through life without someone doing to them what they do to us just to nail them in their coffins.

deadstarsunburn

My sister and I have always been told we look alike. Some kid in her grade (she's three years younger) told me I looked like her except my face was bigger...I told him "thanks *kitten*."

jerber160

so sad that this huge post is mostly from ladies. very sad

maybe I don't remember well but here are 2- i swear my grandmother's 2 favorite nursery rhymes were 'this little PIGGY went t market' and 'higglety pigglety my FAT hen' and i swear she relished speaking them out loud in front of me and my mother.

Once, in college,, middle of night at mcdonalds..i placed my order, the cashier looked up and noticed i was last in line, reached under the counter and tossed me a mcdonald's calorie guide. if it had stopped me I'd be 30 years ahead of the curve..

pamperedhen

My mother~in~law was visiting at our home for a week {that enough can drive any sane person to the bottle!} anyhooooo, I am 5'2" and used to be 102lbs until I turned around 40 and stopped exercise and eating healthy because of health issue and went up to 130 lbs. This was still in my BMI. I got onto a table to change a light bulb and she said, "OH! You better watch the table might break since you gained so much weight." Mind you, she is morbidly obese.

cbh142

Are we having a baby?

tsornoza

The worst was being asked "so, how far along are you?" I guess I should have started my journey then. I'm hoping I won't get asked any more. That really hurt my feelings.

NicolettetheGreek

Several ppl asked me if I was Pregnant. I was in my late 40's. I cried.

NicolettetheGreek

Oh, my mom still comment's on what I am eating, no matter what I weigh. Like "Are you sure you need that?" no, but I need to duct tape your mouth.

OseaHello

A nurse practitioner told me to stop eating doughnuts because I was going to be morbidly obese and dead by the time I was her age...then she poked my arm and looked at me in disgust and said oh yeah you DEFINITELY need to tone ..... p.s. I don't eat doughnuts BTCH

jayjaybee1015

I used to work in a group home for teens. One of the young men said to me, "I hope you overdose on McDonalds and die of high cholesterol!" I couldn't help but laugh but give him props for creativity!

kammy92

I used to get called Prego! !! :sad: I seriously will not buy the spaghetti sauce because of the name!

TheFitHooker

You are just not attractive to me....

When I was 260+ pounds - my wife...:sad:
As hard as that was to take, in the end, I am glad she was honest.
How many people fear bruising egos or hurting feelings?

"No dear, you look fine to me no matter how fat you are"

I think I'd rather somebody just be honest.

My husband said this to me as well. It's soul crushing.

After I dropped about 60lbs my husband told me basically the same thing. He said to me "I was not attracted to you 60lbs ago, and if you would not have done something about it, I'd probably end up leaving you." I was hurt and replied to him "So since you are putting on weight and you have teeth problems, I have a right to leave you because I'm not attracted to those things?" He said "Well I didn't think about it that way." I told him that I married him for better or worse and 250lbs was my worse, I will never go back there but for him to say such a cruel thing was not a way to push me in the right direction. Especially since I'm an emotional eater.

JT1090

No one has ever said anything mean to my face but when I started gaining all this weight I could see the looks on the faces of old friends hadn't seen me in a while. I gained 50lbs so it was really obvious.

I have this friends who always calls me thick but it never bothered me too much. He called me that when I was as at my lowest of 130lbs so I think he just said it to get on my nerves lol.

tiffastar

I had a guy I was seeing say, "i was just imagining you skinny." - Mind you he was the one that asked me out so go figure. That was a few years back. A month ago my assistant asked if I was pregnant. Knowning I had given birth to my last and final child 4 months prior, she was saying it just to be rude. On the plus side, I took a long look at myself and realized I needed to get more in shape.

Katie41907

When I got out of Navy A school I went home for vacation. I had gained about 30 lbs because of the Depo shot. My brother looked at me and said, "OMG If I was your size, I would shoot myself."

I don't think I ate the entire time I was home!

stablesong

My friend nicknamed me Fat in eighth grade, age 13 or 14. (As in, Hey, Fat, what's up?)
I got asked if I was pregnant in ninth grade, age 14 or 15.
Told never to wear my favorite shirt again because it made me look pregnant, age 15.
Poked in the stomach, "You look pregnant." age 17.
Countless cracks about being "chubby" from my mom, my whole adolescence pretty much.
My grandmother offering to buy me new jeans if I gave her my favorite shorts "the ones that make your fat hang off the side." Age 14.
My mom used to take food away from me. If I had a plate of chips, she'd take my plate away and tell me I'd had enough. Now, if I go to take a bite of something that is within my macros for the day and I just want to have a tiny treat for the first time all week or something like that, it's "Is that on your diet??"

These are all the ones that stood out the most. I think the second one hurt the most. They've all stuck with me. People don't realize that these comments are why I started starving myself or why I never wanted to go to the beach with my skinny friends, go to parties in cute clothes, or be outgoing. I'm just so glad I found MPF because it really helps me set healthy, attainable goals and reach them. It's mostly because of MPF that I'm getting to a point where I feel good about myself.

Linz1087

When I was 9 months pregnant with my son (who carried as far forward as he could) I worked at a car rental place in the airport. I was about to burst I was so pregnant and was scheduled to have my son 3 days later. As I was walking (waddling) through the airport to clock in I heard a woman say "poor thing, she is about to go any day now" and her husband turns and looks at her and says "honey, I think she is just extremely fat, not pregnant." And then they continued to have a conversation on who was right, the woman defending me but still. I walked into our office crying. I just wanted to make the guy eat his teeth.

AnneH1977

My (eternally wispy) younger sister..."Oh, you're ok...you just look like you have a bunch of kids is all." Always helpful.
My mother "Oh honey...sweats?"
My teen daugher "Well so and so's mom is round too!"
And I was asked when I was due while my 2 week old slept in the carrier in the cart. Seriously...

dusty8907

Used to be nicknamed penguin because im fairly short (5'7") and used to be fairly overweight. Nickname stuck though lol.

Fit_Mama84

You are just not attractive to me....

When I was 260+ pounds - my wife...:sad:
As hard as that was to take, in the end, I am glad she was honest.
How many people fear bruising egos or hurting feelings?

"No dear, you look fine to me no matter how fat you are"

I think I'd rather somebody just be honest.

My husband said this to me as well. It's soul crushing.

True!
I thought of just leaving, then realized that it was true. I was in lah lah land thinking I was carrying it well.
The second blow was a picture somebody took where I looked horribly fat.
Anyway, I used that pain to lose the weight.

I thought of leaving as well, but like you, he was right and I also used the pain as motivation to lose weight. I lost 25 before joining this site, and am continuing on. I WILL NOT go through that again.

KCherry

My grandpa always says "you better stop eating or your legs will give out. "

pacrowder

My husband was talking about overweight people and said you know, there is nothing sexy about fat. I think of it everytime we are intimate. I lost a lot of weight two years ago. I still need to lose 30 pounds. I will do it for me so that I feel good with and without my clothes.