Curves vs. Skinny

MarySaxonFaulkner

I personally would love to ditch the curves. I am 5.3 inches....and 64.60kilos. I once got down to 52 kilos and loved it..I still had curves but looked more realistic not Barbiyish or Bar maidish if you know what I mean. does anyone have a recommendation for exercises that would help reduce the bust.....

helpmepls905

I know you posted this awhile ago... but I have to say. I am a female at 5'8 as well and I would prefer curves before bone thin.... That being said I am at 171 right now and looking to get down to 135 as my skinny. So maybe it's better not to focus on the curvy or the skinny but on what made you feel better and how your clothes look when you wear them. If they hang off you then maybe go towards curvy, if they are too tight then maybe lose alittle more.

helpmepls905

Agreed, from my experience most guys need some meat on the bones.

Adobogirl

Thanks a lot for all the feed back everybody c: It really means a whole lot to me. When I first ever decided I was going to lose weight, I was motivated by a community online where eating was concerned with "the skinny girl diet," "the russian gymnist diet," diets where in a day one would consume 600 calories or less and girls would label themselves "pro-anorexic" and the thing to look like is skin and bones, that being my first look at weight loss, its what I inspired to look like at first, and all the rave was the bonier you look the more people will want to be with you and be your friend and the more successful you'll look and feel and be. My ideas on weight loss are absoultely far from that and I honestly wish the girls on that site who carry those views don't hurt themselves, its just a shame :c And so, even though I don't think like that anymore, sometimes.... its hard to shake that idea completely off my mind after thats what I was aiming for at first, its sort of embarrasing.

This takes guts to be honest and say this. I applaud you. And yes, it's hard to shake off an idea, esp when it's carried and valued by so many people. I think what it boils down to is what YOU decide is right for you.

Personally, I'd rather have the curves. I have family members who are rail thin and although they look "normal" in pictures, they look sickly in real life. I wish sickly didn't translate to "normal" in media. I guess that's how our society works, make an impossible ideal so people will buy products. I swear, unhappiness is the engine of industry.

ash190489

I just want to be 'smaller' but athletic & fit looking. Toned body. Rail thin is super unattractive in my eyes. I always feel sorry for girls that are that skinny as I feel it's gone way past normal & it's a mental health & eating condition.

Verbalcody

curves>skinny>>>fat

SmashleeWpg

I totally agree. My ideas of what my "perfect body" are have changed so much in the past few years (I'm 23). As soon as you get of of those teenage years and get a chance to interact with MEN instead of boys, you realize that they are pretty much programmed to love a nice full hour glass figure. Actually, on that note, I would be really interested to hear what some of the guys have to say...

THIS. I had a completely skewed idea of what was attractive when I was younger (18 - 20) I dieted down, worked my butt off (literally), and now looking at photos from that time, was a rack of bones.

Now that I'm older and wiser, I've come to appreciate that muscles and strength are sexy, being fit and happy in your body is attractive, and CONFIDENCE is the best accessory you can own.

I would suggest to focus more on being healthy and working on toning, since you're already at a great weight for your height (I'm 5'9" and 135 is the low end of my "ideal" weight) and focus less on a #. Go by how you feel, how your clothes fit, and how you look!

SeptemberHalloween

I totally agree. My ideas of what my "perfect body" are have changed so much in the past few years (I'm 23). As soon as you get of of those teenage years and get a chance to interact with MEN instead of boys, you realize that they are pretty much programmed to love a nice full hour glass figure. Actually, on that note, I would be really interested to hear what some of the guys have to say...

THIS. I had a completely skewed idea of what was attractive when I was younger (18 - 20) I dieted down, worked my butt off (literally), and now looking at photos from that time, was a rack of bones.

Now that I'm older and wiser, I've come to appreciate that muscles and strength are sexy, being fit and happy in your body is attractive, and CONFIDENCE is the best accessory you can own.

I would suggest to focus more on being healthy and working on toning, since you're already at a great weight for your height (I'm 5'9" and 135 is the low end of my "ideal" weight) and focus less on a #. Go by how you feel, how your clothes fit, and how you look!

Thank you so much cx I know I'm comfortable in my clothes when I can button my skinny jeans/pair of shorts and not be sucking anything in, and when I can wear a cut off shirt and not be self concious of my tummy lookling pooshy. I have a question, when I work on toning and definition- do I do like... use a 60 lb weight and do it 3 times, OR should I use like a 40 lb weight and use it 5 times, I forget all the terms, less weight more reps, or more weight less reps, yeah, what should I be going for? c:

SeptemberHalloween

Thanks a lot for all the feed back everybody c: It really means a whole lot to me. When I first ever decided I was going to lose weight, I was motivated by a community online where eating was concerned with "the skinny girl diet," "the russian gymnist diet," diets where in a day one would consume 600 calories or less and girls would label themselves "pro-anorexic" and the thing to look like is skin and bones, that being my first look at weight loss, its what I inspired to look like at first, and all the rave was the bonier you look the more people will want to be with you and be your friend and the more successful you'll look and feel and be. My ideas on weight loss are absoultely far from that and I honestly wish the girls on that site who carry those views don't hurt themselves, its just a shame :c And so, even though I don't think like that anymore, sometimes.... its hard to shake that idea completely off my mind after thats what I was aiming for at first, its sort of embarrasing.

This takes guts to be honest and say this. I applaud you. And yes, it's hard to shake off an idea, esp when it's carried and valued by so many people. I think what it boils down to is what YOU decide is right for you.

Personally, I'd rather have the curves. I have family members who are rail thin and although they look "normal" in pictures, they look sickly in real life. I wish sickly didn't translate to "normal" in media. I guess that's how our society works, make an impossible ideal so people will buy products. I swear, unhappiness is the engine of industry.

Yeah, I really don't like that skinnyskinny is all on the magazine covers and the lady singer stars and the big name actresses, it sets expectations of what a guy is looking for in a girl and what a girl should aim to be, its frustrating, and I don't like how it is SO EASY to get processed, crappy, bad for you food, its CHEAP and its EVERYWHERE, but if you eat it you get unhealthy and unhappy and people eat this stuff alllll theeee tiiiime, its the REGULAR! But it shouldnt' be a regular! Healthy food ought to be more available and more standardized, so it becomes the regular for people to eat healthy and feel better and not worry about all the consequences of an unhealthy lifestyle. Its a shame when a person brings in a yogurt cup with fruit and skips the soda and they're the ones that get looked at for being "weird" but its not WEIRD that all around us people are eating fillers and processed things, when in reality... that is pretty weird...

reece33

Curves are amazing! Some people are naturally very skinny and without many curves. If you sat down and talked with anyone with that body type, the majority would tell you that they would do almost anything to get some curves! I am enjoying, since I carry most of my extra weight in my stomach for the right curves to be accentuated again!

teagin2002

<--- this!!!

BaconMD

OK, as a man, to answer the question, my wife got too skinny at one point, and it was less attractive to me than when she was, frankly, kinda fat. Since then, she has put on more muscle and a few more pounds, and now she's fit and looks healthy, and that's hot. I definitely don't feel like I'm gonna break her anymore, and that's good. I would worry about the kinds of men who you would attract as a girl who looks like she's starving herself.

You mentioned the russian gymnast diet thing, and you said you don't agree with it anymore but your food diary indicates otherwise. 1581 calories total from Sunday to Sunday? That's practically just one day's intake if you count some of the exercising you entered, spread over 8 days. Sick or not, you need to eat more to be healthy. Honestly, if my wife or a sister actually ate this little food, I would be seriously worried about their health and trying to get them some kind of help.

lizmaebar

I'm only about an inch taller than you and I am aiming at 150lbs (currently 190-ish) for my goal weight. I don't see any pictures of your body, but I'm sure you are smokin at your current weight! I think curves are beautiful and sexy! screw what the media says is beautiful! that's why so many people are insecure and unhappy with their bodies when they are actually in a good place with it. Be healthy and take a good hard look at pictures of yourself. As long as you're healthy it doesn't matter I guess...but I'm personally for curves