drunken cheating

bmkx0
bmkx0 Posts: 308
edited November 8 in Chit-Chat
Whenever i drink i'm pretty aware of my actions, maybe that's just me. Do you really think when people cheat while under the influence of alcohol they don't know what they are doing? is this something that should be forgiven? all opinions are welcomed.
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  • bmkx0
    bmkx0 Posts: 308
    also, i'm not sure if this is where i should have posted this topic? not sure.
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    I think, in general, most people won't do something drunk that they wouldn't do sober. BUT, I do know some people who have had total blackouts when drinking and I do think they could cheat and had no intentions or memory of doing it.
  • _snw_
    _snw_ Posts: 1,298 Member
    nope. i would never give drunken cheating a pass. If you got REALLY loaded and stabbed someone, should you get a pass? no, because even stupidly drunk, you know it's wrong to stab someone.
  • rsdgirl
    rsdgirl Posts: 241 Member
    my philosophy is that whatever you do under the influence is what you dont have the balls to do when youre sober . . . . . thats just my opinion though
  • mea9
    mea9 Posts: 561 Member
    I've never done it or had it done to me but my guess is people do what they want and alcohol is either an excuse for having done it (as in “it wasn’t really me”) or it lowers their inhibitions enough that they do it anyway knowing it’s wrong (as in “it’s easier to ask for forgiveness than permission”).
  • nathan72
    nathan72 Posts: 91 Member
    nope. i would never give drunken cheating a pass. If you got REALLY loaded and stabbed someone, should you get a pass? no, because even stupidly drunk, you know it's wrong to stab someone.
    dat's right!
  • PeekABooGirl
    PeekABooGirl Posts: 218 Member
    Totally unacceptable. Cheating is cheating. Even kissing someone else is cheating, as far as I'm concerned. Drunk or not. But I'd hope at my age that I wouldn't have to deal with someone who gets that drunk very often! haha
  • lucyford22
    lucyford22 Posts: 198 Member
    Hahaa, I was thinking drunken cheating as it, eating bad food.
  • MStrawn
    MStrawn Posts: 6 Member
    Are you talking drunk eating? Because I am always trying to forget about that.:wink:
  • 1shauna1
    1shauna1 Posts: 993 Member
    nope. i would never give drunken cheating a pass. If you got REALLY loaded and stabbed someone, should you get a pass? no, because even stupidly drunk, you know it's wrong to stab someone.
    Exactly...being drunk doesn't excuse your actions! I do think sometimes it can give you "liquid courage" and maybe you do something you've always wanted to do...but it's still wrong to cheat and/or stab someone while drunk!
  • savlyon
    savlyon Posts: 474 Member
    I recently read an article about a study that was done at the University of Missouri-Columbia. Apparently drinking causes people to care less about their actions, but does not make them unaware of what they are doing.

    See the article here:
    http://www.sciencenewsline.com/psychology/2011090120540056.html
  • moenkopi612
    moenkopi612 Posts: 1
    If you can't handle being drunk, then don't get drunk, or at the very least have a buddy there to make sure you're not doing something stupid (like driving).
  • fuhrmeister
    fuhrmeister Posts: 1,796 Member
    I do not think being druck is a justification for cheating. if a person cheats drunk or sober there was somthign wrong with teh relationship to begin with.

    That being said some people are truly sorry after they cheat and maybe desirve a second chance, repetative cheaters should be dumped immideatly.
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    totally unacceptable. cheating is cheating. i've done some pretty stupid things when drunk, but nothing like cheating.

    any stupidity i've done when drunk i have also done sober, so, yeah, cheating is cheating. that's it.
  • thepetiterunner
    thepetiterunner Posts: 1,238 Member
    Well here's the question: If you really think it's just because they're drunk, what happens when they keep getting "drunk" and keep "cheating"?

    I know millions of people who can keep their hands out of someone else's pants while sober or drunk. I don't see why any person couldn't do what millions of other people have managed to do, unless it was something they were already inclined to do, conciously or subconciously.
  • bmkx0
    bmkx0 Posts: 308
    Are you talking drunk eating? Because I am always trying to forget about that.:wink:

    lol :)
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
    Nope - people are responsible for their actions 100% of the time.

    People love to use intoxication as an excuse to avoid responsibility for their actions.
    Again, no, and anybody keeping the drunk around after one such episode is a fool.
    You deserve anything you get after that.
  • Angelap1121
    Angelap1121 Posts: 18
    Yea, I thought you meant drunk eating, which I have done, because it's very hard to find healthy options that late and I like grease when I have been drinking. Now I would never drunk cheat on my husband. Not unless I had been drugged or something.
  • _snw_
    _snw_ Posts: 1,298 Member
    totally unacceptable. cheating is cheating. i've done some pretty stupid things when drunk, but nothing like cheating.

    any stupidity i've done when drunk i have also done sober, so, yeah, cheating is cheating. that's it.

    if i get you really drunk, would you still let me rub your bunions?
  • tamerkins2
    tamerkins2 Posts: 212
    Cheating is cheating, regardless of your intoxication level. That could never be forgiven it my book.
  • loftus2005
    loftus2005 Posts: 61
    Hahaa, I was thinking drunken cheating as it, eating bad food.

    Me too! haha!
  • JustBreathe418
    JustBreathe418 Posts: 355 Member
    my philosophy is that whatever you do under the influence is what you dont have the balls to do when youre sober . . . . . thats just my opinion though

    Ditto
  • JamesonsMommy
    JamesonsMommy Posts: 771 Member
    Cheating on a diet... YES.. Cheating on a loved one? NEVER
  • amysj303
    amysj303 Posts: 5,086 Member
    I think drinking lowers inhibitions so people are inclined to do things they wouldn't do while sober but are still things they wanted to do. Certainly no one gets a pass for cheating while intoxicated, but it's up to you whether you want to view it as a "mitigating" factor or just more evidence that the person has serious problems!
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    Take ambien...then you have an excuse to do ahything
  • bmkx0
    bmkx0 Posts: 308
    Nope - people are responsible for their actions 100% of the time.

    People love to use intoxication as an excuse to avoid responsibility for their actions.
    Again, no, and anybody keeping the drunk around after one such episode is a fool.
    You deserve anything you get after that.

    exactly! I see it all the time. not just with cheating, but people's general actions. They do something stupid while drunk and think they can excuse it by them being "too drunk". Two things. 1. Stop drinking so much that you can't handle your own & 2. Own up to the mistakes you made and try your best to not make them again. Those are the same people you will see getting drunk again the next night.
  • LaDiablesse
    LaDiablesse Posts: 862 Member
    Hahaa, I was thinking drunken cheating as it, eating bad food.

    I was thinking the same thing.
  • paigemarie93
    paigemarie93 Posts: 778 Member
    Cheating is cheating no matter what, even if you're completely out of your face drunk . If you really love the person you're with, you wouldn't cheat on them under any circumstances.
  • MomSlom
    MomSlom Posts: 11
    Hahaa, I was thinking drunken cheating as it, eating bad food.

    Me too! haha!

    Me three! But really it's all the same. You are responsible for your actions no matter what. If you choose to drink so much that you can't control yourself from either eating too much or cheating on your partner, then it all still goes back to you and the choices you make.
  • bmkx0
    bmkx0 Posts: 308
    I think drinking lowers inhibitions so people are inclined to do things they wouldn't do while sober but are still things they wanted to do. Certainly no one gets a pass for cheating while intoxicated, but it's up to you whether you want to view it as a "mitigating" factor or just more evidence that the person has serious problems!

    that's exactly what i was thinking. i feel as if the 'cheating' and experimenting with someone else was always in the back of their mind, and they got the chance to do it so they took it.
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