How to not cry when getting your *kitten* chewed??

imitedlay7

Any suggestions? I hate looking like a weak little girl when I get upset and cry when I get chewed out. I need to be strong and take it like a man! Lol, any suggestions???

Skeemer118

I'll be waiting for good responses! I need some help too! :sad:

RobDelco

Bite down on something. It helps with the pain.

AllanMisner

Don't listen to the tone, but focus on each of the words. Look for the key word that they use to describe why they are chewing you out. Then politely stop them and ask how you can rectify the situation or at least prevent it from happening again (using their key words to describe the event). If you focus your mind on a constructive solution, you're less likely to get pushed by the person's emotions.

Scott613

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do

BrettPGH

You tell yourself "This is simply a person talking loudly near me." Takes a bit of the power away on their end.

BioQueen

Definitely depends on who it is and how you define "chewed" haha.

masonjessica11162007

Just think about your next command and going home to your wonderful husband. Basically tune those people out and then read this II Peter 1:6 self control

p0pr0cksnc0ke

drink something. It stops tears.

masonjessica11162007

too funny she better not

masonjessica11162007

Oh by the way tears is water weight so go in the bathroom and just lose it. :sad:

_snw_

my dad was an *kitten* when i was growing up and i simply stopped taking things personally. Instead, I let my anger seethe (seathe?) up and instead of crying, I have to think about quashing the urge to punch whomever it is in the face. I NEVER EVER give anyone the satisfaction of making me cry - over things like work. If it's real advice/criticism, then I obviously needed it and I'll take it - if they are just being an *kitten*, screw em - they don't get to bother me.

BabyRoseJeans

imagine them in their birthday suit and just listen as if you are watching a tv show maybe it will seem less like a personal attack. Or imagine what you might want to say back to them in your head and sort of zone out of the actual words, or focus on a pen for example sitting on the desk, is it a quality pen or a cheap one, is it smooth or rippled, does it click or have a cap, how much ink does it have left if you can see it. This might help to put your brain in a more remote spot until you can calmly walk out of the confrontation and go bawl in the bathroom or your car. Just how I deal sometimes. Over time I have learned to control my emotions better, but not during that totm.:flowerforyou:

ShapeUpSidney

I have no idea how I conquered this one, but I eventually did. I guess the big part is just trying to focus on criticism objectively, and asking for specific advice to remedy the situation, and thinking of a plan to prevent mistakes from happening in the future.

Typically, it isn't personal...so I try to remember that

killagb

Try not to get your *kitten* chewed. :flowerforyou:

onedayillbamilf

I happen to enjoy getting my *kitten* nibbled on

kb455

I used to have a boss that was the biggest b*tch EVER!! She loved making her employees cry and she'd purposely pick on the weaker ones. She once pulled me and another girl into her office and reamed us both out for something stupid, it was the other girl's screw-up, not mine. But, she and I were friends outside of work.

A few minutes into us getting yelled at my friend starts sniffling and crying... it was annoying. There was no way in hell I'd give that tyrant the satisfaction of getting me upset. I just sat there and thought to myself how much I couldn't stand her face and how good it was gonna feel to hand in my notice when I found a less-sucky job. Don't give anyone the satisfaction of making you cry.

JennaM222

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do

This. or a donkey punch

TheDecision

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do

rofl

105perfect

You tell yourself "This is simply a person talking loudly near me." Takes a bit of the power away on their end.

THIS

PepeGreggerton

If I f*cked up, I man up and admit it and move on. If I don't deserve it, I don't tolerate it.

abvickrey

Yell to yourself in your head while the other person is verbally belittling you: "I CAN DO THAT TOO! YELLING IS FUN! AHHHHHH!!!" You might start laughing... but you definitely won't be crying! "ALL THIS YELLING IS NOT NECESSARY! I HAVE VOCALS TOOOOOO!!! AHHHHH!!!"

darlene071207

Great responses and i needed this on Friday.

ahinescapron

Once I figure out what they are mad about, I just tune the rest out. Then, I just shake my head a few times and say I'm sorry, so they think I am still listening. I can usually handle a situation where I am being chewed out, it is when I am angry that I start to cry.

PlanetVelma

my dad was an *kitten* when i was growing up and i simply stopped taking things personally. Instead, I let my anger seethe (seathe?) up and instead of crying, I have to think about quashing the urge to punch whomever it is in the face. I NEVER EVER give anyone the satisfaction of making me cry - over things like work. If it's real advice/criticism, then I obviously needed it and I'll take it - if they are just being an *kitten*, screw em - they don't get to bother me.

This right here!

We must've had the same dad. LOL I have a pretty thick skin due to how my dad raised me. Plus at work, it's all business - if I'm getting chewed out I must need the criticism. Although I had one supervisor that I had to assert myself, he was completely inappropriate and would chew me out for being on vacation (btw, he approved the time off). Once he realized that he couldn't bully me he left the alone.

ejohndrow

I once got apprehended while at work. Just try and imagine how pissed off my chief was, and the *kitten* chewing I got then. Just do the 1000 yard stare and get through it the best you can.

horndave

making mistakes is part of life and you will do it again. With that the mistake and you getting chewed out is not personal. Don't take it personal. Concentrate on the problem at hand, devoid any emotion and think critically on how to rectify the problem. Fix problem.

wickedcricket

who in blue hell is chewing your *kitten* regularly and why!? You don't need to know how to man up about that- here's what you do- GO ON THE OFFENSIVE!
I've discovered that I can make ppl cry too and when I do, I feel a LOT less like crying. RIP into a couple of *kitten*-holes - pick the biggest, scariest one & make him cry like a girl and NOBODY will fk with you.
Also - address this person "HEY! you don't NEED to talk to me like that. I AM NOT YOUR WIFE! A simple reprimand will do. You want to abuse me? I'm calling the labor board & see what they have to say."
Then when you win your court case you can name the company after yourself

QueenJayJay

Picture them as the pathetic little thing they are.

puggleperson

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do

This!

jmaffett

Don't listen to the tone, but focus on each of the words. Look for the key word that they use to describe why they are chewing you out. Then politely stop them and ask how you can rectify the situation or at least prevent it from happening again (using their key words to describe the event). If you focus your mind on a constructive solution, you're less likely to get pushed by the person's emotions.

GREAT response! I always try to get to the "lesson" and then plan what I'll say to let them know that I got the message and it won't happen again.

If the kicking is because of something you weren't responsible for and there is no need for it, focus on finding another job. Seriously.