Wanting to lose weight, but likes the bigger guys...?

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  • Buddhasmiracle
    Buddhasmiracle Posts: 925 Member
    Looking back on exes & crushes, they all had a few things in common, but nothing physical.

    Me & my sisters we're raised to see inside the person's mind & soul ~ we honestly don't give a s**t about looks. Except for what their looks SAY about them. Calloused hands - works with his hands a lot, laugh lines - he laughs a lot (the more lines, the more attractive I find he is, *sigh* :laugh: ), eyes that smile, crooked smile, "how'd he get that scar?" etc; tall, short, thin, husky, ...on the outside, all my exes & crushes lack things in common.

    Give me a guy who can make me laugh (& knows how to make me go "tee-hee!" in more ways than one! :wink: ) & who knows how to make me FEEL a certain way... (Yay :love: ) good g*d, the things I would do for him in return :smokin: :wink:

    But that's just me :laugh:

    I agree. The first love of my life was short, square, and barrel chested, and chubby. He had eyelashes to die for, the widest smile, and big chocolate brown eyes. The man I married and have been married to for twenty years, is slender and broad shouldered, strong "manly" hands that play piano sonatas; and although not as quick to smile as my first love; has dark smoulderingLatin eyes; and "courtly" old fashioned manners.

    :flowerforyou:
  • So I'm a thicker girl obviously... I work out eat healthy and am determined to lose weight and look and feel great.

    But, when the guys I like try to do the same thing I lose a bit of interest... I Think I'm a chubby chaser. Not like I like HUGE men that just don't care. But I like the thicker, more meat kind of guys.

    Is it just me? Is it weird?

    I find it weird ;)


    i don't think it's werid. to me it just means I have hope!

    Awwwwww :heart: :heart: :heart:
  • MelissaT81
    MelissaT81 Posts: 123 Member
    It is the carnal sense of safety and feeling safe around a big guy. Makes sense.

    ^^Agreed! I love bigger guys! Feel so safe when they wrap their arms around me :)
  • So I'm a thicker girl obviously... I work out eat healthy and am determined to lose weight and look and feel great.

    But, when the guys I like try to do the same thing I lose a bit of interest... I Think I'm a chubby chaser. Not like I like HUGE men that just don't care. But I like the thicker, more meat kind of guys.

    Is it just me? Is it weird?

    I find it weird ;)



    i don't think it's werid. to me it just means I have hope!

    Yes you do! :) and obviously by this thread a lot of women feel the same!
  • brettle1
    brettle1 Posts: 23 Member
    This thread makes me happy!! :-) lol
  • killagb
    killagb Posts: 3,280 Member
    So I'm a thicker girl obviously... I work out eat healthy and am determined to lose weight and look and feel great.

    But, when the guys I like try to do the same thing I lose a bit of interest... I Think I'm a chubby chaser. Not like I like HUGE men that just don't care. But I like the thicker, more meat kind of guys.

    Is it just me? Is it weird?

    I find it weird ;)



    i don't think it's werid. to me it just means I have hope!

    Yes you do! :) and obviously by this thread a lot of women feel the same!
    The ignorance of this thread is amazing.
  • Thus why I'm always trying to put on weight! At 6'4 it's hard not to look skinny.
  • rammsteinsoldier
    rammsteinsoldier Posts: 1,552 Member
    Kevin James is adorable. I have a crush on Adam from Man vs food lol Soooo bad :smooched:


    Definitely, love Adam. What a cutie!
  • rammsteinsoldier
    rammsteinsoldier Posts: 1,552 Member
    I want a guy who can throw me over his shoulder and carry me off and ....well, use your imagination. :devil:
  • fatboypup
    fatboypup Posts: 1,873 Member
    You'd have loved me at 340lbs then :P
  • vballscriscuolo
    vballscriscuolo Posts: 39 Member
    Theres nothing wrong with that!! When I met my now husband he was bigger than he is now and it's kinda changed things a bit.....he's all nutzo about the gym and getting muscles and stuff but I'm not into that and it's causing some issues sort of....so I hear where your coming from! My Ex was a "bigger" guy and I think a little pudgyness is cute :)
  • Personality will always win out no matter what with me. Currently I'm dating a guy who is WAY smaller than me....not amazingly happy about that but everything else about him wins out. :)

    But if you look at my trend of boyfriends...I have tended to cater to guys that had a little substance to them.
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    lol, this is great for my self esteem. I'll never be slender, I'm just looking to be in better shape. thanks for posting this

    I've always been a big guy and probably will always be one :)
  • My husband is slender but MAN do i have a crush on Dan Connor (John Goodman on Roseanne lol) and I LOVED Drew Carey (before he got skinny)


    ME TOO, you read my mind :)
  • whitehandlady
    whitehandlady Posts: 459 Member
    nothing wrong with being a chubby chaser................muscular girls or skinny girls never turned my head.............I have always preferred my ladies soft............

    its nice to read a guy admit to that too... I like my men soft too. I feel protected and feels better when cuddling !! I get butterflies just thinking about it. haha



    totally, totally THIS ....my dude now used to lift and be really active...still works out some but is well over 200 lbs....well over 6 ft tall....and so, so FINE!!!!!...... he's solid enough to make me feel safe and protected.....soft enough to make me feel cuddly and mushy ....
    ;)
    perfec t
  • DiamondEyes_x
    DiamondEyes_x Posts: 120 Member
    My boyfriend is a bit chubbier than most guys, I like some meat and muscles though, not just skin and bones! <3

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  • bcampbell54
    bcampbell54 Posts: 932 Member
    As I look into my crystal ball, I see....many new friend requests for you!!
  • I agree totally with you. My hubby is also on the bigger side. Very similar to yours.

    I have always been on the chubby side myself and although i'm wanting to lose weight, I like my men thick! They are much more cuddly!
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Thread make Brett sad.

    My gf is like this. She's not attracted to me since I lost weight. She says "Hey everyone has a type and you're different than you were."

    :grumble: :frown:
  • Thread make Brett sad.

    My gf is like this. She's not attracted to me since I lost weight. She says "Hey everyone has a type and you're different than you were."

    :grumble: :frown:

    :cry:
  • My husband's a bear and I love it - big shoulders, strong arms, nothing jiggly anywhere - why is that when he puts on a few pounds it is SOLID and not all wobbly like mine?

    I'm short and always liked being around guys who were way taller than I am, except when I can't breathe in a crowd of them - no clean air down there!
  • sew1222
    sew1222 Posts: 241
    I am the same way!! i want my man to be bigger than me....! my boyfriend is 6'2 245 and i love every inch of him. He looks like this big mean guy (not in the photo..lol) with his tattoos all over his body but he is not! He is such a cuddle bear!

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  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
    Nice mean looking guy sew! lol.
  • hollyeverhart
    hollyeverhart Posts: 397 Member
    I like slender tall guys with a toned look to them, or even SOME muscle but no gangly skinny boyish guys. I hate neck muscles.. My husband is 5'11 and weight 160-165 and it toned and has the "V" oh god I am a sucker for the v.... I know I can't be the only one! lol I like guys who are manly and strong enough to carry me around or defend me lol
  • Oh boy, where were all these ladies that like bigger guys when I was in my 200s?

    My girlfriend doesn't like that I have been losing weight. She met me when I was about 250 and she loved that she felt safe around me. Now that im 197 and shooting for 175, she says that its too skinny. As someone who has been overweight practically my whole life, I want to see what its like to be thin but she makes these comments about not being as attracted to me.

    Who knows how we'll end up but I do know that I actually feel happy about myself for the first time in a LONG time.
  • sew1222
    sew1222 Posts: 241
    he was being a goof that day....but the kids and i are always telling him to get the pissed off , i hate the word look off his face....this is the only pic i have of him smiling
  • sew1222
    sew1222 Posts: 241
    My husband is slender but MAN do i have a crush on Dan Connor (John Goodman on Roseanne lol) and I LOVED Drew Carey (before he got skinny)


    ME TOO, you read my mind :)

    l love me some KEVEN JAMES!!!!!
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    <---- Wants someone who can throw me around :love:
  • Thread make Brett sad.

    My gf is like this. She's not attracted to me since I lost weight. She says "Hey everyone has a type and you're different than you were."

    :grumble: :frown:

    :frown:

    That is sad. Sorry to hear that.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    Oh boy, where were all these ladies that like bigger guys when I was in my 200s?

    My girlfriend doesn't like that I have been losing weight. She met me when I was about 250 and she loved that she felt safe around me. Now that im 197 and shooting for 175, she says that its too skinny. As someone who has been overweight practically my whole life, I want to see what its like to be thin but she makes these comments about not being as attracted to me.

    Who knows how we'll end up but I do know that I actually feel happy about myself for the first time in a LONG time.

    Are we dating the same woman?

    Tell her the truth. She may have "felt" like you could protect her but she was wrong. You can't protect a woman when you get winded after 2 minutes of exertion. When I watch MMA fights I don't see a whole lot of fat guys.

    We're pretty close in weight. You feel stronger? Faster? Because I know I do.

    How about you and I both say the hell with them and look the way we want to look. For ourselves.

    Oh and Morgan? I would throw you around like a rag doll honey.
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