Dose of "reality" check..................

funkycamper

I am not totally insensitive to what causes whining. I used to do it myself once in awhile. Although, pretty much just to my husband. I was able to get out of the whining mindset when I decided it was time to implement SMARTER goal-setting techniques into my fitness plans. S=specific; M=measurable; A=achievable; R=realistic or relevant; T=time sensitive or trackable; E=evaluate and enjoyable; R=reevaluate and rewarding. It's been a big help.

Your frustration is caused, imho, by being focused on the wrong things. We can't control how fast the scale moves. We have limited control over inches lost based on what kind of exercises we're doing and our genetics. We have total control of our eating and exercise plans. Focus on what you can control. Don't worry about the rest as these will eventually move in the direction you want as long as you are sticking to a good plan.

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Well, I've blabbered long enough. Attitude is everything and I have learned that whining is a negative effect on attitude. So find things to celebrate and keep the process fun and the rest will fall into place. IMHO, anyway. Enjoy the journey!

I haven't heard the SMARTER thing quoted for a long time - but that's a good idea. I will try to keep that in mind, and you're right that things will fall into place if I stick with what I'm doing.

FWIW, I am usually very, very positive, and motivate my own friends quite well. It's rare that you will find me whining, but I'm human and every so often, I find myself needing the support that I can usually give to others.... but at least I do put the effort in and if I ask for advice, I am grateful of any offered and don't disregard what I've been told without giving it a try at least.

I'm glad my post might help you a bit. I know it's made the whole thing so much easier for me. And, above all else, remember that life is supposed to be fun and rewarding. I find a lot of fun and reward in my workouts and the way healthy eating makes me feel.

But I also enjoy doing a bit of zig-zagging my calories and having splurges throughout the week. Tonight I'm going to a special dinner with chicken cordon bleu, baked potato (in which I'll stuff as much butter and sour cream as I want), and a big dessert and a drink or two. As long as I eat well the other days and keep exercising, I don't really see this as having a negative impact on my weight loss. Maybe I lose a little slower while doing it but the whole process is more fun and less daunting when I allow myself some wonderful guilt-free splurges.

I just thought of something I should admit about whining. I just remembered that I had an experience about a week ago where my athletic performance was no near as good as I anticipated. I have a bad hip that can give me trouble sometimes. Anyway, I did get frustrated and whined a little to my coach who gave me the buck-up talk I needed. I then went home and actually cried a little on my husband's shoulder. But I think the difference between what I did and the perpetual whining I see some folks doing around MFP is that, after I got a little sympathy and felt soothed, I immediately turned around and did some research, came up with a plan to strengthen that particular hip, ran my ideas past my coach, and have added some exercises for just the weak hip to my routine in order to strengthen it and bring it up to the level of my other hip. After they're even, then I'll work on both hips to strengthen them both more and equally as this will have positive impacts on my performance. I didn't let that little incident derail me. I used it to fuel my desire to attain a new goal.

Anyway, we all fall down sometimes. We just need to pick ourselves back up and keep going, right?

funkycamper

Amen! I can totally relate to that. I went to my pulmonary doctor this week and she came in the room whining about her computer and her day being bad.....as I sit there using 10 liters of oxygen and end stage lung disease I just want to scream at her to shut the @#@% up, or walk a mile in one of her patients shoes.

Julie who is 52 and happy to wake up each day

Best wishes as you deal with this terrible disease. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Take care.

ninerbuff

Amen! I can totally relate to that. I went to my pulmonary doctor this week and she came in the room whining about her computer and her day being bad.....as I sit there using 10 liters of oxygen and end stage lung disease I just want to scream at her to shut the @#@% up, or walk a mile in one of her patients shoes.

Julie who is 52 and happy to wake up each day

Here's hoping that you can have a much better quality of life.


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