anyone else think this is weird.....

mickipedia

I think it would be healthier for the kids to see that the parents can get along and stand each other vs him taking the kids out for junk. unless there is some creepy stalker back history then I do not see this as trying to get back into her life. I would bend over backwards to keep a positive relationship with my ex....for my daughters sake.

Exactly! I don't get the weirdness to this, I view it as him just putting in effort to see the kids and make them a "home" cooked meal rather than taking them out for crap food.

I'd see it as weird because its one things visiting.. but cooking there makes it seem like its home-y.. the same as if he asked to have a shower or something.. there are certain boundaries that are a little weird to cross as a "guest"

Yes, i agree him making the effort is really good and as for the "stalker" side of it i wouldn't worry.. blokes don't think that intelligently lol.. he probably just doesn't see the awkwardness of this.. plus mixed signals to the kids.

and taking the kids out for food doesn't necessarily mean junk.. take them to an actually restaurant rather then a fast food place.

HLeAnn

The fact that you are even asking this question gives me the feeling that you don't feel 100% comfortable, and if that's the case you two need to sit down and set some boundaries. It's not his house anymore, it's yours. But... there's no universal answer, because everyone's situation is different, and everyone's reply (mine included) is going to have an underlying bias based on his or her own past experience. I guess the bottom line is that the lines of communication should stay open with you guys so everyone is on the same page.

Angela_Freeborn

I guess it depends on how "you veiw it"?
I have almost the same situation with my "X" meenwhile im married to a wonderful man who is a great father to both my boys. My youngest son is my X's and my oldest son is my husbands.
Now get this one lol.. my X moved in with MY parents 3 months ago which live just 3 mins away from me, sees his son every second weekend at their place, when hes not busy of course.. His original plan was to ask to move in with us BAHAHAHA yea right.. now thats weird.. He spent last christmas with us for the night to be with my boy. was not to bad, but then expected it was ok to do that once, so now why not all the time until the day he asked to move in.. no joke. not to mention i work in a family business with my mother, so when she comes to work sometimes she brings him when hes off. like WTD? so then i have him hanging around me at work too.
So an awnser to your question if we think its weird. I myself think "yes" its a little weird, and at the same time a bit disrespectful on his part, reason being is even though hes trying to be a good dad (much credit to be given . ) but hes not thinking about how your husband feels about this or would feel if he knew.. or how you feel about it. You know what i meen? I meen as said before, they are "X's" for reasons right lol.

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

ok, time for my soapbox moment. I think it is petty for it to be "awkward" and "weird". It's both of your jobs, as parents, to work together to raise those kids, regardless of the history between you. Do you have to sit down with him, be in the same room? No, but give the dude credit for still being there. I know plenty of women who would gladly open their house up if it meant the father would be part of the childrens life.

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Agreed.

ChantalD75

wow!
My ex and I are friends. As he said when he left we are better friends then a married couple... he did cheat on me and I would never let his GF in the house. BUT he is always welcomed to come over and visit with the kids. I just thought it would have been weird for him to cook in his ex's kitchen and her partner living there as well.
He ended up taking the kids out for supper. The kids didn't want him to cook for them at their house they thought it was too weird. He did after the fact come back to the house and sat at the table with the boys helping them with their homework as I made my own dinner and did a few things around the house. I have no issue with that. BUT I would never leave him alone in my house. I would do anything for my kids and make sure they are happy and well taken care of. I even took his GF's kid for the weekend.

LSHANDREW

i wouldn't mind either. At least he has the kids in a good enviroment