a question mostly for guys and totally not mfp related

jmobashrn11

You know, I was about to get really judgmental about this question because as someone who has been in a relationship for the last 7 years, I don't understand wanting to be hit on at the bar.

But then I remembered that when I was younger and a little more immature, I would pout about the fact that my single girlfriends seemed to get all of the attention from the boys we ran around with at the time. I wanted them to show me attention because I wanted to have the proof that I was pretty, had a good personality, and worthy of being "woo'd". And as your husband said, my now-fiance would tell me that it was because I really was all of those things and guys were either intimidated or bought drinks for my friends to get closer to me.

Now that I'm older, I relish in the fact that my engagement ring makes me free from the cheesy pick-up lines and possibility of getting drugged. And I also realized that in general, being in a relationship over time also was being reflected in my dress (less cleavage, less leg, less jewelry) and attitude (less flirty, less touching, less suggestive talk). This is likely the reason and you likely have your guard up and carry yourself in a different manner than your friends.

Don't take this the wrong way, but I think this is something that probably bothers you more than you've expressed here or you wouldn't have asked a question about it, curious or not. And you certainly wouldn't have discussed it with your husband. I really encourage you to think about why this bothers you on some level. I know for me, it came down to the fact that I had a beautiful best friend (we're talking knock-out gorgeous, she's now a working model) from 2nd to 9th grade and she always got all the attention. She stole quite a few boys away from me and it hurt me deep. Being at the bar and not getting hit on brought back those same feelings of jealousy and insecurity.

Just some food for thought.

committomittxoxo

I'm a married guy and I like getting hit on by women. It happens once every 2 years or so, but man is it a confidence booster.

Im a single guy and I like getting hit on by women. It happens once every 2 years or so, but man is it a confidence booster.

Lol.. Very very funny.