The HOT mommy at the gym debate

LorinaLynn

Let me let you men in on some of the secrets of the female mind:

You know how men can be really competitive? You have to lift more than the other guy, play better, drive faster, have a prettier wife, etc. Well women are just as competitive, we just do it different. We see a pretty woman. She's competition. competition for the attention of males. Now, really, she's not. I'm happily married. I don't need attention from males but I this is all pretty deeply subconscious. But rather than actually compete with her like men might do, I decide to judge her instead. I bring her down in my mind so that I "win" this non-existent subconscious contest. Sometimes i don't realize I'm doing this. I label her as "silly" for wearing makeup to the gym to make myself feel better about the fact that somewhere there might be a man (whom I am of course not interested in) who might find her more attractive than me. This is why women are "catty" or "*****y" to each other.

I agree fully... and I still think I might be a guy because I'd rather run faster and lift heavier, and not just heavier and faster than other girls. :blushing:

change_happens

i don't understand going to the gym and looking cute. i say go and get roughed up by a good workout and save the cutesie stuff for later. but you know... everybody has a their own way of doing things. no judgement here. me... when i do go... i just go with my hair thrown up or a bandana an old tshirt and sweats/shorts, or whatever is nice and comfy and can absorb all of that sweat.

LeanerBeef

Hey, if the ladies are there to work out I don't care how dolled up they are. Some ladies don't leave home without makeup - not necessary but whatever....I just ask that they go easy on the perfume. Nothing worse than trying to properly breath and catching a whiff of Jean Nate going by.....

MissFit0101

I don't try to look good at the gym. I look like complete crap and don't care. I also don't care about the "hot mommies" or the ladies who aren't really working out. That's their prerogative. It doesn't bother me one bit.

ETA: I can appreciate some eye candy at the gym too... lol... yup I said it .. I find women attractive.

quiksandy

I'll admit to occasionally wearing makeup and trying to look good at the gym because my husband works out at the same time as me and he likes that kind of stuff. My whole goal (in MFP and fitness) is to attract him. Your client might look at me and judge me as one of those HOT mommies competing with other ladies at the gym. But let me assure you, I'm there to work out and bust it. I just happen to want to look good while doing it FOR MY HUSBAND. Not to compete with any other women.

bear_nakey

I'm a hot mom who gets sweaty, makes crazy faces while lifting, wears oversized sweats occasionally, but often wears some kind of stretchy material, sometimes wears makeup (when I have other things to do prior or after) and sometimes goes au-naturale. . . healthy IS hot, no matter how you look when your getting there

mcourtney09

I go to the gym straight from work so I have my makeup left on from earlier in the day...it usually ends up sweating off and I look like a crazy person by the end of my session. If I cared more about how I looked I might not work as hard...and to be honest I don't give a crap how I look. I am there to sweat my *kitten* off...get red in the face...and stinky. Then I will go home shower and look fab when I go out

imkegoal

I am one of those who gets really sweatty and red faced- even when I was a size 10, any level of workout just gets my heartbeat going, and hey; I paid for it, so I feel I should make it worth my while by working hard.

I don't mind the barbies... eh I meant 'hot mama's' ... in the gym, as long as they actually work out, and don't keep the machine I so deperately want to go on occupied whilst chatting with their mates in stead of exercising. This has happened many times before in a previous gym.

I now go to a quiet gym, which caters mainly for men building up their muscels.
Positives: it is cheaper, the cardio machines are always available, as the men are on the weight machines all of the time, and I can laugh at their attempts to impress each other.

byrnette

We all should know the difference between people (mommies) who are confident and looking good by taking care of themselves and those insecure types desperately seeking attention always.

They are everywhere -- from the school pick up/drop offs to the gym.

I guess the third category might be those who truly do not care what they look like in the personal grooming/clothing department.

Having lived in Europe for the last 3.5 years, you just do not see many of those in this last department...but tons in the seeking male attention types -- divorce rate was super high where we lived and the gym we belonged to was like a swingers club.

Grooming preferences aside -- go with confidence from within and minimize on the judging/hate.

DixiedoesMFP

I look ilke crap when I get to the gym and about ten times worse when I leave. That doesn't bother me one bit. But the "hot mommies" don't bother me one bit, either. They look great. I wished I looked that great 90% of the time, even when not at the gym. Some people are just like that - they look great no matter what.

The only time I have ever really questioned what another person was doing at the gym was the woman running full out on the treadmill in a bathing suit. And then it only bothered me because I was just thinking "Ow. The girls have no support and I can only imagine the chafing." Otherwise, none of my business what other people are wearing/doing.

Tamishumate

always have make up on, most days I am going right from work, so its already there, but I will put makeup on to go to the gym on a saturday or sunday... I will also put it on to go to the drug store. I just dont leave the house without a little something... the only time I will leave the house is if its for a run..... I leave the gym dripping sweat and not so cute, but I go in looking cute..

lmc1015

Ok so I really think it is not necessary to get all done up to go to the gym but if that's what makes them feel better, then I am fine it with...HOWEVER...they should not wear ANY perfume!! I cannot stand when a girl gets on a machine next to me or even just walks by my machine while I am working out and she has sooo much perfume on I can taste it. That is not necessary and is very inconsiderate in my book. Makeup and perfume really have no place in the gym ))

r1ghtpath

i do the majority of my work outs at home. at night, after my kids are in bed. so no one sees me a mess unless i photograph it and post it on Facebook, LOL!!!

i do not leave my house without make up. i will leave my house with my hair in a pony tail. but, i prefer to have showered and have my hair down.

so, if i am going to the gym, i do have make up on. and my hair is usually up in a pony tail.

i will NOT dress up to go to the gym though.

i work out at lifetime fitness and people are pretty serious about working out. you don't see a lot of socializing outside of the group classes or bootcamps. at least i never see that when i'm there. there is a lot going on there though. during the summer there are MILLIONS of hot mommies by the pool with their kids and THEN you see them almost all dolled up! there are some seriously sexy women that are moms at my gym.

i don't judge though. to each their own. i'm sure that people think it's odd that i wear make up to the gym. but, i don't leave my house EVER without it on. so.

DoingitWell

I used to go to the gym straight from work so sometimes that meant I had on make up. Howeever my gym clothes were always the most wrinkled of anyone in the gym. I just used to ball them up and throw them in the bag. That was what I was most self conscious of. But now I work out from home mostly and have seen awesome results, probably because I am not focused on my wrinkled clothes..lol

DoingitWell

Ok so I really think it is not necessary to get all done up to go to the gym but if that's what makes them feel better, then I am fine it with...HOWEVER...they should not wear ANY perfume!! I cannot stand when a girl gets on a machine next to me or even just walks by my machine while I am working out and she has sooo much perfume on I can taste it. That is not necessary and is very inconsiderate in my book. Makeup and perfume really have no place in the gym ))

THANK YOU!!!!!! It's hard for me to breathe when perfume mommy gal or cologne papa is next to me when I'm trying to jog.

jsmith81515

They're conducting sociology experiments. They're not there to work out...they are there for the attention. They want the looks, and are testing the men to see what works to get the attention. DUH!

CoryIda

always have make up on, most days I am going right from work, so its already there, but I will put makeup on to go to the gym on a saturday or sunday... I will also put it on to go to the drug store. I just dont leave the house without a little something... the only time I will leave the house is if its for a run..... I leave the gym dripping sweat and not so cute, but I go in looking cute..

^^ This, exactly (except I'm probably not cute to start out with, but I *am* made up a bit)

chixdrag2

Why is everyone so judgy about this? LOL, I go to the gym in the evening after my daughter goes to sleep, so usually my hair and make up are already done...I'm not going to take my make up off and mess up my hair just so I won't be considered a "gym bunny". I know I'm about to work my *kitten* off and focus on MY workout, so it doesn't matter what other people think about it. It really shouldn't matter how you come into the gym...what matters is what you do while you're there. I usually go by the saying "If you still look cute at the end of your workout, you didn't work hard enough".

sleepytexan

Hot mommies know you're annoyed by them, and it cracks them up. That's why they're hot ;p

bcc112986

Okay...not only are HOT mommies annoying so are the 15 year old girls with perfect bodies who come in the gym with barely there shorts on and tank tops (no bras) and BARELY workout while all the men stare at them in hopes of seeing up their shorts. And they are always in a pack of 3 or 4. Ughh.

kimmydear

Not a gym-goer here...workout at home or outdoors. However, in the past I was guilty of dropping kids off at school in my pajamas. That all changed the day I locked myself out (long story...house key had been taken off my key ring for someone to use) and I had to drive to my husband's work in rush hour traffic to get his house key...in my pajamas. He was kind enough to meet me in the parking lot, but still...talk about a not hot mommy!!! ;-)

Amber86queenbee

Ok so I really think it is not necessary to get all done up to go to the gym but if that's what makes them feel better, then I am fine it with...HOWEVER...they should not wear ANY perfume!! I cannot stand when a girl gets on a machine next to me or even just walks by my machine while I am working out and she has sooo much perfume on I can taste it. That is not necessary and is very inconsiderate in my book. Makeup and perfume really have no place in the gym ))

THANK YOU!!!!!! It's hard for me to breathe when perfume mommy gal or cologne papa is next to me when I'm trying to jog.

Hear hear! I already struggle to breath with my allergies I don't need that as well.