I've been noticing....

jellybeanhed313

I have noticed this same thing....especially since I've been adapting a healthier lifestyle. I think "omg, don't buy that.....THAT is the reason you are fat!"

PearsPeppersandPeanutButter

I know! It seems to be so easy to figure out. They aren't ready....

I love this statement. "They aren't ready..." because I feel that if you aren't ready to commit then I can't really help you because you aren't going to listen and really absorb my information and help. People keep asking me how I am losing weight and toning up, but then they start to complain immediately about the food i'm not eating the t.v. that i am missing out on. Or my personal fave, is when me and my husband split a meal because it's not very healthy food and then share a half a better portion, and they make fun of us for eating better right after they ask for advice and our help.

But what can you do? They aren't ready.

galegetsthin

WOW I think I can sum up most of the thoughts from this thread with a couple of sentences:

I look at other people's carts and judge them by what they're eating and what their kids are eating. I then feel better about myself for subsequently judging them.

Or, you can look at it with different eyes. I look at other peoples carts and notice a correlation with size and what they choose to eat and am saddened that they have not chosen or do not know how to make better decisions for their family. I used to BE the morbidly obese woman with a cart full of crap food, then I chose to do things differently, and now I am the barely overweight girl with the buggy full of really healthy food and a *little* bit of crap food........ it is not all judgemental. It is a fear. A fear of what some of us used to be. But do you feel better for judging me?

galegetsthin

Do you ever notice the obese/overweight families with the cart full of healthy foods because they want to change? That would be me and my husband, only with our skinny 15 year old daughter. I know there are more of us out there somewhere.

I see you guys and get SO PROUD for you! I know how hard it is to make that leap. So, I get hope and motivation from it.

christibam

really shows u r what you eat!!! used to deliver pizza and same thing... practically every "regular" customer... very over weight...

HA! We ordered pizza last night and my husband answered the door. I walked up to grab the pizza and put it in the kitchen and the Papa Johns guy looked me up and down and was like, "OH DUDE! You're losing weight! I just thought you didn't like our pizza anymore." Same delivery guy we always have and we went from ordering like 3x per week to like once a month. I couldn't help but laugh.

I do think it's funny to walk through grocery stores now though. I know what I used to fill my cart with and all of it was crap. Now I just get one of the little baskets and it has some veggies, almond milk, fish, chicken, wraps, etc. So I know how it is now and I don't wonder why I used to get weird looks in the checkout line anymore.

I feel kind of bad for people sometimes looking in others carts. I don't feel bad for the person but for those who are in their life. It breaks my heart to see a big fat fatty in one of those Walmart motorized carts and the little basket is filled to the brim with cakes, cookies, ice cream and TV dinners.

bwallner1971

Don't always judge the cover by it's book.

My family is all overweight....but my cart is full of healthy protein, (chicken & fish), fresh & frozen fruit & vegis, whole grain minimally processed snacks, whole grain breads & cereals, low fat plain greek yogurt & cheeses, fat free milk....

But then again as a family we've lost close to 80 lbs. since we've changed our shopping habits.

aftergypsies

I'm a grocery line bragger/judger myself. I scoff at the person in front of me buying fatty foods if they are not thin and parade around my veggies like I have just cured cancer. I've eaten healthy for years, my problem is cereal, love the stuff but a binge on that vs fast food will never kill me - fingers crossed

So you don't scoff at thin people who have a cart full of junk? I don't get this. Whether thin or fat I think you're not doing yourself any favors eating junk period.

I agree that this topic turned into perhaps something it wasn't intended to be?

firstnamekaren

WOW I think I can sum up most of the thoughts from this thread with a couple of sentences:

I look at other people's carts and judge them by what they're eating and what their kids are eating. I then feel better about myself for subsequently judging them.

thank you for making such a concise observation!!!....of these posts - and not of the people they are juding!

You're welcome.

There have been some nasty things said in this thread....like parents don't know why their kids are fat? Parents are lazy and that's why they're low income families?

I get that it's a wonderful feeling to finally make life changes that are healthy, but at some point we didn't and that's why we're here. But where's the compassion for those who haven't figured it out yet?

hdroddy

WOW I think I can sum up most of the thoughts from this thread with a couple of sentences:

I look at other people's carts and judge them by what they're eating and what their kids are eating. I then feel better about myself for subsequently judging them.

Or, you can look at it with different eyes. I look at other peoples carts and notice a correlation with size and what they choose to eat and am saddened that they have not chosen or do not know how to make better decisions for their family. I used to BE the morbidly obese woman with a cart full of crap food, then I chose to do things differently, and now I am the barely overweight girl with the buggy full of really healthy food and a *little* bit of crap food........ it is not all judgemental. It is a fear. A fear of what some of us used to be. But do you feel better for judging me?

I think you're right. Fear and maybe a little relief. I think most people posting on this thread feel the same way you do. But you gotta admit, if some of those folks you guys were talking about were to log on and read, it would be hurtful to them. And, especially if they log on here out of a desire to change their lives, only to find this kind of reception where they hoped to find support - well, you can imagine.

I doubt anyone's intentions here are bad. But still...

nml2011

The funny thing is (well not that funny) is that the cart full of processed foods cost less than your cart of fresh good quality produce (in the UK anyways);

I'm not complaining as it's worth the investment but just making the observation... do you notice the same?

That sucks for the UK! It is soooooooo not true in Canada and i'm sure the US and the UK has a much higher population than Canada, guess its an import issue....

For me, If you eat a frozen dinner for dinner thats $3, or 2 (so thats 1200+ cals, eww!) cheap-o nasty Michalina's for $2 total to try and get full but you'll still be hungry due to no protein or fiber and a homemade chicken stir-fry with veggies and brown rice and 1 breast costs $3 too!. I have tried and cannot possibly spend more than $150 a month for 2 of us (and $40 of that is diet pepsi - his vice not mine). Frozen meat is cheaper yes but thats it!

Unfortunately we are overpriced on most life essentials - food, electricity / heating gas, car fuel (massively)...

Sorry off topic a little there :ohwell:

jenj1313

I'm always surprised by how many comments I get in the check out line (from other shoppers) about the "healthy" food I'm buying. Like it's novel. Shouldn't be, but sadly I guess it is. And they don't seem to register the Diet Dr. Pepper as "unhealthy" either. I'll admit it's not the best, but I've gotta have a few vices ;-)

firstnamekaren

WOW I think I can sum up most of the thoughts from this thread with a couple of sentences:

I look at other people's carts and judge them by what they're eating and what their kids are eating. I then feel better about myself for subsequently judging them.

Or, you can look at it with different eyes. I look at other peoples carts and notice a correlation with size and what they choose to eat and am saddened that they have not chosen or do not know how to make better decisions for their family. I used to BE the morbidly obese woman with a cart full of crap food, then I chose to do things differently, and now I am the barely overweight girl with the buggy full of really healthy food and a *little* bit of crap food........ it is not all judgemental. It is a fear. A fear of what some of us used to be. But do you feel better for judging me?

This is really profound, I think. It has a lot of truth in it. I think it's really awesome that you would open up like that. I don't think I was judging anyone in this thread....I didn't put anyone down, nor do I feel better about myself for anything I've said.

EmCarroll1990

The funny thing is (well not that funny) is that the cart full of processed foods cost less than your cart of fresh good quality produce (in the UK anyways);

I'm not complaining as it's worth the investment but just making the observation... do you notice the same?

That sucks for the UK! It is soooooooo not true in Canada and i'm sure the US and the UK has a much higher population than Canada, guess its an import issue....

For me, If you eat a frozen dinner for dinner thats $3, or 2 (so thats 1200+ cals, eww!) cheap-o nasty Michalina's for $2 total to try and get full but you'll still be hungry due to no protein or fiber and a homemade chicken stir-fry with veggies and brown rice and 1 breast costs $3 too!. I have tried and cannot possibly spend more than $150 a month for 2 of us (and $40 of that is diet pepsi - his vice not mine). Frozen meat is cheaper yes but thats it!

Unfortunately we are overpriced on most life essentials - food, electricity / heating gas, car fuel (massively)...

Sorry off topic a little there :ohwell:

$150.00 a month? That's crazy. I'm in Canada as well, and I even shop at No Frills and only buying healthy food, I spend at least $400.00 / month for 2 1/2 people - my fiancé's son is only with us on weekends.

quara

$150.00 a month? That's crazy. I'm in Canada as well, and I even shop at No Frills and only buying healthy food, I spend at least $400.00 / month for 2 1/2 people - my fiancé's son is only with us on weekends.

I hear you! Also Canadian and I have a hard time sticking to $400 for two of us. That being said we do enjoy expensive cheeses sometimes But milk is ridiculously priced, Greek yogurt is $5/tub and peanut butter is $7.50 a jar... aie! When I was in Germany a few months ago, a litre of milk was 50 cents. We ate like kings for $10 euros at the grocery store!


ETA: I should also note that my husband will eat a healthy meal that I cook, and then two hours later go and eat another "snack" that is the equivalent of my daily calories. Maybe if I was feeding two people who ate like me the food would last a little longer

tashjs21

The funny thing is (well not that funny) is that the cart full of processed foods cost less than your cart of fresh good quality produce (in the UK anyways);

I'm not complaining as it's worth the investment but just making the observation... do you notice the same?

Absolutely! Especially if the family eats meat. Processed meat is way cheaper then fresh meat.

Especially chicken and fish! I am trying so hard to cut way back on beef but it is cheaper than fish (which I would prefer to eat more of) :mad:

ladytinkerbell99

I get this, but there are people who can't afford a stove and their apt. "units" only come with or can fit a microwave. Maybe their only choice to lose weight is low calorie food that does not need to be cooked (fruit, veggies raw) and flat out calorie restriction.

My husband and I can are living in a small trailer, so conventional cooking is not an option. It's not an excuse either, so people like us can really just focus on eating less, if not necissarily "better". All though, raw foods like nuts, apples, and carrots are better anyway!

I think you bring up a very valid point. Some people (not all) just do not have the money. They do not have big TV's, and their children are not eating 3 meals a day. They may get ONE meal a day and that is at school. Often these children are very lucky to get the meals they get at school. With the limited budgets yes the food choices may not be the best - but maybe if more people gave (in donations) then different food choices could be made. Just a thought.

HauteP1nk

You are what you eat. Ain't that the truth? lol

rileymama

I've noticed this too, but at the same time, 3 years ago, my cart was ful of junk too, so who am to judge? (though I have ALWAYS bought alot of fruit and veggies)...Some people are on very strict budgets, and some just don't know better....it is sad to see kids who don't know there is food that is not frozen or fast food, or just crap. That being said, I still buy my kids treats, and frozen pizza when the bbaysitter is coming, and I don't care what people think..honestly, I am probbaly more worried about hiding the "bad" food from my hubby :P LOL..when he is on a "eat right" kick, which he has since starting P90X and now Crossfit, he gives me a hard time for ANY junk in my cart I guess it keeps me from giving into my pregnancy sweet/fat tooth

Debbe2

ive really been noticing latley what people look like compared to what they eat... its redicilous lol like u go for a walk in costco you look on ur right u see a family that are all avarage/lean weight and their cart is full of chicken breast, fish, lean meats, yogurt, fruits n veggies, bread, rice, some cereal and a treat for the kids like 1 box of cookies....

then u look to ur left you see entire family thats obese(feel bad for the kids!!! saddest thing in the world as kids have to suffer because of their parents) what do they have in their cart? 4-5 costco sized bags of chips, couple mags of muffins, huge thing of dip, couple TV dinners, bread, cookies, frozen pizzas.....

that above is exactly how it really kicked in walking through costco n seeing what people look like compared to what they buy and realizing how big of effect nutrition choices make on your body!

really shows u r what you eat!!! used to deliver pizza and same thing... practically every "regular" customer... very over weight...

^^^ This ^^^ is exactly how I began to lose weight and how I shop. So true!!! ^^^

kaetmarie

I used to work in a grocery store and without even looking at the family, I could usually tell what shapes they would be ...I too felt super bad for the kids who don't have a choice in the matter.

christibam

You are what you eat. Ain't that the truth? lol

Funny... I don't recall eating any sexy beast recently.

ladytinkerbell99

While agree with the comments of making wise choices at the grocery and wise choices in what we eat....lets be careful about how judgemental this all sounds. After all, a lot of you have made some super sized mistakes your self or you wouldn't have the weight/eating problems that you have. It sounds like now since you think you have conquered making poor food choices you are better than the people who you are judging. Maybe you don't really feel this way, but in written form, it sure sounds like it.

Everyone has weaknesses or ignorances that need to be corrected....lets be a bit more compassionate to our fellow human being.

Thank you for your comment. It needed to be said.

JustLena75

I do notice what people put in their carts, but this thread has made me realize I never really pay attention to their weight. I'm more horrified by the fact that cooking is fast becoming a lost art...no one knows how to cook REAL food anymore. That makes me sad!

Articeluvsmemphis

You are what you eat. Ain't that the truth? lol

Funny... I don't recall eating any sexy beast recently.

FOR THE WIN :drinker:

hdroddy

The funny thing is (well not that funny) is that the cart full of processed foods cost less than your cart of fresh good quality produce (in the UK anyways);

I'm not complaining as it's worth the investment but just making the observation... do you notice the same?

Absolutely! Especially if the family eats meat. Processed meat is way cheaper then fresh meat.

Especially chicken and fish! I am trying so hard to cut way back on beef but it is cheaper than fish (which I would prefer to eat more of) :mad:

I went through the same thing. But if you have a membership at a big box store like Sam's and can get their big bags of, say, tilapia filets, it actually comes out pretty inexpensive. I bought a big freezer just so I can do this. It isn't feasible for everyone, but it did help me. It's the first time you fill up the freezer that it is expensive; after that, it doesn't really increase your bill, because you're just replenishing as you normally would. In the long run, it costs you less. Also, I switched to ground turkey breast and things like turkey chops and turkey smoked sausage. It took me a long time to do it, because I don't much like turkey and it seemed yuck. But I finally worked myself up to trying it, and it is really delicious, and costs just about the same as beef (at least in my local supermarket, it does).

Rae6503

Once, my kids pediatrician saw me buying frozen fish sticks for my kids. I was very embarrassed. But we do still eat them on occasion.

JustLena75

I wonder if people judge my cart. I do buy frozen pizza and soda (1 12pk a week for hubby). You won't see much produce in my basket, but that is because I buy Bountiful Baskets and don't need to get that stuff at the store.

penrbrown

I'm always surprised by how many comments I get in the check out line (from other shoppers) about the "healthy" food I'm buying. Like it's novel. Shouldn't be, but sadly I guess it is. And they don't seem to register the Diet Dr. Pepper as "unhealthy" either. I'll admit it's not the best, but I've gotta have a few vices ;-)

As a cashier I can say it IS uncommon. Even the skinny people have unhealthy choices in their order. It's very rare I see someone buying only non-processed foods.

For me, processed = bad. That's just how I see it and it's very rare indeed to see people who aren't buying junk.

birdieintx

I see plenty of thin people buying junk in the grocery store and that saddens me equally as much. So many of you on this thread have justified buying good food for yourself and junk food for spouses/children/teens because they don't need to lose weight or are skinny whatever. Your health is not always measured by what you weigh.

There was a fascinating article on Yahoo a few weeks ago about a reporter who underwent a fully body diagnostic scan as part of a story. He was in his late 30s, fit, and active. Turns out he had a heart blockage exasperated by his poor eating habits. He justified eating unhealthy foods because he was thin and worked out.

There's just no justification for feeding yourself garbage.

dizsolvedgirl

We have my boyfriends daughter every other weekend. I know her Mum tries her best but is not the best cook and defers to high sugar and carb convenience meals all the time.

Luckily she is an active girl and not overweight but sadly her genes could easily change that.

So when she is with us I try and educate her on how to eat better. Encouraging her to eat her proteins and veg first, I’d much rather her get into the habit of scraping her pasta or rice. Even when we are out and stop at a fast food place, I’ve curbed her first choice of going for just French fries to ordering chicken fingers or something that will keep her satisfied longer.