cursing + having little kids ==
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Women and profanity is neither attractive nor classy. Regardless of your educational background and career, if your vocabulary is not extensive enough to where you must use vulgar language in order to make a point, you will appear as uneducated.
"You can pay for school, but you can't buy class"0 -
Women and profanity is neither attractive nor classy. Regardless of your educational background and career, if your vocabulary is not extensive enough to where you must use vulgar language in order to make a point, you will appear as uneducated.
You've clearly never read one of my blog posts...I find that I manage a delightful mix of the coarse and the sublime. Really, I appeal to the masses. :laugh:0 -
Really...there are so many more important things that equate to good parenting than cursing. I try not to, but do it anyway sometimes. And my kids are doing great so far and they have each used a bad word here and there to "test the waters" but they know they may not speak that way because it is not nice. I don't pretend to be perfect in front of my kids...they see me laugh, cry, act crazy and sometimes curse. They also have an awesome life and a ton of love...so I really don't think it matters.
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eh, not a big deal. they're going to be around it ALL the time when they get older.
My parents cursed all the time too. & i also turned out ok :P
I honestly think its cute/funny to hear a little kid curse, especially when they mispronounce it...OMG adorable xD
Id rather have my little girl curse & listen to rob zombie rather than have her nose in books all day. EW!!
In the state of our country and the unbelievably decreasing interest for science and technology among our youth and my generation, it is abosulely deplorable that any person would want for their child to sit and listen to rob zombie and cuss.
With that being said, I do not cuss. Not in front of my children nor in conversations with family and friends.. i simply don't because its ignorant and I feel i can more productivly get my point across without using such language.
I am proud to say that my 2 yr old is his daycare class' role model for having the best manners.
I want to be clear that I am in no way wanting to hurt or offend anyone here. I just wish that we would want more for our children. Lord knows they it.
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My 6 yo daughter was strutting around in my heels with no skirt on the other day singing "I'm sexy and I know it". Just seemed wrong somehow. I got her to stop:-)
LOL.........my 4.5 yr old grandson loves the ELMO version of that song - here, give it a listen. Your 6-yr old might love this!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RWF86D_UNxc
As for swearing? I tend to let 'em fly around friends who are not offended by that.....but have always tried to restrain myself around kids. They will hear these words, of course, but it doesn't have to be from me. As a Grandmother, it's kinda crass to drop the "f" bomb around my grandson, ya know?0 -
I try not to swear in front of my kids - usually the worst they'll hear from me is "hell" or "damn it". But they've heard alot from their dad and, sadly, at school.
They both learned to give the finger (kindergarten and a Christian preschool!) But they both also know it's really really bad and don't do it unless they're just trying to get my attention. The other day one of them was talking about vagina's and penis' in line at the grocery store. Embarressing. And the other night watching hockey on TV my 6 yr old says "Who the hell are all those people?"
They're gonna learn it sooner or later. I try not to act shocked as I think it brings more attention to it. But I just tell them it's a very bad word that kids should not be using.0 -
i try hard not to swear around my kids (3yrs and 20mths) but occasionally they slip out as im sure most of us do and my 3 year old has repeated one or 2 by saying to me "can i say ..... mummy?" to which my reply is "im sorry baby, mummy shouldnt say that because its rude or naughty (depending on the word) and its only a mummy or daddy word" this she just accepts and says that she can say it when she is bigger! im not against people or women swearing its down to individual tastes and id never force my opinion on anyone else or pass judgement (its our own lives, swear or dont i really couldnt give a cr@p)
(should point out worse they would hear is oh ****, bugger....never the f word!!)0 -
Is there a handbook and what's suitable? There are many different situations and interpretations of said situation.<snip>
A flow chart?
Can I Swear? ----> Are you in a suitable environment? At home, or at a football match?
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Yes > You can swear.
No > You can't swear.
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And I swear for emphasis. They don't hear it often, but when they do, they know the *kitten* is hitting the fan.
I tell my kids it is ok to swear when it's part of the lyrics of a song.
As I said, at home or at a football match.
To me, it's about context. As I said, I'm not someone who swears in conversation, but if future children want to include that language in their conversation at home I would far rather they did that and understood that those are words it would be rude and disrespectful to use elsewhere.
It's not about these being 'grown up' words. I think that's terrible - the idea that adults are somehow different and can behave differently when it comes to language. It's not about being 'grown up', it's about being polite and considerate. I would rather swearing didn't take place at football matches of course, but it does, and I don't want my child to feel they have to censor themselves when all around them use bad language, nor should they have to go quiet (as you say) for certain lyrics of a song. UNLESS they're in public.
The home will be theirs, and if they want to swear at home that's their choice, just as everyone else in the household will have that choice, but that doesn't mean I won't be telling them the reasons I'm not a fan of swearing.0 -
Women and profanity is neither attractive nor classy. Regardless of your educational background and career, if your vocabulary is not extensive enough to where you must use vulgar language in order to make a point, you will appear as uneducated.
Whew! i was HOPING i didn't come off as attractive, classy or educated to anyone around me. Mission accomplished!!!0 -
I have mixed opinion. I don't swear or curse myself. I think it sounds common, rude and thoughtless, BUT that's my personal thought and preference.
My fiancé does swear. Not as much as some, but quite a bit. We're planning to have children in about three or four years, and he decided off his own back a week or two ago that he was going to start trying to swear less in preparation for us having kids.
BUT I don't mind so much if other people swear, as long as they don't do it in front of other people's children. If there ends up being a situation where one of my future kids decides to swear, I'll let them know that I'm not AGAINST any words. They can swear in conversation if that's what they want to do, but they must always think about the environment they're in and never swear in public where others can hear. On the other hand, if my fiancé's taking them to football I won't mind them joining in the chants as it's a part of the environment they'll be in.
I agree. I still drop words in very frustrating situations, but I've definitely cleaned up my language a bit. I went through a bit of a swearing stage a couple of years back (probably less than most people do, but I come from a house without swearing), and my mom use to always say that it made me sound uncivilized. At the time I thought she was just being a bit of a prude, but then I had a couple of customers come into my work that were older people, accompanied by children, and they were swearing like there was no tomorrow. It really did make them look uncivilized, rude and common. I definitely cleaned up my language after that. Will I swear in front of my children? No. Will I freak out when my kids do eventually pick up swear words? No.0 -
I am flattered that I was capable of getting you all riled up. Stay classy, my friends.0
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In the state of our country and the unbelievably decreasing interest for science and technology among our youth and my generation, it is abosulely deplorable that any person would want for their child to sit and listen to rob zombie and cuss.
Science, technology, Rob Zombie and cursing. These are not mutually exclusive. I have several peer-reviewed research papers under my belt, work as a computer programmer, listen to Rob Zombie sometimes, and use foul language.
And for the record, a girl with a good vocabulary, including those vulgar words, is pretty damn attractive. I know I'm not alone on this one. Right, guys?0 -
I am flattered that I was capable of getting you all riled up. Stay classy, my friends.
Lol, love it :flowerforyou:0 -
I am flattered that I was capable of getting you all riled up. Stay classy, my friends.
you mistake "riled up" for pity.0 -
im not a guy, but i totally agree
In the state of our country and the unbelievably decreasing interest for science and technology among our youth and my generation, it is abosulely deplorable that any person would want for their child to sit and listen to rob zombie and cuss.
Science, technology, Rob Zombie and cursing. These are not mutually exclusive. I have several peer-reviewed research papers under my belt, work as a computer programmer, listen to Rob Zombie sometimes, and use foul language.
And for the record, a girl with a good vocabulary, including those vulgar words, is pretty damn attractive. I know I'm not alone on this one. Right, guys?
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I am flattered that I was capable of getting you all riled up. Stay classy, my friends.
you mistake "riled up" for pity.
haha love it!0 -
Don't take away her victory you unabashed guttersnipe.I am flattered that I was capable of getting you all riled up. Stay classy, my friends.
you mistake "riled up" for pity.0 -
In the state of our country and the unbelievably decreasing interest for science and technology among our youth and my generation, it is abosulely deplorable that any person would want for their child to sit and listen to rob zombie and cuss.
Science, technology, Rob Zombie and cursing. These are not mutually exclusive. I have several peer-reviewed research papers under my belt, work as a computer programmer, listen to Rob Zombie sometimes, and use foul language.
And for the record, a girl with a good vocabulary, including those vulgar words, is pretty damn attractive. I know I'm not alone on this one. Right, guys?
Probably depends on the guys. Some men love it some men don't :drinker:0 -
Don't take away her victory you unabashed guttersnipe.I am flattered that I was capable of getting you all riled up. Stay classy, my friends.
you mistake "riled up" for pity.
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Sorry everyone- but I'm astonished by the general consensus that its ok to swear in front of your kids. I'm not saying I've never slipped, because of course I have. BUT I always feel terrible after I do. I believe in setting a good example and letting kids be innocent for a while. I do NOT find it "cute" to hear the F-bomb come out of a tiny mouth. How hard is it to watch your mouth? If you have the willpower to monitor what goes into your mouth (which being on this site says you do) than you can monitor what comes out of it.0
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I was putting my son to bed early the other night for being a brat all day and disrespecting his mother.(he was tired) Anyway, on the way up the stairs he called me a "Vagina". It was hard not to laugh. Vagina- ha ha ha!
hahahahaha!!! I love it :P I'm curious to see what my 4 month old will pick up. We try to avoid cursing but sometimes it slips. I was raised around a very vulgar group and I'm fairly sensitive with my language, so I don't think it will ruin any children if they are around it :P0 -
And for the record, a girl with a good vocabulary, including those vulgar words, is pretty damn attractive. I know I'm not alone on this one. Right, guys?
/Tosses hair.
DAMN straight.
Swear words are like ghost peppers. Used sparingly, they add just the right flavor to the right conversation. In excess, you'll just want to stick your head under water.0 -
My parent's swore all the time. I turned out fine...I curse like a sailor now but my mom's rule was, "You are not allowed to cuss until you have kids of your own, then you'll have a reason to cuss." To this day I NEVER cuss around my mom and I'm 25, I've slipped up a couple times or I've started to say a cuss word and then changed it half way through (fuuuu-reaking) hahaha. I'm sooo lame but I guess it's a respect thing. She definitely knows I sound like a sailor when I'm not around her
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Sorry everyone- but I'm astonished by the general consensus that its ok to swear in front of your kids. I'm not saying I've never slipped, because of course I have. BUT I always feel terrible after I do. I believe in setting a good example and letting kids be innocent for a while. I do NOT find it "cute" to hear the F-bomb come out of a tiny mouth. How hard is it to watch your mouth? If you have the willpower to monitor what goes into your mouth (which being on this site says you do) than you can monitor what comes out of it.
The majority of us who said that we curse in front of our kids explained that our kids don't curse. They may have repeated the word or words at some point, however, they aren't running around throwing out f-bombs in day care.0 -
You are NOT old fashoined. Just a decent, loving parent.WOW I must be old fashioned, I have a four year old daughter & put her to bed early for saying god damn only last week! I don't swear in front of her & if people wish to visit us I encourage them not to swear in front of her. Swearing in public is an erosion of basic common courtesy, where the "self" has become more important than the "community" & people question why the world is going to hell in a handbasket. I am not saying swearing is the worlds or a childs greatest issue but respect for each other has to start somewhere!
Funny I don't allow my daughter to stay up late or watch inappropriate programs on television & as for reading if you don't encourage your children to read & to ENJOY reading you are quite simply wrong! IMO
Russ
My 6 yo daughter was strutting around in my heels with no skirt on the other day singing "I'm sexy and I know it". Just seemed wrong somehow. I got her to stop:-)
So are you implying that parents that curse aren't decent, or loving? My dad swore a storm when I was growing up..I am now a mom, a teacher, and I'm currently working on my 3rd degree. (An EdS...it's a basically a doctorate without the diss, so I won't have the PhD after my name.) I coach my son's soccer team, we eat dinner as a family most nights, we read together, go to the park, laugh, learn and love as a family. Wow, my sh!tty dad really did a number on me, didn't he?
apart from you being a little touchy, it sounds like your dad did a really good job.:-) I wasn't implying anything, the fact is that we were all raised differently, we all have different morals and there is no one right way to raise children.
Way to go with all your education, with your extended intelligence you won't need to swear will you:-)0 -
Exactly. i would rather have my girlfriend whisper in my ear..."Baby I want you to pin me down and *kitten* me right now" over "my dear, would you please suspend my wrists and have some rousing intercourse. Please move the doilies first".<snip>
Swear words are like ghost peppers. Used sparingly, they add just the right flavor to the right conversation. In excess, you'll just want to stick your head under water.0 -
Sorry everyone- but I'm astonished by the general consensus that its ok to swear in front of your kids. I'm not saying I've never slipped, because of course I have. BUT I always feel terrible after I do. I believe in setting a good example and letting kids be innocent for a while. I do NOT find it "cute" to hear the F-bomb come out of a tiny mouth. How hard is it to watch your mouth? If you have the willpower to monitor what goes into your mouth (which being on this site says you do) than you can monitor what comes out of it.
I never said I couldn't monitor myself, I said I chose ~not~ to. And none of my kids curse. Are you reading some alternative thread?0 -
exactly! i get compliments all the time from strangers/people in public about how polite and respectful my children are... when other kids their age are running around and screaming, mine are sitting and reading or coloring or just talking. they have wonderful manners, and have been saying please and thank you since they could talk.Sorry everyone- but I'm astonished by the general consensus that its ok to swear in front of your kids. I'm not saying I've never slipped, because of course I have. BUT I always feel terrible after I do. I believe in setting a good example and letting kids be innocent for a while. I do NOT find it "cute" to hear the F-bomb come out of a tiny mouth. How hard is it to watch your mouth? If you have the willpower to monitor what goes into your mouth (which being on this site says you do) than you can monitor what comes out of it.
The majority of us who said that we curse in front of our kids explained that our kids don't curse. They may have repeated the word or words at some point, however, they aren't running around throwing out f-bombs in day care.
my daughters kindergarten teacher tells me many times a week what a joy my little girl is, and that its kids like her that make her really enjoy teaching.. shes helpful and smart and always thinking of others.
my swearing in front of them occasionally hasnt hurt them at all.0 -
Well I swore like a trooper untill I had my children and then I stopped. I want to be a good example and role model to my kids so why would I use foul language if I don't want them too!!! I'm astonished by the comment that somebody made saying they think its cute and adorable when kids swear...what's that all about????0
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Working in my line of work it becomes habit to swear like a sailor..so when Im home I don it without even noticing...and since both my kids were able to talk they have always said "hey thats a potty word mom dont say that" and they move on...they have NEVER ONCE repeated it!!! As long as your kids know the difference from right and wrong what does it matter??0
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