LIBIDO!!! how to get one??

breezad

i love my boyfriend and i never used to be lacking in this area but seems i have been for about the last 12 months!

i think he is attractive, sure he could loose a little weight and get more toned but thats not the issue at all. he know wat he is doing and makes me feel amazing, so why dont i want it???

i like sex and everything leading into it so there is no reason as to why i shouldnt be wanting it. i think about it and i think about us doing stuff but i just cant literally make the move. fine once it starts but my bf isnt going to start it all the time and he wants me to take control for awhile and i jsut cant get motivated.
i exercise daily and i eat right most of the time so i thoguht those things would help!
i know moving in with eachother it slows down abit cause you see eachother everyday and stuf like that, but i dont want us 2 years in to be like those cliche married couples who only do it on anniversaires and birthdays!

aghhhh doctor says women just go through that and dont have hormones like males. but how do i get some!!
i mean i want this fixed asap! i want a quick fix of drugs or something that will spur my sex drive out of the roof!!!!

anyone know of anything that has worked, remedies, meds, herbs, watever it may be????
(im in australia so meds might be hard to get but im open to finding out)

thanks, weird topic i know just dont know who else to ask.

Sl1ghtly

Add alcohol, subtract self repect.

angieleighbyrd

If you find anything that works let me know. I am in the same boat. We had a baby within the last year though, I guess it's common for women to lose interest after having a baby.

breezad

i fall asleep if im drunk.

i serious though.. surely someone has been through this and conqured it???
or has a massive sex drive and how they keep it?

angelasmith230

I am going through this same thing!

But I have been with my husband since i was 19 (11 years) and i heard it naturally happens when you are with someone for a long time.

That and just not feeling good about myself in general due to the weight gain over the years.

Alex_is_Hawks

You both can have mine...it's through the roof, and my partner couldn't be less interested.

Take it before it drives me crazy.

7funnygirl7

Ditto here too! I am thinking it is because I am focusing on myself so much that this isn't an issue for me as much right now. Not to mention I am just past 40....EVERYTHING changes!!!!!....YIKES!...LOL

Guitarjon

I think my other half has a low Libido. The problem is... Mine seems to raise when I'm exercising and loosing weight. Bit frustrating but I love her so just going to have to put up with it.

Fat4Fuel2

He wants you to make a move? Take your clothes off. You just made it that much more easy for him. and remember, you're sexy and you know it

paeli

Sorry, I can't help but I just wanted to say I have been suffering from the same thing. And it honestly started around the same time as when I started losing weight. I did start a new birth control 3-4 months before this, but I really didn't notice my low libido until I started losing weight

determinedbutlazy

When I was 27lb heavier and not doing anything about it I was depressed, had a low self-esteem and even when my other half was telling me how beautiful and sexy I was, I couldn't see it. Our sex life died, and then the relationship.

Now that I'm working on myself, getting healthier and (as a by product) thinner, I feel amazing. I feel strong and in control and ready to flaunt my new confidence.

Unfortunately the only man I want is halfway accross the world, but that just gives me more time to get EVEN MORE confidence!

Do you often meet your goal calories? Do you take progress pictures? Do you work out so hard you get that huge island of sweat on your shirt and beam with pride? Have you tried some cheeky texting while your other half is at work? "I just finished my workout, I'm DRIPPING.... Going to go get nice and scrubbed down in the shower.... Maybe tonight you can scrub my back for me?" It's cheesy but it's FUN, and I think FUN is what is missing from our sex lives when it all gets too serious!

Try to feel more proud of yourself for the changes you're making! It WILL make you happier and sexier.

JennieAL

I think about the fact I may die tomorrow... LOL. That makes me wanna "get some" now. Haha. Seriously, when you think about how short life is... well, maybe I'm just a weirdo. But that gets me going.

jimsuzy

Lol, incredibly true!

BarbWhite09

Add alcohol, subtract self repect.

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Dtho5159

Id love to share some of mine!! I drive my husband nuts!! We have been together since I was 18, nearly 10 years and he said Im just as big a horndog as I was back then and ive had 2 kids also, which most of my friends lost theirs during and after pregnancy.. He wants mine to find a new home lol

lilojoke

Add in some macs... www.macasure.com have tried it and its awesome

10acity

I actually wish for this problem. The last guy told me I was "going to wear him out". :blushing:

We could trade?

McKayMachina

Get a hot boyfriend with a big...heart.

bellevie23

Add alcohol, subtract self repect.

This. LOL. I dont know many married couples who only do it on special occasions..even with children...you get it in when you can LOL. I do think that maybe you need to spice it up, may help, go buy some lingerie to show off your new bod and surprise him. Or just do subtle kisses/grabs here and there through the day. I agree he shouldnt have to start it all the time, but you just need to make yourself feel sexy and maybe that will help, if a shot or two will help by all means, do it. Dont have to get drunk.

rjo921

I completely understand where you are coming from. My husband was put on testosterone and his levels are through the roof. Mine are non-existent....I mean, less than nothing. I am seeing my PCP on Friday to discuss this issue....because things need to change. I thought for a woman that her 40's were supposed to be her peak.....I'm still waiting....

FORKDOWN

Your an awesome Girlfreind for caring this much. Wish I had an answer for ya.