LIBIDO!!! how to get one??

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  • Masterchef2000
    Masterchef2000 Posts: 127 Member
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    This is really sad. I am not judging you or your relationship, but if you are not switched on when your SO walks in the room, there's an underlying problem.

    Actually, women are not visual creatures. Men are. So for a lot of women with a normal sex drive, it can take more than just appearing in the same room to turn them on. Especially after you have been together for a long time. It's just the way we are built, nothing wrong with it.

    Loosing weight can mess with your hormones just as gaining weight can for both sexes. If you really feel that this is becoming a problem, just go to your doctor and they can help you out by balancing some hormones until your body gets it right again.
  • janeshopster
    janeshopster Posts: 8
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    I have to something to share to you on this topic. I got a free ebook on this and you can send me a message if you want a copy... its 30 days to a new you and it offers a natural approach on increasing libido. you can download it for free on the soslab website. They have this product called Scentuelle - a libido patch that smells really nice and will keep you on the mood. very affordable and safe alternative.
  • Dayna154
    Dayna154 Posts: 910 Member
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    I have opposite problem... TOO much libido!
  • crazytreelady
    crazytreelady Posts: 752 Member
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    I've heard if you *kitten* more, it increase your sex drive, because it releases hormones or endorphins or something.
  • Pokermom10
    Pokermom10 Posts: 78 Member
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    I actually wish for this problem. The last guy told me I was "going to wear him out". :blushing:

    We could trade?


    I've heard that one too. Annoying!
  • Sherbog
    Sherbog Posts: 1,072 Member
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    bump
  • JulieDerda
    JulieDerda Posts: 163
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    you could be low on testosterone. <<even females have testosterone.
  • Typhanee83
    Typhanee83 Posts: 313 Member
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    I have PLENTY to share. :LibidoForYou:
  • FeelTheBurn73
    FeelTheBurn73 Posts: 14
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    Here's a suggestion. Switch from long low-intensity workouts to very high intensity workouts! You may throw up (if you are out of shape) and nearly feel like dying but after you have so many endorphins you will want to hump the nearest weight machine XD A seriously hardcore workout can give you a type of sensation like "runner's high". I'd say try it out at least :p

    If all else fails, go to a rave and score some ecstasy HAHA kidding!
  • j4nash
    j4nash Posts: 1,719 Member
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    My experience.. some women are just more sexual than others. Some women are content with not having sex.. that's why there are so many stories of sexless marriages.

    I'll never put myself in that situation again, been there before.

    My s/o, if/when I get one, and I are going to burn a lot of calories together!
  • Laura_Ivy
    Laura_Ivy Posts: 556 Member
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    I know it's from the POV of the opposite sex, but with an ex I got to the point I just wasn't interested.

    Same sort of thing - it was awesome when we did, but basically it sort of just boiled down to laziness in a way.

    I got past it though, by basically just making the decision I wasn't going to be passive about it any more.

    For me, it sort of dwindled off a bit, as it does naturally - most people aren't going to be at it 4 times a night and again in the morning every time they see each other forever...lol

    But as it dwindled, it slowly became longer and longer between times until it became almost awkward? to start anything.

    I then decided I wasn't going to let it go down like that - as I say once we did, it was good, it was just getting started - so I forced myself to make the effort, pretty much nightly, until I forced myself to realise how it wasn't actually an effort. It became a regular part of our relationship again and honestly it was back like being in the honeymoon phase again.

    Moral of the story - just do it.

    ^^This!

    The more you do it. the more you realize you want/need it to be connected with your partner. In the beginning the effort might be forced but it will become effortless a couple weeks into it. Hugs....after having 2 kids and many ups and downs I can completely undertstand. :)
  • janeshopster
    janeshopster Posts: 8
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    I think libido decreases as you age... just my POV
  • CHRISTCENTERED
    CHRISTCENTERED Posts: 33 Member
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    LOL!
  • canroadrunner
    canroadrunner Posts: 203 Member
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    These work - I think you can get them off Amazon.

    http://www.vitamart.ca/lorna-vanderhaeghe-sexsmart.html

    if not, ask your doc for a testosterone patch.
  • amysj303
    amysj303 Posts: 5,086 Member
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    Going off the pill and getting the IUD did wonders for me!
  • TheYankeeBelle
    TheYankeeBelle Posts: 37
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    I know it's from the POV of the opposite sex, but with an ex I got to the point I just wasn't interested.

    Same sort of thing - it was awesome when we did, but basically it sort of just boiled down to laziness in a way.

    I got past it though, by basically just making the decision I wasn't going to be passive about it any more.

    For me, it sort of dwindled off a bit, as it does naturally - most people aren't going to be at it 4 times a night and again in the morning every time they see each other forever...lol

    But as it dwindled, it slowly became longer and longer between times until it became almost awkward? to start anything.

    I then decided I wasn't going to let it go down like that - as I say once we did, it was good, it was just getting started - so I forced myself to make the effort, pretty much nightly, until I forced myself to realise how it wasn't actually an effort. It became a regular part of our relationship again and honestly it was back like being in the honeymoon phase again.

    Moral of the story - just do it.

    ^^This!

    The more you do it. the more you realize you want/need it to be connected with your partner. In the beginning the effort might be forced but it will become effortless a couple weeks into it. Hugs....after having 2 kids and many ups and downs I can completely undertstand. :)

    ^^^Yup. this. just do it. kind of like working out...at first you loathe it, then you look forward to it and now I get cranky if I miss a day! oh...and porn. seriously.
  • lilojoke
    lilojoke Posts: 427 Member
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    Build muscle!
  • SergeantSunshine_reused
    SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
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    Having the opposite problem. Darn long distance relationship! *dies*
  • HolleeERL
    HolleeERL Posts: 313 Member
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    Just puttin in my two cents: Stess will kill sex drive and so can B/C. I've been Mirena and it completely killed my sex drive - I dreaded sex. I have switched B/C and I'm not so psycho and the sex drive is better, but not as good as it used to be. Kids can wear you out, too (I have two young children and I stay home with them). I have also noticed it has decreased with age (I'm 42) but again, I think it is a hormonal imbalace at work here. I still find my husband very attractive and we get along great. I don't even like pleasuring myself anymore so I know it's not him. :o)
  • mab33
    mab33 Posts: 242 Member
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    Have the same problem. I think my main issue is self esteem. It's in the pits. And I used to have an uncontrollable sex drive. Don't know what's wrong. I'm supposed to want it now that I'm hitting the big 3-0 but nothing. Let me know if you figure it out!

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