girl's confident in her body == slutty?

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_snw_
_snw_ Posts: 1,305 Member
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this has actually been bugging the crap out of me lately.


I have a group of ~beautiful~ girlfriends on here and we LOVE our bodies - or at least parts of them. Sure, some of us are trying to improve them and many are trying to maintain the beauts they already achieved - but fact remains, we are still happy with what we've got.

Well, part of being happy with what we've got - we are proud to show them off. Yeah - we share them amongst eachother and a few of us even share with a few boys too. I'm not talking porn - i'm just saying pictures that may feature our best assets. as little or as much as that entails is up to each one of us girls.

Now, in our dealings of pictures and tlaking about it and trying to get away with funny profile pictures on fridays - i've seen backlash. I've personally been defriended. I've been called "slutty" (actually, we were all called slutty the other day, but i digress...) we've been reported.

I've seen plenty of man-assets shown around here. tight pants, itty bitty shorts, chests, bellies. I'm sure they are never reported. So what is with the double standard of women? Yes, americans are all freaked out about bare boobs (which are NEVER in public places), but come on, live a little ~or~ just simply ignore it.


I guess I'm not sure what I'm asking. How about this ... Do confident girls piss you off? offend you? do you just ignore it? should girls act more "ladylike"? Or should there be more of us?
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  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
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    A woman who is truly confident in herself and looks is a rare and SEXY best. It's that which truly brings out their beauty.
  • DistortedButterfly
    DistortedButterfly Posts: 44 Member
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    people be hatin'
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
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    If I were single, I'd totally be slutty.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,289 Member
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    One of my favorite quotes from a guy friend when I started losing weight was
    SLUT - Women with the morals of a man
    LOL I like my friends ( you included) to be confident and sexy personally. Be confident rock on with it and tell anyone who doesnt like it to KISS it lol
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,887 Member
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    I :heart: my friends who show off their goods (male or female). Seriously, what ISN'T to love about confidence?
  • Loko_Ino
    Loko_Ino Posts: 544 Member
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    Definitely more.
    I am tired of seeing chicks who are cute calling themselves fat because they are comparing themselves to some pic in a magazine that is 75% airbrushed and photoshopped.
    That being said, it is a double edged sword. Do I want to see a 350lb person in a bathing suit? No. Am I proud of them for posting it? Yes. Up to me what I click on.
    I say post away...they are tasteful and not slutty. You also have to factor in jealousy there exists here..
  • cmeade20
    cmeade20 Posts: 1,238 Member
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    If I had the nice toned stomach that some of the ladies on here had I'd be showing it off too. You guys worked hard for your nice bodies why wouldn't you? You're not slutty and someone put it right....some people are just jealous. To hell with them.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
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    Unfortunately, I think people have confused confident women with sluts... many confident women are comfortable showing their bodies, and enjoy sex, and are flirtatious and fun... and to the average uptight American, that means they're a Grade A Slutbag.

    How about we all knock off the double standard where a man who takes many partners or shows off their body is a playboy, and a woman who does the same is a *kitten*??

    Also, women, let's stop hating on each other, mmkay?
  • JDMPWR
    JDMPWR Posts: 1,863 Member
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  • SteveHunt113
    SteveHunt113 Posts: 648 Member
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    Wow, there are soooo many ways to answer your questions. Have complaints come mostly from men, women, or both? My guess is that it's the ladies complaining ... but that is strictly a guess.

    I for one find it a mixed things. First, I'm a man and men (most) are drawn towards the female figure. It's like 99% of our programming. On the other hand, our of respect for my wife, I dry not to notice. I fail most of the time. So for me, would it be easier if there were no temptations? Yes. Will I complain? No.

    Part of my attitude stems from my religious beliefs. It's also my religious beliefs that says you have every right to do what you want: it's not my business <-- go figure, I'm not your average christian on those grounds! :laugh:

    Anyway, it's really up to you what you want to do. I for one will not judge you ... and hope I don't stare at your pictures for more than a passing glance! :wink:
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
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    That is totally awesome.
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
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    Also, women, let's stop hating on each other, mmkay?

    Seriously. This drives me nuts.
  • lorac321
    lorac321 Posts: 627 Member
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    Definitely more.
    I am tired of seeing chicks who are cute calling themselves fat because they are comparing themselves to some pic in a magazine that is 75% airbrushed and photoshopped.
    That being said, it is a double edged sword. Do I want to see a 350lb person in a bathing suit? No. Am I proud of them for posting it? Yes. Up to me what I click on.
    I say post away...they are tasteful and not slutty. You also have to factor in jealousy there exists here..

    Sean said it all. Got it, flaunt it. - you don't like it, don't look!
  • bluemorpho1247
    bluemorpho1247 Posts: 300 Member
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    Confidence makes people more attractive, its when attractive people push it in your face that they become too confident, and oftne slutty- i think
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
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    You also have to factor in jealousy there exists here..

    Jealousy, prudishness, and conservatism all working together to remove anything remotely sexual on an internet forum that requires you to be 18 to join. Absurd....

    There is also a double standard here where women who are fit and lean often get reported while women who are overweight and post pics of their bodies do not.
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,985 Member
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    Likely to get reported for posting in the forums at all with my current profile pic, but i support what you're saying, and don't care! i think i'm looking pretty darn good, even at a size 14 (yeah, for real!). So, report away if you want, but i'm proud of how i look. i'm proud that i've worked my *kitten* off, yes, literally, to get here, and have lost 30+ lbs.

    before you report though, ask yourself if, when you reach your goal, would it feel good to you if someone reported a pic your proud of? whether you're wearing a bathing suit, workout gear, or nothing at all is your business. if you're proud of what you've got, show what you're comfortable in. it's not for everyone. i get that. but be considerate.

    oh, and feel free to call me slutty. i'm a married mother of 2 and a business owner. and a slut. whatever. doesn't bother me!
  • Picola1984
    Picola1984 Posts: 1,133
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    Bah, prudishness on here is stupid. There's going to be flesh on show at some point! If people don't like it, don't look at it or even block the user!
  • RocketsGirl
    RocketsGirl Posts: 346 Member
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    I am agree! My pics keep getting deleted.

    *le sigh*

    I personally don't see what the big deal is....
  • kandyjo
    kandyjo Posts: 4,648 Member
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    Ahhhh... Bull Poo Poo!!!! Embrace your body and love it!!!!!!!!!!! Don't sweat the weirdies!
  • LeggyKettleBabe
    LeggyKettleBabe Posts: 300 Member
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    Hell one of my motivations is to get to dress "slutty" and look good at it :)
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