DO ALL MEN!! WORRY ABOUT WOMEN WEIGHT

SimplyShanRunning

Some do at least around me. To them I am still labeled as thick.....or bigboned........seems to me most that are around me here are more interested in how tiny she is versus how in shape she is ....

I am learning to embrace the way I look.....and ignore commentary from others

kaetmarie

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

She probably stuffed the better partners into the "friend category."

Precisely. Happens all the time.

Ladies, stop crying you can't meet a good man. You already have. Dozens of them. You just overlooked them for six pack abs or a flashy car or some other stupid reason. If you're dating an *kitten* it's because you chose to date an *kitten*.

Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to go send flowers to my gf's office. No reason. Just 'cause.

Now that's how it's done!

I agree with what you said, also. My husband is wonderful and I'm so lucky that he was still left behind while all of his female friends overlooked him to date a series of jerks and douches.

When I gained weight, he still acted like I was the most beautiful girl in the room (even though....puh-lease!) and now that I'm making this change for myself, he's my number one supporter.

chachita7

Unless he is uttering nasty things toward you it could really just be your perception.

i have been married for 18+ years and i have never had any issues like that with my husband, though I can say there were times I used to think that he was blind because I looked nasty and he still thought I was sexy.

AlliecoreXX

From what I've heard, there are men out there who are able to look beneath the surface and love the real woman, not (just) the body. My ex-husband wasn't attracted to me when I was 20 lbs too heavy, and he wasn't attracted to me when I got lean and toned and my bf% was too low to suit him. I don't have an opinion on whether "all men" are like that (haven't been in many relationships, and for some reason I seem to attract the body obsessed ones); but I can assure you that I'll be single until I meet someone who wants more than a perfect package. Not all men, or people in general, are superficial idiots. It just seems like the ones who aren't are already taken.

babybluefire

Egh. Very hard for me to say. I met and married my spouse when I was a 12 and 160 pounds. 2 kids, fertility treatments and a hell of a lot of exercise I am a size 12 and 184 pounds. I look better now then when we married. However my spouse is very turned off by weight gain and pregnancy. He was not when we met, because guess what people change.


I hate how people always say if your spouse or s/o treats you badly its your fault. Way to blame the victim. You can meet a guy and he can be a great person, for years even. Then throw marriage, children, a lot of living experience and stress into the mix and guess what. Not everyone is same.

nnylee

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

This. My man treated me amazingly when I was overweight and treats me amazingly when I lost it.

rdsxgrl28

It's definately the men you're with. My husband has treated me exactly the same from day 1 (12 years ago), throughout having 2 kids, and today and when I weighed 20 lbs than I do now. He loves me no matter what weight I am and when I lose weight, it's because I want to...not because HE wants me to or treats me any different.

And actually he always tells me I have a beautiful body, which makes it less than motivating to try to impress him! LOL

THIS!!! Mine just says he loves me anyway I am. Would he be happire if I were at the weight we met - I am sure. Would he ever voice it or even show it - nope. He is always reassuring even when I am self conscious. I know since I gained I have trouble dressing in front of him. He justs laughs, usually saying - all these years, I know every inch of you. You can do the things we do but you can't dress in front of me.

We have been through worse things than 40lbs, so if any man (or woman or partner) would makes the other feel bad for flesh - not someone you want to be around.

taso42

Because, PANTS

SwannySez

I agree with the first command of the thread title. Not so much with the second.

catherine4211

My ex-husband was horrible to me about my weight. Most men I've met since him tell me they love the way I look. I struggle with just saying thank you because of what he had put into my head. I would walk around feeling like an absolute beast. And I looked just like I do now. And even when I weighed 20 lbs less then right now he told me "well you could look better"........I sure don't miss him! Oh wait - this isn't a thread about ex-husbands is it???

BrettPGH

Egh. Very hard for me to say. I met and married my spouse when I was a 12 and 160 pounds. 2 kids, fertility treatments and a hell of a lot of exercise I am a size 12 and 184 pounds. I look better now then when we married. However my spouse is very turned off by weight gain and pregnancy. He was not when we met, because guess what people change.


I hate how people always say if your spouse or s/o treats you badly its your fault. Way to blame the victim. You can meet a guy and he can be a great person, for years even. Then throw marriage, children, a lot of living experience and stress into the mix and guess what. Not everyone is same.

You're only a victim if you let yourself be one. It's dating/relationships. They're voluntary at all times. If you're with someone who isn't being good to you, you should work to fix it or leave them.

Crazy advice I know. It's much healthier to maintain the relationship and ***** about it on the internet.

maidentl

I met and married my spouse when I was a 12 and 160 pounds.

I initially read this as you were 12 and I was like :noway: But then I re-read it and I was like :laugh:

regina2063

it dsnt matter...exhusbands or not...I have listen to women that had a baby or picked up weight and said their significant other started treating them different...saying little things...like are you going to eat all of that...when before they both were eating all of that..its just how in life...people change...

Scott613

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

She probably stuffed the better partners into the "friend category."

Precisely. Happens all the time.

Ladies, stop crying you can't meet a good man. You already have. Dozens of them. You just overlooked them for six pack abs or a flashy car or some other stupid reason. If you're dating an *kitten* it's because you chose to date an *kitten*.

Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to go send flowers to my gf's office. No reason. Just 'cause.

It's cheaper to stop by the cemetery and pick some up on the way home.

Bonita_Lynne_58

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

Exactly!

DieVixen

My man has always told me im beautifull and treated me well

Heather2784

Gonna have to agree with the poster that said it's all to do with the men that you have. My boyfriend treats me absolutely 100% the same. The only slightest difference is that now that I'm dieting I think he get's a little bummed when we go out to eat and stuff like that, knowing that I'm either bummed about cheating or bummed that I'm behaving.

I'm losing the weight for me. And you should be too. If your man is treating you different for gaining weight, than I think some reevaluation is necessary.

Apryl546

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

She probably stuffed the better partners into the "friend category."

Precisely. Happens all the time.

Ladies, stop crying you can't meet a good man. You already have. Dozens of them. You just overlooked them for six pack abs or a flashy car or some other stupid reason. If you're dating an *kitten* it's because you chose to date an *kitten*.

Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to go send flowers to my gf's office. No reason. Just 'cause.

It's cheaper to stop by the cemetery and pick some up on the way home.

I like your approach.
:flowerforyou:

grinch031

I understand its a sensitive topic, but I don't see why its bad to actually be concerned about your partner's weight. I mean being overweight IS a health problem.

Scott613

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

She probably stuffed the better partners into the "friend category."

Precisely. Happens all the time.

Ladies, stop crying you can't meet a good man. You already have. Dozens of them. You just overlooked them for six pack abs or a flashy car or some other stupid reason. If you're dating an *kitten* it's because you chose to date an *kitten*.

Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to go send flowers to my gf's office. No reason. Just 'cause.

It's cheaper to stop by the cemetery and pick some up on the way home.

I like your approach.
:flowerforyou:

It's more of an angle. Kind of like thinking outside of the box.

Psychoanalytic

Egh. Very hard for me to say. I met and married my spouse when I was a 12 and 160 pounds. 2 kids, fertility treatments and a hell of a lot of exercise I am a size 12 and 184 pounds. I look better now then when we married. However my spouse is very turned off by weight gain and pregnancy. He was not when we met, because guess what people change.


I hate how people always say if your spouse or s/o treats you badly its your fault. Way to blame the victim. You can meet a guy and he can be a great person, for years even. Then throw marriage, children, a lot of living experience and stress into the mix and guess what. Not everyone is same.

You're only a victim if you let yourself be one. It's dating/relationships. They're voluntary at all times. If you're with someone who isn't being good to you, you should work to fix it or leave them.

Crazy advice I know. It's much healthier to maintain the relationship and ***** about it on the internet.

9 times out of 10, it is their fault. If they'd just...



then all would be well.

Or just stop dating d-bags.

moonsforeyes

That may be your man, but it's not men. Don't blame all of us for the actions of whatever insensitive *kitten* you're with. Wise up and start choosing better partners.

this!

my man is wonderful.

fastbelly

My parter is currently almost 30 weeks pregnant with twins and she's the most beautiful she's ever been.

So to answer your question:

No, not all men worry about women weight!

cardiokitten

I think it's the men you have. I have been with my husband for 25 years (married for 23). When he met me I weighed 108 pounds. Throughout our marriage I have had 4 children and obviously my weight has been up and down. At my highest point I was just over 200 pounds. I currently hover between 135 and 140. My husband has never treated me any differently no matter what my weight was. If they truly love you, they aren't going to treat you different whether your fat or skinny.

^ this

RAFValentina

Sounds like an *kitten* ...not all men are like that... maybe it's not your weight they've reacted to but a change in your personality maybe?

Farfourah

Only if she's on top

lol.

callmeBAM

ALL YOUR BASE!! ARE BELONG TO US

ashreynolds09

My husband isn't THAT bad! He didn't treat me bad or anything when I was 30 pounds heavier than I am now. He does make comments like, "Now you're starting to get sexy." or crap like that. I roll my eyes and walk away. I'm not doing this for him, I'm doing this for me. If he can treat me right...he can reap the benefits!

BrettPGH

It's cheaper to stop by the cemetery and pick some up on the way home.

I like your approach.
:flowerforyou:

It's more of an angle. Kind of like thinking outside of the box.

Forget thinking outside the box, hell there's diamond jewelry INSIDE the box! Beats flowers, just don't say where you got it.

regina2063

and if she continue to gain weight after the babies....will you support her...or start having wavy eyes....my man isnt like that to me...i gain...i lose...he supports me and tell me to do whatever makes me happy....but i see sadness in other women when i hear their conversations...