Would you date someone whose religion is different than your

BrunetteRunner87

It depends on what's important to you... People value different things in relationships. When I was younger I always thought I'd only date Christians, but as the years wore on and I gained more and more dating experience, I realized what's important to me. It's ok that my bf isnt religious, because it isn't that important to me,but having someone with a good heart is. You can try it and if it doesn't work out, you are a step closer to finding out who's right for you.

D446

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JNick77

My last relationship ended because he is Agnostic and I am a Christian. We finally had the "religion talk" and he said he wouldn't allow his children to go to church. That was a big deal to me, considering I grew up going to church 2x/week. I told him I couldn't raise children without bringing them to church, so we broke up.

Now that we have been apart for several months, I have been actually excited to meet someone with the same beliefs as me, because I have never made religion a priority in my dating life before.

Well..now my ex has changed his tune a little, and says he'd allow his children to go to church. He misses me, still loves me, etc, etc, and wants to get back together. Great! But is he going to ignore everything relating to God except the going to church part? For example, if I am having a conversation about God to my kids, is he just going to leave the room? I really don't see how I can keep God in my life AND my ex at the same time.

How important do you think it is to date someone who has the same religious beliefs as you? I want your opinions, please!

I feel religion is irrelevant in determining who you love. Religion is nothing more than philosophy on living life.

D446

No. I am not religious and I wouldn't date sOmeone who was.

I would as long as they didn't keep trying to convert me. I just wish we could all get along, religious differences shouldn't be such an issue.

I have nothing against anyone who is religious, but I know that being with someone who has completely different views on this particular topic, would not work for me. I am sure the majority of religious people would not want to be with me either lol

DAMNCHARLIE

As long as they were not "shoving" there beliefs down my throat, religion tends to make some frantic and almost nuts. People should believe in what they want to, so as long as they didnt do that it would be fine. ("but how would you raise the kids" a different story).

bigredhearts

As a Christian, it is a big problem to marry someone who is not a Christian. In the Bible, Jesus tells us not to be "unequally yoked" with a non-believer (2nd Corinthians chapter 6).

if we r going there....

Corinthians 7:12-14

To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.



my husband claims to be an athiest due to hardships he has faced in his life. i have a unique view of god and am very spiritual. he told our story to a coworker one day and this is what she told him. not to mention he also is slowly changing his views :flowerforyou:

JNick77

i think alot of people need to stop praising / praying to jesus and more of the most high
you might not see it but when you pray to jesus/mary/saints your praying to idols and being a pagan

The Trinity...God in 3 persons. God the Father, God the Son (Jesus), and God the Holy Spirit. I pray to God in Jesus name. There is only one name by which man can be saved, and that is Jesus!

I have another good book for you to read. It's called Misquoting Jesus. The author was Evangelical and wrote this book, definitely worth the read if you're open-minded.

SeasideOasis

My boyfriend is Atheist. I was raised Baptist, but would say I am more 'spiritual' than religious. We get along fine. He was raised Catholic, himself. He agreed religion can teach great morals (that you can learn without it as well), but also believes just men wrote a very enticing book. Nothing more to it than that. It doesn't bother me.

Recently, my Great Grandmother passed. We did a 'family' prayer, and my religious mother, looked at him and said 'You dont have to come to the prayer, but when we go to walk down the center of the church, I would like you with the family." He himself doesnt believe, but feels everyone has the right to believe in what they choose to.

I dont have a single problem with it. However, we also dont want kids and I have a small problem (due to being TOO close to church politics) where IF I wanted and had kids, I would prefer Bible study at home versus a church anyway regardless.

D446

i think alot of people need to stop praising / praying to jesus and more of the most high
you might not see it but when you pray to jesus/mary/saints your praying to idols and being a pagan

The Trinity...God in 3 persons. God the Father, God the Son (Jesus), and God the Holy Spirit. I pray to God in Jesus name. There is only one name by which man can be saved, and that is Jesus!

Ohh geez.

SwannySez

"I like to picture Jesus as a figure skater. He wears like a white outfit, and He does interpretive ice dances of my life's journey." --Cal Naughton, Jr.

Farfourah

Nope. He must be a Lebanese Maronite Catholic notwithstanding my actual beliefs.

trina614

My boyfriend and I don not believe the same thing but for us it doesn't matter. I am fine with my children going to church and he is fine with them decide what they believe when they are older. With religion as with all things in life compromises need to be made for the good of a relationship. If he wasn't will to compromise at it could be a sign that he would not compromise in anything else in the relationship

99cherrypie99

I am an atheist who actively is involved in activities designed to keep religion out of public venues. So I would never in a million years date someone who believes in a god.

But my brother is also an atheist and is married to a christian and she occasionally takes the kids to church. He doesn't go, but has no objections to the kids going. He just isn't a believer, but isn't like me who is anti-religion.

So it can work, but I think you'll want to be 100% sure how passionately you both feel before considering getting back together.

EuroReady

In before the thread locks!!

(to answer your question, I would date someone with different beliefs as long as we can respect each other's decision. However I do not intend to have children. I don't know how I'd think differently if I wanted kids. I do think it's possible that your ex is genuine though.)

ericalynn104

I've only had one boyfriend (and we are basically engaged) and we met at church.

But if I wasn't with him, I could only date someone with the same beliefs as me. I came to my relationship with Jesus Christ on my own, and over the years I have come to realize what I want and expect in my future family. I want my husband to believe the same thing I do. I want my marriage to be founded on Christ. I want my husband to be the spiritual leader of our home and family. I want my children to grow up in a Christian home. I know that I wouldn't be able to find that outside of my religion

mommared53

As a Christian, I wouldn't date anyone who wasn't also a Christian In the past, I have dated men who weren't Christian but fortunately they didn't work out. My daughter is married to a Christian man and I'm always telling my (single) son that he shouldn't date anyone who's not a Christian.

dictations

I'm an Athiest, and I can't take anyone who truly believes in some false god seriously, so most likely not.

sunkisses

I'm Atheist, and I doubt I could. I have in the past, but there were a lot of compromises made that I would like to not have to make again.

tjamuna1

i think alot of people need to stop praising / praying to jesus and more of the most high
you might not see it but when you pray to jesus/mary/saints your praying to idols and being a pagan

The Trinity...God in 3 persons. God the Father, God the Son (Jesus), and God the Holy Spirit. I pray to God in Jesus name. There is only one name by which man can be saved, and that is Jesus!

why trinity why not count mary didnt she have a significant role as the mother of jesus
as a woman one would think you wouldnt bypass the saviours mother??

EuroReady

I have to say I am pretty surprised with the answers. I honestly thought 'sure, as long as we respect each others beliefs and raise our kids learning from both perspectives, so they can to do the same' would be the general gist of it. I'm not judging, just observing.

maletac

lmao... what a bunch of intolerant pricks lol

WickedGarden

I would give someone of a different religion a chance. If they tried to change my views, then out they go.

If you have all these questions about your relationship, you should be asking your ex, because only the two of you can decide what is the best for the BOTH of you.

it seems that there are devout religious people who wouldn't give someone of a different religion a chance (I thought you weren't supposed to judge others? hmmm)

daffodilsoup

I have to say I am pretty surprised with the answers. I honestly thought 'sure, as long as we respect each others beliefs and raise our kids learning from both perspectives, so they can to do the same' would be the general gist of it. I'm not judging, just observing.

My parents, a Jew and a Christian, ran into this problem when they had kids. How does one teach a child to believe in the existence of Christ, and believe that the savior has not yet come to Earth simultaneously?

My boyfriend and I don't ever plan on having children, so that really isn't an issue for me, but I wouldn't really be comfortable dating someone who believed in a higher being.

Erinslove

Well..now my ex has changed his tune a little, and says he'd allow his children to go to church.

And you believe him, that's cute.

gee, thanks.

Thank you (everyone else) for your responses! Keep them comin'!

Do you think I'm joking? Honey. Think about it for a few seconds. He didn't suddenly do a 180 on his beliefs. He's telling you what you want to hear to get you back. Open your eyes OK?

...I'm going to keep my mouth shut and just ignore you.

Try looking up the word "gullible" in the dictionary, sweetie. Sorry if the extremely obvious truth offends you.

I don't think the truth bothers her as much as the fact that you are being a jerk.

alharbour

i think alot of people need to stop praising / praying to jesus and more of the most high
you might not see it but when you pray to jesus/mary/saints your praying to idols and being a pagan

The Trinity...God in 3 persons. God the Father, God the Son (Jesus), and God the Holy Spirit. I pray to God in Jesus name. There is only one name by which man can be saved, and that is Jesus!

why trinity why not count mary didnt she have a significant role as the mother of jesus
as a woman one would think you wouldnt bypass the saviours mother??

Mary did have an important role. She was Jesus's earthly mother, but just as important was Joseph as Jesus's earthly father. Mary was just a common, ordinary woman who had a great faith in God, and was willing for the Holy Spirit to use her. Mary was not Divine, just a young Jewish girl. God could just have easily chose any other Jewish girl, but he chose Mary. That makes her special, but not worthy of worship.

tjamuna1

yes i understand what ur saying but to me
the most high is the only one worthy of my full dedication the rest is trickary

daffodilsoup

Mary was not Divine, just a young Jewish girl. God could just have easily chose any other Jewish girl, but he chose Mary. That makes her special, but not worthy of worship.

As someone who was raised a young Jewish girl, I would be pretty annoyed to be "chosen".

Erinslove

Marriage is so freaking hard even if you don't enter into it with an enormous issue like different religious beliefs. I have been married 8 years and I waited until my 30s to ensure I married the right person. I was 100% sure and we have had issues like you wouldn't believe. Everyone is different and I am not suggesting that b/c I have had marital problems you would too, I am just saying that I think going into it with such a huge disparity in beliefs might be setting up your relationship for failure.

For me, personally, I don't believe in organized religion and I wouldn't have kids with someone who wanted our kids to go to church b/c I think that church can be very detrimental. I went to a Baptist school from kindergarten through 8th grade and I definitely think there are a lot of negative things that come from organized religion/church. I bring this up b/c even if he sincerely thinks he can let the kids go to church (sounds like he really loves you and thinks he can change his mind so you can be together) he might actually feel differently when we sees the kids going to church and listens to the ideas they get from church that he opposes.

It seems like it would be way less painful to break up now than stay together and have kids and then have this conflict of ideology really become a huge issue. I know it's hard, I dated a devout Mormon for 4 years and loved him very much.

Just my thoughts. Best of luck to you!

MichelleRenee13

I am an atheist and I wouldn't date anyone that believes in a deity. I have friends that are of all religious backgrounds and we respect each others view points. It is different when it is someone you are in a partnership in and are making joint decisions in your lives.

Shared core values are extremely important in dating/marriage/significant other relationships.

ElizabethRoad

I was out of line before. I apologize.