Opinions On Adult Work to Pay Bills

Firefighter_Jay

Do whatever the hell you need too to pay your bills, keep food in your stomach and a roof over your head. The only thing I would remember is, that this industry doesnt have great retirement benefits, so I would choose another career path as quickly as you can.

lorro

I knew someone in your position who worked as a dancer in an adult club to pay bills. At first it was great fun and she really enjoyed it. But eventually the attitude of the guys got to her and she ended up taking pills to get through her shifts, this was very common amongst the girls, eventually they needed a chemical buzz to give them the right attitude and confidence to earn what they needed to. At the point I met her she was experiencing extreme highs and lows of mood and was beginning to struggle to hold things together mentally. She eventually left this job and re-trained as an accountant. Had she not done she would have become more victimised, more mentally ill.

I don't know how typical this story is but share it in case you don't know people in the trade. I don't think there is anything wrong with it in principle - but I would say to think carefully about how you will feel doing it and to plan your exit carefully if you do go down this road, so you don't feel trapped doing something that ends up making you feel bad.

HorrorChix89

Hon, Have you thought about getting STUDENT LOANS and PELL GRANTS (Free money from govenment) to help pay for school n bills?

Yes, student loan's are a ***** to pay off, but you still have urr self respect in the end.

Just a thought.
I'm gonna really pray for you tonight.

In Christ, Nicolette

Student Loans don't make house payments

kendra0224

I get that it is easy money, to some extent, but I always think about how things can affect my career later in life. For example, things people say on Facebook can make or break a job opportunity. My point is, if you intend to get an important job later in life, you may want to consider the effect that doing "adult work" can have on your future opportunities. Wishing you luck in whatever you decide to do.

kayleesays

Porn? Go for it. Stripping? Go for it. Prostitution? Uhh... illegal, so I wouldn't recommend. I am a huge fan of people having the freedom to do whatever you'd like. If it doesn't bother you, it doesn't bother me. If you're being safe, getting paid fair wages and can sleep at night, more power to you.

eatherhey

I have a friend who resorted to becoming a hooker. While I disagree with her life choice, its her life and I still love her for what's inside somewhere.

::snrrks::

Edit: Ohgawd, I'm so sorry. I'm not laughing at your friend, or your concern, but rather your choice of words.

LovingLisa2012

i could understand if it were of the legal kinda AKA stripping, shot girl , something like that ..

being a hooker = no :noway: (danger and disease)

Toddrific

I'd say you have to look at the long term costs of doing "adult" work. I'd say do stuff that doesn't leave a video/photographic record =P

You certainly don't want your kids or parents or whomever discovering it. Although that would be a weird discussion.

ampa916

I feel like if they can do it, and not hate themselves or even if they enjoy it, then I don't have any problems with it. People use their bodies all the time to get what they want, why not make it a profession? I am probably in the minority here, but really, have you seen what some "singers" wear on stage? Or even worse what they sing about? All that is ok, but someone who is not famous can't use their body to make money? Oh, yeah that makes sense.

mikeyboy

Like hooking???

Isn't that illegal?

Not in Vegas???

In Vegas, Yes! One county in Nevada, no.

EvonyPrincess

I feel like if they can do it, and not hate themselves or even if they enjoy it, then I don't have any problems with it. People use their bodies all the time to get what they want, why not make it a profession? I am probably in the minority here, but really, have you seen what some "singers" wear on stage? Or even worse what they sing about? All that is ok, but someone who is not famous can't use their body to make money? Oh, yeah that makes sense.

I never thought about it that way...that singers pretty much look like porn stars on stage. I mean hell Katy Perry doesn't even wear clothes half the time.

You have sex scandals, sex tapes, "leaked" photos (which we all know are put out there to amp their fame). But that one girl that's down on her luck and BAM she's the bad person.

christine24t

If it's a legit, legal job, whatever. But you have to remember that photos/videos are forever, and your reputation is forever.

AReasor

I used to do charity work and one of my clients was busted for prostitution. She has 6 kids, no family support, no child support. She was hooking for diapers and food for her kids. I wasn't going to give her a hard time for doing what she thought was necessary for her kids.

polegirl23

Haven't read the whole thread yet but as an ex full-time stripper who still dances the odd weekend for extra cash as needed I really don't have a problem with it and I'm not ashamed! My husband has always been fully supportive, I've only ever worked in reputable clubs and it's always been strictly dancing for me, no 'extras' (although I can't deny that that sort of thing does go on even in the 'nicer' places!!). I've worked with a huge variety of girls and danced for a huge variety of customers, it's a world that people shouldn't judge until they've seen it for themselves!! Once I become a mum I will give up for good, until then I can't see me quitting completely- there's no other way I could earn the sort of money I can in one weekend of dancing, so when the oven breaks, the fence falls down or the car blows up it's back to the club I go!!

eillamarie

Welp, do whatever you want, it's your life. But as soon as you have kids it's time to smarten up & be a role model. Be smart about the whole thing, no overly risky situations & be safe, ALL THE TIME.

Everybody always says how the women in the adult industry all have daddy issues & had a horrible childhood & feel horrible about themselves. There are some who honestly just want to do it cuz it's fun & interesting to them & they make hella good money. It's not exactly the most deseriable profession to be in, but they aren't hurting anybody but themselves by doing that sort of stuff, so people need to leave (most of) them the **** alone.

ironanimal

I can't speak for anyone else, but I could never trust a partner I had found did things like that in her past, nor really respect them. It does seem like a cop out to me from getting a real job - there's always bar work, waiting tables, cleaning, babysitting and whatnot. That's just my opinion however, and I don't generally care that people make a living that way.

I feel like if they can do it, and not hate themselves or even if they enjoy it, then I don't have any problems with it. People use their bodies all the time to get what they want, why not make it a profession? I am probably in the minority here, but really, have you seen what some "singers" wear on stage? Or even worse what they sing about? All that is ok, but someone who is not famous can't use their body to make money? Oh, yeah that makes sense.

Also, no respect for the singers and performers that act as above. People with actual singing talent should be the ones to get famous in this case, but I understand sex sells.

neverstray

R u available right now?

VanillaBeanSeed

Like hooking???

Not just that, I mean like stripping, videos, webcam, photos, escort service, etc.

Videos/webcams/photos/escort, if you are comfortable with it and CAN make the money off it, go for it! :] Probably making more money then many of us!


Not sure about the hooking though :[ but some people get into these situations.

ThisisMiss

When I was in the UK I did some adult work for a few months. I spent months trying to find a job, but they either didn't want to hire me for whatever reason, or the job just didn't fit into my uni schedule. I didn't have a place to live and couldn't even afford to get to school everyday.

I didn't have a problem with it. I loved the people I met and the places and experiences I had. I know not everyone would be able to see and do the things I've done while I was in that line of work and I appreciate it for that. I also know that adult work isn't for everyone. I know people are even disgusted by it, but to each their own. My fiancee met me while I was doing this work (but not on the job) and I soon stopped after we met. I knew I couldn't have a solid relationship and still work at the same time. He knew what I did and was okay with it.

I don't feel that it defines who I am or changes me in any way. I feel that if you are careful and safe and don't lose who are are in it, then there is no problem in doing adult work.

kimber0607

I dont judge..only you have to live with the decisions you make, and what line/lines u are comfortable or not comfortable crossing
I dont personally know anyone involved in the adult business but I assume u could make a lot of $$...if you arent going to school or have bigger plans...what will you do when the time comes that you want to stop?
I could see how some may get caught up in the lifestyle/$$

Rhea30

I feel like if they can do it, and not hate themselves or even if they enjoy it, then I don't have any problems with it. People use their bodies all the time to get what they want, why not make it a profession? I am probably in the minority here, but really, have you seen what some "singers" wear on stage? Or even worse what they sing about? All that is ok, but someone who is not famous can't use their body to make money? Oh, yeah that makes sense.

I never thought about it that way...that singers pretty much look like porn stars on stage. I mean hell Katy Perry doesn't even wear clothes half the time.

You have sex scandals, sex tapes, "leaked" photos (which we all know are put out there to amp their fame). But that one girl that's down on her luck and BAM she's the bad person.

Sadly its not a situation where you can go 'they do it so why can't I?". They are famous, they most likely won't have to worry about making a job change later on in life compare to someone who isn't famous. You have to look out for yourself and what is right by yourself not what others are doing especially those who are famous because they are just a small percentage (And many girls in Hollywood end up being hookers because they thought they were going to make it big and never did, its not a pretty life). No matter what it can always come back to hurt you, even if its legal it can have affects on employment in the future. If your friend understands the consequences and willing to take the risk of the dangers physically, socially and possibility financially (if she can't find a job in the future) then go ahead of your friend shouldn't jump into this if she thinks these dangers won't exist to her.

Beastette

I had a friend who did phone sex for money. Didn't bother me.

_Christine_

I had an aunt with a 900 number in her house. It made family holidays fun.

Colbyandsage

I would say if you have to question whether or not you should do it, then you shouldn't.

I agree with this. I am not sure what exactly you want to do but at the end of the day, you have to look in the mirror at yourself. If you aren't 100% sure on it, then don't do it!

BodyFreak

In the end you gotta do what you gotta do.
There's nothing wrong with it, it's just easy fast money.
Its your live do what you want.

Just be safe. Yolo!

AlsDonkBoxSquat

I'm not a sugar coater: yes, it's your life you can do what you want. Yes, I would judge you. If I were interviewing you for a professional position (not a professional's "position") and I figured out your "employment" history you wouldnt get the job no matter how qualified you were because if I figured it out so might one of my customers. I know people who have made the decision to strip and I like them very much as people, I wouldn't hire them. I know an ex-escort, she's a dispicable human being, but to be fair it has nothing to do with her old employment decisions.

mrlazy1967

I don't have any moral problems with it, but must be a dangerous way to make money - you don't know who's going to walk in the door. Prostitution itself is not illegal in the UK, but it's underground because most everything else to do with it is illegal.

EvonyPrincess

I'm not a sugar coater: yes, it's your life you can do what you want. Yes, I would judge you. If I were interviewing you for a professional position (not a professional's "position") and I figured out your "employment" history you wouldnt get the job no matter how qualified you were because if I figured it out so might one of my customers. I know people who have made the decision to strip and I like them very much as people, I wouldn't hire them. I know an ex-escort, she's a dispicable human being, but to be fair it has nothing to do with her old employment decisions.

Well that's your choice as well as other employers' choices. I won't fault them on it. They don't want an ex stripper as an employee then that's on them. Won't stop anyone from doing what they have to do to get food on the table. Btw who's to say that ex-stripper won't turn into a multi-million dollar business woman (or man cause it falls into both genders). Maybe them being turned away from your job was the best thing that ever happened to them. Or they could walk outside and get hit by a bus. **** happens

bobbybdoe

If it's legal, you're okay with it, and gets you where you need to be financially, do it.

DarkNebula84

EXACTLY!!!