worst comment ever made about your weight
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Firstly, I just want to say that my heart goes out to everyone on this thread. As part of the human race, I am ashamed that other people can be so thoughtless and cruel. Thank you all so much for sharing as it shows your strength and good progress now, relative to when those awful comments were made. I was especially surprised at all the mean comments from parents and grandparents. That is just horrible parenting and I hope to god when I have children they never, ever feel hurt by comments from me.
My story doesn't really hold a candle to any of these, but after reading so many, I had to share it. I was a normal sized child who suddenly put on a lot of 'puppy fat' when I was about 11-12, but I was somehow blissfully unaware of it. As a young child, I used to do occaisional modelling jobs which I found great fun. One of the things I did every year was a catwalk bridal show, where I would be dressed up in various bridesmaids outfits, which I loved. But I still remember when I turned up for the fittings one year, they just point blank said I was too fat now and couldn't appear in the show. That was a massive shock as I hadn't ever really been aware of my weight until that point. It wasn't said maliciously, but just as a cold, hard fact. That was really the start of being self-aware.
I went throughout secondary school then feeling fat and awkward, but I didn't make the connection with healthy eating, or my parents didn't for me. An occaisional few 'fat' comments that really stung, and feeling as if no boy would ever find me pretty, same as most on here. I gradually lost some of the puppy fat, but it took me until I was about 20 years old to get down to my current size, a UK 10 (US 6?). I'd still like to drop a few pounds in an ideal world but I know I'm healthy now and exersize, so I'm not too unhappy.
However, I still get occaisional mean girl comments from my husband's little sister of all people. I try desperately to get on with her, but she's one of those girls that just don't like other girls (his older sister, however, is wonderful). This little sister used to be quite chubby herself until a couple of years ago, when she suddenly developed issues with food and started doing a ton of running and dropped a lot of weight. Since then she's been full of gibes at me even though I'm only slightly bigger than she is (one dress size!) (and, I might add, quite a lot taller, so its all relative).
Too many to count but a couple of notable examples were 'I'd kill myself if I was bigger than a size 8 (UK) -knowing full well that I'm a size up from that. And then when I was really pushing myself doing a ton of exersize before my wedding to her brother, she said on my hen do that 'If it was me getting married, I would lose loads of weight before MY wedding' (implying that I hadn't!). But there's no hope for her. She's insecure and *****y.
This thread is great and just reminds me how brilliantly everyone on here is doing and shows up the awful, repulsive people that made those comments and will probably never be as deeply ashamed of themselves as they should be.0 -
On a family holiday in 2010, my mum asked about my weight and so I told her what I thought I was. The reply was
'The only time I was that heavy was when I was pregnant with your brother'
It was the wake up call I needed to get my butt in gear!0 -
I was at the gym the other day with my husband. I normally wear a t-shirt that coveres most everything. I bought a new yoga top that was really cute. Even bought it in a size larger so it wasn't snug on my tummy. A lady walked up to me and asked how much weight I'd lost. When I looked at her in shock, she said she noticed the flab under my arms. Still in shock I really didn't know what to say. She then went on to tell me to lose the weight on my thighs and butt I would need to start eating better.
Telling this story at Easter, my daughter said I should have slapped with with my bat wings.
I'm just picturing this and laughing out loud!!0 -
more than once skinny "friends" were saying:
well you wouldn´t look good if you were skinny - you are made to be rounder than others
made me freak out every time0 -
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From ex wife:
* "You're so fat... you're wasting my youth! I am embarrassed to be seen with you"
* During sex, she stops me in the middle of it and runs to the toilet and starts gagging and then says I disgust her.
Random assorted things from the years
* Running at the park, I pass a slender girl in her 20s who is running ackwardly. One of those lucky people that obviously never really does any exercise or doesn't know how to run at the least, but stays looking in shape. Her boyfriend is in front of her and he sees me pass her and goes "oh no! HELL NO! There's no way you just let that fat f**k pass you! Get your *kitten* moving!" He was one of those alpha types with the gym rat bodies.
* Running at the park during soccer practice with my team. Group of college girls is running. One points at me and says "ewww look at his belly".
* Running at the park I pass a guy and his little girl who are running. She says "daddy why did you let the fat man pass you?" And he replies "shhhh honey we don't call people fat that's not nice"
* At the gym, I smiled at a girl who looked at me like I was a cockroach and said "dream on, I don't date fatties".
* At one of our irish pubs a couple years ago. I was standing waiting in line and this guy was trying to impress his college-aged girlfriend. He started making rude comments about how fat people need removed from the planet because they are in his way and taking up space and eating all of the food. The girl giggles.
* At the gym I was in a corner doing some dumbbell work and this precious Barbie with full make up is lifting with her boyfriend. She was seated next to the rack where the weights were. I was putting my weights away and had to move around her and she gets this annoyed look on her face, and then turns to her boyfriend and says in a mock-whisper (so that others can hear) "I can't stand going to the gym during this time, too many fat people here wasting everybody's time"
I have more. Those were the ones that stuck out this morning. Being fat is the equivalent of being a leper in the middle ages. It's pretty dehumanizing... but makes for great motivation and fuel for your workouts.0 -
I have three.
1) My friend got kicked out of a nightclub and I left with her and the bouncer told me to go McDonalds.
2) I was walking with some skinny girls and a group of drunk guys walked past and one of them said 'I'd do all of those girls, even the big one.' I knew he meant me.
3) I was in a taxi and the driver asked if he could tell me something without being offended, he said I'm a beautiful girl who is large and if I lost weight I'd be even more beautiful because of my face, unlike his daughter who lost weight and still wasn't pretty. That was a weird taxi ride.
I've been called fat so many times but these 3 just stick out more to me and they all happened last year when I was at my biggest.0 -
I was dating a guy for a few weeks and all was going well. We went to dinner on a beautiful night to my fave beer garden pub. We were laughing and having great conversation and then he told me it sucked he could not introduce me to his friends. I asked why and he said, You are pretty and funny and cool but, I usually date thin girls, so they would not understand and would give him crap over it. I sat there stunned.
A few minutes later I excused my self to the restroom and left, jumped in my car and parked a couple blocks away and cried. I swore from that moment on I would never date anyone who could not accept fully, no matter what my weight is.0 -
OMG!! I've been big for a lot of my life, but fortunately have never come across such comments. I really feel for you guys, keep your chin up and at least you can do something about your weight, but it's harder to get rid of the ugly from the inside.
Sorry I don't mean to be rude, but those people are DuMB!!!!! thumbs down to them!0 -
I'll never forget mine!
I had picked out my prom dress for senior prom. I went for my fitting and brought my mom. I was not a dress person, so this was the first dress I had worn since my mother was dressing me (so...kindergarden? Ha ha!). I loved the dress, and felt great in it! I couldn't wait to show her!
Well, she took one look and the first thing she said was, "Honey, you really need to lose weight."
Not the worst comment for a person to make, but coming from her at that moment? I was crushed! I instantly felt fat and gross in it. I had already put my downpayment on it, so I had to I buy the dress even though I felt horrible in it. It made me feel fat and disgusting during prom, and its only now (I'm 29) when I'm even considering trying a dress on again.
Now that I'm getting married soon, I'm still debating whether or not I want my mother present during wedding dress hunting and fittings.0 -
From ex wife:
* "You're so fat... you're wasting my youth! I am embarrassed to be seen with you"
* During sex, she stops me in the middle of it and runs to the toilet and starts gagging and then says I disgust her.
Random assorted things from the years
* Running at the park, I pass a slender girl in her 20s who is running ackwardly. One of those lucky people that obviously never really does any exercise or doesn't know how to run at the least, but stays looking in shape. Her boyfriend is in front of her and he sees me pass her and goes "oh no! HELL NO! There's no way you just let that fat f**k pass you! Get your *kitten* moving!" He was one of those alpha types with the gym rat bodies.
* Running at the park during soccer practice with my team. Group of college girls is running. One points at me and says "ewww look at his belly".
* Running at the park I pass a guy and his little girl who are running. She says "daddy why did you let the fat man pass you?" And he replies "shhhh honey we don't call people fat that's not nice"
* At the gym, I smiled at a girl who looked at me like I was a cockroach and said "dream on, I don't date fatties".
* At one of our irish pubs a couple years ago. I was standing waiting in line and this guy was trying to impress his college-aged girlfriend. He started making rude comments about how fat people need removed from the planet because they are in his way and taking up space and eating all of the food. The girl giggles.
* At the gym I was in a corner doing some dumbbell work and this precious Barbie with full make up is lifting with her boyfriend. She was seated next to the rack where the weights were. I was putting my weights away and had to move around her and she gets this annoyed look on her face, and then turns to her boyfriend and says in a mock-whisper (so that others can hear) "I can't stand going to the gym during this time, too many fat people here wasting everybody's time"
I have more. Those were the ones that stuck out this morning. Being fat is the equivalent of being a leper in the middle ages. It's pretty dehumanizing... but makes for great motivation and fuel for your workouts.
I know people can be cruel, but it is truly hard for me to see people saying some of what you typed.
I was called pleasantly plump in highschool, curvy and size 8 looks chubby no matter what.0 -
My wife nor I have ever been "small" people, but neither have we allowed ourselves to get dangerously obese. Before we met and started dating, she went on a first (and last) date with a guy who thought he was God's gift to women. It was a blind date arranged by one of her friends. The guy met her at a popular restaurant and as soon as they sat down, he started in on her saying, "$30,000 or $40,000 would get rid of all that fat. Then you can start working on your face." She endured the meal and further comments, but the icing on the cake was when he demanded separate checks. He had the nerve to call her for another date. She said, "No need. I lost all the ugly weight I needed to lose when you got in your car and left the restaurant the other night. Don't bother calling again."
When we met and started dating, I never once thought about her weight. All I could think about was how lucky I was to be dating such a beautiful woman. Still, I would liked to have accidentally bumped into that guy some day just so I could personally tell him what a _______ he was. I guess I might ought to thank him! He had no idea that he was being cruel to one of the nicest, sweetest, and most loving women ever. And to think, he thought she'd want to go out with him again! It takes more than a tie and Italian loafers to make a gentleman!0 -
I'll never forget mine!
I had picked out my prom dress for senior prom. I went for my fitting and brought my mom. I was not a dress person, so this was the first dress I had worn since my mother was dressing me (so...kindergarden? Ha ha!). I loved the dress, and felt great in it! I couldn't wait to show her!
Well, she took one look and the first thing she said was, "Honey, you really need to lose weight."
Not the worst comment for a person to make, but coming from her at that moment? I was crushed! I instantly felt fat and gross in it. I had already put my downpayment on it, so I had to I buy the dress even though I felt horrible in it. It made me feel fat and disgusting during prom, and its only now (I'm 29) when I'm even considering trying a dress on again.
Now that I'm getting married soon, I'm still debating whether or not I want my mother present during wedding dress hunting and fittings.
hunny this made me sad for you & cross at your mum! dont take her wedding dress shopping, take friends who will be supportive of you0 -
people can be so cruel, can't they?! i don't understand what is wrong with some people.
i just remember my ex boyfriend ALWAYS made comments about my weight - compared me to thinner girls, called me fat, and would comment when i'd eat with him or in front of him. coming from someone i was deeply in love with. someone who i was intimate with. someone who saw me for everything i was.
don't you think it goes to show how materialistic and poisonous some people can be?0 -
* Running at the park, I pass a slender girl in her 20s who is running ackwardly. One of those lucky people that obviously never really does any exercise or doesn't know how to run at the least, but stays looking in shape. Her boyfriend is in front of her and he sees me pass her and goes "oh no! HELL NO! There's no way you just let that fat f**k pass you! Get your *kitten* moving!" He was one of those alpha types with the gym rat bodies.
Wow, I've read most of the other thread, but what you typed, especially that one I think, is quite unbelievably cruel...
Keep going, all these people (except the little girl) are idiots anyway
Oh, and I really like your armor in your profile pic
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95% of the nasty comments I've ever received from being fat were from the "alpha" types. The people you'd expect to see on Jersey Shore.
The little girl didn't know any better
And thanks \m/0 -
From ex wife:
* "You're so fat... you're wasting my youth! I am embarrassed to be seen with you"
* During sex, she stops me in the middle of it and runs to the toilet and starts gagging and then says I disgust her.
That's so terrible! No wonder she's now your ex. What a vile woman. Ugh..
I've been pretty lucky and haven't had many comments about my weight, other than "looking healthier" after gaining 27lbs.
I used to get nice comments about my figure before I gained weight, but they've all stopped now. 0 -
"I've never met a fat vegetarian before" (from a friend of a friend in the pub)
When you try not to think of yourself as a 'fat' person because you exercise and eat healthily and dress nicely, and somebody vocalises it in public, something snaps in your head. Suddenly, you believe with complete certainty that that's what everyone in the world thinks about you and they've just been too polite to say it. It's horrible.0 -
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wow! people are mean. maybe I am sheltered, lol. people aren't that cruel where I've grown up. I'm fat(partly)because no one ever looked at it like it was a bad thing0 -
I've heard it more than enough.
About a month after I had my daughter I went to my parents house and my Dad just keeps staring at me. Finally, I said WHAT? He said, "you were just so pretty when you were thin." :sad:
One birthday in my late twenties a group of us went to the bar. I'm at the bar waiting to order a drink and this guy just cuts right in front of me. I start to say something and this old man on the other side says, "kick his *kitten*, your bigger than the bouncers here anyway". I faked a sickness and went home. :devil:
Lastly, I was in the process of getting my motorcycle license last year and I was talking to this guy about a bike he was selling. He said, "you need a bigger bike than this or you'll look like a gorilla on a tri-cycle." :brokenheart:0 -
"Keep doing whatever it is you are doing to lose weight. I don't want to F*** a fat girl." An ex-boyfriend who was overweight himself! That comment set off over a decade of messed up eating habits.
"You'd be perfect if you just had a boob job, lost weight, highlighted your hair, etc." Ex-husband who was a total waste of oxygen but I didn't realize it until after we got married.
Oh, and the heaviest I EVER was (non-pregnant) was 155lbs. I'm 5'8". Yeah...0 -
My ex-husband told me on our tenth wedding anniversary that I was the fat ugly b***h that was making his life hell!0
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Being turned down by a dude I was digging, "I'm like a celebrity and you are like a regular person I wouldn't date." The same guy dated/tried to get with all my friends/sisters that were skinnier/younger than me. He was kind of a creep. I no longer talk to him.
After I gained all the weight I lost a year ago by an ex who dumped me when I was thinner, "It looks like they put her out to pasture to graze with all the weight she gained!" This guy was overweight himself, and has weight issues.
I never went to prom in high school...never had a boyfriend until after I lost weight the first time at age 23....
The most supportive people I have know have been in shape(my brother, mom, and sister.) They are all at a healthy weight, and never demoralized me. Maybe it is a family thing, being supportive.0 -
THe worst thing that has happened to me over the years is "ooh you're expecting, when are you due?"
It was even worse that there was one person in particular who did not know me at all personally but worked at a gas station I went to after work. She was always asking me when I was due and did I know what I was having and I had already told her several times umm yeah I'm not pregnant I already had my kids and my baby was over a year old. A few months passed and I happened to run into her again and she actually said wow you are really showing you're ready to pop anytime now aren't you and you're really glowing. I went home and cried my eyes out. I have always had skinny legs and arms and no butt so I carry almost all of my weight up front (well it's starting to spread around now) and so it did look like I was prego. Especially when I wore these cute overall shorts. Needless to say I ditched my comfy overalls.
I try to be very sensitive when I encounter a women who looks like she is expecting that I don't make the same mistake. If she starts talking about being pregnant then I will inquire more.0 -
damn people can be so rude0
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Being turned down by a dude I was digging, "I'm like a celebrity and you are like a regular person I wouldn't date." The same guy dated/tried to get with all my friends/sisters that were skinnier/younger than me. He was kind of a creep. I no longer talk to him.
After I gained all the weight I lost a year ago by an ex who dumped me when I was thinner, "It looks like they put her out to pasture to graze with all the weight she gained!" This guy was overweight himself, and has weight issues.
I never went to prom in high school...never had a boyfriend until after I lost weight the first time at age 23....
The most supportive people I have know have been in shape(my brother, mom, and sister.) They are all at a healthy weight, and never demoralized me. Maybe it is a family thing, being supportive.
I never got to go to prom either but that was because I had horrible carnival-level acne that I had to have acid treatments for. Irony is when my face cleared up, I gained weight lmao0 -
From my mother, of all people. I believe I was about 13 at the time (she doesn't remember/won't admit to ever saying this), & she was dragging me to Burger King for dinner (I have NEVER liked Burger King, & at that age it's not like I had that much of a say in where we ate...)
"There's a difference between 'neat' fat & 'sloppy' fat, & you're getting into sloppy territory"
The kicker? I weighed 125 & was 5'3.5". I've been the same height since I was 12, & I didn't get 'fat' until I was in grade 9 (125 turned into 175 in about 6 months)
ETA: Oh god, the floodgates opened.
My mom's friend commented on how I always seemed to have a boyfriend. My mom said "It's because she's a *kitten*". I overheard & protested, & my mother replied with "Well, it's obvious they're not with you for your looks - no one likes fat girls"0 -
1) In 6th grade, I tried out for the school choir and while we were waiting for the results, one of my classmates said, "the fat ones always make it." He proceeded to point at the "fat ones," which included me.
2) In middle school, I was shopping at the mall with my mom at Vanity's looking for some jeans. I tried on the biggest size they had at the time, but it still did not fit. My mom ask the clerk if there were any more sizes, and the girl made a face and said, "to get bigger sizes, you'll have to go to the dept stores. They don't make big sizes here."0 -
You are a very sweet husband. It was a blessing in disguise for your wife. What a jerk-off that guy was! I'm wondering how on Earth her friends thought they would be good match? lol0
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