worst comment ever made about your weight
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I was in Mexico visiting and there are these fruit and vegetables wagons that are pulled by a horse..my ex mother in law said stop him when you see him pass I want some tomatoes...I thought it was cool to see one of those again after so many years..so I told her I would buy them for her..when I stopped the wagon the man said what can I get for you? Some papaya? I said no I dont like it, he said some mangos ..I said no thanks dont feel like eating mangos, he said how about some kiwis? I said nope dont like them either...he was talking so fast he didnt let me ask what I wanted...then he said if you dont like anything WHY ARE YOU SO FAT?
I thought that was pretty bad...I cussed him out and went inside..told my ex mother in law what just happened and she asked me Where were the tomatoes at???0 -
I have 2 that stick out in my memory. I was 10 & in a dressingroom trying on bathingsuits. While my mom went out to get a bigger size, I listened to all the other little girls interacting happily w/their moms. My mom came back in & LOUDLY said,"You're so fat, I can't find a GD thing to fit your fat *kitten*". I look back at pics from then & I wasn't fat-just chubby!
A few years ago,(aft losing 75 lbs) my dr. thought I had a hernia & he sent me to a surgeon. The surgeon looked at the xrays and then poked me in the stomach twice-like you would poke the pillsbury doughboy. Then he said,"You're still too fat to tell!
Sometimes I just can't believe how thoughtless & mean people can be. And of course, I always eat to make myself feel better-LOL0 -
Things were getting frisky with my slim partner, we were both really into it. He looks at me naked, stops what he is doing and says thoughtfully "maybe we should start dieting and exercising."0
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Anyway... since I started losing weight in January of this year, my ex mother in law said to me..... "well once you get all that weight off, you might be a nice looking young lady"
...... no I didnt punch her....... but there is still time ;-)
Well you can always say you lost 100+ pounds of ugly fat when you got rid of her son... :devil:0 -
I always LOVED being asked if I was pregnant, when I was due, etc.0
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"when are you due?"
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are you on drugs?0
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" sorry but i was just admiring ur belly bump" when i already had my baby!!!0
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Boyfriends grandmother said I think koreans and Japenese are really pretty and skinny. I mean beautiful! after 3 minutes of her emphasizing how pretty and skinny they were) She says but your pretty. She probabley didnt mean anything but i guess being being fat im not korean. And im not a beautiful korean, i see....i cried in the car with my boyfriend there afterwards. when i told him. I felt so ugle and still do, that was yeasturday by the way
wtf your beautiful!0 -
when i was 7 i was in gymnastics and my gym teacher kept laughing and saying stop sticking your stomach out like that on purpose, you look pregnant! but i wasn't sticking it out on purpose i quit after that. 0
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I had an ex who said, "Wow babe your stomach sticks out a lot when you're on your side." Note that I was about 145 lbs at 5'9", so not even technically "overweight". This same guy, when asked how a new necklace looked on me said, "It would look better if you had more cleavage." He was a horrible boyfriend in many ways. I left him for his roommate >:D0
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This is all so sad! PLEASE remember that for every remark that squashed your self-esteem, it was about the stupidity of the person saying it, not about you! It's something people do because they're ignorant, or it makes them feel better about themselves because even though they're bullies and mean and thoughtless, "at least they're not fat"!
i wish i could hug every single person who's been hurt by thoughtless relatives and friends and strangers. BIG VIRTUAL HUG!!0 -
"You're too heavy for your height - I am saying this for the sake of your health,' my ex-boyfriend, when I looked like this:
Also..."the babiiiiessss," while patting my non-baby-full stomach.
My BMI was 23.8. I have never in my life even hit 'overweight'.
"No offense but i don't think my belt would fit you," said by the chick in the foreground of this pic (I am in the pink dress):
I replied, "They asked me to try the belt on to make sure it was not too small to fit you before they gave it to you." Yes, she reaaaallly thought she was that much thinner than me that we couldn't wear the same sized belt. it was a kids-sized belt.
"I'm glad your hair is longer now, you look less like a skinny boy," a different ex-boyfriend, who at least didn't pretend it was about my health. And, "I do miss tits." I know that's more about body type, but when i have a little more weight on me i have a little more up top.
"She's cute," a boy riding past me on his bike says to his friend, "but look at her a*ss!"
When I moved from the low end of a healthy BMI to the high end: "You look normal now. You used to be too skinny."
F* off, everyone! I have never been too skinny or too fat, yet even I get these comments?0 -
When I started a new job & was waiting for my first paycheck to go out & buy some nice new business-y clothes, my coworkers offered me the clothes of someone else in the building who'd recently lost a lot of weight.
The woman was still bigger than me after her weight loss & the clothes they so "kindly" gave me were size 16/18. I was an 8 when I started working there. Went home & would have cried if I hadn't been so angry about it. Those clothes are still rolled up in a pile on my closet floor.0 -
My boyfriend said to me that my *kitten* was getting wider. He said this while I was getting dressed. Even though I've lost all the weight I needed to, I'm still uncomfortable with him seeing me naked.
I think it's time for a new boyfriend. That was nasty.
Why? You like people better when they lie to you?
There are a lot of mean comments people on this thread got about their weight, but also some comments were not that bad.
It just confirms that there is no "polite" or correct way to tell someone, not talking about strangers, but family and friends -- hell, even the person you are sleeping with! -- that if they want to stay/get in shape, now would be a good time to do so
As a society we won't beat obesity by ignoring it. No matter how shocked that person is, it's a lot better than a blood pressure medication prescription or diabetes diagnosis...
...just quietly, "your *kitten* is getting wider" is not a POLITE way to comment on weight. if someone is genuinely concerned, they show genuine concern. not that difficult to figure out, really.0 -
Went on a night out with my boyfriend and friends.
In a new top and skirt feeling like I looked great from the compliments my bf was dishing.
Get there and go outside 3 guys walk past me and say "your a fat ****ing *****" .
All un provoked. My boyfriend went nuts but I told him its not worth it.
It did put a downer on my night but I kept dancing anyway haha.
Some people are just cruel.
It made me think why does my size make me a *****? Haha0 -
My sister's 21st birthday party. I was 18, was recovering from the knee injury which was the catalyst in my weight gain. I had gained maybe about a stone (14lbs) in 3 months as my knee was knackered and I couldn't walk, never mind train any more. I had been training 6 days a week up to that point.
Anyway, grandma walks in. 'My god Soozm, you've just weight on'. My only response was 'Well, yes I have' and ran off (as fast as I could with a gammy leg) in floods of tears and missed the entire party
I know its a simple comment, but at the time I was very down about the pain, the lack of training and my weight gain.
This was 10 years ago now and it still hurts. There again, same grandma declared my cousin an antisocial lesbian for taking a female friend to a family party when she was single. Maybe I got off lightly lol!0 -
Not so much a comment but when I was in school, one immature little scrote of a guy (for a phrase) used to go out of his way to insult me for no reason, doing things such as poking me in the stomach and laughing at the "podge", as he used to call it. :indifferent:0
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This doesn't apply to me....but for ladies that aren't prego and get asked how far along they are...that's gotta be a wet blanket for sure ;(0
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A director said to me after a lost a part and she was telling me why: "You're a beautiful girl but there's a certain image you have to have as an actress. blah blah blah blah There are so many things you can't change about yourself, but if you can you might as well do it. (In showbusiness language that means you're too fat and you need to lose weight if you want a part.)
The worst have all been from my family though. My brother was told me I resembled a boulder. My mom and sister have had interventions about me losing weight (I was a US size 12 at the time, not even that big). A lot of "Should you be eating that?" AND "Did you eat that all by yourself?".
Oh and in elementary school, a kid called me "flubber" in front of the whole 5th grade (including a teacher who did nothing). Everyone laughed and some kid shouted, "Hey Laura, Where's the cream filling?" I haven't been able to eat a twinkie in years...0 -
Oh wow!.....many many of them.Let's see...."If you lost 50 lbs. I'd go out with you" "What's bigger than a whale? Gayle!" but the worse was my ex-husband 40 years ago. He would say "You're fat ugly and I hate you..Why don't you go back home and live with your mother. You should pay me room and board that I let you stay here with me"0
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all that in one weekend - i think you need new friends (except for the nice one)I can't really narrow it down to one specific comment as there are so many -
This weekend from friends -
'Have a cheeseburger'
''I don't want to hug you incase I break you'
'You're not my type. I like girls with t*ts and a**'
'Hey fatty' - sarcasm.
but then I had a different friend come up to me and say -
'You're looking really good Lucy. All that hard work is paying off'
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Ok, so many, I actually repeat these to my friends to make them laugh and try and take the sting out though:
Gran: (in a devon accent) - "ooh, you do look like your Auntie Bessie, your Auntie Bessie was a big girl"; "You're so fat (I was a UK size 10 at the time)" and "I never said you were fat, I said you were well covered"
My mum, when I was 15 in response to me being upset about some boy "Don't worry Bxxxx, when you get older boys go less for looks and more for personality" - I know she meant it well, but ouch!
When I was out once with a friend, and a guy (who was trying to pull her, and did even after this!!!) called me fat, and then tried to make it better by saying 'I like fat girls, there's more cushion for the pushin'" ewwww!
Been called a wrestler, constantly asked if I lift weights, am a swimmer etc. Was called 'Humber' at school (by my friends), after the wide humber bridge.
Been imitated by people, including a customs agent once, again, pretending to have broad shoulders (can you tell I am slight paranoid about them!)
Been told there are no clothes in my size in shops (I'm a UK 16 / US 12)
And, anywhere you travel in the developing world (I currently live in Delhi, India), people use the word fat constantly, because you ARE compared to them. This doesn't help.
Ah well, onwards and upwards. At least we can change our size, some people can't change their sh*tty personality!
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Oh gawd, this thread has made my heart sting. They stick around for years, don't they?
I used to get an awful lot of "ooh, you've got a lovely face..." with an inevitable paused that smacked of an unspoken "shame about the body".
A distant male relative eyeing me up and saying "what did you have for lunch, a salad?" paired with a smirk. Nice.
A girl in the playground - "walk over here". I did so. She pointed and shrieked "moving mountain!"
"God, you really are fat, aren't you?" - boy in my year in school when I was standing next to him.
A girl who went on to enter a relationship with a man I dated briefly dedicated a whole blog post to criticising me (someone she'd never met!) and saying she didn't know how her boyfriend could have expressed any interest in "that uppity fat b*tch").
Yeeeeah. Nice. But not as nice as the big two finger salute I can inwardly give them now. But seriously; people need to realise that *kitten* really sticks, and words can make a pretty effective battering ram. I don't understand how looking a certain way makes people legitimate targets for nastiness, but if I sat here pondering that I'd become something of a misanthrope 0 -
The worst comments that were ever made about my weight were made by me when looking in the mirror!!! But not anymore.
I think I'm the bomb and if someone else measures my worth based on my size, well shame on them!!!0 -
When I was in my teens my grandmother said " How do you expect to get a man if your fat?" very painful... long since learned that there are guys that either dont care about body and/or prefer heavier woman...0
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out in a club with my friends when a group of guys stood next to us said 'do you think they were lifted in by a crane?'0
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My sisters when we were all teens were actually the worst(they were so thin when we were in school)...now I'm the thin one!
Got accused of doing hcg diet, subsequently subjected to a lecture on the dangers of this by some crazy woman at a school function...people find it hard to accept that eating better and exercising more makes a huge difference.
"Do you think you'll be able to keep it off, though?" too often to count.0 -
From my darling 5 year old daughter at dinner one night (in a restaurant no less). She told me that I have blubber. In her defense, they had been learning about the animals of the arctic and how they survive and that they need the blubber to keep them warm. At the time she said this I had already been into my weight loss regime for a week or two, so I didn't take it harshly.0
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On a night out with a group of friends and having lost 3 or 4 lbs, so feeling relatively slim, well as slim as a 15stone 4lb at the time gal can feel. We we walking to the next pub and came up to a group of men with me infront. One of them kindly shouted at the top of his voice "Step aside lads, wide berth coming through." Needless to say my friends wanted to kneecap him but I was just so embarassed. The night was ruined for me and after a cry in the ladies toilets I went home early. I'd love to see him now. I'm not at goal yet and still have another dress size to drop, but after lifting weights at the gym I'd kneecap him myself!0
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