Just found out bf doesn't like (super) skinny girls?

jupityjupe

and you guys make a very cute couple btw...i admit i am jealous..not of your looks but that you seem to have a nice man..something i can never seem to find no matter what my size :explode:

taunto

I honestly agree with your BF. Theres a fine line in being skinny and too skinny. Most folks cant tell it themselves because we are our own worst judge sometimes. I consider myself a pretty shallow person and even I have alot of times said "please go eat a burger before my breathing blows you away woman..."

And while we're at it, can you ladies please for the love of all that is holy stop worshiping Victoria Secret models?!? Yes they're attractive on TV but good god, they have more makeup than their own weight... (I make Alessandra Ambrosio an exception, if I ever meet her in person I am definitely taking my chance and asking her to marry me:)

SassyCalyGirl

Woah, left for a meeting and came back to so many replies! I think there are a few things I need to address/clarify, so please bear with me.

First of all, I want to apologize to anyone I may have offended with this topic. When I posted it, I was telling the story as it happened and I didn't stop to consider that it could be hurtful to girls with naturally "skinny" body types. It was not my intention in any way to put those body types down! I think all body types can be beautiful, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just because my boyfriend said he doesn't particularly like skinny girls doesn't mean other guys feel the same. Everyone has different preferences and again, I'm sorry if this was upsetting for skinner-type people to read.

OP-YOUR post was not offensive in anyway. It was the comments from other posters using words like "twig" "frail" and "no curves" when talking about "skinny" people. Unfortunately the word skinny is used here on MFP with such a negative attitude far too often. It has become an insult just as using the word "fat" can be. People need to be considerate of ALL body types! Nd again-you said nothing negative or insulting. Good luck to you in your journey.

Victoria2448

"Skinny girls look good in clothes, fit girls look good naked!"

My husband loves me at all sizes...he never thought I had to lose weight. That being said....he is AMAZED at my body now...I look like I did and even better than when we went back in the dark ages..haha

MrsLVF

The other night my boyfriend threw a party, which I attended. After I'd had a few drinks a girl from his work came over to the party and, I'm not normally a jealous person but she was really pretty and I felt a bit uncomfortable knowing that they worked together. I trust my boyfriend completely, that was just my insecurities talking :P

Anyway, I was a bit tipsy so I confided in him that she was really pretty and I was jealous. He laughed and said, "Seriously? Her? No way, wayyyyy too skinny. I'm not even close to attracted to her." I was kind of taken aback because this girl actually looked the way I hope to look one day! So I jokingly said, "So if I get that thin will you still like me?" He said, "Of course I'll still like you, babe. But I honestly think you have the perfect body right now. I love your curves."

I mean, I am at a healthy weight now (lost 15 pounds) and starting to get more toned. I think he was more talking about the fact that I have boobs and a butt (I am proud of both - and the other girl was pretty curve-less in those areas). So, I think even as I continue to tone up and hopefully lose some more stomach fat I will still have those "curves" that he likes. I know he's really attracted to my hips and those are just part of my bone structure, so it shouldn't really be an issue if I continue to get thinner. Still, I'm a little nervous about getting smaller now because I don't want him to get any less attracted to me!

I feel like this is an odd problem to have, haha. Has anyone been in a similar boat?

ETA: Also, I know this journey is for ME, not him. I am going to continue to work towards my goal because I want to be happy with myself, first and foremost. But I can't deny that his opinion of me does matter.

Sounds like he'd love you any size you are. So take the complement, and I'm sure you'll get more from him as you reach your goals. He sounds like a good man who will always make you feel like the sexiest woman on earth.

toabetterlifestyle

my bf loves something to grab onto! haha he loves my hmmm...for lack of a better word, *kitten*. sure, im not too gifted in the boobage department but he works with what I got haha! but i agree with jamie (staytrue), you want to look HEALTHY. and sure, they could be pretty, but who wants a gf that has the body of a 12 year old, come on now.

tameko2

My husband doesn't like muscular girls. Good thing he doesn't have to be one if he doesn't want to.

bigredhearts

when the hubs and i first met, i brought a friend of my to his house. when we were walking up the street he could see us and once told me he thought from afar he had chose the wrong girl because i was twice her size (she was very thin). he then realized how thin she was and was thankful he chose me... kind of a compliment, kind of a kick in the teeth... lol and i was jealous of her too (not her body, but her ability to eat whatever she wanted, i now know that was what "we" call skinny fat)

Beezil

My husband doesn't like muscular girls. Good thing he doesn't have to be one if he doesn't want to.

:laugh:

I'd also just like to say... there are plenty of men who enjoy women who are fit AND "skinny". Nothing wrong with that at all. It's kinda effed up how so many women assume "no man wants his woman to have the body of a 12 year old boy" or "sleep with a skeleton" etc. Just because a woman is small framed doesn't mean she has the body of a 12 year old boy... that's really rude.

Leiki

I looked at your pictures. You are pretty, and you look healthy. Why do you want to lose more?

lisakyle_11

truth... my husband is commenting that i am getting too skinny (not in my opinion as i am really not 'skinny')...but he likes women on the curvier side. he prefers me with 'a little weight'...but i prefer me, with some muscle tone and without the 'weight'.

ihateroses

Oh honey...

He only said it to calm your insecurities. Guys (the ones with brains) aren't really out there going "I like her because she has curves, I don't like her because she's too skinny." There are a myriad of reasons to be interested in a woman and body shape is just one very small one.

Do yourself a favor and work on loving yourself a bit more. I don't mean to sound rude, but you sound very insecure. You were worried about the fact that he worked with an attractive woman and then when he tried to reassure you you became worried he'd no longer be attracted to you in the future.

Relax. Breathe. He's with you. Probably because of all the wonderful things you have going on. Learn to love yourself for them. There's more to you than your hips.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

cellokitty91

There's a huge difference between being lean and skinny. Check this out:

http://www.leighpeele.com/body-fat-pictures-and-percentages

Nopedotjpeg

Dem curves are a good thing. And as cellokitty said, lean and skinny are definitely two different things.

sexforjaffacakes

I agree with your boyfriend. I've dated a few ironing boards, and not so attractive. A woman ought to have curves! A guy ought to have bigger shoulders and chest than his waist. It goes both ways!

pretty ignorant comment considering whether you have curves or not is determined by genetics and there's nothing you can do about it, and there's a big difference between YOUR personal tastes and "A woman OUGHT to have". Who are you to say a woman OUGHT to have anything?

sexforjaffacakes

I completely agree with your Boyfriend, super skinny girls are not attractive, as pretty as the may seem to be, you want your gf to look healthy

what if they're skinny and healthy? You can be naturally skinny yknow.

sexforjaffacakes

don't even start with the "skinny" bashing. Thin or "skinny" women CAN have curves, boobs and a butt!

Just as some fat girls (like me!) don't have boobs even when they're over 200lb!

sexforjaffacakes

Tone is good, but just don't lose the best parts of you that make you a woman.

Being a woman makes you a woman, not your body shape.

What's with the skinny bashing on here? jesus.

sexforjaffacakes

I completely agree with your Boyfriend, super skinny girls are not attractive, as pretty as the may seem to be, you want your gf to look healthy

i am with this guy.. skinny girls are just... gross?

Oh more offensive body shaming, yaaaaaaaaaaaaay

sexforjaffacakes

We can appreciate the beauty of curvy women without diminishing the beauty of women who weren't fortunate enough to have been born with larger breasts and backsides. It's not the thin girls fault that she isn't shaped like jlo anymore than its the curvier girls fault for not looking like Victoria beckham.

This.

ElHombre23

I gotta agree with the bf ... skinny doesn't do it for me. I know a lot of women see these seriously thin women and think they have to look like that to be beautiful. Where did they get this from? I think there's this small army of loser men who made up that skinny is hot just to bring some women down a peg or two so they'd consider being with them. If tha's the guy you know, ladies (in general), you need to walk away and find a real man who just wants his woman to be happy and healthy. Glad your bf agrees ;-)

I like a butt and some hips ... to be a bit crude, if I'm being intimate, I need to be able to smack an a** and have it talk back to me ;-) I don't want a woman I feel like I can hurt in bed because she's so fraile.

Congratulations on your 15 lbs.! Tone is good, but just don't lose the best parts of you that make you a woman.

^^^^THIS^^^^

Razkler14

I dated one skinny dude and the moment I saw him naked it was over for me. Skinny is not hot, its not healthy, and it's not comfy. Fit, toned, and shaped is toatlly HOT! It took me dating a skinny guy to realize that men were telling the truth when they said that skinny woman are not attractive. I always thought they were just being nice... but now... now I get it. Boney is gross!

Nothing is hotter than muscles and hard healthy work!

InnerFatGirl

I don't blame him hun. I am a girl, and straight, but I don't find skinny girls attractive at all. I like a bit of meat.

For e.g - this just looks un-cuddly, unhealthy & unsexy to me. And just .. childish.



Compared to this; this is womanly and healthy to me


As is this

sexforjaffacakes

I dated one skinny dude and the moment I saw him naked it was over for me.

That seems a little shallow :flowerforyou:
I'm sure if a man said the same thing about a fat woman there would be uproar.

sexforjaffacakes

I don't blame him hun. I am a girl, and straight, but I don't find skinny girls attractive at all. I like a bit of meat.

For e.g - << this just looks un-cuddly, unhealthy and unsexy to me.

Compared to this >> this is comforting and cuddly to me

As does this

I see two women who've had professional photos taken and probably edited, compared to a real girl taking a photo on her phone.

Also, you've taken a real, normal girls photo randomly off the internet and insulted it based on your personal tastes.

Personally I think they all look beautiful, I'd kill to have girl number ones body even if it's not perfect.
And she didn't look unhealthy to me, I could see fat on her, she is probably naturally skinny and you've just shamed her for her natural body.

InnerFatGirl

I don't blame him hun. I am a girl, and straight, but I don't find skinny girls attractive at all. I like a bit of meat.

For e.g - << this just looks un-cuddly, unhealthy and unsexy to me.

Compared to this >> this is comforting and cuddly to me

As does this

I see two women who've had professional photos taken and probably edited, compared to a real girl taking a photo on her phone.

Also, you've taken a real, normal girls photo randomly off the internet and insulted it based on your personal tastes.

Personally I think they all look beautiful, I'd kill to have girl number ones body even if it's not perfect.
And she didn't look unhealthy to me, I could see fat on her, she is probably naturally skinny and you've just shamed her for her natural body.

That's fine. I can also share pictures of real life curvy girls without editing.

And sorry if you feel that way, but I think she looks unhealthy. Because I think skinny looks unhealthy, just like I think fat looks unhealthy. It's my opinion, and I'm owning it. I'm not saying it's gospel, hun.

evertongirl

Im sorry..i dont like being rude or mean to people but I get sick of skinny women saying its the same for them...rubbish, the taunts and rude things said to you over the years would never equal the amount us chubby women have received and I bet they were never as mean or hurtful...and you will never feel the same despair when going clothes shopping or standing up in front of a crowd to present something seeing people eye you up & down and focus on your belly rolls a fraction too long....2 of my closes friends see a nutritionist to put on weight..they are the iron board, no boobs no bum girls...and they both admit time again how much easier it is for them..they can throw any old clothes item on and it will look good, when we were younger one of them got hit on all the time because she was tall and skinny (not the prettiest of our friends but the skinniest) and they only occasionally feel like people are looking at them negatively because of their skinny body...it is not the same and I really hate it when the skinnt ones do the poor me thing... (rant over)

sexforjaffacakes

Im sorry..i dont like being rude or mean to people but I get sick of skinny women saying its the same for them...rubbish, the taunts and rude things said to you over the years would never equal the amount us chubby women have received and I bet they were never as mean or hurtful...and you will never feel the same despair when going clothes shopping or standing up in front of a crowd to present something seeing people eye you up & down and focus on your belly rolls a fraction too long....2 of my closes friends see a nutritionist to put on weight..they are the iron board, no boobs no bum girls...and they both admit time again how much easier it is for them..they can throw any old clothes item on and it will look good, when we were younger one of them got hit on all the time because she was tall and skinny (not the prettiest of our friends but the skinniest) and they only occasionally feel like people are looking at them negatively because of their skinny body...it is not the same and I really hate it when the skinnt ones do the poor me thing... (rant over)

You're like the kid that gets bullied at home so they take it out on a kid at school.
It's not skinny girls fault that we get bullied for being fat,it's societies.
Bashing women for being skinny is just as bad as bashing them for being fat - especially when people bash skinny girls to make them feel better about their own rolls and tires of fat.

Making girls ashamed to be skinny won't make you proud to be fat.
If you want true freedom to be happy with your body pressure the media to show girls of all shapes and sizes, rather than trying to turn the tables by turning skinny girls into the unattractive ones in an attempt to make people forget that fat is ugly.

Razkler14

I dated one skinny dude and the moment I saw him naked it was over for me.

That seems a little shallow :flowerforyou:
I'm sure if a man said the same thing about a fat woman there would be uproar.

Then I guess I am pretty shallow... Skinny is not attarctive and neither is fat. HEALTHY is though... there is a GIANT differnce.

sexforjaffacakes

I dated one skinny dude and the moment I saw him naked it was over for me.

That seems a little shallow :flowerforyou:
I'm sure if a man said the same thing about a fat woman there would be uproar.

Then I guess I am pretty shallow... Skinny is not attarctive and neither is fat. HEALTHY is though... there is a GIANT differnce.

But there's a difference between your personal preference and idea of what is attractive, and going EWWWWWWWWWWWWWW THAT'S DISGUSTING as so many have said on this thread. Many people do find fat attractive, many find skinny attractive, most find healthy attractive.

But bashing skinny girls for being skinny is wrong, just as it is to slag of girls for being fat. Sure it's fine to say that it isn't healthy, but it isn't anyone's place to tell girls how they should or should not look based on what you think is hot. Slagging someone off for their body doesn't inspire them to change it, as many of us that have been bullied for being overweight our whole lives have experienced.

It's insulting to ALL women to body bash, as it suggests that we have little worth beyond our bodies.

And you forget that there is a big difference between a model that has starved herself under industry pressure, and many normal girls who are naturally skinny.