Guys, how young is too young in terms of dating?

rml_16

No chance.

I know a lot of people will say age is just a number, but when you are talking say me at 28, dating an 18 yr old its different stages of life. Not so much an issue say if you were 40 dating a 56 yr old. You are midlife, done the partying, may have been mairried/had kids moved out of home.

Im looking for someone I can do fun stuff with but also look to settling down into something much more solid than I will ever get out of someone who has just left high school in the last couple of years.

After my experiences, everyones will be different, I probably wouldnt date anyone younger than 22-24. Thats just me though :glasses:

And, see, this is why I say you can't say for sure. At 18, I was a mother and much more mature and settled than a lot of women who are my current age (mid-30s). I never was interested in partying. I have never been much of a drinker, never did drugs. I've always had goals and ambitions and they haven't changed from then to now. I was a VERY mature 18. So, to assume someone that age is a certain way is just an assumption and not always correct.

You may very well meet a much younger woman some day who fits what you're looking for.

Never say never. ;-)

neverstray

I guess it depends on the person, but a huge factor is where are they in life? At my age, dating someone that is even around 35, they still might want marriage, kids, etc. I'm done with all that. Finding someone closer to my age will more likely mean that they understand things. They have their kids, they've been married, and we're on the same page with where we are with our lives.

But, if you are really into someone, all that might not matter and you can work around it. I guess age plays a role, but it's not definitive.

loislane22

I dated a 18 yo when I was 27. I'll never do it again. I wanted to hit her with a shovel every time she spoke, or told me about her day. Sex with a hot 18 yo wasn't enough to make listening to her worth it.

^ :laugh:

Sidesteal

If there's grass in the field, play ball!































If I weren't married there's still no way I'd date an 18 year old. That's WAY too old.



Ok seriously though, anything post-college I'd consider.

auticus

Depends on the lady in question. I'm going to be 35 in a couple weeks, and I've only dated younger than me once. It didn't turn out so well due to her being in a different place in life than I am at (I'm not a college frat boy, that's about where she was at in life)

I've learned that I won't judge a woman by her age, but the stereotype will be there until she proves otherwise. I typically date older women or women my own age.

dragonsheart84

My husband is 35 and I am 28. there is an 8 year difference between us but because we grew up in about the same era, we find that we have a lot in common. My children's father is 16 years old than I am and I wanted to kill him a lot of the time because he was mentally only about my age and it wasn't working. I am mature for my age so everyone tells me anyway.

kimber0607

Im 38, 39 in a mnth and feel comfy with the 33+/40's range
no way nooooo way in their 20's

EmCarroll1990

I'm 21 and my fiance's 47. We're technically 25 years apart and we met when I was 18. It's all dependent on the individuals.

neverstray

One thing, at 47, I'm planning for retirement. I do not plan to still be working in ten years from now. Thats tough for someone that is 30 to even fathom. That's the kind of thing I'm talking about. It's easy to say, "age is just a number", but I think there are important differences at different stages of life that define an age range. Not always, but typically.

XXXMinnieXXX

At 16 I was with a 26 year old and waaaaaay more mature than him. My fiance is 31 I'm 26, I think we are both on the same page. He has 2 kids aged 10 and 11 now, that's never bothered me. Hed obviously had a lot more life experience than me, but we were both ready to settle down, and he accepts I'm still learning and growing. X

Candi8099

im 34, partner is 26.

I'm 31 (will be 32 this year), fiance' just turned 25.

foxy2311

When I was 26 I dated someone almost 5 years younger than me. I'm now 30 and engaged to a 38 year old. It all depends on the person. I think being 30 (and if I were single) I could not date someone 18. LIke a previous poster stated, I'd feel like I was babysitting.

jnh17

When I was 18, I dated a 33 year old for FIVE years. Thank you baby Jesus lyin' there in your ghost manger, just lookin' at your Baby Einstein developmental videos, learnin' 'bout shapes and colors we didn't get married and I married someone closer to my age (that wouldn't date an 18 year old). Ironically, he is NOW 33 -- but I"m 29.

Sockimobi

I'm 35 in 3 weeks... my fella is 27.
I was 30 when we got together and he had just turned 23.

I wouldn't swap him for the world. The age difference doesn't even get acknowledged.

Definitely down to the individual I say.

N'aww that's lovely :flowerforyou: Someone I work with is 27 and her boyfriend is 20. His family object very strongly and make her feel very unwelcome when they see her but despite this they're still going out after 12 months. Sometimes it is just true love and soul mates and like you said, age doesn't come into it.

It can tricky when the youngest person is still quite young. I did wonder if I was just having a moment after turning 30 But only for about 3 minutes and then I didn't care

If your colleague was 37 and her fella was 30, I wonder if her family would mind so much.

There isn't anything you can do about a person's age so you may as well just go by the person they are and how they treat other humans.

DavetheHYNIC

Tonight, I was watching New Girl (one of my favorite shows) and one of the characters (who is like early 30s) freaked out when he found out the girl he was dating was only 18. This got me thinking because I'm 18 (though people always tell me I look a lot older) and the guys I usually am attracted to are mid 20s to early 30s.

So guys, Would you date a girl who's 18? How young is too young for you? Would it depend on the girl? Discuss.

When I was 30 I would have played with your mind emotions and very much your body and left you emotional scarred but as I have gotten older and developed a sense of morality and responsibility there is really nothing I have in common with an 18 year. Old child my Life experience is to vast varied and mature for us to gave anything to relate to. What we going talk about? I'm thinking about 401ks and the presidential election. Your thinking about Justin Bieber and the new Twilight movie. Date closer to your age don't let men use you for sex.

HeidiMightyRawr

It does depend on maturity levels mostly.

The way I see it, 18 is an adult, there is nothing that could be seen as "wrong" with dating an 18 year old no matter how much older the other person is, it's down to choice. If that 18 year old is very mature, a lot of 30 year olds won't care, but then again, most 18 year olds are not that mature. From what I've seen, men are more open to dating women younger than them, compared to women dating younger men.

My partner and I started seeing each other when I was 15, he was 19. Not a huge age difference, but it is when you're that young. We're still together now, 21 and 25, so obviously it hasn't been an issue at all.

Rae6503

My husband is 8 years older than me. I was 21, and he was 29 when we met. It worked for us. But 18 is harder. It's awkward when you can't go to the bar with your boyfriend.

Elizabeth_C34

When I was 18-23 or so, I never dated any man under 30. I was never attracted to immature "brah" types and was always far more mature than my years. Most of my friends were over 25 when I was 18. Strangely enough, my husband is only two years older than me. I was 26, and he was 28 when we got married.

Candi8099

I know a lot of people will say age is just a number, but when you are talking say me at 28, dating an 18 yr old its different stages of life.

^THIS

Agreed! Maturity level, life experiences, etc put a person in different stages in life. You said that perfectly! These things will make or break relationships; at least for me anyway. If it isn't there, there wouldn't be a chance! The lack of the "he said/she said drama, the better. :laugh:

foxxybrown

You do look a lot older than your age but don't get caught up with those old men! They don't see you as you think they do! I don't care how intelligent or mature you think you are, you really aren't in comparison.

UsedToBeHusky

When I was 18, I had a crush on a guy who was 25. I asked him out, but he turned me down because I wasn't 21. He wanted somebody he could go out and drink with. I suggested being his designated driver, but he still wasn't interested. Looking back, I think it was just because he worked with my mom, and that seemed awkward to him.

TylerJ76

You do look a lot older than your age but don't get caught up with those old men! They don't see you as you think they do! I don't care how intelligent or mature you think you are, you really aren't in comparison.

That's an awful lot of judging a book by it's cover....wow

AmyM713

I've always dated older then me not much older, but I also find my self attracted to men in their 30's and I am 26. I don't want a guy younger then me but I think this is because I have always been very mature and want someone I can relate to.

Elizabeth_C34

You do look a lot older than your age but don't get caught up with those old men! They don't see you as you think they do! I don't care how intelligent or mature you think you are, you really aren't in comparison.

LOL Wow...

rammsteinsoldier

I don't think age is a major factor but maturity and place in life is. I have raised my children and love the idea of living life for me for awhile.

erikblock

I'll be 33 next month, and the girl I'm seeing just turned 22 last month. I see a lot of people talking about "different stages in life" and that sort of thing, but it really depends on the person. She is FAR more mature, responsible, and "settled down" than I am. In fact, I just joked to her last night that I'm way more of a 22-year-old than she is.

EmCarroll1990

You do look a lot older than your age but don't get caught up with those old men! They don't see you as you think they do! I don't care how intelligent or mature you think you are, you really aren't in comparison.

This is such a joke.

kimber0607

When I was 18, I dated a 33 year old for FIVE years. Thank you baby Jesus lyin' there in your ghost manger, just lookin' at your Baby Einstein developmental videos, learnin' 'bout shapes and colors we didn't get married and I married someone closer to my age (that wouldn't date an 18 year old). Ironically, he is NOW 33 -- but I"m 29.

LOLOLOLOLOL!

rossi02

It's all depends on the people in question and what they are looking for.

When I was 23 I briefly dated a guy that was 32. I was young and all about having fun, I think he was starting to get the urge to settle down. So we were miles away from being what each other was looking for. We did have our fun for a little while, but I think it did bother him when his friends would point out how much younger I was. In all fairness when he would call, my roommates would answer the phone and call out to me.. "Heather.. it's your dad", which I'm sure he didn't like hearing either.

christine24t

I think 18 is a little young for a 30 year old to date. 25 or younger not necessarily, but anything above that and the age difference is a little too much.