Guys, how young is too young in terms of dating?

Espressocycle

Meh, on one hand I can't imagine dating someone under 25. On the other hand, your average 18-year-old guy is a doofus with an outsized libido.

JanetLM73

I'm 38, my husband is 46. If I was not married I would not date anyone younger then 35.

Nikkei24

I think it would be hard and weird for even a guy who is like 23 or odler to date a girl who is 18. I say this becasue if you wanna go out with ur friend your age to a bar or a club or a casino she can't even go. It would depend on maturity and all kinds of things like that. I dated older guys when I was 18-19 and now that i'm 24 I see why people warned me. I would stick to someone close in my age range and someone at the same point in life. Not someone who acts my age but is 10 years older.

mummma

No chance.

I know a lot of people will say age is just a number, but when you are talking say me at 28, dating an 18 yr old its different stages of life. Not so much an issue say if you were 40 dating a 56 yr old. You are midlife, done the partying, may have been mairried/had kids moved out of home.

Im looking for someone I can do fun stuff with but also look to settling down into something much more solid than I will ever get out of someone who has just left high school in the last couple of years.

After my experiences, everyones will be different, I probably wouldnt date anyone younger than 22-24. Thats just me though :glasses:

i agree with the stage of life thing.....

im 24.. nearly 25. all of my friends from school live with their parents, have jobs in the city, go on holidays several times a year and get wasted... drive expensive cars that most of their wages go on..... or go out 5/6/7 nights a week.

but im 24, with 3 kids..... a house, 2 businesses.... bills... responsibility.......

so if i go for a man who is 10 years older.... its coz i dont wanna babysit someones 24 year old son! i want a man whos at the same stage of life as me. age is just a number.

life and experience build the person you are attracted to. x

SmartAlec03211988

I'm kinda getting to know this guy who is 39 - 15 years older than me. I think that's probably my limit.

Brandicaloriecountess

My bf is 5 years older than me. I think that is a good age gap. We fit well together.

18, no way he would be closer to my son's age than mine. So um creepy IMO

silvergurl518

I don't think a 12-year age difference is a big deal, generally speaking. But your respective stages in life are important to consider. It's an entirely different thing for a 40-year-old to date a 28-year-old than for a 30-year-old to date an 18-year-old.

There are always exceptions, but for the most part, no matter how mature you think you are at 18, you do not know enough about life to have a successful relationship with a 30-year-old man.

i agree. it's all about stages in life. my man is 14 years older than me. i had dated someone 21 years older before and i've dated 5 years younger too. my happy medium then became someone 5ish years older. but then i met my guy....needless to say i'm an older soul and he's a younger soul and we're at the same place in life (me = 29 next month; him = 43). HAPPY AS CLAMS. but timing is everything. 5 years ago our lives would have been vastly different.

adamb83

For casual dating, whatever is the legal age of consent.

But I don't think that I could build a serious relationship with someone who is 10 or so years younger than I am... unless they are super mature.

I went through a whole lot of changes in my early 20s (college years), so I can't imagine "settling down" with an 18 year old who has yet to experience any of that.

fteale

A few of my friends dated men in their 30s when we were 18-20. I thought they were completely insane. Younger guys are much better looking!

Now I am 34, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone more than about 5 years older, or 2 years younger than me. Too weird.

lau444

I know people in their 30s who are extremely lazy and spoiled, and I also know people in their early 20s who are focused and emotionally mature, so it all depends on the person and how compatible you are. I, personally, can't be with a man under 22, but after that, I'm open.

teagin2002

I am married now to a gent who is 3 months older than I.
I started dating when I was 19, and I did not like men my age. They were idiots and could not afford most things. So when I turned 20 I started dating a 42 year old and I loved it. He was young at heart, never been married, didn't have any children, he was very attractive too and did not look his age. After him I only dated men in their late 20's and up as long as they treated me rite and I liked them too.
At that young of an age you really don't need to worry about marriage yet, just go out and see the world. There are many good people out there and you can hang out with with whom every you want no matter what age as long as you are happy luv :flowerforyou:

JoeyTajzai

Ill date someone 18. I'm 21.

i_love_vinegar

i might date someone who is 18, but probably not. I agree with AdamB83 about the reasoning.

When I was 18, my bf was 7 years older. I was in high school when we met. He wasn't a creeper or pervert by any means, but I have to admit he was a bit off...:/

Im 22 and my bf now is 14 years older. he's kinda odd too...

Probably wouldn't date over 25 years older than me.

i_love_vinegar

Wow, there are a lot of generalizations in this thread. Not all 18 year olds are vapid and only want to party, listen to Justin Bieber, and talk about Twilight. I've always been very goal oriented and have high standards. I couldn't care less about any of that stereotypical teenager crap. I DO agree with the people saying that it depends on the person though.

I have always been considered an old soul and extremely mature for my age (although online i might not seem it), but I have to say I am a much different person today than I was at 18. I never thought I would change and only my "immature" peers might, but I changed. Just pointing out that in my experience this (noted a few people posted about this topic) is not a generalization.

Also, I agree that it is important to be weary of older men who take interest in you. Obviously not every older man interested in you is a creeper, but just be careful. I can't explain it, but at 18 I thought a 25 year old dating me was cool, but now that I am 22 I would feel strange dating someone that young. I guess I see it as a bit "off" now and him picking me up from highschool for dates could have well-been a red flag. He wasn't a bad person perse and we dated for 3 years, but he ended up being a bit mentally unstable.

Of course, it's important to exercise caution in general. Don't want to get stuck in a messy situation at such a young age.

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stevewynjones

When I was 19 I was dating a 39 year old..to me back then that was hot....I couldn't do it the other way....

I know two guys who are 40, one in engaged to his 19year old fiancé, the other one has a child with a 17 year old.

All legal and each to their own.....

carlynn13

When I was 19 I was dating a 39 year old..to me back then that was hot....I couldn't do it the other way....

I know two guys who are 40, one in engaged to his 19year old fiancé, the other one has a child with a 17 year old.

All legal and each to their own.....

If one of them was my daughter, he wouldn't make it to see 41... just my opinion tho

tambink

I have dated younger but only a few years younger and some older as much as 8 years older. I think it really depends what you both have in common.

MelMoly

older guys are soo sexy tho.... :bigsmile:

SlimSammy2012

My most recent relationship had a 17 year differential. Me=54 and She=37. The age difference wasn't the problem with us. It was other factors that people of the same age have. Trust issues!