How has having a child affected your life?

sxynanaplay

I dont have kids yet but i want to sometime soon. I know that my life will change dramatically but i am ready for that change, not saying it will happen in a year but im hoping before 30, im 24 now.

TinkrBelz

How about we just agree that you aren't Me. You'll never be the person I am because they haven't invented the body transfer machine yet. You can be super mom and all rainbows and sunshine, but I'm giving how ME, MYSELF, AND I feel about my experience having a child.

I'll live what I have left of my life and you should live yours.

Sounds good!! Though I am not super mom. I just have super soft spot for kids.

If I may make a suggestion: ONE day, you should talk to teen girls. On the internet things can come across a lot more harsh than what they were intended. So, I was reading your frustration as bad feelings towards your son. If we were talking face to face, things would have come off a lot differently!

Someone like you could get through to a thick headed 14 year old girl. You could tell them your ups and your downs. I am one of those people that believes things happen for a reason. You had a kid at 14...tough life, you had to give up a lot....one day you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. When you do, go back and help other girls. Teen girls need to see that having a child as a teen is not all cute fun and baby dolls. They will listen to you!!!

MissAlexxMarie

Holy freaking crap! I can't even believe I'm reading this! I had my son at 20...and although I don't get to do all the crazy sh** I used to and don't get to see people as much...I wouldn't change a second of it! To say you're not ready to be a mother after you clearly were ready to have sex....stupid! I love my son and wouldn't change a darn thing of it! He's a handful, a pain in the butt at his 4 months but he's a special pain in the butt that nobody could take out of my heart. I feel sorry for people that can sit there and act like a child ASKED to be brought into this world. If you're an adult act like one instead of blaming something on a child! I pity this country for what it's become! And to have the nerve to say his grandma or whoever takes care of him...you dkasljfldkajfidsajfl ugh! You just need to give your child up to somebody that gives a crap!!!

At the end of the day when I get off work I can't wait to get home and see my son and to see him smile at me. I feel sorry for the ones that don't see the beauty in an innocent child that will always you...for you!

boomboom011

i am not going to lie KIDS ARE AN *kitten* WHOOPING! But I love every minute of it.

They also taught me the importance of privacy. They also taught me how to let the small stuff go. If there are no broken bones or internal bleeding lets just move on.

Having kids has made me change my priorities from partying and thinking only of myself to loving another human more than I ever thought you could love someone.

They also taught me that they will drink the LAST of whatever and put the dang pitcher or carton back in the fridge and blame it on everyone but themselves. LOL

I love those little heathens more than life itself!

k8blujay2

They also taught me that they will drink the LAST of whatever and put the dang pitcher or carton back in the fridge and blame it on everyone but themselves. LOL

Shoot! My husband taught me that....

But to the OP's question.... life is precious, learning is sweet... and while I have less free time to do what I want... or hell, even keep the house clean... I can still do things that I dream of doing... though it takes a time and planning... and accomplishing those tasks (whether it's losing weight or learning a new craft) is even sweeter that I can do it front of my kiddo.

NSQuintana

I heard this in a movie once, and couldn't explain it any better: "I don't feel like I gave birth to my son. I feel like my son gave birth to me." I LOVE being a mother! Before my son was born I was a total PARTY GIRL, working at Hooters, and I didn't take life seriously. It must've been gradual over the 9 month gestation, but by the time he was born I was a full fledged WOMAN. I completed school, got a real job, and drastically slowed down in the party scene. My son is my life and I have no regrets or animosity about getting pregnant at only 21. His father and I are still together and are getting married around Labor Day. Having children is not for everybody and prior I had no plans on ever having any. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me I never knew what it felt like to have my heart outside of my body before he was born. He's my angel and my life!

HiKaren

Well..... I have to go into the backyard and scoop poop on a regular basis, and pick up some greenies from the pet store, ever so often.

Ohhhh, sorry, your talking about human children.. Nevermind... :smokin:

lacy276

My house..is not "my house". It belongs to my 2 sons. My 6 year old has his books on the table, his toys in the living room, and in the couch cushions. My 1 year old has his toys in the living room, the kitchen floor, and in the bedroom floor. They've taken over my bed. My 1 year old sleeps with me still, and I occasionally wake up with my 6 year old in the bed.
My car is not "my car". It belongs to them as well. The back seat has crumbs, tissues, wrappers, papers, toys...my front seat consists of school papers, diaper bag, and of course...toys. Also the occasional shoe, bib, extra set of clothes.
And at the end of the day...I clean. Oh I clean ALOT. And do you know what happens the next day...it REAPPEARS!!!
My weekends consist of basketball, soccer, football, or whatever sport is in season...then come home and go outside with them, or play a game with them, or clean. I wake up early to get them ready, take them to school, go to work to support them, and then pick them up, cook for them, bathe them, and clean up after them. Then i wake up the next day and do it all over again.
My vacations are based around where my kids want to go. Our food choices are usually places where my 6 year old would like. I base practically every single decision I make daily around my 2 sons.
This all sounds very unappealing to some I'm sure. But to me...this is life. This is the life I chose. Not once...but twice. And I will do it at least one more time God willing. I do occasionally go out. Not much. Not because I have no sitter, but because I DONT WANT TO. I have no desire to go hang out at a bar, club, or any place that I can’t take my kids. Now I know I have to do stuff without them every once and a while. And that’s fine. 28 out of 30 days in the month, I'm with my children. I LOVE THAT LIFE. I wouldn’t change it for the world. Because each day I get to look at their sweet faces and listen to them laugh. I get to listen to my 6 year old say words that don't make a lick of sense..but he really thinks he does. I get overly excited when my baby does something for the 1st time. My son told me I look beautiful in my night gown…and he meant it. That’s the joy of innocent true love. As much as they need me…I need them. I truly feel like God made me to be a mother. I am a better person because of my children. I have more patience, I watch my language, I am closer to God, and I work that much harder. They are my sole motivation for life itself. They say, if you can't find something to live for...then you best find something to die for. And I found both. Everything I do is for them, and I will surely lay down my life for them.
The duties are not always fun...well they are usually not ever fun - except the sports & school projects. I love those . the cleaning the house, the car, the throw up, the pee of the toilet...all that stuff - no it’s not fun.. but the payoff is well worth it.
It's a love hate relationship..kind of like working out. I hate being sweaty, and running until I feel like I'm going to throw up - but I love fitting into clothes I couldn't fit into just a few months ago. So… there are times I want to rip my hair out..or times I sit in the shower and cry because I am so tired or frustrated, but those times are far outweighed by the happy times.
***Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~Elizabeth Stone***

kbmnurse

I am a ATM

mommy7

How has having children affected my life??

We had our oldest when I was 17. I love him with everything I have, but I wish we had waited to have him. I wasn't able to have a typical senior year, though I did graduate a year later. Had I waited to have children, I could of gone to college and had some sort of career so that we could of provided better for our family. I know if I wasn't a SAHM and had a decent career, the kids could be doing and having the same things as their peers. Granted, that usually doesn't phase them too much, but sometimes it does bother me. Sometimes the extra money would really come in handy. But I know I can attend college here in three years when my youngest goes to school. I love him, think he loves me too (won't say that to his mother).

I have a 12 year old girl that is the sweetest person ever. Every now and then, I think she's possessed and I'm ready to ship her off to a convent. We even joke that we are going to slip her some midol (no, I wouldn't), She considers me one of her BFF's!

My 10 year old son, he's a great kid. I can't stand taking him to doctor appointments all the time because it means pulling him out of school, long car rides, possible long waits, long car rides home. The juggling aspect is rough because I have to be on top of everything. It probably wouldn't be so tough, but his specialists are 45 minutes away! I have to stay on top of meds. It's a pita. He loves his mommy and I love him, his friends just can't see or know!

The 7 and 5 year olds, they don't help out much. The 7 year old gets in my bed every single night (course, so does my saint bernard). He gives me hugs and kisses galore and has the sweetest personality. He loves for me to come to his school and have lunch with him every week.

Our children gave us a reason for living when their sister died. Sometimes, I wish she had never existed so we wouldn't have to live through that. Having her, sometimes, felt like a cruel joke. Then again, I am so glad I got to see and know her, even if it was for a little while. Her death was preventable and it was all due to the provider I put my trust in. I regret that with everything in me. Losing her, I never knew how bad it could hurt being a mother. Losing your child, it destroys you. My heart would physically hurt, like it was being ripped out of my chest and like someone was sitting on me preventing the use of my lungs. Sigh

The two year old. Ah, the two year old. I would love to wean her, but she knows how to yank on clothes and cry for boob. She throws fits like you wouldn't believe. Then, she's so cute and so smart. She chats with everyone and babies children bigger and older than her. She is a bright light in our family and helped to soothe our broken hearts. She is spoiled beyond belief and is convinced she is a princess. She will never know just how much she has done, just by being here. Looking at her, I know she was sent here by her sister.

MelissR75

my 5 year old daughter is having the best time giving me a new hairdo and telling me how beautiful it is...lol...priceless!!

MelissaL582

I regret not doing a lot of things but it wasn't because of having kids. I believe that hopes and dream can still be fulfilled. You just have to work harder for them.

I can't say that having kids has had a negative impact on my life at all. I continually learn from them. They inspire me every day. They are entertaining and make me happy, even though they are pain in the @sses at times.

Exactly how I feel about becoming a parent. I was 21 when I got pregnant and my husband turned 21 halfway through our first pregnancy. We were basically still newlyweds at the time also. It was rough but who said it would be easy having a family? My husband wanted to go to school after we got married (he was getting out of the Army) but that had to be put on hold. Here we are almost 9 years into our marriage and 3 kids later..he's going to school fulltime and working fulltime. There are many moments when I just need some ME time but I can't imagine life without my boys. They're actually sitting on the couch next to their dad watching 'The Incredibles'.