WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A GUY...

meemo88
meemo88 Posts: 436 Member
I want to take a vote or see some opinions on this.

I have been talking to a guy online at first, then he kept asking for my number. I gave it to him. He lives in a different state, but only 4 hours away driving. at first the calls were not everyday but at least every other day and he also used to be on messenger a lot. now he doesnt answer my texts and when i call he doesnt answer he will probably call back a couple days later. when i ask him why he hasnt been calling he says he is busy and that he took on a new job (he designs web sites and such) ... i just dont understand. Also I saw him once for an hour or so, after he left everything was fine, but lately past couple weeks or so he has been so distant. I'm not sure what to think and I dont want to say or do anything to seem needy or desperate. I texted him once and called him once on sunday with no answer. he still has not called me back so im not going to call. what should i do from here? What should i think? I'm so confused, and i really dont have time for a heart break. maybe he is just busy, but i mean u dont have a second to text me hello or something? ur not obama..... ugh.... some advice?......

thanks guys :ohwell:
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  • Nekhet
    Nekhet Posts: 380
    I think you already know but from his actions or lack of...sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you. Usually most people when they are attracted and into a relationship will text or call all the time...pay attention to you as much as possible and let you know it. Doesn't sound like he is based on what you said. I can't judge him or know that for sure but from what it sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you...sorry :(
  • meemo88
    meemo88 Posts: 436 Member
    bummp anyone else lol
  • Eaglesfanintn
    Eaglesfanintn Posts: 813 Member
    I think you already know but from his actions or lack of...sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you. Usually most people when they are attracted and into a relationship will text or call all the time...pay attention to you as much as possible and let you know it. Doesn't sound like he is based on what you said. I can't judge him or know that for sure but from what it sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you...sorry :(

    ^^This^^
  • Toxictwist
    Toxictwist Posts: 274
    need to move on with life. If he contacts you at a later date then great... But don't wait around for him (or any guy)
    :)
  • LisaJ2904
    LisaJ2904 Posts: 157 Member
    :flowerforyou: Yes sorry sweetheart but the guys are right. He's just not that into you . Leave it now and move on xx
  • poncho33
    poncho33 Posts: 1,511
    He isn't into you, you're young and pretty just move on!
  • GasMasterFlash
    GasMasterFlash Posts: 2,206 Member
    maybe he is just busy, but i mean u dont have a second to text me hello or something? ur not obama..... ugh.... some advice?......
    Clinton would have been all over dat azz.
  • kennie2
    kennie2 Posts: 1,170 Member
    maybe he's actually just busy, i think youre looking into it too much
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    I have to agree with the guys. Sorry. If was as into it as you seem, he would make time for you no matter how busy he is. It only takes a couple of seconds to text "sorry. i'm busy, call you later".
  • sma83
    sma83 Posts: 479 Member
    Sorry Honey, but I have to agree with the other poster. It doesn't sound like he is that interested. Maybe he met someone else and doesn't want to say. And maybe he is just busy with work, but if you were that important he would make the time, busy or not. Try to move on and find someone who appreciates you and let's you know it! :flowerforyou:
  • Lifting_chick
    Lifting_chick Posts: 275 Member
    I think you already know but from his actions or lack of...sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you. Usually most people when they are attracted and into a relationship will text or call all the time...pay attention to you as much as possible and let you know it. Doesn't sound like he is based on what you said. I can't judge him or know that for sure but from what it sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you...sorry :(


    same here don't take it personal you just might not be his type....
  • here is my number....:) I respond.
  • janalayn
    janalayn Posts: 510 Member
    Don't waste time on losers who don't have time for you. If a guy is into you - - he will find a way to make contact no matter how "busy" he is.
  • tabithajoyy
    tabithajoyy Posts: 680 Member
    I think you already know but from his actions or lack of...sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you. Usually most people when they are attracted and into a relationship will text or call all the time...pay attention to you as much as possible and let you know it. Doesn't sound like he is based on what you said. I can't judge him or know that for sure but from what it sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you...sorry :(

    I to, AGREE!!!!
  • johnlatv
    johnlatv Posts: 654 Member
    yeah, he isn't into you... sorry....
  • PapaverSomniferum
    PapaverSomniferum Posts: 2,670 Member
    stop calling him

    you're interrupting his time with his wife/girlfriend
  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    It means he is f*cking other girls and just keeping you around as back up....I'm being serious this time. That's what it means.
  • MyTime1985
    MyTime1985 Posts: 456 Member
    Sorry but I think I'd forget him. There are a million other guys out there! You'll meet the right one!
  • Arielle82
    Arielle82 Posts: 1 Member
    Nope, he's not into you. Don't waste your time, if a guy isn't into you he's just not the right one for you!
  • MelissR75
    MelissR75 Posts: 735 Member
    :flowerforyou: Yes sorry sweetheart but the guys are right. He's just not that into you . Leave it now and move on xx

    ^^ This
  • AngryDiet
    AngryDiet Posts: 1,349 Member
    Perhaps it's only that his wife is getting suspicious.
  • mfp_junkie
    mfp_junkie Posts: 359
    You know the answer already. Move along.
  • HotCuppaJo
    HotCuppaJo Posts: 476 Member
    I think you already know but from his actions or lack of...sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you. Usually most people when they are attracted and into a relationship will text or call all the time...pay attention to you as much as possible and let you know it. Doesn't sound like he is based on what you said. I can't judge him or know that for sure but from what it sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you...sorry :(

    I totally agree with ^^^^^^this, as well... Sorry, hun.
  • onedayillbeamilf
    onedayillbeamilf Posts: 966 Member
    maybe he's actually just busy, i think youre looking into it too much

    You don't get out much, do you?
  • riannenrings
    riannenrings Posts: 142 Member
    maybe he's married or some how other sneaking around!

    regardless, if a guy wants to see/ talk to / keep you...nothing will stop him. not a new job, not anything.

    keeping that in mind helps keep things in perspective. seriously his loss! end your interest in him now and save yourself the roller coaster, sweetie girl.
  • ChrisGoldn
    ChrisGoldn Posts: 473 Member
    I think you already know but from his actions or lack of...sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you. Usually most people when they are attracted and into a relationship will text or call all the time...pay attention to you as much as possible and let you know it. Doesn't sound like he is based on what you said. I can't judge him or know that for sure but from what it sounds like he isn't that 'in' to you...sorry :(

    this definitely sorry
  • You said you met him for an hour and everything was "fine". It may have been fine with you but it sounds like it was not fine with him. It sounds like you are interested but he isn't. Stop calling and texting. If he starts calling and texting you, it will put you back in the driver's seat. If he doesn't, move on and understand it was not you. You are a beautiful woman (I looked at the pictures you posted) and you deserve a guy who sees that and has a strong desire to know more.
  • JaySpice
    JaySpice Posts: 326 Member
    maybe he is just busy, but i mean u dont have a second to text me hello or something? ur not obama..... ugh.... some advice?......
    Clinton would have been all over dat azz.

    THIS!! CTFU
  • LovingLisa2012
    LovingLisa2012 Posts: 775 Member
    he probally isn't interested HOWEVER

    here is my story -
    i met my husband online April 1999 .. we talked all the time on the web tv and phone .. but June/July nothing .. so i said forget him)
    next thing i know he pops back up and tells me he read my emails ( had written to ask whats up with not comm.) fast forward October 2,1999 we met in person for a couple hours ... October 3rd he asked me to move in with him ( he was in florida, i was in louisiana) ..October 7th 1999 i was on a bus to Florida ... April 14, 2001 we got married

    now this will probably not work that way for everyone but it happened for me ..

    you have let him know you were interested, now if he is, he will contact you .. oh and it turns out the reason why my now husband didn't contact me June/July was some girl in a chatroom ( we always went to the same chat) was telling him, i was trying to hook up with her and crap .. ugh NO im into guys ..lol )
  • mikeyboy
    mikeyboy Posts: 1,057 Member
    He can't return your call when his girlfriend is around!