A ? for men

xoalyssaox
xoalyssaox Posts: 318 Member
edited December 18 in Chit-Chat
My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. :( Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks :)
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  • Julielynn83
    Julielynn83 Posts: 162 Member
    LOL me too!?
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    There are men who find overweight women attractive.
  • AABru
    AABru Posts: 610 Member
    My husband loves a little "squish"...I'm still 30 pounds overweight, and he can't keep his hands to himself. But he loved me and thought I was beautiful 30 pounds ago as well. I don't get it, but I love it.
  • Iamkim73
    Iamkim73 Posts: 924 Member
    There are men who find overweight women attractive.

    And we :heart: those men. :smile:
  • jcgrant43
    jcgrant43 Posts: 64
    A definite yes. No question.

    "Ah, you gonna take me home tonight
    Ah, down beside that red firelight
    Are you gonna let it all hang out
    Fat bottomed girls, you make the rockin' world go round

    Hey, I was just a skinny lad, never knew no good from bad
    But I knew life before I left my nursery
    Left alone with big fat fannys, she was such a naughty nanny
    Heap big woman you made a bad boy out of me"

    Freddy Mercury said it best!:bigsmile:
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    The 50 lbs is a more or less arbitrary number that you want and that is fine as long as healthy getting there and being there.

    Beyond that is the fact that you are attractive now as you are,accept that fact and understand your guy cares about you as you are.
  • hesn92
    hesn92 Posts: 5,966 Member
    He loves you. I'm sure he finds you attractive.
  • skinnylove00
    skinnylove00 Posts: 662 Member
    YEP....most guys i know like curvy girls. they think skinny ones are twigs and athletic ones are creepy. i`m not here to impress the guys though. i want to be like, in the middle of all of these things!
  • pudadough
    pudadough Posts: 1,271 Member
    I think pretty much every dude is going to answer this differently. I've had guys think I was too big at one weight while others thought I was a "goddess" (his words) at the exact same scale number. You can't ever say "THIS is the weight that will attract EVERY man." Ain't gonna happen. Because human beings are all different and like all kinds of different things.

    If your guys says he likes your body, believe him! Guys are pretty straightforward, in my experience. :smile:
  • mbajrami
    mbajrami Posts: 636 Member
    I was about 50 lbs heavier when my boyfriend and I started dating than I am now, and I still have at least 20-30 lbs to go. He's super supportive and encouraging of my goals, but doesn't care what I weigh, he says he finds me sexy regardless.
  • TluvK
    TluvK Posts: 733 Member
    My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. :( Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks :)

    Were you 50 lb less when you met him?
  • nakedsun
    nakedsun Posts: 115
    Men find personalities and certain people attractive.

    I mean, I'm definitely at least 50lbs overweight at 5'2 and 180lbs. (Oh god its the first time I admitted numbers properly). My boyfriend (who is a lean and in shape guy naturally from his job) always insists he finds me attractive, sexy (yuck) and doesn't get why I want to lose weight.

    So yeah.
  • SergeantSunshine_reused
    SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
    He loves you. I'm sure he finds you attractive.

    Mhmm ^^
  • phillbis
    phillbis Posts: 353 Member
    Yes we do find overweight women attractive. Sexiness is half attitude anyway. Plus haven't you heard the term BBW (big beautifiul women)?
  • admanMike
    admanMike Posts: 371 Member
    Ladies, being sexy has nothing to do with weight...it's seriously about who you are and what your are and the way you are. I find many women who would be considered overweight sexy as do many other guys. I'm no philosopher but i've been around a long time :) i'd say make any diet / exercise changes in life for yourself first and foremost!
  • EricNCSU
    EricNCSU Posts: 699 Member
    Yes, men, myself included, find larger women attractive. As a general rule.

    In your specific case.. you are gorgeous so he is not lying.
  • stayxtrue
    stayxtrue Posts: 1,186 Member
    every guy is different. but beauty goes further than the skin deep appearance. He obviously thinks you are the most beautiful girl in his life and wouldnt have you any other way!

    There are a lot of shallow guys out there and they are just idiots and use girls! You have your self a top bloke! Your a lucky girl
  • Ttopeka
    Ttopeka Posts: 151 Member
    Could you find a fat man attractive? Or a bald man? A tall man, or a short man?

    Everyone has different tastes, but if he's dating you, I'm guessing (hoping!) that he's there for more than just your body. Even for men, personality and compatibility plays a role in attraction.
  • xoalyssaox
    xoalyssaox Posts: 318 Member
    I weighed 20 pounds less
    My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. :( Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks :)

    Were you 50 lb less when you met him?
  • Cueball55
    Cueball55 Posts: 152 Member
    i'm certain he means it
  • BlackmetalCoffee79
    BlackmetalCoffee79 Posts: 108 Member
    My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. :( Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks :)

    Looking at your pictures, i'm trying to figure out where you see yourself as "fat" in the first place. Look pretty normal to me, and curves are a lot sexier than bones. All this here should pretty much answer your question.
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    my fiance which i love very much seems to think im beautiful although im at least 40lbs over where i should be and i think hes crazy lol but i love him ;)
  • glennstoudt
    glennstoudt Posts: 403 Member
    A definite yes. No question.

    "Ah, you gonna take me home tonight
    Ah, down beside that red firelight
    Are you gonna let it all hang out
    Fat bottomed girls, you make the rockin' world go round

    Hey, I was just a skinny lad, never knew no good from bad
    But I knew life before I left my nursery
    Left alone with big fat fannys, she was such a naughty nanny
    Heap big woman you made a bad boy out of me"

    Freddy Mercury said it best!:bigsmile:

    Greatest rock voice in history. Sad we lost him so soon
  • mustgetmuscles1
    mustgetmuscles1 Posts: 3,346 Member
    Yep we like em all colors, shapes and sizes. Sexiness is not all physical appearance. Lots of large sexy woman out there. He is not lying to you.

    There are a few guys out there that would pass up someone based on weight but I wouldnt worry about them. Probably end up with someone as shallow as they are.
  • TluvK
    TluvK Posts: 733 Member
    I weighed 20 pounds less
    My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. :( Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks :)

    Were you 50 lb less when you met him?

    That's not that big of a deal. I have to be quite honest with my opinion here, which might ruffle some feathers. I think the TYPICAL male will always tell you that you look great the way you are, even if he doesn't necessarily think so. I mean, what would you do if he told you that he wasn't attracted to you? He doesn't want that *kitten* storm. He LOVES you, which is why the way you look is not tremendously important to him, but he would probably prefer you to be 50 lbs lighter (I'm only using that number because you used it - from your pictures, there is no way you should be losing 50 lbs).
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. :( Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks :)

    Looking at your pictures, i'm trying to figure out where you see yourself as "fat" in the first place. Look pretty normal to me, and curves are a lot sexier than bones. All this here should pretty much answer your question.
    I agree with this. You are a beauty. I am not a man but I tend to think like one :)
    But I totally get how you feel. Im about 10-15 lbs overweight in my eyes. Yet I just can't see how anyone can find it attractive. I get hit on a LOT. And I am never really prepared because I don't look like I once did. However that is my own insecurity.
  • yeowiepower
    yeowiepower Posts: 31 Member
    my girlfriend feels the same... but i think she is the most beautiful person in the world, and no one who says otherwise will change that.

    society tells you what you think you need to look like to be beautiful... its a load of CRAP! in traditional asian and indian culture you were deemed beautiful if you were larger because that was a sign of wealth...

    i am a big believer in inner beauty... it such a cliche.. but it's true for me anyway... if you are beautiful on the inside and your boyfriend sees it.. then to him you will be all those things, beautiful, sexy and desirable....

    so yes... i think he means it!

    i think it is more for personal self esteem though... although my g/f thinks im fine the way i am... i feel i need to lose a little weight. but i dont think that will change how your partner feels about you.
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    Beauty comes in all different shapes,sizes, and colors.

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  • ProjectTae
    ProjectTae Posts: 434 Member
    My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. :( Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks :)

    ever heard of the saying 'love is blind'? I think beauty lies more in the face, when guys refer to the body they usually use adjective like hot sexy etc, or you might have a beautiful soul, and looking at your profile picture your pretty so I don't find it hard to believe your bf finds you beautiful.
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. :( Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks :)

    I have looked at your pictures...and I would say yes.

    To drive this home...let me explain that I'm not normally attracted to overweight women perse...my type body us more like sergeantsunshines (sorry to point you out girl...but you're here and a perfect example).

    That being made clear...overweight women can surely still be attractive to me. Eyes, smile, personality...how they make me feel...its all just as, if not more important. And being attracted...I'm just as attracted to them physically. There's no thought of her body as anything other than something to explore and pay extreme amounts of attention to...lol.

    So...to bring this together...you are VERY pretty...more than pretty enough to catch my attention in a social situation if you wanted it.

    Relax :).
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