A ? for men

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  • 1_Happy_Camper
    1_Happy_Camper Posts: 63 Member
    One of the things I hear all the time is, "no matter how hot she looks there's a guy somewhere that is sick and tired of her SH**!".
    I think what most guys want is a woman that will love them back and be supportive and encouraging. Someone to talk with, walk with, hold hands with - live, love and laugh with. It doesn't matter to most of us what size a package that comes in, but we do want you to be happy with yourself.. because if mama ain't happy, ain't nobody gonna be happy.
  • jcgrant43
    jcgrant43 Posts: 64
    Thank you so much every one for your kind words. I need to start believing him and accepting myself. New goal for this month ;)

    @OP: What a wonderful thread you started, and what great people replied with terrific answers. This,
    ....accepting myself...
    , is something we all need to do, everyday because accepting yourself means you have the strength and generosity to accept what others offer you and the courage to offer it and more back without fear or reservation.

    I wish you and your very lucky boyfriend the very best!
  • DAMNCHARLIE
    DAMNCHARLIE Posts: 569
    As you get older, your out look on life and ppl should change. Most men like a variety. Maybe your husband is being nice (but he loves you), you still need to do what you need to do for your health so perhaps you may need to lose more. Do what you feel is right for you.
  • Marll
    Marll Posts: 904 Member
    I personally like a bit of extra "padding". My wife would prefer to weigh in around 120-130 for her frame, but I like her best at 150-160. I wouldn't stop her from loosing more, I just find the curves and softness much more attractive. I can see why some people like the super athletic look on women, but I prefer wide hips, a big bottom, and a decent sized chest. Six pack abs on a woman for me is an immediate turn off.
  • ianlikesholidays
    ianlikesholidays Posts: 75 Member
    I regret to say that I don't find fat women sexy or appealing. I have to be honest and say on looks alone, for me an attractive slim lady looks far better than an attractive fat lady.
    However when personality comes into the equation, some slim attractive ladies can be very conceited and demanding with a sense of entitlement.
  • xoalyssaox
    xoalyssaox Posts: 318 Member
    Glad to hear from someone who feels differently than most people on this thread.
    I have learned that every one is different and not every one likes skinny women, or fake women. I guess I am lucky, because even when I did weigh 125 I still had a butt and full C's.. :) So even when I lose my weight, I will still have curves :)

    I regret to say that I don't find fat women sexy or appealing. I have to be honest and say on looks alone, for me an attractive slim lady looks far better than an attractive fat lady.
    However when personality comes into the equation, some slim attractive ladies can be very conceited and demanding with a sense of entitlement.
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    True beauty comes from the soul and exudes to the awesomeness level of the individual.

    While every person has their own "image" of what they find attractive, all the matters in a relationship is that your SO loves you for you.
  • DS67ATX
    DS67ATX Posts: 289
    Yes,there are many attractive overweight women.To me its all about personality and attitude.
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    My husband says women ought to have a bit of squish because a knife is no fun to hug. :-)
  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
    personally i like em thick anyway, but to answer your question sometimes its hard for a man to look at a woman he loves and see flaws, i've dated women who've put on weight but i still see the same girl i fell in love with.
  • Scrappy0419
    Scrappy0419 Posts: 4 Member
    The sexiest part of a woman is her mind and her attitude...:blushing:
  • atjays
    atjays Posts: 797 Member
    If we say you're cute/beautiful/whatever, we mean it. Stop second guessing us and asking a million questions, it just ends in us slipping up and saying something out of context and you crying.

    There are A LOT of girls who look BETTER "overweight" . Just as personal taste here, and I'm sure others in this thread have agreed, I like a girl with at least SOME boobs and a butt. Dropping 10-20 lbs to go from a C to an A or flat and saggy is totally not worth it in my eyes. Trading one problem in the mirror for another.
  • xoalyssaox
    xoalyssaox Posts: 318 Member
    Good to know! :) Luckily I have always been equipped in those two areas even when I was skinny.
    If we say you're cute/beautiful/whatever, we mean it. Stop second guessing us and asking a million questions, it just ends in us slipping up and saying something out of context and you crying.

    There are A LOT of girls who look BETTER "overweight" . Just as personal taste here, and I'm sure others in this thread have agreed, I like a girl with at least SOME boobs and a butt. Dropping 10-20 lbs to go from a C to an A or flat and saggy is totally not worth it in my eyes. Trading one problem in the mirror for another.
  • interceptor311
    interceptor311 Posts: 980 Member
    My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. :( Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks :)


    Curvy kicks *kitten*!!

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