A ? for men
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Well thanks, that is a recent picture, and yes I am the same weight, but it's just my face...pics can hide alot lol. But thanksMy fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful..
Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks 
Looking at your pictures, i'm trying to figure out where you see yourself as "fat" in the first place. Look pretty normal to me, and curves are a lot sexier than bones. All this here should pretty much answer your question.0 -
you're beautiful, of course he means it! I have met a lot of guys that think I am attractive and I am far far far from a super model! Everyone has different ideas of what is attractive. Personality is key not looks in the long run.0
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Men love woman of all different shapes, sizes, and flavors...and you can also bet that not every man has a desire for the perfect Barbie doll. For some of us it's about her mental as well as her physical traits. For example, I love a woman who is confident & secure, one who's well put together, and loving. How you perceive yourself isn't necessarily how your fiancee looks at the woman he loves, but your decision to improve how you look and feel is only going to make him love you more. So if he says you're beautiful believe him;)0
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Guys in general tend to be very visual, tending towards touchy-feely, so looks count for a lot. That being said, personality, style, self-confidence, a bubbly personality - these things get factored in along with personal preference.
Beer goggles and hormones aside, most guys don't view women's bodies through anywhere near as critical an eye as some women seem to view themselves.
In short... "You're Sexy and He KNOWS It."0 -
As an over weight woman I approve of this thread.
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sexy is a state of mind...
^^^speaking of sexy hi christine!0 -
If he's planning on marrying you, I'm pretty sure he's not just "being nice."0
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I weighed 20 pounds lessMy fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks
Were you 50 lb less when you met him?
That's not that big of a deal. I have to be quite honest with my opinion here, which might ruffle some feathers. I think the TYPICAL male will always tell you that you look great the way you are, even if he doesn't necessarily think so. I mean, what would you do if he told you that he wasn't attracted to you? He doesn't want that *kitten* storm. He LOVES you, which is why the way you look is not tremendously important to him, but he would probably prefer you to be 50 lbs lighter (I'm only using that number because you used it - from your pictures, there is no way you should be losing 50 lbs).
My feathers aren't ruffled, as I don't have feathers! However, I disagree with your opinion. There is no more a TYPICAL male, then there is a TYPICAL female. That may be your experience, but it certainly isn't mine, and I really hope its not most peoples. He is not saying he loves her to avoid anything, he's saying it because he SIMPLY loves her. No more, no less.
With any luck at all, we all meet someone whom we can say "I love you" to unconditionally and with no reservation or ulterior motivation.0 -
I am sure he means it. I don't know about other men but I LOVE some thickness, beauty comes in all shapes sizes and personalities. If he can't keep his hands off you then he is not faking or just being nice, he is being truthful!0
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there are plenty of men who like overweight women.0
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HELL YA! Women are women - ALL WOMEN ARE SEXY!0
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You are gorgeous OP. I am pretty sure he means that you are sexy!
I am 50 pounds over weight too (well I was but I am still well overweight) and if a guy thinks that is sexy (and actually means it) than that would certainly make my day.
I am sure he means it! You are a beauty :flowerforyou:0 -
If I could look like these women, I wouldn't have a need to diet. lol Just listen to your man. He thinks you look sexy, than believe him! If you want to lose weight, do it for yourself.Beauty comes in all different shapes,sizes, and colors. 0 -
Since you are being for real, I will be aswell. Do I think your fiance' thinks your beautiful? Yes with out a doubt!! Would he find you more attractive if you lost 50 lbs.? I don't know him but odds are, yes! Do I think most men (including myself) think that you are beautiful? Yes, without a doubt!! Do I think most men (including myself) would find you even more attractive if you lost 50lbs? I can't speak for anyone else but myself but odd's are yes!My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks
But you need to be happy with how you look, that is the most important thing. If your happy great! If not make some changes.0 -
I weighed 20 pounds lessMy fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks
Were you 50 lb less when you met him?
That's not that big of a deal. I have to be quite honest with my opinion here, which might ruffle some feathers. I think the TYPICAL male will always tell you that you look great the way you are, even if he doesn't necessarily think so. I mean, what would you do if he told you that he wasn't attracted to you? He doesn't want that *kitten* storm. He LOVES you, which is why the way you look is not tremendously important to him, but he would probably prefer you to be 50 lbs lighter (I'm only using that number because you used it - from your pictures, there is no way you should be losing 50 lbs).
My feathers aren't ruffled, as I don't have feathers! However, I disagree with your opinion. There is no more a TYPICAL male, then there is a TYPICAL female. That may be your experience, but it certainly isn't mine, and I really hope its not most peoples. He is not saying he loves her to avoid anything, he's saying it because he SIMPLY loves her. No more, no less.
With any luck at all, we all meet someone whom we can say "I love you" to unconditionally and with no reservation or ulterior motivation.
Good on you, because I just presented this scenario to my hubby and he agreed with you! Hee hee - I guess my original response speaks to my insecurities!0 -
Honestly, Sexy, love, attractiveness, infatuation for me come with the connection I have with my wife. It doesn't matter to me if she gains or loses weight. I love her for who she is. not what she is outside. I think for most guys it is very cut and dried. all in or all out.0
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In general I find it's women who are more obsessed with this than the men are. They hold themselves at such a high standard of appearance that it bleeds over to who they pick in a mate as well. I know a lot of guys who aren't concerned as much with it. Granted there's a difference between being overweight, and being obese.0
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My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks
First of all, you are 50 pounds over according to who? or what?
If I were to come close to the "optimum" weight according to my doctor's chart, I would have to lose a limb or donate some organs or something.
Second, if that is you in your avatar, you don't have fifty pounds to lose.
Yeah, you're husband (fiance') is not lying.0 -
Honestly, Sexy, love, attractiveness, infatuation for me come with the connection I have with my wife. It doesn't matter to me if she gains or loses weight. I love her for who she is. not what she is outside. I think for most guys it is very cut and dried. all in or all out.
Love it!:) To OP, if he says he thinks you are....he means it. 0 -
This is one that always makes me wonder. I honestly think I am a great catch. However, I often think that there is no way anyone could really love a big girl. In the end. I know it should be about so much more than weight but, it is not always the case.
My thoughts are this....if you cannot love me and want me at my current weight, you certainly do not deserve me after i have lost it.0 -
yes. there are those who prefer larger women. he might also really think you are beautiful. women see themselves very differently that how men do. I've been told I'm "perfect" but I know I still have about 20 pounds to lose. even a doctor would say I could lose about 10 more and be better... still got that post preg pouch under my belly button... :P0
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"beauty is in the eye of the beholder" Also if he is just being nice be thankful that you found a nice guy.0
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I was attracted to my wife the day I set my eyes on her, and have ALWAYS found her sexy and hot. She has lost 65 lbs, and I still find her sexy and hot. Sexy and hotness are states of mind. The nice thing, however, is that as she loses weight, SHE is finally starting to believe that she is sexy and hot.
Bottom line - your guy is telling the truth, and he is a keeper. Run with it!0 -
My fiance' says he thinks I am sexy now..But I know I am 50 pounds over what I should be and I think he is just being nice. I don't think there is any possible way that he could find me beautiful.. Could men really find a fat woman attractive? I am being for real! Thanks
If u want the real answer I am happy to give it, but since im on my 3rd warning from the MODS ask in PM0 -
This is one that always makes me wonder. I honestly think I am a great catch. However, I often think that there is no way anyone could really love a big girl. In the end. I know it should be about so much more than weight but, it is not always the case.
My thoughts are this....if you cannot love me and want me at my current weight, you certainly do not deserve me after i have lost it.
It is awesome that you feel that way....:)0 -
Its not the weight he finds attractive, it you!!
I have been all sizes and my husband has found me attractive through them all.
Your partner doesnt see what you see in the mirror, he sees someone he loves.
Its so different for guys!
I've had the same thoughts about my husband and it used to drive me insane until I listened to what he had been trying to tell me for years...Hes attracted to how I am, who I am and most of my how I act. So in saying that I found that as soon as I started to find myself attractive I could see me the way he does...
I'm not sure if I'm making much sence, hope I helped at least. 0 -
even at my highest (312) my husband still told me all the time i am beautiful
and acts like a teenager around me - in the store, he is always sneaking free feels , at home, he seems to think certain body parts of mine are his to play with at his leisure .. of course idc .. its funny ( he is 42 and acts like he is 16)
he also prefers me to walk around naked (which i am fine with that too)
he also likes the naked barber ( i get naked and cut his hair, he loves it)
so ya i would say my husband is attracted to me0 -
I was attracted to my wife the day I set my eyes on her, and have ALWAYS found her sexy and hot. She has lost 65 lbs, and I still find her sexy and hot. Sexy and hotness are states of mind. The nice thing, however, is that as she loses weight, SHE is finally starting to believe that she is sexy and hot.
Bottom line - your guy is telling the truth, and he is a keeper. Run with it!
This is an awesome post! :-)0 -
Yep we like em all colors, shapes and sizes. Sexiness is not all physical appearance. Lots of large sexy woman out there. He is not lying to you.
This!0 -
IT!A definite yes. No question.
"Ah, you gonna take me home tonight
Ah, down beside that red firelight
Are you gonna let it all hang out
Fat bottomed girls, you make the rockin' world go round
Hey, I was just a skinny lad, never knew no good from bad
But I knew life before I left my nursery
Left alone with big fat fannys, she was such a naughty nanny
Heap big woman you made a bad boy out of me"
Freddy Mercury said it best!:bigsmile:0
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